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Have you seen the t shirt “ It’s not cheating if my wife/husband watches?”

Sorry if I’m posting too much. Saturday night and snowy and we are home. Me watching football, Debbie watching a movie. Aren’t we romantic. There were thoughts our friends would visit us for the long weekend, we normally travel to our hometown to visit and we were excited to host. Weather and Covid last week made plans change. When Debbie and I agreed last month to see how things go the topic of rules came up. It’s friends, what rules can we think of, our sex is pretty tame, very rare rear sex, we didn’t think that would happen, it didn’t. Kissing, we both laughed, were we really going to say no kissing. We came up with a safe word, NO. We agreed if No was said we would both stop. I knew watching was not going to be as easy as I wanted to believe. I knew what was going to happen, oral sex and penetration. In looking back there were no surprises and it went just like the porn we watched, not really, I’m not porn material. I asked Debbie if anything upset her, I posted before she was taken aback being touched by a woman, it was never forced, all good. Debbie asked me how I felt watching. She knew I was watching after I finished before they did, okay I won’t mention that again, damn he has stamina. I told her, remember when it was daylight and we were all talking and you were touching him and then you slipped down, something I always enjoy, I got to watch you give a blow job. I watched you from a different view enjoying and saw him leaning back watching you. I heard you enjoying doing it and I thought that this was more real sex, not just you letting him stroke in and out of you. Do others feel like me that watching your wife going down and not stopping, taking every drop even more sexual than penetration to completion. I never thought that a blow job would be more difficult to accept. I have no regrets that she did it, I did the same not far from her, I’m sort of happy she didn’t stop, I’m just surprised how I reacted inwardly to that. This game is a blow out , thinking to join Debbie in bed for my own blow out. If you are out in the snow or ice be careful.

Thanks everyone. I overreacted to an act that is natural to sex. This put my remark into perspective, I didn’t expect to bend over or spread and have him dive in. I couldn’t do that to any woman myself. Debbie brought up how much I enjoy oral sex, she does to and this was a decision we made together and we both were there to have fun. Without thinking of her I was only thinking how I felt, we had no rules or restrictions, she reminds me that she didn’t do anything we don’t do daily. She asked if I enjoyed knowing I did, did I want to do this again, she knows I do.

I don't think you're posting too much at all. It's a huge relief to see people having brand new experiences and bringing enthusiasm and curiosity back to the board after everyone has been on ice for so long. (Figuratively, literally.) I keep meaning to write up some of our recent experiences but time gets away from a person. In any case, this is the kink we started with. Everything about it works for me, from watching her head bob to the enthusiastic slurping sounds. It's playful, there is an intensity to it, absolutely, especially in the anticipation. Shirt coming off, hair getting put up, the stroking and not being totally sure when she's going to take it into her mouth. Then she's going, and there's a low-grade nauseous excitement like an amusement park ride. It's very different to be able to relax and watch versus being on the receiving end and focusing on the sensation. She's gradually shifted her view of it as an intensely intimate act to one where she can take control of someone and perform. (We had a terrible ice storm not long ago. Plow drivers are abusing the COVID leave rules, so nothing got salted the night before despite days of warning. There were cars sliding down the street in front of the house sideways, into a dip at the end of the block, where they couldn't get out because it was all evenly iced from end-to-end. Sometimes Mrs. E forgets some recycling and runs it out at dawn in her nightdress. I wonder if there's a strategy in there to get the plow drivers to show up.)

I just wanted to toss the NRE thing out there so you could all be aware of it. All too often it is ignored and that leads to other warning signs also being ignored. Just keep it in mind. BTW, I completely overlooked the part of how you (accidentally) found a unicorn (sort of) right out of the gates! Talk about luck (maybe Australia is where the unicorns hide and play?)! Lastly, over-analysing things is my thing...stay out of my lane. Don't leave out over-analysing the 'what if's' that didn't even happen... Let us know how things are going (and especially if Australia is the land of the unicorns so we can buy our plane tickets)!

Sorry. As funny as this may sound I have thought about this place and wanted to come here to share but life has been hectic. Well for a girl that analyses, over-analyses and then analyses the over-analysing things have moved at a breakneck speed but surprisingly I feel really comfortable with it, like it was meant to be. I take on board your warning about NRE but I'm not sure I have a handbrake right now and even if I did am not sure I'm willing to pull it, So we met again Saturday and it's like we were made for each other, we're just so comfortable together. So not wanting to move too fast, lol, we met again Sunday!!! Yes I know... she had a couple she said we would love and the five of us had an incredible time. So... just us girls are meeting up this Friday and we're all going together to a club Saturday. NRE all the way I guess !?!?! Traditionally I would be an anxious wreck right now but I don't feel any of that, I'm just excited. It feels good to just go with the flow knowing that no matter what will come it will all be ok, I don't need to have a plan worked out for each scenario, I am so happy that my husband has found the mojo he thought he had lost and is not just sitting back and watching, and I'm so incredibly lucky he's such a wonderful man to let us explore this without any hint of jealousy.

Honey’s “friend” is somewhere around 60 and never had his cock sucked in his life. He only fucked 2 women including his wife who died. He hadn’t fucked his wife for 10 years before she died. That ain’t living.

That's what it sounded like. If you aren't SURE this is what you want to do, then you shouldn't be doing it, and he should be willing to stop and wait until you are sure it is (which might never happen). All the reasons for having an open marriage are HIS reasons, not yours, and he married you knowing what he was getting in advance. If Ms. Gold wasn't interested in swinging, we wouldn't have done it. If she asked that we stop, we would stop, no questions asked. Some people just aren't 'wired' for non-monogamy and there's no way to change that. To be a successful swinger (this includes having an open marriage) your relationship must have an abundance of love, trust, and communication to have a chance. It doesn't sound like your relationship has that (yet) therefore you shouldn't be swinging. On top of that, we STRONGLY advise that you don't swing with vanilla friends since they are usually not ready for the emotions involved, and you are taking the chance that if things go bad, then EVERYONE knows what you are doing in your bedroom...friends, family, co-workers. Sleeping with a close friend of yours is really pushing anyone's limits (we personally think that he went WAY too far with this). You two need to have a serious talk where you ask him to STOP until you have time to figure what you want to do. If he isn't willing to stop, then you know you aren't that important to him. Even if he is, you both need to agree on rules and limits and NEVER violate them...close friends being off limits is one we think you should have. Other rules we have are: No means NO! Stop mean STOP (including stopping swinging if asked) Never move faster than the slowest member is comfortable with Never 'take one for the team' We wish you the best, but are very concerned for you. Let us know how things go. If he loves you, he'll be willing to wait while you decide...knowing that you may never decide to do this.

My wife told me half the men she meets never have oral sex at home.

I posted a similar thought about my wife, the difference was she didn’t give the blow job because she felt it wasn’t right. The think is she starts most mornings giving me a blow job and she claimed when she was younger she gave blow jobs to all her dates, gave me one on our first date. Another thing similar is our first swing was with friends too, my biggest fear was kissing, the fear went away as did her not giving blow jobs. We joke about it now, who doesn’t have oral during sex? My biggest concern with swinging was it was my wife’s idea, she colluded with our friends to get me swap with them. I thought she had played with them before I agreed You can’t control your thoughts. Watching her have fun is the thing, and now she is having fun with everything.

This board is here for you to get advice, ask questions, share experiences, and once you have experience share your advice. Be careful of posters telling you are wrong in your thoughts, your thoughts belong to you and only you can figure if you made a wrong choice. There will be those who say don’t play with friends, don’t play without your spouse, always use protection and many other rules they live by, if you live by others rules you wouldn’t be on here. I have no idea where you are with snow or ice, our Sunday night has my husband watching football with me kind of watching too. I am not the best one to say what it’s like to watch your wife give oral sex, I can only share observations from people we have met. All of our meetings are based around oral sex between two women, me and women who are curious to have a bisexual meeting. I always suggest before meeting that they discuss where our meetings could lead. Some women only want husbands to watch. I emphasize pleasure not intimacy. Not unlike you the others are swinging virgins, scared, nervous and not sure what will happen. My perception is most women equate screwing as the most intimate thing. Most men are thrilled at any sexual contact. None of the people we meet expect my husband to be anything more than a spectator along with the other husband. In almost every meeting the other husband gets involved, in over half my husband gets involved in oral sex either getting or giving on the first or second meeting. We have never had a husband stop his wife stop her from going further, we have had wives stop their husbands from having full sex and from giving oral. Like you every couple is different with different levels of comfort. You are being smart asking and talking about your thoughts with her. I wish we had friends that would have introduced us to our found happiness. None of our long time friends would have been a candidate to play with. We were also afraid to play close to home, we were very secretive. You sound as you are having fun with people you enjoy. Try not to overthink your fun.

I love watching my GF suck dick and she LOVES to suck dick. She has sucked many guys to completion and the visual is always hot. I enjoy a slow sensual BJ myself but I also enjoy the visual of watching her get facefucked. There is something hot about watching guys pump her throat like they do her pussy and the excitement and amazement on their faces. And of course I love the finish of watching them dump their loads on her face!!!

No such thing! I know for my part as a guy that it is more difficult for me to cum from oral sex with a woman with whom I do not share deeper emotions. I think subconsciously I think of it as a more intimate act then vaginal sex. Perhaps it is a bit the same with you, in that oral sex is more intimate, and seeing your wife share that with another man was difficult because of that. Whether you did the same thing with another woman right next to her is irrelevant. This is an emotional reaction. Emotions don't speak logic. They are two different languages. It could be that you view vaginal sex as a more physical act and oral sex as a more emotional/intimate act. Seeing your wife engaging in that with another man shows her wanting it, enjoying it, relishing it. With vaginal sex, sure she is enjoying it but it might be internally viewed by you as more of something he is doing to her, rather than something she is doing to him. With oral sex, that's reversed. On an emotional level, that might be more difficult. I wish we had snow. I used to live in areas of the country where real winters happened. Here, we don't get real winters 😕 We did get a touch of snow with the latest storm, but it melted away by the afternoon.