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I don't give my husband the option. I don't care is my face is covered in cum, He's kissing me.

We had sex with strangers that we met online not anyone either of us knew before we met them. I don’t know if I would agree to meet someone Rocky had dated before I met him. Let’s be honest we all dated before we met The One. We all had sex before we married. This post made me think, is there anyone I had sex with I would want to again. I did date someone or two or more that sex was horrible. I had one nighters I wish went longer. I can’t remember any boyfriend that I broke up because of sex. Being an idiot or abusive or just growing apart were reasons, not bad sex. You sound like you and your wife are open for a talk. Unless her breakup was traumatic she most likely won’t remember the reason she stopped dating him. Ask her if the sex was memorable. Then ask what does she think about meeting again. Now ask yourself, are you jealous? How do you think the other wife feels about this. She may not want to meet for the same doubts you have. Sex aside, how will you act when they reminisce. I once went to Rocky’s reunion and felt like an outsider. They something in common and I didn’t know what they were talking about. These people are strangers to you and I’m thinking strangers to your wife. Some commonality is a good thing if you make it a good thing. They are swingers, new or seasoned you don’t know yet. Have the honest talk and decide together. Only if you both can agree should you go forward.

We would never play with a past ex from either of us. There previously were too many emotions there to take the chance of having them surface (especially in the ex) again. Always move forward, never go back.

1. Yes, you run into people from vanilla life. We don’t tell anyone they are swingers 2. I would not play with a former girl friend. I would not want my wife to play with a former bf. I doubt that she would want to do so. There are billions of people with no attachments or history. That is part of the fun. No reruns.

We don’t play with cheaters, because we think it is a narcissistic trait and we both have a strong dislike for narcissistic people! Definitely do not find narcissistic people attractive in any way. We also believe in karma and have no interest in being in situations that brings bad karma to all involved. Knowingly being part of someone betraying the one they are supposed to love and be loyal to is bad karma. We may not know their spouse, but that doesn’t mean we are okay with causing another person emotional pain regardless of who they are. She also doesn’t feel sexy or attractive if an attached guy hits her up, because they are more then likely hitting up anyone and everyone they can trying to find someone to help accomplish their self centered goals. Shitty people will use anyone to get what they want.

Yeah, this is where we are. Fidelity is key to the lifestyle for us. Violating someone's marriage is not what we want.

We have been on a swinger site looking to meet a like couple close but not too close to us. We have decided that Deb would go through profiles then share with me interesting people before reaching out with a message. Last night she called out to me very excited that she found an old boyfriend from before she knew me, and his wife lives about an hour from us. I have two questions: Do people ever see people they know on swinger sites and how do you deal with it? An old boyfriend? Tell me I shouldn’t care. So far I said hold off contacting. As far as appearance and profile I would normally give a 👍🏼

We had some questions we would like to ask, and we appreciated those who could share their history. What do you feel the first time you see another man enter you or your partner enter another woman and vice versa? How did you start swinging? Did you play with friends or strangers? Did you use condoms or not? Did you let the other guy cum inside (assuming you were taking the pill or similar and that you trust the other couple)? Did you notice any physical difference? My answer is the following. English is not my first language, so sorry for any mistakes. Even now, we feel we are "almost" new in this new world, and that was 100% true until a few years ago (2019). We had talked about the LS for many years until we finally made a web profile in a local S community. After some time talking online, we finally met with some couples in restaurants. We had a really nice match with the fourth couple we met. They are really handsome and funny and were also new in the S community; they were about 10 years older than us (we were at the end of our 20s). They shared the same fantasies and worries as us that consist basically in having a good match, trusting new people, and safe sex. After that, we started talking more often. Unfortunately, we all have somewhat chaotic schedules, so it was a couple of months later when we met again for a more intimate meeting. First, we meet in a hotel, one month later at our place, just for soft swaps. The four of us had greats moments but also were really nervous, so we took things slow. After that, we progressively shared more fantasies, intimate pictures online and gained more confidence. We were becoming friends really quickly, but something that made us trust in them completely was that they had just had a child a few months before meeting us, and she was breastfeeding. Of course, she didn't want anything to happen to her son and for them as well as us (and surely for anyone on this page); the most important thing was the safety of their bodies and that of their children… Even so, maybe the next thing sounds a bit innocent or irresponsible, and years ago is something we never thought we'd do… We decided to play at 100% with them, and to do it without condoms. Obviously, it was because the feeling is more intimate that way and simply because we trust them completely. Also, both girls were on the pill; both couples checked themselves before playing, and we were sure we were just playing with each other. The next time we met was at their place. It would be the second man for me, and practically the second woman for my husband, so we were really nervous, but super excited (In their case, they have a much longer history than us, not in the LS but with previous partners). We arrived at their place trembling a little despite all the trust we had built with them, knowing that this time we would do it, made everything quite intense. They have prepared a nice environment with candles and low light. Everyone started with their own couple. When it comes to being naked and touching each other, our previous encounters already made us all feel completely comfortable so everything went smoothly. Eventually, the girls started playing a little bit with each other in a classical 69, while our own husbands penetrated us. I'm really shy, so I didn't dare to go all the way to licking her. For me it was more about seeing at close how they were having sex and some small liking here and there (especially right in the union, but closer to the guy). I was nervous but I loved every second of it (And really impressive also). She was much more comfortable with me and my husband and I could feel how she was really into licking me and even taking my husband out of me to suck him or licking me. In our first meetings, we (the girls) "almost" didn't do anything bi, and it was a whole new experience for me and something I always had wanted to do. Eventually, someone asked if we were ready, and we said yes. Then both girls lay on our backs and waited for each of our husbands to enter us (mine in her and her husband in me). My husband and I had many plants about that moment. The most important was to look at each other bodies at the moment of the first insertion, but there were so many new sensations that it was difficult to keep track of everything that was going on. I had my legs spread, and our friend was waiting with his big tool really close to my entrance when my husband started to enter our lady friend. She was on her back next to me. Before my husband entered, he looked at her in the eyes, like asking her if it was ok to enter, to which she nodded and looked at the perfect penis pointing right at her wet entrance. Then my husband looked at me in the eyes with the face of a kid in a candy store, and then he moved close to her. My husband was really excited when he entered her slowly, and a delicious moan of pleasure escaped from her when he fully entered. I felt great for him (for all of us) for having that crazy experience. My husband mentioned how the internal fold and the texture inside her feel a little bit different than mine, also delicious but in a different way, but not something too notable. In addition, the lubrication was slightly different than me but just a little bit (he had been inside me just seconds before so the fluids of both girls were a little bit mixed). Because of my position, I just could see the borderline of their connection while my husband entered her. I would have liked to look closer, but when I was trying to pay more attention to them, another penis got in contact with my vagina. I felt a big electric shock in all my body that made me totally forget about what my husband was doing. I looked at my new lover. He started rubbing his penis at my entrance, making my whole-body tremble... then he began to enter me slowly. My body was extremely ready despite my mind being a little nervous. I did not offer him the slightest resistance… It was incredible how my body could make me feel the same sensation that only my husband had made me feel, but in that case, it was a new man inside me. The physical sensation was practically the same (He is a little longer than my husband when he is totally hard, but unfortunately, he was not completely hard, maybe 95%, but it was understandable due to the nerves of the moments) still he filled me all, crashing against the deepest part of me. it was delightful... What was totally new and different was the whole experience. I was having sex with someone new right in from of my husband! And far from jealous, what we felt was exciting about the experience. Also, the intimacy of the act I was doing with our friend (and my husband with our girlfriend) was super profound and a fantastic experience, difficult to describe. My husband told me how he managed to see a little as the other guy entered, but the girl connected to him was taking a huge part of his attention. What he liked the most was my surprised face during the whole process. Our only rule was that the boys should finish outside. Their rule was that we couldn't kiss them on the lips. Ones of the thing I liked the most during the sex act was how my new lover, at a moment of great passion, suddenly brought his mouth close to mine (their kissing rule was more of a suggestion than a rule since she had also kissed my husband but only slightly, but my new lover's kiss was very deep and sinful, it was only for a couple of seconds but I loved it). We played for a while. It was fantastic how from time to time my husband kissed the girl's breasts or touched my breasts and kissed me (while staying connected to the girl). My husband loved the moans that the girl and I were doing and the face of pleasure that we had while new men were inside of us. After some time, my new lover was already completely hard. Even then, the physical feeling was practically the same delicious sensation I felt with my husband (not counting all the mental sensations that it was totally new). It was really interesting, but maybe it was due to the fact that the difference between the boys was not too notable (for the girls who have been with more boys, do you feel some difference if your new partners have a noticeable size difference? I know size doesn't matter, and its more about technique and how you interact with you partner, but what about when there is a really big difference, like a super big or super small guy… do you feel like the guy is breaking you apart or that the guy stays a little bit loose inside of you?) Unfortunately, after a little bit too short time later and like adolescents with their first girlfriends, both boys came outside of the girls due to nerves. First, my husband and that got my new lover too excited and make him cum almost immediately after. Now we fantasize a lot about that moment and we wish the men would have finished inside of the girls and then do it again just after the guys have cum inside (have any of you done that?), but at the time, we were too insecure with the pill (even if by that time we had years taking the pill and my husband always cum inside of me, but this was a new guy, so my husband and I were a little bit nervous about it). Also, we would have felt very embarrassed to tell them that we wanted to do that at that time. After the guys finished, we took a bath, and then we started playing again (each with each own partner) until eventually, their one-year-old baby started to cry in the other room, and we ended up the night. The experience was wonderful, and it left us wanting much more. We feel that to make it a completely perfect experience, we needed to have had even more confidence and be more open with them, especially more communication at the moment of play. We would have liked not to feel those little nerves when we played. However, we didn't have any other opportunity to see them because the world stopped in 2020. We talked for some time, but eventually, things cold down when we moved. After that, my husband and I have had many fantasies that we hope to do in the future. We know that parties or large groups are not our things and it's more about finding really close friends to play with... we'll see what the future holds😊

There isn't a common practice! :) It's just what anyone likes to do. In MFMs, I really enjoy having sex with my wife right after another man has cum inside her. But, we always use condoms with new or relatively new play partners. There's only been a few who my wife played with without condoms. The chance of her getting pregnant is virtually zero, due to tubal ligation and another procedure. Anyway, for some guys they don't like the feel of another man's cum in their wives. For me, I find it incredibly erotic. I don't have any attraction to men, but feeling how sloppy she is is just an incredible feeling.

Lips & Tongues, you're started an interesting thread I disagree with your position, but I respect it. I don't consider you 'wrong' because I have a different perspective. For us, a cheater is a 100% deal breaker. It's just our approach to life in general. I don't like dealing with dishonest, morally bankrupt people, and neither does my wife. Knowing that a potential play partner is cheating is a 100000% turn off.

PrincessPeach, I'm with cplnuswing; you sound like a wonderful wife! To the problem; speaking abstractly, I think most guys grow up thinking it's easy to get an erection and we'll never have any problems. Sometimes when I was a teenager, I think it spent more time erect than non-erect The older we get, the more difficult it can become. As cplnuswing noted, there are allllll sorts of factors that play into this. It can take time to untangle why, and the why can change from time to time. A guy can psych himself out just having anxiety about whether it's going to get up and stay up or not, and the anxiety itself kills it. There can be concern that a new lover might not feel like's he's living up to her standards. Alcohol can play a negative mix. So can weight. The way in which the woman plays with him can affect things too. My wife and I played with one couple who...just didn't work out. The wife of the other couple just wasn't good in bed. She was attractive enough, but in bed...just a total dud. My wife, interestingly, had the same experience with the husband. For my part, Mr. Happy refused to show up. A friends with benefits might be able to work through this with him, as cplnuswing suggests. Take out the pressure element, have the two of them hang out. An adult conversation with her can really help. Maybe the two of them can play together without any expectation of sex, just enjoying each other's bodies and whatever happens happens. Also; one of the possible reasons your husband is having difficulty is that he might be demisexual; a person who does not get sexually attracted to someone unless they've developed a strong emotional bond with them. It's worth considering the possibility. When did you and your husband first have sex? After you'd really started developing emotions? Or, was it early...before deep bonds have developed? Even if this doesn't work out, it doesn't have to be the end of the lifestyle for you. That depends on your husband. Does he get a lot of pleasure from you having sex with others? If so, MFMs can be a wonderful way to remain in the lifestyle. My wife and I have done several, and it's almost always been a very good time.

Yes, I will kiss my wife no matter what. I enjoy going down on her after I come but she is usually done by then so isn't into it to often. On the rare occasion that she wants more this will give me enough time to recover for round two.

Bye bye boys sounds more like an orchiectomy.😮

I had a vasectomy about 25 years ago. The procedure was quick with minimal pain and there wasn't any impact on the amount of ejaculate. Consider having it done on a Friday so you can spend the weekend watching TV with an ice pack on your crotch. The wife always struggled with the effect the pill had on her hormones so my taking the lead on sterilization made sense. It also made sex more spontaneous; no more running for the diaphragm when the spirit moved us. Also, I find female play partners appreciate it. It removes any concerns about pregnancy, and they are more welcoming of bareback play if that is on the table. So all these years later I'd say it was a great move. Best of luck with your decision!

That video was super sexy.

Thank you! We will!

Yes, I definitely would kiss her. I did it with my wife a few times when she had my cum in her mouth. I loved it so much and got turned on by it for round two. But I have to admit that I like to see other stiff cocks and had blown a friends cock years ago. He didn’t cum but I liked to have his cock in my mouth and lick his shaft.

I totally get that! I used to be camera shy but my husband makes people feel so good about themselves when he's behind the camera, the shyness doesn't usually last. We start super slow, talk in the days leading up to it about what things you like and don't about your body, what you hope to see etc, then we talk a lot before and during (unless you are totally into it and want us to just be a fly on the wall ) making folks feel really comfortable. Once people see a little of how amazing they can look with good cameras/lighting/angles they really get into it. It ends up being super fun for everyone. Also knowing you don't ever have to show it to anyone but each other takes a lot of the stress away.

That was a bit of a creepy comment. If she was showing you her vagina that would have been different. You don't know what it looks like at all but reveal you are fantasizing about what it looks like. While she was just using it as a definition, presumably in a transgender topic of conversation. As for getting caught looking... Looking at cleavage is like looking at the sun, you don't stare at it. It's too risky. You get a sense of it then you look away.

Three things would happen if some guy tried to shove his hand up my ladies dress and grab her pussy without her consent! She would push him away, I would kick him in the face and he would hit the floor. Sexual assault is never acceptable including in a swinging environment.

This is actually why I now avoid swing clubs. I cannot stand being randomly grabbed and pawed at. The last time I went to a swing club in the first 15 minutes I had probably 9 guys just grab me and yank me around so they could "inspect" me. It made me feel gross so I left.

I question their understanding of consent if they are willing to potentially bring something back to their unknowing partner.

Not into the cheating husband scene. Morally wrong and unfair to the cheated upon spouse. Invites drama, how bout the wife showing up at your tryst, screaming or shooting. A zillion single guys willing to perform the same tasks. If a person is in a loveless and/or non-sexual marriage, they have to consider their alternatives, such as divorce. You can’t have it both ways by cheating. It will be uncovered and you will be faced with the same decision in an uglier scenario.

College is overrated. Just convince that child to be an Influencer and live on the beaches of Thailand.

After...during...sharing...absolutely.

Oral after intercourse always ROCKS! on all of us. But you are so right - if HE can handle it - lol. The guys crack me up how sensitive their penises get some times and we ladies do love them sloppy so some times the men have to man up and deal with it!

Of course. It's extremely exciting watching my wife suck off some guy and then share some of his cum with me!! I also really enjoy watching her wrap her legs around a guy and meet his every thrust followed by him unloading in her hairy blonde cunt. I then love to suck their cum out of it!! While I will never suck a guy's cock I get really horny sucking his cum from my wife or someone else's wife!!

We love it. We share everything!!!

Didn’t think about this before but I’m pretty sure my husband did.

Doing oral on our guys is routine, but having them ejaculate in our mouth is not, we all prefer that semen end up in our vaginas on the way to mutual orgasms. After that, one of us guys or girls will do oral on that mess to get her to a second orgasm. We women like taking a sloppy dick into our mouth as well, when he can stand it.

We are learning. When you look at a profile it lets the people know you looked. He has reached out to us with a message that was surprised we lived near and would like to get together. I liked that it was a nonsexual message, more an old friend finding someone on a social site.