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Swingers is a broad term that covers a wide variety of sexual activity, but all of it has to do with consensual non-monogamy. That you have played with two other couples, regardless to the time since or between, qualifies you as swingers.

I know this has been asked before but I don't know if it was on here or in an email I received. A friend of mine just asked me for my advice when it comes to having her first gangbang and it made me think of it. She said she had looked here and couldn't find any info so I thought I'd remedy that. (I may also write an article at some point for the "info" pages of the site). The advice I'm about to give is based on my personal experiences. I hope that if you have had experiences with this you will provide your own input as well. - Choose your guys wisely. If possible find guys that you know are used to performing in group situations. There are gangbang groups all over the country and usually the guys who are members of these groups have experience in doing gangbangs and therefore will probably give YOU a more pleasurable experience. - If you are planning the gangbang yourself and trying to line up guys. Make sure you line up at least 3 times as many as you want to show up. IF you want a 5 guy gangbang invite 15 guys to join you. Chances are that 10 of those 15 guys won't show. And if you have a few extra it will make up for any guys who have performance anxiety in group situations. -Remember to make sure the focus is on YOU (the female). With so many guys there is no way you can please them all and if you try too hard you won't have any fun. SO let them focus on pleasing you and they will be pleased in the process. - Set any rules on the table before any play starts. If you are open to anything except anal make sure they know that your butt is off limits before things start getting wild and guys just start sticking things in any available holes. -Don't overplan. The mistake I made the first time out was that I made my first GB this huge production. I had met all the guys previously which helped but it didn't keep me from being nervous. We all met at a bar then went back to my hotel room. The evening was fun but the planning and WORK involved really took away from it. My policy now is that if it happens great, but I won't PLAN a gangbang. That's all I can think of for now. Again if you've been there/done that and have your advice to add, please do. If this is something you are thinking of and have questions, fire away.

My friend, why are you looking to define yourselves? The experiences you have had, were they enjoyable to you both? Did the other partners enjoy themselves? How we define ourselves within our relationships, is the first step. Do you both enjoy what you have done, and want to do more, or find new play partners? Here is the term we coined years ago.. and you are more than welcome to borrow We enjoy SEXPLORATION...

Relax folks, Black rings, upside down pineapples.. are just the latest rage. Wait a few months and it will be something else If you think you have fellow swingers in the neighborhood, unless they out themselves to you, leave it alone. Suppose you are wrong and its innocent? remember discretion, doesnt matter where or how, just like seeing someone at a party or club, nod and move on, because if they are into it, they cant out you without explaining how they know..

First step, is, taking fear and anxiety out of the equation. If this woman is into it, 99% of the battle is over. think of it this way, the first time you were with a guy, nerves and excitement.. the newness of the experience the sensations. same applies.. just different plumbing Second step as was said above, just go with what you like, obviously youve had oral sex done to you, what felt good and what didnt.. Just go with it.. and listen/read her signs.. If you do something that makes her moan, go with it. So please relax, and enjoy...

Be your natural sexual self, use your imagination,put yourself in her place,use some visually effects,stimulate her senses, perform cunnilingus on each other taking turns, indulge in what feels good, communicate your needs,embrace those moments of climax, and finish with complete satisfaction using devices.

Go for the first trip or two with the understanding that there will be no play of any of you. After that, she will have hopefully made a friend or two at the club that will keep an eye on her (especially since you have been members for so long) and make sure that she is okay when she it there. It sounds like you have all been having very honest, open, non-judgemental, productive talks (of course, keep that up). After that, all you can do is set her free...(hopefully she will just attend the under 35 nights so you don't accidentally run into her in the future). The apple doesn't fall too far from the tree...

I think of swingers as people who have significant relationship experience, and are involved in a very deep, meaningful, and close relationship when they get into swinging. That's not say your daughter can't, but the demographic for swinging isn't 18-20 year olds, to be sure. You've already done a great service to her in being open and honest. Continue to be so, answer her questions as best you can. As with NWAtlSwing, taking her to a club is up to your comfort levels. Do you really want to see your daughter in such a situation? Up to you.

We think you answer questions and share the wisdom you have learned. Taking her to a club would depend on your comfort levels. If it makes you feel weird. don't

In our gangbang related dirty talk, I frequently tell her that I want everyone in the club (or wherever we are) run a train on her. but realistically 3-4 seems to be the sweet spot (including me)

Yes I have thought about my wife with 3 to 5 guys at once. I love the thought of her getting pleasure and knowing the guys are pleasing her and she is pleasing them. If we knew the guys real well I am not opposed to having them cum in her for I know she hates condoms and loves the feel of the explosion and cum in her.No I would not think of her as a shut and when she came back to the house I would lather her down in the shower put her in bed and have sex with her and cum in her being totally turned on that she got the stress reliever she desperately needed and wanted. I know it sounds totally wrong

I am listed on here as a couple. We parted ways a while ago but I continued playing as a single while we were together (with consent) and after. A lot of single guys mass mail for the hell of it. Throw out 50 invites saying the same thing and see how many bites you get. Sometimes after reviewing the profile a little more closely, you decide it isn't a good fit. I don't make a habit of it, but I'm embarrassed to say I have done it. I do show up and I do play. There are some things that might make it easier and make men more receptive. First off, both of you need to talk to him. If I just talk to the wife, I'm not sure how the husband feels. If I just talk to the husband, I don't know where she is. I also like to discuss some specifics about what is expected. I don't want to cross any lines I shouldn't. Kissing, anal, alot of things are easier if they are stated up front. One couple I play with on a semi-regular basis sends me sexy stories outlining what they want. It's not a script but it gives you some idea as to what is acceptable. It also is easier than reading off a list saying you can do this but not that. My function in a MFM is to help a couple fulfill fantasies that they can't alone. I help them and get pleasure in return. If the comfort level is there, more fun will be had by all and I believe the couple should really take the lead in setting the tone for the experience. I also strongly believe, unless it's part of the fantasy to do otherwise, that the couple should initiate the actual play. I will sit and talk for hours waiting for someone to make a move the first time. I don't feel it's my place. She can send out all the signals that she wants, but if one of them don't start, I will excuse myself at the end of the evening and go home. By the way, I'm available for parties. lol.

I often fantasize about a gang bang with my husband, boyfriend and maybe three other guys. I'd want them all to be really horny and not had sex in several days and I'd want them to cum all over me.

sharing her with 2other guys is a good start for a gangbang, if all are having fun continue with more!

Man with 14 women... stud Woman with 14 men... stud too. No use for any double standard. Go have fun and enjoy the ride! "Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, champagne in one hand -strawberries in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming, "WOO HOO - What a Ride!" ~Author unknown

Here is my experience with Gangbangs. I frequently have them and really enjoy them. My husband and I travel all over the country and try every swing club we can. We only attend ones that allow single men. My experience is these are usually the only true swing clubs. Couples only clubs are very cliquish, and the people rarely swing. My first experience with a gangbang was in Miami, Florida. My husband was by my side (he is always with me when I swing). I laid down on a doctor’s exam table they had in one of the rooms, put my feet up in the stirrups, and began to play with 2 couples and a few single guys. I began to enjoy the attention the women were giving me and the stroking of the penus inside me so much that I wound up having 14 different men (I had no idea how many men there were: my husband kept track). I had planned to use condoms, but it felt so good that I let them all cum inside me. This experience made me realize how much I enjoy feeling different men inside me. I now enjoy as many men as I can. I encourage any women who have a fantasy of a gangbang to try it. Don’t worry about the number, because it just doesn’t matter – anyone who says different is just being a stuck-up. You’re having fun – that’s what it’s about. Life is too short not to live it.

Hi Rego: We're a couple who has been trying to arrange a Gang-bang for me for almost a year. I will admit that I'm *very* picky when it comes to guys but I do want to have one. Thus far we've found no one and have come to the conclusion that large endowments and gang-bangs only happen in the adult video world and NOT in Cleveland, OH.

We play mostly with single males and we have met some really great guys. But we also had our share of let downs. Just this Saturday we set up a meeting with someone and he didn't show. I had talked with him on the phone twice earlier during the day and everything was a go. We were really surprised because we had chatted with him online, we've have talked on the phone for about two weeks, so communication wasn't the issue. Pics were exchanged by both parties. In other words we did everything right. I am really pissed at this point because we took the time to get ready, drive to the restaurant and waited for him, even calling his cell phone twice, only for it to go directly to voicemail. This bad experience doesn't jade my view on single males in any way, but it was pretty discouraging.