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The easier way is to find another couple with a bi-woman and make clear since the beginning your desires and boundaries, that way no one will be disappointed. Girls can play and enjoy each other while the guys watch and later on the girls can return to their respective partners to have sex in front of the other couple. That scenario is a great beginner set-up that can help you guys to get confidence in the lifestyle and move slowly forward to a more "advanced" scenario when you feel ready.

We always recommend a local meet and greet. In addition to a membership on SLS or kasidie or even AFF. FetLife even has a swingers section. The meet and greets are usually held in a restaurant or bar. We live in an ultra, ULTRA conservative area ( life style clubs are against the law) but we have a very active LS community. Whatever you are interested in, I guarantee someone out there is interested in the same thing. As far as divorce goes..... swinging usually does one of two things to a relationship it either makes it stronger or it burns it to the ground. Communication is the key to making it work. And recognizing that your wants and desires can change. But you need to discuss this ahead of time. Good luck and keep us posted. There is no such thing as a dumb question.

When ever we travel and have time in an airport or other public place with lots of traffic, we play a game. We call is maybe, maybe not, hope not. This is where we point out couples to each other and guess if they are or are not in the lifestyle.

When we play, and hubby is watching me with the other male, I know two tricks: I can make him extremely excited by sucking the other man's cock while watching that other man straight in the eyes, ignoring my husband. That will make him go really high The other trick: when I open myself to let my lover penetrate me, I take his neck with my hand, in a loving gesture. That makes hubby extremely jealous and then I can turn and look at him while my lover is moving inside of me. Two very exciting situations.

We have never explored this so please be kind. My wife and I are interested in exploring a woman to be with my wife only, at least to start. My wife is bi and I am straight. We both are interested in watching other couples, my wife with another woman, but that seems to be the limit currently. We are still very new and have been having several discussions, but until we explore this more.... We have been to strip joints together and she really likes being the center of attention. Nothing is hotter to me than watching another woman lick my wife's tits and would love to watch her with another woman. Is this normal? Is there places, websites for this? Just do not know where to start and I find the most pleasure in watching her being pleasured. Unfortunately, we have friends who were in the lifestyle and did full swaps and now they are divorced (in the back of our minds). She tells me she is completely fulfilled by our sex life, but misses the touch/beauty of a woman every once in a while

We recently received a private message that was very insightful and thoughtful that got Rocky and I talking, which led to less talking and more having fun. What are we looking for in a couple if we decide to increase our current situation. Currently we are only swinging with a friend and if the situation is right, the first couple we met. In our initial search we went the way many others have gone, joining an online search. We originally excluded couples because we were looking for the perfect woman. We extended our criteria to include couples with bi women which gave us a good number, we narrowed by age and location. Being the wide range of people we continued to narrow on physical attraction, an extremely subjective choice. We read profiles excluding those that were ridiculous or offensive. Penis or spread crotch pictures were excluded. It was difficult trying to match with any other attraction we would want, similar thinking or philosophy, sense of humor or any of the attractions people have when making new friends. How could we be intimate with someone we wouldn’t want to have dinner with. Of course physical attraction is not that important when meeting new people and new friendships. Physical attraction was The Primary connection in this search. The couple we did meet were not models, they were attractive in what we called Normal Looking. I know that sounds foolish, normal people come in all shapes and colors. Our second couple were already friends, we had no problem knowing who they were as humans. We aren’t ready to go to lifestyle events to meet new people where you can get to know someone before going forward. Even if we would go to a lifestyle resort I’m thinking I would most likely strike a conversation with those who I would think are physically attracted to. Then I think how shallow that is, we aren’t perfect, our group of friends come in those already mentioned shapes and sizes. Can I have sex with someone and close my eyes to physical attributes?

LoL we do the same thing! My favorite thing to whisper to my wife is "I'd do her" same goes for someone on TV.

Hate to be repetitive, but one place to meet people is SLS. For younger members, what are the Match-like hook up sites?

If the girl is checking on me and her partner seems content about it, "DING, DING, DING, we have a winner"

My husband loves watching me play either with another woman, man or in a group, and I of course love to perform for him.

Sex has been always a risk, I know this since I started my sexual life when I was a teenager. We both do understand the risks and we both manage them, for us the outcome is much more rewarding, saying that this is our current situation: We do not use condoms for oral, for me the taste of the condoms is a big mood-breaker, flavour or no flavour, sucking on a piece of rubber is a bad experience for me. Also, most of the time I handle the male orgasm in my mouth. We use condoms for penetration, we have condomless sex ONLY with our closest friends, people we know for years -> these are only two couples. Once again, we both do understand the risks, we just simply made an adult decision.

Nice. I too enjoy the moment he releases into her and how her body craves it...

For me as a woman and wife, when either having sex with someone other than my husband or watching hubby with another woman, oral sex is both the appetizer and the dessert. The main course, however, is the man ejaculating inside a woman's vagina - it is both the most pleasurable for me physically and the most exciting for me to watch. Hubby says he enjoys watching me suck a dick that has just cum inside me, covered with semen and my own juices; I like doing it too.

"Vanilla" is jargon and references what someone perceives to be normative behavior. Personal normal and social norms are not quite identical and yet often confused: think for a moment on one's reaction to seeing an open collar when the rest of the men are wearing neckties. Similarly, the couple wearing bathing suits on a nude beach are normal but (context-sensitive) non-normative. Curiously, it is non-normative behavior that make people, stories, and life interesting.

Has been used for years in the swing set

I only know the sounds she makes with me from moans, purring to the sounds she puts out during orgasms. They aren’t always the same or same intensity vocally and loudness. When she is giving me a blow job the sounds are different, she enjoying not orgasming, she will moan and give a shrill sound if I’m cumming. This is the first and only other man I saw her with, I hope it was her first, since we have been together. They were right there and I heard noises from both of them while I was more into the noises coming from my partner. Unfortunately or fortunately I and my partner finished first and I was now watching my wife and hearing her. The more I write and think about the more I think I overthought it before.

Poor guys. I think you nailed it as the nauseous feeling of an amusement park ride watching her head bob and slurping sounds Debbie makes exciting moans when I’m about to explode and she did it with him also. Now thinking and replaying it in my head I’m thinking how exciting it is and less bothering me just like that ride you were on and want to go back on. Just an hour ago she started my morning with those sounds. Life is good.

Thanks everyone. I overreacted to an act that is natural to sex. This put my remark into perspective, I didn’t expect to bend over or spread and have him dive in. I couldn’t do that to any woman myself. Debbie brought up how much I enjoy oral sex, she does to and this was a decision we made together and we both were there to have fun. Without thinking of her I was only thinking how I felt, we had no rules or restrictions, she reminds me that she didn’t do anything we don’t do daily. She asked if I enjoyed knowing I did, did I want to do this again, she knows I do.

I don't think you're posting too much at all. It's a huge relief to see people having brand new experiences and bringing enthusiasm and curiosity back to the board after everyone has been on ice for so long. (Figuratively, literally.) I keep meaning to write up some of our recent experiences but time gets away from a person. In any case, this is the kink we started with. Everything about it works for me, from watching her head bob to the enthusiastic slurping sounds. It's playful, there is an intensity to it, absolutely, especially in the anticipation. Shirt coming off, hair getting put up, the stroking and not being totally sure when she's going to take it into her mouth. Then she's going, and there's a low-grade nauseous excitement like an amusement park ride. It's very different to be able to relax and watch versus being on the receiving end and focusing on the sensation. She's gradually shifted her view of it as an intensely intimate act to one where she can take control of someone and perform. (We had a terrible ice storm not long ago. Plow drivers are abusing the COVID leave rules, so nothing got salted the night before despite days of warning. There were cars sliding down the street in front of the house sideways, into a dip at the end of the block, where they couldn't get out because it was all evenly iced from end-to-end. Sometimes Mrs. E forgets some recycling and runs it out at dawn in her nightdress. I wonder if there's a strategy in there to get the plow drivers to show up.)

Honey’s “friend” is somewhere around 60 and never had his cock sucked in his life. He only fucked 2 women including his wife who died. He hadn’t fucked his wife for 10 years before she died. That ain’t living.

I posted a similar thought about my wife, the difference was she didn’t give the blow job because she felt it wasn’t right. The think is she starts most mornings giving me a blow job and she claimed when she was younger she gave blow jobs to all her dates, gave me one on our first date. Another thing similar is our first swing was with friends too, my biggest fear was kissing, the fear went away as did her not giving blow jobs. We joke about it now, who doesn’t have oral during sex? My biggest concern with swinging was it was my wife’s idea, she colluded with our friends to get me swap with them. I thought she had played with them before I agreed You can’t control your thoughts. Watching her have fun is the thing, and now she is having fun with everything.

This board is here for you to get advice, ask questions, share experiences, and once you have experience share your advice. Be careful of posters telling you are wrong in your thoughts, your thoughts belong to you and only you can figure if you made a wrong choice. There will be those who say don’t play with friends, don’t play without your spouse, always use protection and many other rules they live by, if you live by others rules you wouldn’t be on here. I have no idea where you are with snow or ice, our Sunday night has my husband watching football with me kind of watching too. I am not the best one to say what it’s like to watch your wife give oral sex, I can only share observations from people we have met. All of our meetings are based around oral sex between two women, me and women who are curious to have a bisexual meeting. I always suggest before meeting that they discuss where our meetings could lead. Some women only want husbands to watch. I emphasize pleasure not intimacy. Not unlike you the others are swinging virgins, scared, nervous and not sure what will happen. My perception is most women equate screwing as the most intimate thing. Most men are thrilled at any sexual contact. None of the people we meet expect my husband to be anything more than a spectator along with the other husband. In almost every meeting the other husband gets involved, in over half my husband gets involved in oral sex either getting or giving on the first or second meeting. We have never had a husband stop his wife stop her from going further, we have had wives stop their husbands from having full sex and from giving oral. Like you every couple is different with different levels of comfort. You are being smart asking and talking about your thoughts with her. I wish we had friends that would have introduced us to our found happiness. None of our long time friends would have been a candidate to play with. We were also afraid to play close to home, we were very secretive. You sound as you are having fun with people you enjoy. Try not to overthink your fun.

I love watching my GF suck dick and she LOVES to suck dick. She has sucked many guys to completion and the visual is always hot. I enjoy a slow sensual BJ myself but I also enjoy the visual of watching her get facefucked. There is something hot about watching guys pump her throat like they do her pussy and the excitement and amazement on their faces. And of course I love the finish of watching them dump their loads on her face!!!