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This board is here for you to get advice, ask questions, share experiences, and once you have experience share your advice. Be careful of posters telling you are wrong in your thoughts, your thoughts belong to you and only you can figure if you made a wrong choice. There will be those who say don’t play with friends, don’t play without your spouse, always use protection and many other rules they live by, if you live by others rules you wouldn’t be on here. I have no idea where you are with snow or ice, our Sunday night has my husband watching football with me kind of watching too. I am not the best one to say what it’s like to watch your wife give oral sex, I can only share observations from people we have met. All of our meetings are based around oral sex between two women, me and women who are curious to have a bisexual meeting. I always suggest before meeting that they discuss where our meetings could lead. Some women only want husbands to watch. I emphasize pleasure not intimacy. Not unlike you the others are swinging virgins, scared, nervous and not sure what will happen. My perception is most women equate screwing as the most intimate thing. Most men are thrilled at any sexual contact. None of the people we meet expect my husband to be anything more than a spectator along with the other husband. In almost every meeting the other husband gets involved, in over half my husband gets involved in oral sex either getting or giving on the first or second meeting. We have never had a husband stop his wife stop her from going further, we have had wives stop their husbands from having full sex and from giving oral. Like you every couple is different with different levels of comfort. You are being smart asking and talking about your thoughts with her. I wish we had friends that would have introduced us to our found happiness. None of our long time friends would have been a candidate to play with. We were also afraid to play close to home, we were very secretive. You sound as you are having fun with people you enjoy. Try not to overthink your fun.

Sorry if I’m posting too much. Saturday night and snowy and we are home. Me watching football, Debbie watching a movie. Aren’t we romantic. There were thoughts our friends would visit us for the long weekend, we normally travel to our hometown to visit and we were excited to host. Weather and Covid last week made plans change. When Debbie and I agreed last month to see how things go the topic of rules came up. It’s friends, what rules can we think of, our sex is pretty tame, very rare rear sex, we didn’t think that would happen, it didn’t. Kissing, we both laughed, were we really going to say no kissing. We came up with a safe word, NO. We agreed if No was said we would both stop. I knew watching was not going to be as easy as I wanted to believe. I knew what was going to happen, oral sex and penetration. In looking back there were no surprises and it went just like the porn we watched, not really, I’m not porn material. I asked Debbie if anything upset her, I posted before she was taken aback being touched by a woman, it was never forced, all good. Debbie asked me how I felt watching. She knew I was watching after I finished before they did, okay I won’t mention that again, damn he has stamina. I told her, remember when it was daylight and we were all talking and you were touching him and then you slipped down, something I always enjoy, I got to watch you give a blow job. I watched you from a different view enjoying and saw him leaning back watching you. I heard you enjoying doing it and I thought that this was more real sex, not just you letting him stroke in and out of you. Do others feel like me that watching your wife going down and not stopping, taking every drop even more sexual than penetration to completion. I never thought that a blow job would be more difficult to accept. I have no regrets that she did it, I did the same not far from her, I’m sort of happy she didn’t stop, I’m just surprised how I reacted inwardly to that. This game is a blow out , thinking to join Debbie in bed for my own blow out. If you are out in the snow or ice be careful.

No such thing! I know for my part as a guy that it is more difficult for me to cum from oral sex with a woman with whom I do not share deeper emotions. I think subconsciously I think of it as a more intimate act then vaginal sex. Perhaps it is a bit the same with you, in that oral sex is more intimate, and seeing your wife share that with another man was difficult because of that. Whether you did the same thing with another woman right next to her is irrelevant. This is an emotional reaction. Emotions don't speak logic. They are two different languages. It could be that you view vaginal sex as a more physical act and oral sex as a more emotional/intimate act. Seeing your wife engaging in that with another man shows her wanting it, enjoying it, relishing it. With vaginal sex, sure she is enjoying it but it might be internally viewed by you as more of something he is doing to her, rather than something she is doing to him. With oral sex, that's reversed. On an emotional level, that might be more difficult. I wish we had snow. I used to live in areas of the country where real winters happened. Here, we don't get real winters 😕 We did get a touch of snow with the latest storm, but it melted away by the afternoon.

My husband wanted (and was granted) an open relationship. This still makes me terribly jealous and afraid, but I understand that these are MY emotions, and I am trying to work through them. He has slept with a close friend of mine twice, and I know that he is only in that for the sex, and is not at all in love with her. She is also only in it for the sex, and is absolutely open about anything that I want to know. I am still struggling mightly, but I know this about MY insecurities, not theirs. I also firmly believe in my rational mind that monogamy is a social construct that isn't necessary....and would like to be as emotionally accepting as I am logically accepting. He desperately wants a threesome with me and another woman, which he has had in a prior relationship, and apparently is his favorite thing. He constantly reminds me that he is open to anything I want to try....but I don't know that I want anything yet.....or ever. He is offering to swing....and take me to parties or a resort so I could even just look around and experience the atmosphere. I honestly feel like he is pushing, but I also don't like being afraid of things, so I am tempted to go just to challenge my fears. I am nervous about ANY additional sexual encounters. I am not a sexually adventurous person, and many of my prior experiences with sex have been negative (aka. men trying to force me to do things I didn't want to, including an attempted rape when I was VERY young, which was foiled when I seriously injured the primary offender). I don't have a significant desire to sleep with anyone else....I am vaguely curious, but terrified to even think about it. I don't fantasize about sleeping with other people because I can't manage to trust anyone I don't know fairly well. My friend also tells me I may be demi-sexual....which might explain why I am rarely physically attracted to another person until I get to know them. I am always tense and nervous during my first sexual encounters....which makes orgasm unlikely, and sometimes even makes things painful. It sounds amazing though...the idea that people can be so open and free, and the idea that it could just be "playtime". But I dread the idea of the possible shame, pain, and other emotional stress I am not sure I can handle. I would love to talk to a therapist about it....but they are terribly expensive, and I don't know that my insurance will cover the cost of finding one that won't be judgemental and has ANY clue of how to help someone through this situation. I am in a very rural area and people here would DEFINITELY judge, so I'd have to do something online....which is available, but probably not covered. I want my husband to be happy, and I don't particularly like being afraid, but I am already struggling with my emotions regarding the open relationship. I am a fairly large adrenaline junkie in the remainder of my life, so this surprises everyone who finds out about it. Can you go to a party or a resort and just bluntly tell people no if you only want to hang out? Is there a place I could go and learn safely without being pressured to do anything? Any words of wisdom? Advice? I want to be better than I am about this.

So this weekend was our first* time swinging. *not actually our first as we’ve had a couple of other encounters but this was our first organised time at a club. I was nervous, worried, obviously excited, but all the fears were wiped away within the first half an hour. I found my people ! I honestly feel that way. They are so honest, so genuine, so welcoming. I mean I love my friends and family but there’s just no way I could be open to them about swinging, or even just sex for hat matter. Just the ease and honesty of conversation was so refreshing, one conversation was about anal sex, I’m a big fan, we talked, we laughed, we shared stories, no judgment, to jealousy, it was simply incredible. If I dared raise anal sex with my friends and think they’d giggle and shut the conversation down. I love the openness with these people. See, I love this lifestyle, these people, and I haven’t even mentioned the sex yet because everything else was just, well it was just perfect. And yes we did hook up with someone and yes it was great, and yes we met them privately again the next day, and yes that was even better. But this whole weekend was about more than just the sex, it was about the people, it was about how my husband and I, after I had doubts, connected on such an incredible level. I’d love one day to write a detailed diary entry about this weekend as it’s something I’ll never forget or regret. It’s the start of a new chapter, the start of a chapter where we can be who we are and not have to temper that to pander to friends. I still love my friends and I guess at the end of the day we’ll have to tone things down around them but my new friends, all of them, have given us such a gift by allowing us be us essentially. I can’t wait until next time.

Hello Pegasus78, Welcome to the board; you are welcome here and there is nothing that can not be shared here. It sounds like your husband has made his desires/wants very clear to you; perhaps you need to be equally forthcoming to him, even if those desires reflect hesitancy and/or caution. Don't second guess your feelings, accept them. They are a reflection of who you are a where you are and they are dynamic and can, and may potentially change over time. Enjoy the options that the lifestyle may present to you, and do this on your own terms, when and what feels right for you.

I am impressed with your ability to separate your emotional fears from the rationale/logical and speak to both very clearly. Bravo. You can indeed attend a resort to just hang out. And, you won't be 'pressured'. Check out Desire - couples only, clothing optional resorts in Cancun. There are two: Pearl and Riviera Maya. Of the couples who attend I would guess 1/3 are active swingers, 1/3 are nudists and 1/3 are folks who just like being around other openminded people in a sexy environment. They may be toe dippers and open to some light play or not. Biggest rule in this pastime is no means no. It is rarely violated and would be grounds for removal at Desire. You might be approached - no need to be blunt - just polite no thanks is all that is required. Great opportunity to observe but also talk with other couples who likely have struggled with some of your same emotions and made their way to the other side. Another thought is to check out some podcasts. Lot's of great advice on many of the things you might encounter in this hobby. There are many, but We've Gotta Thing is a good place to start. If you can track down Swinger Diaries that would be excellent as well.

In a word … yes! Well, maybe not bluntly, but a simple, “No, thank you … I’m just here to see how I feel about the experience.” is all you owe anybody. If someone pressures you after that, you should notify the party host or club/resort management and it’s *their* responsibility to deal with the offender.

I love watching my GF suck dick and she LOVES to suck dick. She has sucked many guys to completion and the visual is always hot. I enjoy a slow sensual BJ myself but I also enjoy the visual of watching her get facefucked. There is something hot about watching guys pump her throat like they do her pussy and the excitement and amazement on their faces. And of course I love the finish of watching them dump their loads on her face!!!

We were on a Bliss cruise and Chris had hurt her back on our first play date. I was walking around the open play room (there’s also one limiting admission to couples only). It’s definitely exciting to walk around and getting to watch and listen to all the people having sex. A man approached me snd asked if I’d like to join him and his wife. Of course I said yes ( the wife had given me a hall pass while she was out of commission). As the play room was closing in a few minutes we went to their cabin. We all got naked immediately and I went don on her until she suggested it was my turn . Meanwhile her husband started to finger fuck her while she pleasured my cock. Soon She was ready to fuck and laid back inviting me in. While I fucked her , the husband knelt above her head and fed his cock to her. I’d never been that close to another man’s hard cock but it was hot watching his cock disappear into her mouth while I fucked her. We traded positions several times and she rode us both too. She came several times and had me finish on her breasts while she shielded her face in case I came with enough force to shoot that far. I thanked them for inviting me and for letting me play with them. Everyone had a fantastic day. They ran into my wife later and told her how lucky I was to have a wife who’d let me play alone.

Notice to "Sluts": For every man who disdains you, there are five guys who want to eat your pussy.