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To quickly finish my post without all elaborations. What made it not perfect was our daughter FaceTimed us from a Holiday light exhibit she went to. I was able to get a shirt on before answering. We all think I pulled off the idea we were just sitting around talking. It did lend to laughs as we restarted what we didn’t finish. I worried about Floppy Joe and said don’t fail me now. I did get a straight up Joe quickly. Another imperfect part was Debbie didn’t climax even with a very long session even with the interruption. To me I thought he had her all the way there. She told me privately that it was fun and she would do it again. Yeah she almost had the climax, I almost blame myself, she said she held back her enjoyment due to nerves. I could understand the nerves, I felt the same. I think my partner climaxed, maybe a few times. The after private time we talked. Debbie asked me what was the most difficult thing, honest watching her fall fellating him and she gave an agreeing scream, the oral sex was what she couldn’t watch too. Maybe next time will be more perfect.

I can’t believe 3x. Twice with our friend and saved enough for private time with Debbie. That last one was copious but it was there.

We have been invited many times to join our friends who are very open to talk about swinging. For years we have laughed the invitations away as something we would never do, I could never picture watching my wife with our friend, I could picture me with our female friend not thinking it could or would happen. Times change, Debbie and I started thinking and then our friends talked us into reading posts on Swingersboard. I posted my thoughts knowing they were reading, using our names changed didn’t hide my posts. They read that we were thinking of joining them Thanksgiving weekend, it didn’t happen. We left the idea open for this week when we returned for Christmas visits to family and friends. If we were going to have any idea of going forward we had to plan a time when our teenage children would not be around for a good amount of time. Our daughter is still friends with her old friends that she new before we moved. They planned a day to go see the holiday lights on Sunday giving us hours to maybe do IT. Kids gone, it was us drinking in the den, just the Christmas tree lights and the TV on. Debbie says guess we have a few hours. I asked are you sure. Even in the low light I could see her red face. To our friends who are reading this, it is my memory, could be mistaken or different way you remember. My gorgeous friend cuddled up to me and rubbed my leg which took away a fear I had, I started to grow, she noticed. I looked over as I saw Debbie’s bra being unhooked under her top. I checked to make sure she was still in agreement, she nodded yes. Sorry, I will continue later.

You are lucky to be introduced to a new type of sex play by friends. I’m reading that your first time was almost perfect. I bet you will be taking trips back home more often.

Hm. Seems strange bc swinging is definitely a thing married couples do and when done correctly can enhance your marriage. Sure you take time off once kids enter the picture. But for us, sprinkling in a little consensual non-monogamy during the baby years was a welcome break we needed and my wife needed it most, honestly. Otherwise doldrums can set in.

From a guy here. In our world swinging is a couples pastime. Preferably a married couples. ( That is just OUR world.) For single people it is just more hooking up, a singles game. The commitment is important. I do see her point about holding off after marriage. especially if you are thinking of a family. For us we had decades into raising children and caring for our parents before swinging. To do what we needed to do our focus needed to be on each other very intensely. There just wasn't time to involve ourselves in social sex. If he hesitancy comes from a realization of the importance of couple bonding, I say more power to her and you should listen. If it comes because she sees marriage as limiting her horizons, then perhaps she needs to think it through.

I think women need to give 'good' men more credit. Sure there are men "bad guys' that see women simply as objects. They hold those women to a very high, no actually an unattainable level of beauty. The magazines, social media, click bait is seen as real and as the goal for all women. It's totally unfair. Then there are the 'good' guys. Those that see women in 3, 4 or 5 dimensions. All of those dimensions together make a women (or man for that matter) sexy, attractive, beautiful, interesting and exceptional. I know my wife of 42 years doesn't look the way she did when we met in high school. So the fuck what. I still get a hard on just touching her ass, caressing her skin, listening to her voice in the dark early in the morning . She is my sexy and always will be. We've built a life together. Raised children. Had adventures. Kept secrets (like swinging). If I stop getting a hard on for her (figuratively speaking) I'd go see a shrink. It won't be on her, it would be on me. She tells me she isn't sexy. Tries to hide her perceived flaws. Frankly, it pisses me off. That behavior can only close me off. I get it, she's got the messaging of the world to content with, as do you. But... If your guy is telling you "he loves your body" believe him. Sounds like you found a 'good' one. S

Haven’t met a woman yet without some form of body issues, unfortunately. Fodder for a whole different forum topic. Your husband is attracted to you. I bet you catch other guys checking you out too. Don’t waste time waiting to attain some elusive form of perfection. You’re beautiful just the way you are!

Congrats on breaking your cherry. Just have fun, try to please your partner(s) and don’t be too hard on yourself if things aren’t perfect. It’s just a human endeavor. As a partner told me when I once had altitude problems, “Hey, we’re not porn stars!” Sounds like you had fun. You have to disable the FaceTime. Claim it’s not working!

Sounds perfect to me. First times are never 200% perfect, always a hiccup or two that you can look back to and laugh. It’s hysterical that your daughter not only called but had to video chat. With all the most perfect part is you went to bed with the most important partner and exchanged what each thought. We hope you will continue to post the beautiful things you have shared.

I will continue when I can post again, too many people interrupting, we have kids. Just so you know, we are good. Still communicating and if I can say eager for another go.

Is that the Wife who writes with the same grammar, syntax and spelling as her athletic army hero who married a gorgeous model from Russia You Both know everything about life and how every couple should live. Or the tough guy who would own a wife and demand she do everything he wants her to do or he would throw her out and kick the ass of the man she spoke to. Sounds if you pay for it you should demand obedience. Have you noticed all the Likes you get on your posts?

We’ve never been to that club. As newbies, if you appeal to the regulars, they may descend upon you as fresh meat. Do stick relatively close to your wife. If you feel like being conservative, just watch. You can go further, have sex with each other and let others watch. If you are feeling your oats, you can swap partners with other partners. If you do that, make sure both you and your wife are on board with that couple. Condoms would be a great idea in a club setting. Take it easy with alcohol. While a little lessens nerves, too much may find you doing things you may not do sober. Also, for men, alcohol inhibits erections. Be friendly and polite. You may become regulars and you can’t have too many friends. Have fun and report back.