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Family friendly nudist resorts are are having a hard time staying in business because of all the legal issues (lawsuits involving sex in the presence of minors) All the lawsuits going on with the Boy scouts has caused their insurance to sky rocket. In some places having sex in front of a minor is a felony. This is why the swinging has to be kept "behind closed doors" at the family friendly nudist resorts. I have been a nudist for the past 33 years of my life. My husband was the one interested in nudism at the beginning of our marriage and I gave it a try and I was hooked faster than either of us dreamed. Back then there wasn't a lot of females that would even give nudism a try so it was always me and all these gorgeous gorgeous guys. I felt like a kid in the candy store. I have always been open minded and I have had an amazing sex drive. My husband has always given me the green light with the condition that I not do anything behind his back and I share the details. He likes to live thru me vicariously. I only tell people on a need to know basis because that is just how I am. I am lucky that the nudist clubs that I am members of don't seem to be judgmental but I still am not going to tell everyone . I have a lot of friends and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings (about who I want to play with and who I don't) I am new here by the way. Hubby thought I might like this forum.

My advice is for your wife to start with what is familiar, comfortable, and enjoyable. My wife and I began with her getting back (separately) with two ex-boyfriends. It started as a foreplay fantasy where she told me who she enjoyed as sex partners, so I said to go for it. First time they had dinner together, second time we three had dinner to make clear I was good with it, third time they did it. Eventually we MFMed with both and have moved on to couple's swaps. It was comfortable for me because she had been with them before and no new ground was being plowed, so to speak.

My wife is a successful professional woman in a technical and business field and makes good money. When she was single it was a sexual and power trip for her to take a guy on a date, pay for everything, then fuck him. She wanted to see how he reacted in the days afterward. Tickets would be prepaid, as would the car. At the restaurant she would excuse herself to go to the restroom and pay the check. Planning it out was a game for her. His follow up showed her whether he was insecure, grateful, competitive, creative, etc. One poor guy she did it all a second time, didn't have sex, then dumped him. One lucky guy for a second date she paid for everything to go to Montreal for a long weekend and banged him senseless. I'm still trying to figure out why she settled down (sort of) with me.

My wife is very popular in the swinging and vanilla world. She is pretty and 4’10.” We have decelerated our swinging activities since the pandemic. Yesterday, we were at a totally vanilla pickleball exhibition. I was sitting down and my wife was leaning over the fence, totally conservatively dressed. One of the pros playing said something flirtatious to her. Colt .45, works every time.

Reposting this here with a new title saying I was told I used the wrong terminology. So my wife and I have been dirty talking a MFM 3way for a bit now. She desperately wants to be penetrated while she gives oral, but she strongly thinks that as a married couple it should only be us. She can't help but twerk her ass when she's on her knees sucking me and we both get super turned on when talking about another guy sharing her. I've talked her into getting a thrusting dildo and seeing how that goes. Any tips on how to get it to go further? I'd love to share my wife with another man and eventually experiment with other aspects of swinging.

Yes. She can find a woman’s button and launch. I have watched with amazement. A husband came up to me at a house party and said with respect and admiration “”What did your wife do to my wife? She was in orbit.”

I have been wanting to respond to this topic for a while, but knew it would be somewhat long and take some time. When I first became non-monogamous, I had no idea where it was going, but never thought it would lead to an MFM. I had broken up with my ex-fiancé Red and moved out of our place to live alone. But we still liked/loved and saw each other, went out and got together for sex, which was really good. I wasn't looking, but then met David, handsome and technically oriented like me, the man who would become my husband. We started going out and afterwards I did what seemed to me to be the natural thing to do and went to see Red to discuss what was happening, how I felt, and where things were headed. Red was hoping for us to reconcile, but he was very accepting of my decisions. After talking, we would have sex make love. I was honest with David about my recent breakup with Red, that I had strong feeling for him but realized that we were too different (he a creative artsy type, me an engineer; he unconcerned about money, me more ambitious with desires for a stable family life) to make a long-term go of it. David was more than a good listener and tolerant of what most guys would find off-putting conversation - he was genuinely empathetic, concerned, understanding. As I saw David more we both felt love and an incredible physical attraction, and after several dates started having sex. After the first time fucking David, I did what had become my routine and went back to see Red, told him everything including how good it was. Then we fucked. I really enjoyed it, but yeah, I felt like a cheat, a slut, a pervert (two guys! How could I be having sex with two guy? ). Not long afterwards at the beginning of one of our dates, David said (not "asked", but "said") to me, "You're still sleeping with Red." (I recall exactly that he didn't say "fucking" or "screwing," but used the gentle term "sleeping".) I thought, this is it, it's over. Instead, David said that it was ok with him, he knew that I still had feeling for Red, and it didn't affect anything between us. I was stunned, my mind had been quickly going through the pleadings and promises that I would make to David, but now it was reeling in another direction. So began me going between two men, one with whom I was getting ever closer and one I couldn't let go of. They both knew about the other and I now felt unbelievably loved, powerful, appreciated, confident. What could make them love me so much to agree to this? And it all seemed so natural, so right. After about another month, David called and said he was on his way home from the office and asked if he could stop by my place on his way home. I hesitated, and David again immediately picked up on what was going on and said, "Is Red there, I'd like to meet him." Once again, the usually quick minded Petra didn't know what to say and feigned confidence and enthusiasm, "Sure." I told Red that David was stopping by and he reacted mildly with "That'll be nice." It was like five minutes of terror for me, once again not knowing what might happened. When they met, it was a sign of what was to follow - despite all of their differences, they got along and talked about things they did have in common, which thankfully did not include me. So now, not only was I seeing two men, fucking two men, they were both openly in my life including the three of us being together. It was as if it were meant to be. The three of us almost never went on dates together, it was always either David and I or Red and I, but we seemed to be getting together more and more for practical reasons like shopping or helping to fix something. Now to the point of this thread: one Saturday morning the three of us were at my place after I had been out of town on business the whole week. I was unpacking, doing laundry and was looking pretty grungy, I thought. David asked Red didn't I look good, and asked if I was wearing a bra. I hardly ever at home because I hardly have tits. Unusual for him, David's talk got dirty, he asked me to take off my shirt, I did and he asked Red something like isn't that the most beautiful thing you have ever seen? Red said yes, and David asked me to get closer to Red. I didn't know exactly what the plan was or even if there was a plan, but we were, to use a cliché, all on the same page. David stood back as Red and I took my clothes off, I sucked his dick as he played with my tit, then his clothes came off and we went at it. Hard. After we both came, I started having having fears and doubts again about David. I mean, not only was what to David I thought only an abstract thing, he now saw me do it, not just sex, love making, deep kissing. I looked at David he invited me over and kissed me. Affectionately. He pushed me down onto the bed, on my back, and began what had become our foreplay routine of him licking my clit before we go at it. I can only take so much of that before I want him inside me, and it happened. All that messy sloshing and squishing, and a second ejaculation in my vagina right after I had one from another man. And what a lot of orgasms. I had no fear or doubt now, it is clear that David loves me as I am, which includes my love and sex with Red. I never thought I could exceed my earlier feelings of being "loved, powerful, appreciated, confident," but now I did. It would have been great to have continued the day with the three of us, but Red had an important appointment to go to so it left David and me. The rest of the day and most of Sunday was David and me. We didn't talk about the threesome, again, it all just seemed so normal and right. David left in the afternoon on Sunday, I threw the additional laundry that we had generated into the machine and went to Red's place to talk, and screw. After that first time MFM, we never planned any, they just sometimes happened (although once we moved in together we would occasionally do it as a ritual, especially vaginal/anal DP, which I love). Mostly my love life with Red and David were conducted separately, although there were plenty of sloppy seconds. It was not long after we got to this point of what seemed total openness and honesty that David asked me to marry him with the thought that he didn't want to live without me and he had never been so sure of anything in his life. My first MFM was the highlight of my sexual life (and one of the top of anything in my life) until I was confident enough to let hubby start playing and I had my first FFM and opened up to my Lesbian side...

Similar to your story, my wife was the person who suggested to me the ides of meeting another people for sex. Earnest swinger couples have no problem about meeting newbies. When my wife and I started we went to swing club parties. If you go the way of making a profile at a hook-up Web site like SLS or SCZ, just be aware that a lot of foolishness goes on with those sites. But if you persist, the result is well worth the effort.

Everyone sells their body. It most likely isn’t sex they are selling even if someone is using you to make money or to have work done in return for money or some other reward. How you use your body is your choice, only others morality say what is right or wrong. It’s called work as long as nobody is hurt. Honey has worked her whole life. While in college she worked after classes in jobs many others in school take. I won’t out her employer who asked her to do extra work. What she did was done willingly and not pressured to do as she was old enough to do it too. Her employer is a man who is married, his wife having an illness that kept her from having sex. The way it was explained to me he wouldn’t physically cheat on his wife, he found his outlet watching others have sex. I wasn’t originally involved when he asked Honey if he could watch her have sex with her boyfriend. He offered to pay for a hotel room and food for her which they could use after he left. Strange as it was they agreed. The story is she got extra at the end of the week. Honey was also a cheerleader at the university and popular. This employer was very connected and offered to get her very good looking people to be with if he could watch, picking up the costs and rewarding her. I ended up being one of the ones he set her up with. I got to fuck a great looking cheerleader as long as he could watch. It cost me nothing. I soon found out she would be with another cheerleader, all the time being watched only. Honey and I got closer as friends and started to date which is when I got asked to watch and participate more. To answer the question Honey didn’t get paid to have sex, she got paid to put on a show. Her partners didn’t pay, she didn’t collect money from them. We say she is a performer for an audience of one. All this time she never had sex with her employer as he stayed faithful to his ill wife to the day she died.

We had a twenty something guide from what was formerly East Germany. She told our group that her grandparents were avid nudists, but we got the feeling she wasn’t into it. On the same trip, we went to Finland. Everyone has a home sauna and while we did not get invited to one, we suppose a towel may be the most clothes worn. The US is different on this topic.

What moved it along for us is when I told Daniela that she could act on her desires/fantasies however she wanted, and that I would do nothing, other than what she asked of me. And she did: first called an ex-boyfriend, second met him for dinner, third the three of us had dinner (where I made it clear that I was ok with them getting together), finally they started fucking. Then she did the same with another ex. It was fantastic all around, including me - sex afterwards was unbelievable. Daniela then had me join for MFMs, a whole other level. I would have been fine staying with that, but we now play within a closed group of married couples, so it's all worked out fine with me letting my wife start by doing what she was comfortable with.

As opposed to discreteplay, where the couple plays separately.

Ok, so we had a kitchen table talk. (Idahocouple6969) this was already planned, I didn't just rush in due to your post earlier today. She said yes adding another person to our bed is a fantasy, but there's a lot more to consider. Safety, emotion, feelings jealousy etc and even how to find someone interested who doesn't have baggage attached. At the moment the door is closed, but she will think about it. If she does decide she's interested in further pursuing it, she thinks we should go to couples/sex counseling to make sure we are doing it for the right reasons. I also brought up that there are sites and communities that we can reach out to if she is ever interested in exploring more, even just to learn about it. We discussed our feelings for each other and I explained that this is not because I need something more, but because it is a shared fantasy, and that yes or no she is still all I need to be happy and satisfied. I'm happy with our conversation now that it is out there, even if it wasn't an immediate yes or erotic reaction. We will see what the future brings.

Wow good posts. Our first time was very hard for me, but the guy was very nice and respectful and kind. He treating me very good. By the third time (hard for me also) I was hooked. Now I look forward to this very much and I am much more into sex and open about what we do. This was the best fun for us both, trust me. We now plan our meets together and it is so much fun. She may be a changed women as I have been. To find your man is ok with this and I mean really ok with this is so liberating. I have become the whore lol in the bed room that men talk (dream) about. It is a great source of enjoyment for us both!

I learned more about my GF sexually by watching her fuck her ex than anyone else.

Plant the seed and see if anything grows...

Update on this. So last night, we were fooling around. My wife was facing away from me, twerking her ass and talking dirty as I stroked my cock. Without provocation, she brought up the idea of another man fucking her. She then came up to me and started stroking my cock and sucking on my nipples (drives me crazy). She continued to dirty talk, brought up how she wants to be eaten out while she sucks a cock. Then out of no where said she wants a cock in her mouth, pussy and ass. Blew my damn mind. Now this may have just been dirty talk, but she's never spoken like that before and usually the idea starts with me bringing it up. Hopefully this means she's opening up to the idea! Plus, well she just brought up a gangbang fantasy, always knew she was dirty!

I'm re-posting this with and for you. And yes MFM is not the same as MMF My Wife and I played with this idea for years, then this spring she said she was ready to do it. We had our first MFM in may of this year. With a gentleman we found on SLS. If you post a profile and make it clear as to what you are interested in you will get a lot of offers, be careful take you time, if the first few don't work out, be patience it will happen. We have had two other sessions with the same man. she loves it and has multiple orgasms each time. Some so strong we have to hold her on the bed. We are talking to two other men and a couple now. I let her set the speed of each session, and she has complete control as to what she will and wont do. She has not had full intercourse yet, but now says she is ready for that. She has developed a true love of oral sex both giving and receiving and has started swallowing. This is all new in that she did not care that much for oral sex before. Needless to say our own sex life has exploded, and is hotter then ever. My advice is make sure she understands that its all about her, and let her move forward at her own speed. Then just set back and enjoy the ride. She now wont's us to find a couple to play with, she wont's to watch me with another lady. If you had told me a year ago she would be so open to all this I would never had believed it.

I'd been in a couple of nudist environments - a California beach, the spa at Baden-Baden - before we turned into swingers. But I don't think those had much to do with our decision to try swinging.