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Thanks for your input, it help. Since are last message here there has been more talk with her. We told 4 of are swingers friends (2couple) ( 1 couple whos both age 40 and the other is 42F and 49M) about our daughter. It went surprisingly well. They meet our daughter. Not all at the same time, different dates and meets. We all sat down and talk and answer her questions and gave her more advice and more of the Do's and Don't . After the talk I was surprise that it was the older female that approach me and ask my permission if it was ok " to play". I told her if my daughter want to , then its ok with me. I thought for sure it would be the guys that would of ask first. Haven't told my daughter about the request yet. Should we?? This is her last weekend before she turn 19. Her place is reserved for her first visit. We are still afraid that we could of said the wrong thing to her. But all we can do is hope for the best and we said the right thing to her. Again, thank you all for your time and help

Ok, first to answer the above question Yes, and be honest with her, as you would anyone else within the lifestyle. The ages of your friends is the hurdle for her. You said originally you and your husband started 12 years ago, putting you at about 30? AT that time, would have considered someone 60+.. Thats the first concern. Like i said, be honest with her, to some swinging can be like a candy store, esp given her age.. Stress that she has the right to say no over and over again.. Like I said before, a 19 yr old in a club is going to draw alot of male attention from guys that in some cases if not most cases are twice her age.. again.. No means No

We had a very pleasant dinner out. No one discussed swinging. We did make tentative plans for pickleball. I think that neither couple are hard core swingers. With the pandemic, we are happy for any human contact.

Baconheads, I was dubious about the veracity of this post from the start. That said, fictitious posts sometimes stimulate useful and on-point discussions.

Its totally you .. We had good friends we made in the lifestyle ghost us, and we had another couple explain they were having issues and asked us to understand, we certainly did, and stepped back.. months went by and the next contact was to ask if Mr Real would come for a 3some.. and we politely explained the same we do when the flip side occurs.. you want one you get both.. And then they broke up, he was screwing around outside the relationship Courtesy sure, but there are times when it happens and if they are truly friends of yours they will respect it and step back...

I am now retired.My wife passed away in 2007. I do not know if this approppiate in this day and age but I met my wife in europe in a ganbang in a sex club.At that time she was being banged by about 15 guys. No condoms full on ejaculation in her vagina. I just by chance after her show asked her if she would like a drink.We became friends.I gave her my phone number not expecting her to call me. She did 12 months later. I brought her to Ausralia. No strings attached. We married and had 3 children. She one night when we were out what I asked what she would like! She said a full on gangbang! I arranged it through a girfriend I new who was a prostitute. She arranged 20 guys privatley at her house.I have never seen my wife so happy. I am not a jelous person but the smile on her face going home and the mess she made in cab was unbelievable. On special occasions I would arrange further gangbangs for her! I miss her so much! I would love to connect any females who think the same .Cheers

Search carefully, we know there are idiots out there. When you find the right couple you will know. Also don’t be afraid to say no if you aren’t comfortable

If you want to catch fish, go to where the fish are. Not Reddit, not CraigsList. Most pay sites will let you set up a free account so you can look around, but most members won't take you seriously as a free member. As SJBluebirds said, find the one with the most members in your area and join. They don't cost that much, and you will be fishing where the fish are. Of course, there is always the gallery here to post pictures as well...good luck, keep talking, and we're always here if you need help or to ask a question.

Love Reddit. Even subscribe to r/swingers. But we wouldn't meet anyone from there at all. Reason? Too many picture collectors. Your best bet is a paid membership in one of the swinger websites. Check each of them out (the major ones sponsor parts of this website), and figure out which ones best serve your area -- it really depends where you are: some areas prefer SLS, some Kasidie, other areas are best served by SDC. Of course, pay only after you figure out which one is best for you. Then search other paid members. Seriously: paid membership really does weed-out the flakes.

Hello! First post on the board, so forgive us if our forum etiquette isn’t up to par. My wife and I are just dipping our toes into the lifestyle. She’s recently discovered she’s bi, and I’ve pretty much always known I am, and so have told her. We recently went to Mon Chalet in Denver (we’re moving there in January) and she was very anxious, as was I. We put our suits on, and headed to the clothing optional pool area. For those who don’t know, they have porn playing on 4 screens in the pool area, near one of the 2 hot tubs, and a double king size bed for play. After awhile, she started to feel pretty confident, so we stripped down. She LOVED it. She surprised herself, and me by how much she enjoyed it! I did as well. We ended up having sex in the pool, in front of many other people. It was HOT!!! Anyway, so it seems like AFF isn’t a great place for us to start in finding a like minded couple, from what people here are saying. As of right now, what would the best sites be to find another couple who’s ok with no penetration yet? She wants to play with another girl, I want to play with another guy, and we basically want a free-for-all, except no p in v penetration. Again, apologies if we’re not following the rules exactly, I’m sure we’ll get the hang of it. Thanks in advance!!!

Although you didn't mention whether the dirty talk goes on when you two are having sex I'm assuming that you're singling it out because it is unusual behaviour. That along with the swallowing of cum act that she doesn't do for you gives me the feeling that she is trying to impress him somehow. I would definitely want to talk about it and wouldn't let her blow it off. It's fundamentally disturbing at some lever when your spouse starts doing new things with a lover they don't do with you. Especially if they have rejected it multiple times in the past. She may be wanting to or is connecting with him on a deeper level and that can be a real problem.

"That said, though the risks associated with unprotected sex can be high -- they are statistically no higher than driving your car or smoking and they are lower than some extreme sports" So true. Well said. As Michael Fumento said: - Author Michael Fumento, in his book The Myth of Heterosexual AIDS, offers substantial evidence that white, middle-class, non-IV drug abuser heterosexuals are in less danger of contracting AIDS thru non-anal, sexual intercourse than they are of dying from shark attacks, being hit by lightning, or accidentally drowning in the bathtub. The book is very well referenced and documented. The book was reviewed by the Journal of the American Medical Assn as "the best single source available to enable heterosexual persons to assess their personal risk." Very best wishes, Paul

There has been a lot said about condoms lately some will- some won't... we wouldn't. I don't think you are over reacting at all ... you should only accept the risks you are willing to take... if you aren't comfortable don't do it.