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How do you handle telling someone on a swinger site that you aren’t interested? Do you just not answer if someone contacts you and something in their profile doesn’t match your wants? What about if there is no physical attraction? Are we wrong not giving someone a reason we aren’t interested? Today so many people meet on dating apps, swiping left or right based on first impressions. I’m thinking that physical attraction is that first impression. Not sure how it works and if you are swiped that that person is interested do you have to swipe back? Now on SLS or Swingtown or Kadidie, I know we can contact a member and wait for a response or respond to a request. Do you always answer? I just figure if we don’t get a response there was no interest. I would hate to respond You’re not Our Type. For us, I am more interested in the appearance of the male, I think I know what Debbie likes. We do look at profiles together and Debbie is more critical than me and I certainly want her to make the ultimate choice. Also do you normally checkout the Private pictures and do those risqué pictures affect your choices?

Simple. "No thank you, and we wish you the best of luck on your journey. " You should *never* give a reason. You should *never* feel an obligation to give a reason. "No means no."

If we don’t like the other couple, we do respond and we say “We’re not a match.” We find that this is the least hurtful answer. We have received many answers in which the husband says he will do my wife, but his wife is not interested in playing with our husband. We find that answer insulting. Our profile says we are looking for a couples swap, not a single guy. We meet for a vanilla dinner or drinks on the first meeting. No awkward pressure to play. We don’t mind dinner or drinks with any civil couple, so we are not too harsh about judging appearances. Some people who squeaked through on the pictures turned out to be totally charming and sexual dynamos. Give people a chance.

Over NYE we met a nice couple who were about 2 hours from where we live. We hooked up, had a great time and promised to see each other again when able. A few weekends ago, they came down to visit for some hot play time, with a twist. They asked if we would be interested in bareback and cream pie play. After a discussion about risk, (They both on Valtrex) we were in separate rooms playing. Both ladies filled to the rim, and then after they left, Mrs. F received her 3rd for the evening. We love it, and can't wait for more BB and CP play.

College is overrated. Just convince that child to be an Influencer and live on the beaches of Thailand.

Getting old requires a LOT of adjustments. I never thought this would be one. On the bright side, I make less of a mess!!!

A side benefit of COVID: first Zoom meets are convenient.

I never thought of that so I looked it up. What I read is sperm is a very small part of ejaculate, 1-3% and most likely not noticeable in the quantity. It could be age. It can also be you are having more sex, lucky guy. Age: Males tend to ejaculate the largest volume of semen in their thirties. As they age, this volume decreases. Sexual activity: Recent sexual activity, including masturbation, may decrease semen volume, which potentially reduces the distance semen can travel. Prolonged periods of abstinence may cause a person to produce more semen than their usual amount. Genetic factors: Genetics play a role in most aspects of health, including the volume of semen. Some people naturally ejaculate more or less compared to others, regardless of health or lifestyle. Lifestyle factors: Diet, smoking, and many other lifestyle factorsTrusted Source can affect semen quality and overall health. For example, most research shows regular exercise may improve fertility and sperm quality, and studies suggest it may increase semen volume. Overall health: General health may affect semen volume. For example, a person with a chronic illness, such as diabetes, might notice a change in their semen. Hormonal issues may also influence semen quality.

We just joined one of the swinging meet sites reluctantly. Our friends insisted that we meet other people and not depend on visiting them as our only swing mates. Filling out the profile together we put in many restrictions that we didn’t have with our friends. Couple, same room, no bi play, condoms, no anal, and many more no. In capital letters NO SINGLE MEN. We emphasized again in the profile NO SINGLE MEN. How clear can we make it? It is very difficult for us to just post looking to meet a couple, we made Debbie the screener. It was only posted very recently and we are getting correspondence very similar to what Billygoat posted. The reason I posted this is because we aren’t looking for a woman, we want a nice couple and we still get crazy men contacting us, it isn’t saved for any type of posting.

Recent exchange on swingtown: we think you’re hot. thanks we are hoping for a threesome I’ve done many threesomes, have you? no. We are new to all this and would like to try having one. have you been to any LS parties. not yet. Not sure about that. Really want a threesome well the best is to meet some time and talk. Make sure everyone is comfortable and discuss limitations, likes and no go activities. oh sure we understand. Really excited. What kind of things like rules yes, limitations for you and her. Best to know before anything starts. Will this be soft or full swing event. ????? involve penetration or just manual or oral play all of it we are open. Just want threesome. well I am not bi but not shy. ok and I do not participate in anal. ok i am clean, clipped and snipped ?? circumcised and vasectomy. Tested and clean you are a guy. yes husband here. no. I just want two women. yeah. Don’t we all. You only asked for a threesome. just women np. Good luck supposedly late 40s couple. Husband calls all th shots. Wanted to meet solo to check things out then involve his wife. The vibe wasn’t right so I had a little fun. Lol

Whether looking for a woman or a pair the results were the same. We didn’t have restrictions on our posting because we were testing the waters. Thinking back we weren’t looking for single men, single women or bi/bi couples. I know we had to be physically attractive to us. We wanted ages close to ours. We got single men, men saying they had partners and as others stated Fakes. We didn’t know what to expect and how others acted on first meetings. I couldn’t just meet for sex with strangers. So many just wanted immediate sex, no pre-meets. That was a red flag for us. We wanted to meet and get to know first. We contacted a couple, she wrote back with a sweet non sexual response. We made a date, no pressure meeting. It worked. They asked what we were looking for which made us think more. She asked if I was comfy with certain things, I wasn’t sure. We weren’t looking for a unicorn, didn’t find a unicorn, but with work found a fabulous first.

We have been on SLS for about seven years. We like to play as a couple with couples. We see the usual suspects come up in our searches. Few are couples who actually play, fewer still are in our age group (over 60). It’s a limited group of actual lifestylers. Most of our recent (pre-pandemic) play has been on cruises.

What I like to see: I can't say that I like huge saggy breasts, but it does turn me on to watch Clair's or Lora's breasts sway back and forth when they are fucking doggy. (Mine are too small to sway.) Forget a guy's dick (vaginal orgasm is easy for me regardless of dick), I love to see and play with a (huge saggy) scrotum with well-defined testicles, not the scrotums that look like half a tennis ball. A man's testicles are the source of all his manhood and the sperm I like to have living inside me. Beautiful scrotums/testicles don't get the recognition they deserve. On a woman I appreciate nice, appropriate sized inner labia that slightly protrudes beyond her outer labia, and a well-defined clit.

When I was about 13 my sister caught me jacking off, so instead of saying anything to dad. I had to Jack off her, then eventually she would masturbate for me. She sucked me a couple times and we had sex once. Many years later I was at a party, she was also there, some chick was getting banged on a back room, I wandered back there, only to see her doing a chain.

As I said before, once people of either sex are old enough to realize what's important and there is no possibility of procreation, I wouldn't have any issue with siblings having sex. But, Couplers, no way am I going to mess with someone who's got problems, whether they're my kin or not. As they say, "Never go to bed with anybody who's crazier than you are!"

Alura is correct that there are probably more brothers and sisters that may have played. I don’t think they play as swingers, most likely as adolescents. I think there has been plenty of sexual experimentation that has taken place at homes when mom and dad were at work. I am not saying that this is the norm and not saying if it occurred it continued to adulthood. Certainly this is not a socially accepted relationship, neither is swinging. I have learned not to make judgments on who people have sex with or what is normal.

Tricianmike, I was thinking in terms of who could get hurt by siblings playing which is why I mentioned reproductive age. If there is no chance of creating a child that would be aborted or possibly suffer some kind of genetic abnormalities, then for me, my conclusion stands, who cares? As for Mrs Doc's sister, no she doesn't play. We HAVE talked about the possibility. In a perfect world, my wife wouldn't mind, we've played several times with her very good friend who is perhaps closer than the sister and it was wonderful. It is not a perfect world however and if we even hinted at the possibility, her sister would be absolutely outraged. In puppy talk, I definitely got the pick of the litter. The attached was taken yesterday trying on a christmas present….

I think if a brother and sister are beyond reproductive age, so what? If they go to a club or a party as a couple and play separately, again, so what? My sister? Naaaaa, I don't ever want to see her naked. Mrs Doc's sister, you bet!! In a heartbeat!

Yes they did play, not immediately. I am not a big party player and normally play I a separate room. I ended up in a room with the brother. We played about an hour and I went to freshen up. My new friend went to the room where the others were. He was sitting next to his sister. From there they played right on the floor.

Okay, this is probably going to get some comments. Incest is wrong for several reasons: If one person 'controls' another. If it's done at a young age. If there is any chance of pregnancy (and thus defects). But . . . when you are adults and there is no chance of pregnancy, is it really wrong for a brother and sister to have sex? There's a part of me that says, 'not really.'

I see no problem, as long as everyone is legal and everyone is on board I don't see the problem. Sex should be something to be enjoyed, with a relative or not. Though marrying cousins is legal in most us states and countries. The problem is really only with close family members like mom/son/dad/daughter.

It depends on the family.

My idea of a good time: 1. Turn the porn on. 2. Turn the volume on the tv off. 3. Turn music on. 4. Take the clothes off. 5. Start having sex. Simplicity is beautiful. heh. Honestly, there could be a marching band going through my cranium while I was having sex and I wouldn't get distracted.