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There was topic the other day about what to do with all there swinging photos/videos. Well this past Christmas holiday my husband got himself a new computer, he follow the basic installation. while installing he installed OneDrive. A few days later our daughter saw a new icon on her laptop with the OneDrive icon and saw us in one of are "parties" from 2016. Hubby didn't realize he put it in shared mode. She kinda freak out and call us to her room and explain ourselves and what we are doing. At that point since the cat is out of the bag, we told her the truth and about us and our lifestyle and what we have done. She was asking us a whole lot of questions and we were honest to all her questions. During all this confession, our daughter told us that she is bi too, only since June 2021, and told us her first time happen in a foursome with her ex bf at the time and her bff and her bf in a after school prom party. During the Covid lock down she felt bored and wishes to try new stuff. So with her friends and all four agree to try something new and try the foursome. She told us that she like the experience and she and them continued to have experience with three and four some till my daughter broke up with her bf ( for other reason) and she continued to have threesome with her bff and bf ever once and a while. Recently she ask us that she wanted to try it and become a swinger and see what it was like. She ask us if it ok with us to take her to 1 of our local clubs for her 19 birthday in March (legal age where we are from) and (if there no other delay in opening thing open up). It was something we did not expect to be ask from her. I was speechless for the first time in a long time. I did not know how to answer her. I know I need to give her answer soon. I know I can not keep dodging the question and I need to answer her soon. We haven't told any of our swingers friends about her and her request . She the oldest of all our swingers friends who have kids. We never really talk about it, our kids life, We do not know if any of our swingers friends haved shared their personal life to there own kids. We know our daughter is adult, gonna be 19 in March, old enough to make her own choices in life. We trust her judgment. If we do not give her our blessing we don't how she will react, she might go off and go own her own without any real knowledge of the people she hang out with. And if we do give our blessings we know that she will be safe with people and places that we know and we can give her the best advice we can. We are aware that if we do give our blessings there a good chance that she might be "playing" with are swingers friends. And we are ok with that. It all part of the Swinger lifestyle. Different people, different ages, everyone there having a good time. Our question to you all is, how do we proceed, do we give her our blessings or not. Any parents here that had similar situation happen to them. And any people here who has swingers parents ? what was it like knowing that your parents were swingers. What was it like knowing the truth about them. Thank you for your time in reading this long text. And thanks in advance for the replies.

I ran into this sort of thing 10 years ago when a girlfriend and I were into swinging and one of my daughters ran into us at a BDSM dinner meeting. Afterwards we agreed to not go to meetings or swing on her side of the river and she would not go to meetings or swing on our side of the river. That has worked well.

I do agree with realcplub2; getting feedback from women here on this forum will offer some confirmation bias. The only women on this forum will very likely be women who enjoy swinging and have had good experiences from it. That said, there are some things you might not be aware of that bear considering. Quite a few women do very much enjoy swinging and get lots of satisfaction from it. Women are a strong element of swinging. If women were more reluctant than men after getting into swinging, then there wouldn't be swinging. From my perspective, women tend to have a bite more difficult of a time separating sex from emotions. My wife certainly agrees with this. It's possible that on average women get into swinging more slowly than men. But, women wouldn't be in it if it wasn't worth it. It most definitely IS worth it...IF the couple is ready, IF the couple is very close, IF the couple has strong communication skills, IF the couple have no issues in their relationship. Your wife might not be completely onboard with swinging yet. It sounds like she's quite interested, but is uncertain about all of it. That's perfectly understandable. There's a rule of thumb swingers have quite often said; move at the pace of the slower of the couple in getting into swinging. You've been fantasizing about it for years, and are likely more ready for it than she is. Allow her to grow into the idea. Move at HER pace, not yours. If you really want this fantasy to come true, you need to support her in her thoughts and decisions about this, and certainly by no means should you try to move her along faster than she's ready. It is a wonderful, wonderful thing to watch your wife having sex with another man. But, it's all meaningless if she isn't enjoying it too. I've seen my wife have sex with other men many times. It's intensely erotic...because she is enjoying it! Your wife isn't ready for that, even if she gets very turned on by the idea. realcplub2 is right; you need to talk about this well away from the bedroom, without being overwhelmed by sexual thoughts. If you do go down this path, understand that the first time doing something isn't likely to be a great measure of how much she will enjoy it. My wife and I talked about this possibility before we got into it. We agreed we'd do it a few times at least, even if it was just a so-so experience. We'd just try different people. It's a good thing we did this; the third time was the charm for my wife. Before that, the sex was kind of humdrum, and not really worth it. Ok, not a bad evening, but not really worth it. The third guy? He curled my wife's toes...quite literally...and she couldn't get enough sex with him. Shortly after we were on the way home from that, she said "Ok, NOW I'm a swinger!" That time was definitely worth it. It can be for your wife too, but you need to proceed at her pace. Talk lots about it, in the bedroom AND well away from it as realcplub2 said. Don't allow your own fantasy dictate this, otherwise she can end up feeling like she's only doing it to fulfill your fantasy. That will end badly. It needs to be her that wants it, her that enjoys it, her that has a fantasy fulfilled.

Not addressing the swingers setting, but as to nudist - it's all your upbringing and perspective. I spend a considerable amount of time in Europe and like to go to the spas and thermals where nudity is the norm. It is totally nonsexual and there are families there from toddlers to grandparents, all enjoying the sunshine, water, and saunas. I'm not so naïve to think that no one ever looks at me in a sexual way, but that happens when I am fully clothed.

This post got me interested in two things 1. Book Clubs. Debbie belongs to an online book club just to give her recommendations for books. Never thought of it as a lifestyle meeting site. 2. Hedonism resorts. I think our friends have gone to adults only resort. I thought it was a resort with no children not a lifestyle place.

We organised our first MFM threesome without “warning” that man about our plans. We simply invited him for a drink at the bar of a big hotel. That same day, he had quickly kissed my wife’s lips at work. He didn’t know I knew At the bar, I told him “Did you like her lips”? Shocked, worrying if I was gonna be angry, he replied “er… yes I did”. So I said “baby, why don’t you offer a proper kiss to our friend?” And so it started. When the sexual tension got unbearable, we headed for the suite I had booked. In the elevator already they were holding hands and kissing. And that’s what brings me to your topic. As soon as we arrived in the suite, I explained some basic rules. And then, to my pleasure… I started undressing my very beautiful wife FOR this gentleman. Slowly. Bit by bit. Taking his hands and bringing them to places he had only dreamt about. I must admit - and since then we repeated it quite often - undressing this amazing beauty for another man to enjoy is one of the sexiest and most amazing thing I ever did.

Undressing my wife FOR someone else is, in my mind, one of the most erotic behaviors a couple can do. Literally, giving your spouse over to another person, so hot. My wife and i have done this on MFM situations. I slowly remove her clothes, I caress her neck, rub her ass, we kiss a bit, then send her into the arms of a stranger. Sorry, but i gotta go, just thinking about this has me worked up. Sounds like a wonderful evening that began with a very high sexual energy.

I agree with him. Relax and enjoy new friends with knowing you are just meeting to get to know her. You’re not going to have sex, she may not be looking for anything more than lunch and book talk. Just because she said she went to a resort doesn’t mean she wants to jump into every person’s bed. You met her because of a book, not a sex site. Don’t overthink things, let her bring up the subject or her vacations stories, don’t push it. If things go further later on you will know if it’s right. Let me know if you want any advice, I’m always available 😄

I wonder what the world would be like if everyone truly opened up their hearts, spoke their truth, and shared their lives honestly, no judgement, no fear. It seems to me that this is a great time and place to do just that. How wonderful to start a relationship with others in complete honesty and openness. Do what is comfortable and I hope they become life long friends.