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Be your natural sexual self, use your imagination,put yourself in her place,use some visually effects,stimulate her senses, perform cunnilingus on each other taking turns, indulge in what feels good, communicate your needs,embrace those moments of climax, and finish with complete satisfaction using devices.

I’m not bi. Or so I thought, until yesterday evening. My husband had dinner with one of his clients, a female CEO. I know they are friends and he never actually hit on her, until yesterday. He told me « tonight I’m gonna try to seduce her Join us at the end of the dinner ! » So, around 21:30, I joined. Obviously they had had a good time already, smiling, laughing, drinking an excellent wine, and their hands were sometimes touching above the table. This beautiful woman was obviously into my husband, but also into me. She was looking at both of us like if we were delicious cakes behind the glass of the pastry shop. That’s when it hit me. I wanted her too!!! For the first time ever, yesterday evening, I felt a strong desire for a woman, a beautiful girl with massive breasts, a body to die for, and a smile that could conquer Rome! I am not sure I would know how to handle her in bed, though, cos I’ve never been with a girl before. But for the first time, I am REALLY attracted !!!!!! Hubby says it will come naturally, and that I should not worry. Still, I would appreciate your advice, ladies. How was your first time with a female body in bed? How was the first time you ate a pussy, you played with boobs that were not yours, etc. ? :))) Sorry, I feel stupid but all this is very new to me.

One of the cardinal rules of swinging is to *never* go faster than the speed of the slower partner. It’s clear that your wife is far more eager to swap than you are … she needs to dial it back until you’re both ready because if what you’re describing now actually happens, it’s gonna be a train wreck. We agree with njbm … go to the club, soak in the atmosphere, meet a few people, have sex with only each other, and talk about the evening after you’re home and have had some time to process your thoughts.

Observation is a good idea. If not ,then same room, whether or not each of you has a partner. One of our first experiences was an MFM. That worked out well. We also limited ourselves to soft swap initially. Slow and steady. is a good formula for us and , I think , most others.

Here is something to think about. How about going to a club the first time just to observe and have sex with each other? While in the setting, one or both of you may feel very comfortable or uncomfortable. If you are both comfortable, you can try swapping or , if not, you can try another trip to the club. Some couples, I’d say the majority, play in close proximity to each other. I think that playing apart or in separate rooms is more for people with a little experience. If your wife seems open to sex and she is not close by you in a club, she could be a gang bang candidate if single guys are permitted. This could be a little overwhelming for a novice. Have some ground rules that you both agree to. Use condoms. If you are under 45, be vaccinated for HPV. It is a multi-shot series.

They are usually made of silicone, cyberskin, or tpe. Some can add length, some add girth. My gf bought different one depending on her taste at the time.

We do this with our regular annual bloodwork. If we had more frequent encounters with a larger number of new partners, we would certainly elevate that, but the truth is that we are probably less active in terms of partners than many vanilla singles. I understand very much where you're coming from about lifestyle and knowing someone's past, and as you say, it's still important, a useful screening tool, and that's been good enough for our risk tolerance. If we needed perfection, the answer would be to not to play at all, or, as you mentioned, to play in a closed circle and check paperwork. (Also a valid approach, not suggesting people who go that way are overcautious.) Barring that, the risk of transmitting HPV (for example), is estimated by one McGill study at 20% - over six months between couples who reported an average of four sessions a week, half without ever using condoms. Some suggest it may also be passed by deep kissing. What, realistically, is one supposed to do with that information? (Barring the obvious answer, the HPV vaccine, which I had no idea one could get up to age 45. I believed the cut-off to be much lower, and that's great information for people to have.) Probably roughly the same things one might do as vanilla singles - and I qualify that by pointing at our style of activity, which isn't that dissimilar from what vanilla singles do. If we frequented clubs, had frequent encounters with a large circle of people who play widely, etc., we would probably evaluate that concern very differently.