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If your hubby is aware and on board -yes you can swing on your own - called ‘hot wife’. If he is not aware, not on board there is a different word for that… And, yes clubs welcome unaccompanied women with open arms. The clubs are not concerned with your marital status.

We are regular visitors to Cypress Cove…when we go we change our location several days ahead to see if we can meet up at The Cove. Mostly, we have swinger friends come over for a day of sun and fun(sexual)! We prefer playing with couples!

UNDRESSING YOUR SPOUSE……. Has anyone undressed their spouse before graciously offering her to a new partner for the evening? We were invited to a party by our neighbors. Will our neighbor who we rarely spoke with suggested Ana, and I come to their party. We had an no idea what their party was about, and I asked Ana if she was interested in going, and she said yes. At the party there were strong sexual vibes. There were several couples we knew as white bread friends but that all changed once we were at the party. It was exciting and eye opening. The lovely ladies of the neighborhood who I would see daily and chat with while thinking in my head about having in them in bed suddenly were a real possibility. Well to keep this short, after chatting awhile and getting to know them I notice Will and Ana chatting it up. Will’s wife Leah came over and asked if Ana and I would like to go upstairs to see the city view. I said I would and suggested we ask Will and Ana. Leah said I am sure Will would love to so let’s check in with Ana. We brought Ana and Will a glass of wine and the four of us toasted the party. Leah suggested we go upstairs and see the view of the city from their bedroom suite. Ana agreed, and we proceeded up to the room. When in the room we glanced at the view which was beautiful. Ana was next to me and Leah next to Will. Will kiss Leah and I in turned and kissed Ana. We all felt the moment. I asked Ana if I could undress her for Will and she nodded. As I started undressing Ana Will said to Leah can I undress you for our friend and Leah started unbuttoning her blouse. We stood their taking our spouses clothes off very slowly. The ladies just stood their looking extremely hot and beautiful. When Ana’s pants and under garment came off, I put Ana’s fingers in her vigia with mine and we licked them and offered Will a taste. He licked Ana’s fingers. He reciprocated by offering a taste of Leah. The four of us hugged and kissed and the ladies got in bed. Heads on the pillows and legs open inviting Will and I to further taste these luscious women. Ana and I had never done this before and suddenly, I was laying with my face in-between Leah’s legs and Ana in the same position next to me with Will licking her vigia. As I was kissing and sucking Leah, I could hear Ana so close to me enjoying each moment. I heard her moans that were so familiar to me, and she was moving and cuming right next to me with someone else. I enjoyed the feelings. Leah was loving the moment as well and was pressing here wet pussy into my face harder and harder, and she began closing her legs around my head squeezing them tightly together and then suddenly stopped pushing my face into her wet thighs. There was a hush moment and Will and I both moved up to kiss these hot beautiful women and from there on we just went at it for quite a while. At one point Ana climbed over to me and kissed me deep and sat on my rock had cock and kept moving on me then moved to Will and Leah took me over. We stayed together for a while like we knew each other for years. What an incredible evening.

When we've played as a group with other couples I've sometimes been more involved in helping her undress, but more often we're involving a single male. There's definitely something very sexy about her warming up a new partner and getting to unhook her bra and let her spill out in somebody's lap.

We organised our first MFM threesome without “warning” that man about our plans. We simply invited him for a drink at the bar of a big hotel. That same day, he had quickly kissed my wife’s lips at work. He didn’t know I knew At the bar, I told him “Did you like her lips”? Shocked, worrying if I was gonna be angry, he replied “er… yes I did”. So I said “baby, why don’t you offer a proper kiss to our friend?” And so it started. When the sexual tension got unbearable, we headed for the suite I had booked. In the elevator already they were holding hands and kissing. And that’s what brings me to your topic. As soon as we arrived in the suite, I explained some basic rules. And then, to my pleasure… I started undressing my very beautiful wife FOR this gentleman. Slowly. Bit by bit. Taking his hands and bringing them to places he had only dreamt about. I must admit - and since then we repeated it quite often - undressing this amazing beauty for another man to enjoy is one of the sexiest and most amazing thing I ever did.

Who cares what you want? Does your wife have to fulfill your fantasy?

Desire RM is just a few miles north of there. You can purchase a day pass for the resort. Desire Pearl is actually in Cancun. Fish where you know there are the kind of fish you want to catch. No special lingo (other than we call swinging the 'lifestyle' or L/S and anything that isn't swinging 'vanilla') and no secret handshakes. As for do's and don'ts: don't do anything without asking permission first. No means no...anything other than yes means no. Communicate with your partner and with whoever you are with. I can't tell you how many couples we have met (we usually have a vanilla first meeting with a new couple to make sure that there is a connection and to verify that both of them are on board) that don't want to talk about s-e-x...if they can't talk about it, how are they going to be able to actually DO it? We're all grown ups here and we've probably all had sex by now ?. Let everyone know what you are looking for and expecting. Since you are just starting out, it might just be same room sex or it could be full swap, but you don't know unless you can talk about it.

GoldCoCouple makes great points. I learn something every time. Great reminders about how to proceed and how to set yourself apart.

Start by making sure your relationship is rock solid (see my hundreds of other posts about love/trust/communication). Then set your rules and boundaries, keeping in mind that they can always be (and usually are) changed, but only with you both agreeing and only outside of a sexual situation. Are you both looking for a threesome with another man or woman, a foursome, same room sex, soft swap, full swap, with all of you in the same room or separate rooms? Decide if you are looking for a couple to be FWB or if you are just looking for a 'one and done'. FWB are usually easier to find on swinger sites, 1AD (one and done) are usually easier to find at swinger clubs. Depending on what you are looking for you have two choices from here: swinger clubs are pretty easy to find by searching the internet (but depending on where you live, they might not be real close to where you live). If they're aren't any close, plan a weekend and get a motel room for the night. Go to the club and let them know you are first time visitors and they will usually give you a tour of the place. Don't go with any expectations other than just having a great, sexy night out together...anything else that happens (or not) is a bonus. Trying to 'force' something when it just isn't there will quickly take the fun out of the evening. Look at it as a date night...only there will be naked people around and you can watch 'live porn'. If more happens...yahoo! If you are looking for FWB, then the next step is to set up a free profile on several of the swinger sites (see 'please visit our sponsors' at the top of the page). Once you find which one of the sites has the most local people for what you are looking for (and this is IMPORTANT), pay to JOIN that site (lots of couples don't pay any attention to non-paying members since a high number of them are just men looking for a thrill, fakes, flakes, or fantasies thinking that the wife will go along). It's only a few dollars and ups you credibility (you probably will pay more for a night out with your partner, don't be cheap). Finally, sit down together and start looking at other profiles. If you find one that you both like (do not settle here...you both need to be in agreement for all decisions when it comes to swinging) send them a brief 'hello' note. Be sure to include something that shows that you read their profile, this will make a difference to the other couple. If they are interested as well, then set up a meeting...usually drinks or dinner. You will find out more about them in 5 minutes than in 5 years of texts and/or emails. We recommend that the first meeting be just a meeting...no sex. This will remove any pressure and allow you both to decide if the other couple is a good match. If they are, set up the next meeting and hold on for a really fun time. If not, just keep looking. It will most likely take some time to find a match but just keep looking, your match is out there. Take your time and enjoy the trip as much as the destination...then report back as to how things are going. Most important is that this is something that the two of you are doing together and that you are both having a great time. Good luck and let us know if there is anything else we can help with.