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What a great way to ruin the wedding and a friendship at the same time. Let us know how it turns out!

We strongly believe that you shouldn't ever swing with friends because if (or when) something goes wrong, EVERYONE knows...other friends, family, co-workers, everyone. We even feel stronger about swinging with people who aren't swingers...they aren't prepared for the emotions and everything else that happens. Finally, once other significant others find out what happened, they will have a face to be angry with and probably want revenge. This can destroy more than one relationship here. So you say your GF has a rep of being a slut...there is a HUGE difference between being thought of or called a slut and having stone cold proof. Nobody likes to spread gossip more than a bunch of upset women, especially if there is no doubting that it is true. This might be fun to think about and maybe even fantasize about, if it is a fantasy she would like to make happen, go to a swingers club and make it happen somewhere that is safe and controlled with people who understand what is happening and won't want to 'hook up' or try to make her do it again in the future. Please don't let her go here, there is NOTHING GOOD that will come out of it.

I'm with Fitlakecouple on this. This has disaster written all over it in spade and then some. It's often said on this board that it's a bad idea to try to bring friends to the idea of swinging. It's ok to make friends of swingers, but not swingers of friends. It stands a VERY high chance of ruining friendships. Here, in this case, you've got a 'chance' to ruin friendships with a whole circle of friends. Your GF will forever have a reputation among your circle of friends, and it won't be a nice one. There will be judgment and contempt, even from those who have sex with her. They will laugh about what a wild night it was, and what an absolute slut your GF is. She will never be just another person at any other gathering that includes any subset of those friends in the future. She will be an object, and not much more. I'm quite sure the wife-to-be will be extremely upset about the whole thing when she founds out (and she will). There will also be a lot of people who do not attend this party who will know about this night, and may well include people whom you 'd rather they didn't know. I'm sorry, but even though your GF is 100% onboard with this, this is the sort of thing that nightmares are made of.

Hi and Welcome! Congrats on restarting your long-dormant swinging lifestyle! We totally understand your desire to experience the adventures of swinging with your husband, and agree his participation at this early stage is vital to its success. It's also not uncommon for husbands to enjoy the 'hotwife' subset of swinging. Most swinger couples we know enjoy mfm/hotwifing scenarios and some even prefer it to couples-swap. It seems as swinger couples mature their preferences often lean in that direction, and this may partly stem from the husband's feelings of diminishing sexual prowess as he ages. We assure you his interest in hotwifing is actually pretty normal. But you don't want to go down this road alone. That's not a great way to get started. Maybe explain to him you aren't comfortable flying solo at this stage of the game, and really prefer his being there - even if his preference is just to watch. Perhaps as you both become more experienced and comfortable in this you might meet a single or couple who you are comfortable being alone with. This past summer my wife took a week-long vacation with a lover and it was a great experience for all. But she has been seeing him for 7 years so we're all quite comfortable with him.

If it feels wrong, it probably is wrong for you...for now. This may change. Absolutely. It's very normal. Lots of couples do. It is, however, a bit uncommon for couples new to swinging to do so. Yes, that's being a 'hotwife' (and don't take that pejoratively; it's just a label). No, it doesn't lead to cuckolding. The two are effectively mutually exclusive. You can't be a hotwife and your husband be a cuckold. 'Hotwifing' implies consent. Cuckolding doesn't. Maybe, and maybe not. It is entirely possible that your husband is very strongly interested in a sexual form of compersion; the feeling of happiness in having their spouse sexually enjoy someone else. He may get all the happiness he wants to from swinging just by seeing and/or knowing you are having sex with someone else. It's ok to be scared; that's your brain giving you some warning that you might not be ready for it yet. That's quite ok. When my wife and I first got into swinging, whether we were with a couple or a single man, she insisted I always be there and involved. She didn't want me to just watch. Over time, that changed, and she was more comfortable with just being watched. That started to evolve, and after a while she started going on solo play dates with people we'd played with before. That evolved to solo play dates with men she hadn't played with before, and that evolved to her having long term boyfriends. It was a journey. I think she would have been very scared at the idea of having a boyfriend, with my consent, in addition to being married if it had been the first thing we tried. You may find a similar pathway. At first, the whole idea of being non-monogamous can be a bit scary. We're not raised to think it's "normal", and our society strongly encourages fidelity in relationships. We don't have a toolkit of experiences from others, or teachings as we are raised to give us a firm basis on which to begin to be non-monogamous. That can be scary. It's kinda like the first time you jump out of an airplane, or the first time you bungee jump. It's going to be a bit terrifying. After you've done it a few times, it's a lot less scary and a lot more fun. In time, you will probably find yourself kissing your husband and skipping out the door with a rush of happy adrenaline knowing you're about to have sex with someone else, heading out on a solo date. It's very much ok for you to have the desires you have. It's absolutely wonderful that your husband is so supportive of you pursuing these desires. My wife is a very strongly sexual person, and it sounds like you are similar. I encourage my wife to fulfill all of her sexual desires, whether it be with me or with other men (she's not into women). I never knew how much pleasure I would get from watching my wife having sex with someone else, or knowing that she was having sex with someone else (and hearing all about it when she got home). I couldn't explain it to myself when I realized how much I loved it. I tried! I gave up trying. I just accept that it gives me a great deal of joy to see another man having sex with her and her enjoying it so much. We feed off of each other in that respect; I love watching her (or hearing about it), and she loves knowing how much I love it. I think your husband sounds a fair bit like me. Cherish it! It's a gift! There are soooo many husbands who would be instantly jealous. It's important to make sure your relationship with your husband remains paramount. Always do things in the context of your relationship with him. Keep him in the loop, always keep the lines of communication open, make sure he's still very much enjoying your sexual dalliances. If that doesn't happen, it will turn sour very quickly and it won't be enjoyable for you, much less him. He is uplifting you to achieve your sexual dreams. Make sure he's along for the ride, and every bit as happy about it as you.

So you were planning on being the F in a MFM. Your husband was one of the "M" and he was angry, distraught that you had sex with another guy? Am I missing something here? What did he expect in the MFM? Did you not want to have sex with the other guys? Look it sucks when some anger and jealousy come into play and it does happen. Talk, talk, talk. We had some experienced that were spontaneous and yes I was kind of erotically excited then jealous and happy at the same time. Seeijng my best buddy cum inside my wife bare was the most nerve racking seconds of my life but was hot and we talked through it. Was wonderful...

Because of the mix of those who have had and those who have not been with her. The majority being vanilla. Past secret activities and that this is just prior to your friends wedding this has warnings, red flags and potential disaster written all over it. What happens at this stag party will not stay at the stag party, for sure bits and pieces will get around. also, I assume that if this is the plan…..the bride to be has a similar option? other then that a “themed” gangbang, group sex or orgy is diffenately a great and wild time. We have organized a few dozen of these. But that is not for then new, inexperienced, vanilla or those secretly flying solo.

Think we're all a little down about how things are going lately and a lot of people have posted their disappointments, but I'm hoping a lot of the regulars have found some bright spots and been able to enjoy their activities. Does anyone have anything enjoyable they've done the last couple of weeks or are looking forward to very soon? Cancelled a planned big trip abroad for the holidays, then cancelled a planned weekend trip nearby as things deteriorated. Not so much because we're worried about getting very ill as we are because things would likely close or be difficult to enjoy due to the restrictions. It was the right decision, but a let-down. With that said, we're having a very early New Year's Eve dinner with friends before things get crowded. After that, we're going a little ways out of town and doing something different that we've never tried before: a complete overnight date swap. We've played with the woman many times and Mrs. E has done FMF with her and the male independently, and we wanted to do a full swap once it was possible for everyone to meet again. Thought it would be fun to try it as a mixed double date for cocktails, leave for our hotel before the after-dinner party crowd, and see where things go. Mrs. E hasn't had an excuse to wear a tight dress since the summer.

Our daughter tested positive after returning from our friends over Christmas and their son did too. We were tested and not detected , our friends results are taking longer. Our daughter and their son spent the vacation running around with friends the whole week, then we found out she was more active with him, not just ice skating with friends. Debbie said her friend thinks she was in his room at night. Makes sense that she couldn’t stop talking about him the entire trip home. Mixed feelings as a father, I know how I was at that age.

My personal choice is a well trimmed look but not shaved. I like the feel and the softness of a woman. that being said, I do not turn down any woman who does shave or those who tend not to trim close. I learned a long time ago how to provide great oral to a woman and not have a mouth full of hair. if you have a mouth full of hair you’re licking and sucking in the wrong spot. I also do not turn down any willing woman based on age, body type, tall or short. If she has a good sense of humor a great sense of adventure and I’m gameIf she has a good sense of humor a great sense of adventure then I’m game

We are young and healthy so we are not as concerned about ourselves as we are spreading it to others. I also think that with the vaccines, the less lethal variant now being the dominant strain, we are just more comfortable going back to our normal lives and we are slowly getting there.

Yeah, we were kind of hesitant to go out for NYE at all, but decided that an incredibly early dinner with a table away from the crowd and then a private evening in a hotel were a low-risk activity. We don't want to get sick right now and are avoiding things like airports and busy bars, but a few friends is what it is. There's definitely a range of opinions there, some of them generational and some of them maybe cultural/geographic. She used to give handjobs very freely from her teenage years on but the idea of casual oral was strongly taboo, where sees it more as an opportunity to put on a show now. It's definitely a special situation with the neighbor and one that we debated heavily before we started. Unfortunately, neighbor's husband wasn't a great dude and he got put out on his ass. She went through a phase of trying things she felt like she'd missed. One of those things ended up being FMF and Mrs. E found out she could have fun with it. We had to have a couple of talks early on but she's been very cool about keeping it casual. I think, in general, trying to introduce vanilla people who are close to your life into the mix is a recipe for badness, but it's also a thing that happens.

If a man's facial hair is too prickly, and a woman's pussy has curly hair, can the two ever get stuck together like Velcro? What a way to go!!

I prefer shaved, but it's fun also as it grows back. So we shave about every 2-4 weeks. I like how I can tickle her with my tongue or even breath when I touch only her hair as it grows back. Many times I have great intentions to shave her, but just can't wait to dive into her pussy! Oh well, next time.

Despite having plenty of experience in the LS, we've encountered zero girls with hair... not even a landing strip. Our female half thinks any hair on a woman is gross, while I'm a bit curious... I don't specifically want it, but I wouldn't mind mixing some in for variety, lol.

I prefer girls to be bald or in defect trimmed very shorth, I definitely do not like a hairy pussy, same for the boys. I am completely bald by the way, we both (my husband and I) take the time and effort to look after our genitals.

I’m a busy woman and I like taking charge of my time - which happens to include certain appearance routines that I’m into.

Hung out with 2 buddies over the holidays both fucked my GF both were vaccinated and now both have COVID. One has light symptoms and the other has none. Neither my GF or myself have any symptoms and we haven't gotten tested yet but we are also both vaccinated and boosted. I know we'll get some hate because of this but we're still back to normal among our groups of friends. We still haven't gone to the clubs and go to traditional bars and restaurants less frequently but we aren't shutting down our lives and are continuing to move forward.