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This is my read, as well. She wants an off-ramp back to vanilla monogamy. It's a bit like when someone says "we could try a threesome, but I'm afraid you'd want to keep doing it". If they genuinely thought they might enjoy the first one, that wouldn't exactly be a "fear". This might not mean she's opposed to it, but that she's afraid the interest in continuing will be one-sided. It might also mean she's opposed to it. Talk it out.

It sounds like she is trying to give into your wanting to swing...we can do it now, but once we're married it will stop. It doesn't sound like she is interested, but is willing to take one for the team (which is almost never a good idea). The two of you need to talk much more about this and she needs to understand that unless you are willing to stop swinging once married (usually not the case with people wired towards swinging) this may be a deal breaker in your relationship. She doesn't want to swing, you do...which one of you is willing to do what the other wants?

While Omicron is currently putting a damper on work, vanilla fun, and LS pleasures, many epidemiologists predict a swift rise and then a fairly rapid decline in cases. Our nature as a species tends to impatience and to cleverness. We also are blessed/cursed with fairly short memories, especially of things that we would rather forget. Better to focus on plans made than to dwell on plans that went unfulfilled. We are hoping that things settle down to the point where the cruise we reserved back in 2020 actually happens in the late springtime.

There's a lot going on in this sentence, in particular. This is a sensitive situation and I think getting to the root of why is important. Does your husband feel anger toward you for not stopping it? Anger toward himself for going along with it? Guilt for enjoying what happened? Shame that he tried it? The depth of the reaction here seems suggestive of something deeper than just a failed erection, and he may be having trouble talking to his wife - or to a woman, generally - about it.

Sorry to read of your less than pleasant encounter. so many questions but I will share my thoughts based on what you have provided. many times new couples and singles start off with a less then enjoyable experience. This is based on many variables but can be boiled down to one over all concentration….expectations. the second thing that comes to mind is communication. Largely between you and your husband but also who you choose to be with. The parameters of what you want and are willing to experience. Safe words. Deal killer situations etc. lastly there is the first time issue. Men and women are very distinctly different in this area. Generally the female gender is made to accept different and repeated couplings. As human mammals over the maturing eons of time women have choice and societal norms that restrict the natural ability with acceptable behavior norms, guilt and conscience. Males are essentially a one and done gender. Males require a refractory period of time. There is also a primitive drive to over achieve, out perform the other male. We are also very visual. We see so we get turned on. So your husband experienced what many males experience the first time or for several times, sensory over load. He saw too much, had too much happening around him, to him, while trying to keep and eye on you, protect you, make sure you were not being hurt or uncomfortable. This is why the first few experiences the male partner doesn’t achieve orgasm let alone an erection. so my two cents is he is embarrassed and feeling left out and less than after the experience. Because of his experience and lack of he watched you move on through your experience seemingly with out issue. So he feels less than. He probably thinks you feel and look upon him as less than. Emasculated in your eyes. Very bruised ego. do not discuss or venture any more in the lifestyle until you both are settled and comfortable with each other. If you do decide to move forward go with baby steps. Be that couple that attends, talks, mingles meet and listen to other couples but only play as a couple between you two. First in closed room. Maybe later in open room. If you want to try MFM again wait and find a single male or husband allowed to play alone that you are comfortable with and that has many years experience. well that in general is my two cents based on what you wrote I hope it is helpful.

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My mother gave me an aspirin as birth control. I said Ma, I’m not stupid, this an aspirin it’s not birth control. She answered if I put it between my knees and not let go it will be.

Whoops. That does make more sense, my mistake on the obvious. Either way, if you could get a third one out, you had a great experience. He'll find out.

Thank you for all the encouraging posts, am I supposed to keep posting how things are? They are pretty pretty pretty good. Back to our first time, the more I read, the more we talked, the more we laughed, the more perfect our first time was, FaceTime only added to the memory. Debbie not climaxing did not take away from her funness, she reminded me she just doesn’t every time we have sex, not letting go might have contributed even if she said it didn’t. I know she said at the time she was uptight, memories have a way of mellowing. Today was a new day, a day after a day we only tried to plan our first next time. A day where Debbie did climax with someone other than the man she is surly comfortable with and never reluctant to be with except when she is, and I know when not to even try. Our kids surprised us this morning while having breakfast. We were enjoying our host’s hospitality with a great hotel style breakfast. Debbie and I were in our best visiting breakfast outfits, Sweats. Our hosts were in similar outfits, maybe a little fancier The “kids” were dressed and ready to go somewhere, ice skating with other friends. Our friends got the details from their son that they would be gone and most likely would be home for dinner. Hours without our kids!!! I don’t know who was the most excited, Debbie was. Like I wasn’t. Once the car was gone, it didn’t take long before chapter 2. Sex in the morning in bright daylight, seeing nude bodies in full light is much different from the light of a Christmas Tree. Even I could me shy in full light. Yeah I read about the woman who didn’t like her imperfections, men have feelings too. Yeah I got over it fast. In daylight you also get to see your spouse with a friend in a different light doing things I only saw in shadows two days before. I will say it was interesting even if she could see me with our very willing friend. I suggested strip poker, was reminded I had no clothes to lose, we were already passed getting out of clothes. What happened next was fun, nervous fun, I a can be a jokester. Pancake syrup was a part of the fun. Guess it is better than turkey gravy if this happened after dinner. My friends are seasoned swingers, I could understand why both would be prized at any gathering. I always thought of myself as a “stud”, Debbie tells me that frequently. Not bragging but I think I can go for awhile, two minutes at least, just kidding. Between what we were doing, and watching what that other couple was doing, is that really Debbie doing that, laughing, joking and doing whatever, it had to be close to a few hours, it did seem long, when we got to real business. I would say we were going strong and so was that other couple. I think I was pretty good holding out and then I heard all those porn sounds, wondering where it was coming from, and then I knew it was the right time to be in sync. No not the boy band. At that point I was able to watch, in full light my dearest sweetheart was doing. This man was a machine and Debbie who claimed not have climaxed that first time, couldn’t say that again. I know, she can’t fake that with me, right, I know when she fakes, right, yes I can tell. They finally finished Debbie seemed exhausted. I sure was just watching all the positions they were in. So now I’m posting while everyone is watching football. We had plans for tonight to go to a restaurant that canceled our reservation. We are pretty sure it’s Covid related. Two couples we were supposed to be with tomorrow are both sick, waiting on test results, it won’t make a difference, they are sick. Me thinks we will be staying in tomorrow night watching Ryan Seacrest, joking about balls dropping. The second chapter is finished and this book is interesting. Am I supposed to continue play by play or blow by blow, I see some on here are posting daily. Right now I will say Good Night.

Sounds perfect to me. First times are never 200% perfect, always a hiccup or two that you can look back to and laugh. It’s hysterical that your daughter not only called but had to video chat. With all the most perfect part is you went to bed with the most important partner and exchanged what each thought. We hope you will continue to post the beautiful things you have shared.

Both of these are absolutely true!

teaser!!!

I'm guessing it still usually is - scaring off the customers is bad for everyone - but that it's not at all unheard of for tourists to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. This type of unintentional gang killing of tourists has happened over the years in the Caribbean, as well. With that said, I'm actually a bit surprised on the earlier post about it being presumptively dangerous outside the United States and to choose an option with U.S. jurisdiction. The USVI's crime situation is horrific, even by Caribbean standards. St. John has long been one of the more stable islands for tourists, but still. By comparison, the BVI is quite safe overall. Of course, that could all change at any time, and perceptions of crime are relative to the observer. We all like to think of our own home as safe, and we've usually made a significant investment in it. Tourists are often visiting places in the Caribbean and Latin America that they would never live precisely because they are cheap. If we traveled the same way within the United States, many of us would be harmed here, too. Everybody wants a good deal when it's time for palm trees, but nobody who visits Chicago tries to save a buck by booking a hotel in Englewood. There's a human cost implied in a lot of those package deals, unfortunately.

My wife has an exhibitionist streak, but we limit it to where we are, do not publish on the internet. We are senior swingers, but my wife is in the top 1% of people her age for body fitness. Once she strutted naked through a living room full of dressed people at a house party and another woman her age said to my wife “I want to kill you.”

Our party ended up a bust with people not bing able to make it for one reason or anohter. Ah well.