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We are home from our trip and our first lifestyle experience. With Debbie and I thrice vaccinated, our daughter twice, our daughter is now showing signs of something. We waited hours to be tested and are all waiting for results of our nasal swabs. Every cough and sniffle, every body ache makes us wonder. On an up note Debbie and I are reliving and re-remembering how things happened, something we could do on our trip home with our daughter in the car. I read that reliving and talking is part of the fun. Things that happened become clearer or is it cloudy as we talk, and laugh at what we remember. Talking with your spouse is always mentioned as an important next step after doing what we did, that’s not a problem for us as we are always sharing, we talk. Debbie told me things that I didn’t notice happen that first time, because I was preoccupied or lights were low or I just missed it Something that is very rarely, if ever posted, is it common to talk to your play partners, for us friends, after. I called my friend and we talked about our wives and what he thought about sex with Debbie, I had to ask what his wife said about me. I have no idea if he was truthful in his praises and him saying he can’t wait to see us soon. Now we wait for those damn results that are taking longer because the labs are overwhelmed. We all tested negative on rapid tests before the week, now everyone says rapid tests aren’t accurate in a fluid changing time.

Yeah all still remains on hold due to the current spike, which is higher than it's ever been. When this spike dies off though we plan to have some fun, exclusively with some other vaccinated playmates.

While Omicron is currently putting a damper on work, vanilla fun, and LS pleasures, many epidemiologists predict a swift rise and then a fairly rapid decline in cases. Our nature as a species tends to impatience and to cleverness. We also are blessed/cursed with fairly short memories, especially of things that we would rather forget. Better to focus on plans made than to dwell on plans that went unfulfilled. We are hoping that things settle down to the point where the cruise we reserved back in 2020 actually happens in the late springtime.

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I'll toss my two cents in here. As MrMrs said, the equipment is like a cheap chainsaw. Sure, when it starts it'll work for you. However, getting it up and running when you want it...quite difficult. So the whole 'insurance' discussion is interesting. I know many guys who use it. It should be noted that none of them order it from some website. That's a gamble none are willing to take. They all talked with their doctors and got a prescription. I've heard the best approach is to get the 100mg and cut them down to 25s. This is a significant cost saving from just getting the 25s. This depends on your insuance I guess. One buddy said his insurance restricts him to 6 pills a quarter, and it costs $50 for the 6 (size of the pill doesn't matter). Getting the 100s and cutting them gives him 24 doses of 25mg for the same $50. Again, this is a discussion to have with your doctor. Some doctors will prescibe the 100s, some won't. Remember, it is a prescription drug so that makes sense. I haven't had that discussion with my doctor yet but will likely have to a few years down the road. There is something to be said about diet and exercise. One friend lost a lost of weight in 2021 and his libido took off. He's in his late 40's. Though, back to what MrMrs said, the swinger situation overrides good functionality quite often though.

Plenty of info on rapid tests and the reliability of results, we know all the statistics and figured it was the only option we could use staying at our friends house. Also know that things change quickly and like an EKG the test is a screenshot of what is happening at a point in time. We limited our contact with others, didn’t isolate and our teen children were out and about. You are right that sex talk leads to sex. Leading up to our trips our talks lead to more sex. We have been working from home for two years which has led to midday play when our daughter is in school. If she were in school today I wouldn’t be answering your post right now. Have you played with friends you knew before playing. For me it made it easier and harder. I don’t know how I would react to a stranger with Debbie, and before last week I didn’t know how I would react to a friend.

For what it's worth, rapid tests are very accurate for positives, but probably about 66% accurate for negatives. They were really meant to be used frequently in population health settings - like daily tests in a workplace - to reduce viral load, home testing is kind of a side application. It works, but imperfectly. As for the reminiscing, when your health scare passes, what we were talking about above is that you might find that the two of you have much more intense and frequent sex with each other for a while, fueled by the rush of the thing you did together. These days Mrs. E and I might average one session a day or slightly more. After outside play, it tends to be more like two or three a day, if not three. A particularly good session can easily get us back to the days where we go overboard and one of us is more than a little sore - not that it stops the fun. I'm not sure if it's the taboo, the vivid memories, or just mixing up partners, but it's a wonderful side effect of lifestyle play.

This is my read, as well. She wants an off-ramp back to vanilla monogamy. It's a bit like when someone says "we could try a threesome, but I'm afraid you'd want to keep doing it". If they genuinely thought they might enjoy the first one, that wouldn't exactly be a "fear". This might not mean she's opposed to it, but that she's afraid the interest in continuing will be one-sided. It might also mean she's opposed to it. Talk it out.

There will always be women who you deem as 'more attractive' than you and women who are 'less attractive' than you. Understand that beauty is only skin deep, but sexy has nothing to do with your skin at all. It comes from way deeper than the skin and has everything to do with your confidence and how you feel inside. Let that out and you will be just fine. Just reading your post, I got the impression that you are much more attractive than you think (your husband is right) but that you are wanting to let the sexy out as well. Quit worrying about how others 'see' you, and show the world who you are inside.

It sounds like she is trying to give into your wanting to swing...we can do it now, but once we're married it will stop. It doesn't sound like she is interested, but is willing to take one for the team (which is almost never a good idea). The two of you need to talk much more about this and she needs to understand that unless you are willing to stop swinging once married (usually not the case with people wired towards swinging) this may be a deal breaker in your relationship. She doesn't want to swing, you do...which one of you is willing to do what the other wants?

That's a shame, but understandable. I'll admit NYE itself felt like a chore this year and I heard the same thing from many other people. We felt very bored meeting our friends for dinner, although we had a good time after all and the evening ultimately turned around. Before we know it, it'll be spring and I suspect a lot of people will be more comfortable mingling as case numbers trail off again.

Man, I probably forgot a few more than that. You are correct, the condom is another one. I remember one encounter with another couple where I was looking ok (still relatively new) probably 3/4 ready but was heading in the right direction but the other guy was struggling. They were brand new. His struggles distracted me, which led to a super slow-mo fall on my side for some reason. Eventually we both were up and running via oral from our significant others. However, as soon as both ladies started giving him oral, explosion. It was almost instantaneous. He was surprised. Embarrassed. So he went down and never returned. Then my mind went to "I'm supposed to be interacting with his and my wife while he's done for the evening??" So, it turned into a voyeurism night with the ladies playing. I tell you, if you own the equipment, you get it. If you don't own the equipment, you have no idea how temperamental it is. Insurance isn't a bad idea.