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I was thinking the exact same thing. She did not want to do anything that Extreme. Is it getting hammered by two guys and now she’s having problems and everybody is congratulating her. But obviously she is having some major misgivings.

My wife and I personally know a swinging couple who've participated in gangbangs in the past. Real "hop on, hop off" ones at that. Their words, not mine. They enjoyed it at the time, but found they eventually tired of them, and now prefer at least some semblance of a friendship first before diving in.

So this guy posts about his, to me, untoward experience. The board is happy that they were able to jump in, but several people warned to not jump back in too fast. Ten days later he posts this: Then nothing. His wife got together with the same dude. I'm a little confused. He never responded to any of the feedback, Never posted again on either thread. Troller or scam artist? If it was a true story, he coerced her into going to the club, and didn't stick with her on their first time. Didn't agree to making any rules when she clearly wanted to. I would never wish on anyone the end of their relationship, but mine would never survive that.

You can SAY you are whatever you want to say (not meaning specifically you, but it sounds like 'the girls'). If you don't want to be called 'swingers', then don't call yourself that. While the term 'consensual non-monogamy' is harder to slip into a conversation, it might be more accurate. Also, it sounds like polyamorous would maybe even more accurate: characterized by or involved in the practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved. Bottom line is you can call yourself whatever you want to. I used to drive race cars and while I haven't done it for years, still like to be known as a 'former race car driver'. I also loved to play golf, so now I'm also a 'double swinger'.

Its totally you .. We had good friends we made in the lifestyle ghost us, and we had another couple explain they were having issues and asked us to understand, we certainly did, and stepped back.. months went by and the next contact was to ask if Mr Real would come for a 3some.. and we politely explained the same we do when the flip side occurs.. you want one you get both.. And then they broke up, he was screwing around outside the relationship Courtesy sure, but there are times when it happens and if they are truly friends of yours they will respect it and step back...

If it comes up I would just say"We are just taking a break." Friends won't push it. You don't owe anyone an explanation unless you want to give one.

Swingers is a broad term that covers a wide variety of sexual activity, but all of it has to do with consensual non-monogamy. That you have played with two other couples, regardless to the time since or between, qualifies you as swingers.

My friend, why are you looking to define yourselves? The experiences you have had, were they enjoyable to you both? Did the other partners enjoy themselves? How we define ourselves within our relationships, is the first step. Do you both enjoy what you have done, and want to do more, or find new play partners? Here is the term we coined years ago.. and you are more than welcome to borrow We enjoy SEXPLORATION...

To follow up on the post Debbie was a queen for a day or as our friends joked Pillow Queen. It had to be explained to me too. In anticipation of our road trip Debbie went shopping on line for sex toys as a gift. We have a wand we use and figured our friends had one too so she wanted to bring something different. We even searched on here for recommendations. I found one the ladies should enjoy and found two similar ones for the clitoris and she bought both. Seems we always have bad weather on our trips but we made it. Friday night was family night, no play with the kids around. We saved our gifts for a better opportunity. Next day the kids went skiing early and gave us plenty of couple time. Horny me couldn’t wait. I brought up the topic of the women playing, me being a jerk saying Debbie has been talking about it all week. It’s great that we can laugh with friends about sex. Why was Debbie a pillow queen? I didn’t get to watch that first time thing. The ladies went to try out the toys ALONE. The joke was about how Debbie just laid back and enjoyed herself. That’s when I fully understood the reference. I did the right thing though. After the girls emerged from the bedroom I was more than eager to please our friend. Sunday I knew the kids, not that young kids were going out at night. I couldn’t wait. I finally got to see something but not totally. We also had our first Other Couple.

Part of the excitement is having a new partner undress me and me undressing that new partner. Most people we meet are not sure what to do so I guide the action taking away the anxiousness that is always there. A woman who has never been touched by another woman is a nervous woman who needs to be treated gently and unfortunately many times the husband is acting over eagerly to get to the act. I never get over the thrill of being undressed by a new partner and not so much as being offered by my husband to another man. I love my husband dearly but I am me and he shouldn’t be offering me as if I was something he owns.

3T of media...holy crap someone's been busy

I think you see a lot more hotwife dares online bc it's just not as fun watching husbands mostly strike out lol!

Hi and Welcome! Congrats on restarting your long-dormant swinging lifestyle! We totally understand your desire to experience the adventures of swinging with your husband, and agree his participation at this early stage is vital to its success. It's also not uncommon for husbands to enjoy the 'hotwife' subset of swinging. Most swinger couples we know enjoy mfm/hotwifing scenarios and some even prefer it to couples-swap. It seems as swinger couples mature their preferences often lean in that direction, and this may partly stem from the husband's feelings of diminishing sexual prowess as he ages. We assure you his interest in hotwifing is actually pretty normal. But you don't want to go down this road alone. That's not a great way to get started. Maybe explain to him you aren't comfortable flying solo at this stage of the game, and really prefer his being there - even if his preference is just to watch. Perhaps as you both become more experienced and comfortable in this you might meet a single or couple who you are comfortable being alone with. This past summer my wife took a week-long vacation with a lover and it was a great experience for all. But she has been seeing him for 7 years so we're all quite comfortable with him.

Just a quick price check: a 10x 20mg prescription is about $20 per fill. A 30x 5mg prescription (daily use) is about $17 per fill.

Man, I probably forgot a few more than that. You are correct, the condom is another one. I remember one encounter with another couple where I was looking ok (still relatively new) probably 3/4 ready but was heading in the right direction but the other guy was struggling. They were brand new. His struggles distracted me, which led to a super slow-mo fall on my side for some reason. Eventually we both were up and running via oral from our significant others. However, as soon as both ladies started giving him oral, explosion. It was almost instantaneous. He was surprised. Embarrassed. So he went down and never returned. Then my mind went to "I'm supposed to be interacting with his and my wife while he's done for the evening??" So, it turned into a voyeurism night with the ladies playing. I tell you, if you own the equipment, you get it. If you don't own the equipment, you have no idea how temperamental it is. Insurance isn't a bad idea.

To be clear, I did say to ask your doctor about it. I do not suggest ED medication for recreational purposes. You have to need it. I am not a medical professional. I am in my 60s and use it in swinging activities. Somewhat regularly the similarly aged male of the other couple does not use it and it’s shrinkage time.

Follow Zachary Zane on twitter, he's a hoot. Wife and I are out bisexuals. But it was relatively hidden until Bostock vs Clayton County. Since then you'll find us at Pride, at LGBT bars for burlesque/comedy/etc, and joined the LGBT org at work. In a swinging context I will say we've never encountered a straight woman. And not one man has turned down the offer for a dual blowjob...

I approach any question about men by looking for the simplest, most basic answer. For this question is the same as it is for why men try to force their wives to golf, or boat, or hunt or fish or become interested in some machine (cars, computers) - because they are like little kids and want to foist their interests on their friends and family. Men like pussy and tits, so they want their wife to like them as well. Fortunately for me, I like women sexually, so it's not a problem playing that way.

I don't think going to another party would help things. Rather the opposite. The two of you really need to talk, without any expectations that there will be more play. It's important for the relationship. There's a lot of processing going on, for her and for you. Both of you would benefit from talking through your emotions, and discussing your relationship. I wouldn't advise doing anything swinging related for the time being. I doubt she's ready for that again, and she may never be. That's ok. As luv2was mentioned, you're fortunate that she was willing to go to a club with you. Relax, take your time, relish the memories of that night, and talk with her. Be completely open with her.

May I add as well that things need not be symmetric. I was non-monogamous two years before I was comfortable with my husband being with other women. That was one of the most generous and understanding things he has ever done. It made me feel powerful, confident, loved and contributed greatly to my development as a person. I am also bisexual and hubby is not. Be loving, understanding, and caring towards your wife, giving more than you expect in return. Put her first and tell her that you love her.

Well... Since you asked for advice, here it is: First off, since your wife agreed to even go to a Swinger Club, that puts you WAY ahead of the curve of the hopes of many a man. Be grateful for that. And do whatever you need to do to make your wife feel comfortable in any situation. One of the Golden Rules of Swinging (or any form of ethical non-monogamy), is to "only go as fast as the slowest person present". You've had a lot of time to think about this it seems. She needs time to catch up. Listen. Education is the key. And if that learning is something you can do together, all the better. This BBS is an excellent resource. Once you find a meaningful post here (and they occur fairly often), read it and discuss it together. Same goes for podcasts. "We Gotta Thing" (WGT) is an excellent resource related to this BBS. I highly recommend it. "Normalizing Non-Monogamy" (NNM) may be useful as well. Give a try for a while. https://wegottathing.com/ https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/ Playboy "Swing" is a TV show that may be useful. Most of the episodes are online. While you do not need to watch them in order, it may help a little bit. The best part of the show is listening to the experienced "resident" couples speak on topics. A lot to understand there. Episodes vary in quality (of the story/information), and whether it illustrates the good or the bad varies a bit. But for the most part the experiences are good. Overall the program is a bit skewed, but it is as good a product you will find out there like that, so give it a try. Here is the 1st episode. I've never had a problem viewing that site. https://www.xnxx.com/video-5icgd04/swings01e01 The nice thing about streaming media is it is something you can do together. Pause / rewind, and discuss anytime. "No pressure, No promises" is another nugget I have come to love as I've floundered along in the Lifestyle. That door swings both ways too. "No Judgement" is another good one, and not nearly as easy to live up to. Work on it. Be Patient. Again: You've been thinking on this idea a lot longer. Give her all the time she needs to catch up. You may have jumped the gun a bit on your first outing. But what is done is done. Chalk it up to experience. I'm sure that there are quite a few couples that did not start out all roses and wonderfulness. (I know, I see them post here.) Keep the dialog going. Be patient. (Always.)

Best way to describe us we are bi when it comes to swinging. Neither of us had or would go looking for a bisexual experience by ourselves, but with the right couple, anything goes! I am actually really proud of mr. A for letting it happen...and enjoying it!