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I think you see a lot more hotwife dares online bc it's just not as fun watching husbands mostly strike out lol!

Hey all! We have googled hotwife dares and there are plenty. But huddy needs to be challenged too! Does anyone know of a list for him? Open to suggestions. Like maybe dirty dance with a stranger? Or ........... We love the bar scene where we sit separate and see what happens (it's always fun). Just wanted to see if anyone else's has done or thought about this. We are not a cuckold couple or a full hot wife situation. We are active together everytime he doesn't sit and watch or wait for me to come home. He definitely participates. Just a little background. This is also a hobby not a daily LS for us. Happy swinging S&N

I certainly like the idea. I'm not aware of any existing lists, and I think I know why... Even in the swinging community, it is FAR far easier for a woman to have sex, than for a man. As such, the hotwife challenges are more aimed at being daring or adventurous with your sex, not just HAVE IT. It is presumed that you CAN have sex, pretty much as often as you choose. A guy, on the other hand, may or may not be just as adventurous. But he doesn't have nearly as many opportunities. Thus, the challenge to come up with a "hot-husband challenge list" has to find a way for him to demonstrate the adventurous nature, while not punishing him if he doesn't have new partners throwing themselves at him. Things that popped into my head while typing this... 1. Participate in a 3way, without your spouse. 2. Have your partner's spouse watch you have sex, without touching. 3. Come home from a date, and have your wife act out the things you just did with your date. 4. Go on a date, and have your date send your spouse selfies from her phone. My thinking with these examples is that they do not require access to a multitude of partners. In fact, a single playmate could be used to meet all of them. It's more about him setting up situations that are more adventurous than JUST having sex. Hope that helps.

We sort of started the same way, but for the opposite reason. Hubby let me have a boyfriend for two years before I was comfortable letting him play (and I had to choose the women). We were in our early twenties, so it was no lack of desire on his part, he is just extraordinarily generous with me, and I appreciate it. Some couples prefer the one off encounters, others long-term, caring relationships. Once hubby started playing with other women, I enjoyed the aspect of knowing watching them as well.

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Taking what he says as truth and taking things slowly and deliberately are not mutually exclusive. How many times in other areas of life do we hear what is said, but misinterpret what it means? How many times have we said something that , while the truth, inadequately expresses what we mean? Taking things slowly expresses respect for yourself, your marriage , and your husband. It may be difficult but self discipline is a healthy habit. This has served us well.

You can't My wife and I have been on this forum for well over a decade now. The regulars here are a great bunch of people, and are very happy to help out new people in the lifestyle. It's possible my wife and I would not have gotten into swinging if it weren't for this forum. That's not to say it convinced us into it, but rather that without the help of the people here a lot of our questions would likely have gone unanswered. I know for our parts we try very hard to return the favor. Mmmm...I think he's every bit as eager as you are, just not in the way you want/expected. It sounds to me like he's very eager for you to have as much sex with other people as you want. As I mentioned before, I think he enjoys compersion. I suspect he's looking forward to the next time you have sex with someone else, whether he's there or not. I don't think the hurtful aspect of this is what he meant at all. I would take him at his word. If I never had sex with another woman other than my wife again, and my wife had sex with a hundred more men along our journey, I would die a happy man. I very much enjoy her having sex with other men. I think your husband is likely the same. He knows how much you want this, how much you want to have sex with other men and women. It sounds to me like he relishes the idea, and wants to support you in doing so. Him having sex with other people isn't as important to him. Don't evaluate his fervor in this based on your own aspirations. My wife and I interacted with a couple some years back where the wife didn't play...at all. She actively worked to find playmates for her husband. She very much enjoyed being in the same room and watching him have sex with other women. She and I communicated for a while, though we never met. We joked a few times about the conversations we would have watching our spouses have sex with each other. Some spouses just aren't as interested in playing, but very much want to see their spouses play. It's ok. There's no one flavor that applies to all swingers. That's why we refer to ourselves as anything other than 'vanilla' Your husband sounds like he knows what he wants, just as much as you know what you want. Your wants are different. It's enough for him to watch or hear about you having sex with other people, and less interesting for him to have sex with others. That's ok. It doesn't mean he's not as equally into this as you are, he's just coming at it from a different set of wants. The way you avoid that is continual communication, and absolute 100% honesty about your innermost emotions and thoughts. It's not the act of sex with someone else that is likely to cause pain. It's your relationship not being in the right place for it. I doubt, from what little we know from your posts, that your relationship isn't in the right place for it. Share everything with your husband, and ensure he's sharing everything with you. Take him at his word. Understand; if he says something, especially if it's a deep, heartfelt thought/emotion, and you don't think what he says to be what he says it means, it's a form of distrust. That can actively undermine his ability to share his innermost thoughts with you. "Wow. I shared something very deep for me, and she's struggling to believe me!" Flip that around; if he were to struggle to believe something very deep for you, do you think you'd be more or less likely to share something equally deep again? I dare say it's more likely you'd hold back in the future. Try to let go; don't over analyze. Try hard to take in what he says at face value. Sure, ask questions to clarify, but take it on faith he's being 100% open and honest with you. The more you do that, the deeper the lines of communication become, the most trust you will have in each other that you can share everything without concern. You know what's a little scary? You're human. There's a fair chance you'll make some mistakes in this. That's ok. Don't expect perfect. Don't expect to get everything right. Do commit to being absolutely devoted to your husband and to your relationship with him. That, in the end, will make everything right.

Hi and Welcome! Congrats on restarting your long-dormant swinging lifestyle! We totally understand your desire to experience the adventures of swinging with your husband, and agree his participation at this early stage is vital to its success. It's also not uncommon for husbands to enjoy the 'hotwife' subset of swinging. Most swinger couples we know enjoy mfm/hotwifing scenarios and some even prefer it to couples-swap. It seems as swinger couples mature their preferences often lean in that direction, and this may partly stem from the husband's feelings of diminishing sexual prowess as he ages. We assure you his interest in hotwifing is actually pretty normal. But you don't want to go down this road alone. That's not a great way to get started. Maybe explain to him you aren't comfortable flying solo at this stage of the game, and really prefer his being there - even if his preference is just to watch. Perhaps as you both become more experienced and comfortable in this you might meet a single or couple who you are comfortable being alone with. This past summer my wife took a week-long vacation with a lover and it was a great experience for all. But she has been seeing him for 7 years so we're all quite comfortable with him.

I'm perfectly fine with my GF having fun with whoever she wants. She doesn't need to tell me beforehand if she doesn't want to or doesn't have the chance to. We are very open about that.

That is literally what I do as a hotwife. I meet a guy that makes me sparkle and tell my husband imma be late cause I got an itch lol. I play alone.

Pretty much where we stand. We've talked about it, and she knows she can with no worries, but has chosen not to up to this point. There was one local guy, which is two out of three strikes right there since we avoid anything too local, that she was interested in and got really close to it happening, but in typical single male dumbass fashion he went and fucked it up by despite all evidence to the contrary making assumptions that she was wanting a boyfriend/husband versus some no strings attached sex. Too bad for him

This has evolved over time. The first few months or so that we were swinging, it was always together, always same room. She had enjoyed swinging, but still wasn't really sure it was her thing. then, we had a foursome (MMMF), and one of the other guys absolutely did it for her. She was over the moon having sex with him, and could not get enough. When we got back to the car, she said "Ok, now I'm a swinger!" She was incredibly enthusiastic and wanted to fuck him again. A few days later, just such an opportunity arose, but I could not go; she would have to play alone with him. We talked quite a bit, and decided she should go. I certainly didn't want to deny her playing with this guy, knowing how much she had enjoyed him the first time. I was a basket of nerves through it all. Following from that, things slowly evolved more. Now, my wife plays more often without me than with me, but we always make love when she comes home, and I always know in advance who she is with and where, plus we always have an agreed upon time when she will be coming home. Over the years, she has had a couple of boyfriends with whom she had regularly played. With a boyfriend, she's generally filling all his sexual needs, and thus it's not often convenient that I can go with her when he's wanting to have sex with her. In both cases, she's developed feelings for them. In one, she was feeling an increasing sense of love for him, but his work circumstance changed and he's moved away. We're ok with repeatedly playing with the same people, and even with feelings developing. We're always in communication with each other, ensuring our relationship remains solid. We're not actively seeking a poly style relationship, but aren't averse to it developing. We both feel that sex is better as emotions become closer. In the event that she were to find some guy that made her thighs quiver, she would tell me first. I would be ok with her going off with him without seeing her first, but we would have to communicate first. Doing it and telling me later is absolutely not going to happen. She has a free pass to do that with exactly one person whom she has wanted for years but is not available (and we're not approaching him about it). I have such a pass with one person as well, but it's not going to happen either. In the secondly case, as you can surmise from the above, she can play solo if she likes. We prefer MFM first, but depending on the situation solo can be first.

Having been involved in a few cuckold fantasy roleplay, I was taught the term "stag" by one of the partners. Just like any play, it tells the guy that the husband is not into humiliation or submissiveness, though he may watch and masturbate or even join in. What I don't really get is the difference between vixen and hotwife. Any insights?