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Sorry if I’m posting too much. Saturday night and snowy and we are home. Me watching football, Debbie watching a movie. Aren’t we romantic. There were thoughts our friends would visit us for the long weekend, we normally travel to our hometown to visit and we were excited to host. Weather and Covid last week made plans change. When Debbie and I agreed last month to see how things go the topic of rules came up. It’s friends, what rules can we think of, our sex is pretty tame, very rare rear sex, we didn’t think that would happen, it didn’t. Kissing, we both laughed, were we really going to say no kissing. We came up with a safe word, NO. We agreed if No was said we would both stop. I knew watching was not going to be as easy as I wanted to believe. I knew what was going to happen, oral sex and penetration. In looking back there were no surprises and it went just like the porn we watched, not really, I’m not porn material. I asked Debbie if anything upset her, I posted before she was taken aback being touched by a woman, it was never forced, all good. Debbie asked me how I felt watching. She knew I was watching after I finished before they did, okay I won’t mention that again, damn he has stamina. I told her, remember when it was daylight and we were all talking and you were touching him and then you slipped down, something I always enjoy, I got to watch you give a blow job. I watched you from a different view enjoying and saw him leaning back watching you. I heard you enjoying doing it and I thought that this was more real sex, not just you letting him stroke in and out of you. Do others feel like me that watching your wife going down and not stopping, taking every drop even more sexual than penetration to completion. I never thought that a blow job would be more difficult to accept. I have no regrets that she did it, I did the same not far from her, I’m sort of happy she didn’t stop, I’m just surprised how I reacted inwardly to that. This game is a blow out , thinking to join Debbie in bed for my own blow out. If you are out in the snow or ice be careful.

Our was totally unplanned. Hubby and I were experimenting with anal play at the time and we were using toys to simulate dp. We talked about how great it would be to have two real penises but it was nothing more than pillow talk for our own titillation. Then one day on holidays we were at a resort in the pool very early in the morning and there was another guy there. He was clearly checking me out and hubby and I played up to that. Then as bold an bold could be he came up to us and said it would be more fun with a third and asked if he could kiss me. We told him to f**k off. But after hubby and I had a chance to talk and he was totally into the idea I swam up to him and planted a big kiss. 20 minutes later we were in his room and didn't leave until very late that night, It was a one time only thing and we didn't have another swinging experience for 12 years which was only a month ago. We're older, more mature, more established and more comfortable in ourselves and our relationship now so that experience a month ago has opened up this whole lifestyle for us now. Don't be shy now, we'd love to hear your story.... or anyone else's for that matter.

Today's NY Times Magazine cover story is on sex in old age. Not targeted at swingers, but the life-affirming theme will resonate with all of the seniors on this board. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/01/12/magazine/sex-old-age.html

No such thing! I know for my part as a guy that it is more difficult for me to cum from oral sex with a woman with whom I do not share deeper emotions. I think subconsciously I think of it as a more intimate act then vaginal sex. Perhaps it is a bit the same with you, in that oral sex is more intimate, and seeing your wife share that with another man was difficult because of that. Whether you did the same thing with another woman right next to her is irrelevant. This is an emotional reaction. Emotions don't speak logic. They are two different languages. It could be that you view vaginal sex as a more physical act and oral sex as a more emotional/intimate act. Seeing your wife engaging in that with another man shows her wanting it, enjoying it, relishing it. With vaginal sex, sure she is enjoying it but it might be internally viewed by you as more of something he is doing to her, rather than something she is doing to him. With oral sex, that's reversed. On an emotional level, that might be more difficult. I wish we had snow. I used to live in areas of the country where real winters happened. Here, we don't get real winters 😕 We did get a touch of snow with the latest storm, but it melted away by the afternoon.

Wow!! Our first time at a swingers club last night (Friday Australia time) and wow!!!! It was so much better than I could have imagined. Not even talking about sex, just the people, real people, people like us, people that you can be open with, can freely talk about sex with, can express your desires with, even if that desire is that I like you and want to be with you without judgment from your partner, their partner or people around you. It was totally refreshing. I think I’ve found my people. I was worried going in that people were going to be off in their groups with friends and it would be hard to break in but everyone was so welcoming. No-one was sleezy. I never felt any pressure. It could not have been a better night. We only played with one couple. A couple I guess, I don’t know if there’s different terminologies in the swinging scene, they come as a couple but are just friends with benefits. They approached us and it just felt right and soon enough we were heading to a room. The other guy had performance issues and soon left us alone, I wanted to finish it there but they both assured us we should continue. I am so glad we did. I cannot put into words how much of a turn on it was to watch my husband totally into her (and her into him). I’m sure no-one wants the details but I just want to say one thing, being in a 69 with her watching my husband penetrate her doggy was the single most erotic thing I have ever done in my life. We were so switched on to each other that we all came at the same time. I’m so happy how it worked out and how I now know my husband will participate. He was worried that I didn’t get to play with a guy but if every situation ends up like that one I will be the happiest woman alive. We exchanged phone numbers and she messaged to wish us a good morning and asked us out for “dinner and whatever happens afterwards” tonight. It’s quick but we couldn’t say no. I guess from what I’ve learned that there is no normal but does this sound too quick? Well I’m off the get my hair done, I don’t even have any nerves, I’m just so excited.

Badger... "brother"??? You two are very judgmental for any swinging. It probably works for you in a traditional, possessive, monogamous arrangement. I am sure that we all wish you well in that. PLEASE stay far, far away from the lifestyle community though.