@ROCKlandCpl Are you looking for validation or approval here? You are overthinking the next steps you want to do. You already stated that you wanted to meet her privately to discuss swinging, Hedo questions just a pretense to start the conversation. I can understand the meeting alone with her to see if you click, she is evaluating you too. The first question you have to ask yourself, are you comfortable with her. If I am reading your comments correctly you probably are comfortable enough to want to stay in contact as a new friend and more. You and Rocky are not going to go to a club for anonymous sex, you need a connection and now you have a connection with a woman, next you need to meet them as a couple. Even if your next conversation becomes explicit, slow down and go for drinks as couples getting to know more. Time will be there whether it happens a week or a month from now. I know you need a connection with others, it’s not just sex you want. Many are shy at first, not only with the first couple you swing with, it could be with the first time with any new partner. Insecure, unsure, wanting to say and do the right thing and then the comfort sets in. Look in the mirror, you are attractive, smart, educated as well as sexy. If you continue in the lifestyle you will have to make decisions about people, not all will click, some will be outright obnoxious. They will be evaluating you too if you are lucky to find people who aren’t just indiscriminate who the have sex with. Not every couple is a great match, you are lucky, your first couple are great people and your friends are perfect play partners for you. Your next partner should be as exciting as your first or close to it. Know what you want and go enjoy it. Your next step should be getting to know them as a pair not single person.
I think lovefest was a bit sarcastic, the whole “real” board wants to know.