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Debbie spent this afternoon looking at profiles and answering messages we received. Debbie is more critical and crosses off the ones she would never meet. I think she exchanged pictures with one woman but she received a crotch picture she stopped writing. She set a standard, nudes were fine, crotch shots not. She made contact with someone else and asked me what I thought. I thought from the profile they were nice. I suggested the Zoom as Fundamental Law suggested and Debbie set up the video conference for 7:00. To make sure they were real Debbie and the other woman had a cell call before I came home. Our 7:00 call lasted almost 2 hours and we talked about so many things and we had plenty in common. They have met 2 others online and have met one of them a few times. I enjoyed listening to the ladies talk, they were much more sexual in the chat. The video chat is a little hard to see, they really did look like the pictures we saw. We left the call with a meeting set up at a restaurant we both knew. I think we both understood that if things went well we would advance to what everyone was looking for. That Zoom recommendation was great. If they were fakes it would never happen. Now we wait to see if they show up. I reminded Debbie they were sizing us up too as much as we were of them. Do you ever wonder what the others are saying about you after meeting?

Love that you are doing all the smart things from phone, Zoom to having the women make the plans. The caution flag goes up when only the male is responding. If you are reading this before you meet I bet you are having a crazy feeling right now. Meeting new people has become my big pleasure and excitement. A little hint for you is to make up a phrase you or your wife can say that means Let’s Go Home. Go with your gut, better to skip further activity and not regret something later on. Not to be a downer you will learn not every meet goes perfectly. Good Luck 🍀

I agree, “no thank you” is the best. Most will take that as you aren’t interested while others will press you. Either you can ignore or just repeat the No answer. I think we all have first impressions based on looks which dismisses some great possibilities. The first is the hardest decision to make, it’s even harder if you are not comfortable on any level. You will soon see that you may have missed meeting fun couples. Zoom meets are convenient not always the best way to see if you match. Most times you are going to meet those with more experiences, they should be aware you are just starting out. An innocent meeting, drinks or dinner will let you see if you are comfortable with people. We almost insist that a first meeting is just that, a first get to know meeting. We still say No to invitations we aren’t comfortable with, a sixth sense, looks have become less of a qualifier as we went further into the LS. We have met great people that we most likely would have passed on at the onset. Good luck in your search. Maybe you will post how things progress.

A side benefit of COVID: first Zoom meets are convenient.

If we don’t like the other couple, we do respond and we say “We’re not a match.” We find that this is the least hurtful answer. We have received many answers in which the husband says he will do my wife, but his wife is not interested in playing with our husband. We find that answer insulting. Our profile says we are looking for a couples swap, not a single guy. We meet for a vanilla dinner or drinks on the first meeting. No awkward pressure to play. We don’t mind dinner or drinks with any civil couple, so we are not too harsh about judging appearances. Some people who squeaked through on the pictures turned out to be totally charming and sexual dynamos. Give people a chance.

Simple. "No thank you, and we wish you the best of luck on your journey. " You should *never* give a reason. You should *never* feel an obligation to give a reason. "No means no."

Very interesting, @Fitlakecouple ! Thanks to all of you for such detailed answers. Here's a little pic to thank you all :)

Thank you. I will make us a gallery

If you have pics in the gallery on this site you can just go to the insert other media and choose from the existing files! Otherwise I am not sure. Maybe a picture hosting site?