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I had my husband install a stripper pole! It added some much appreciated sexy to our sex life.

Welcome back! Please do share your stories with us. We'd love to hear! We haven't modified our bedroom at all. But, I'm reminded of an adult shop in Toronto that had a mannequin tied up and hanging from a device on the ceiling. I soon learned it was called a "wench winch". I don't think I'll ever have one of those in my bedroom, but wow

Greetings! I am a novice to swinging, but am most anxious to get started. My first question is this...are couples open to married males or does swinging always involve couples only or single males with couples? My second question concerns bi-sexuality. Do women get turned on watching other men suck their husband's/parnter's cock? I am most interested in performing oral sex on a male, but find few bi-curious men at the Swingers Board. How can I convince my desires without sounding like I am a flamer or blatant homosexual? I simply want to taste and swallow a man's load of cum.

Okay, first post here since 2011. Things got strange, then they got terrifying, then strange again, and now back to some normalcy. But that's a subject for a different post. What is the best thing that y'all have done TO the bedroom to enhance your sex life? We have a giant California king that takes up most of our bedroom, and I've added some screw eyes into the sides for some light B&D, but that's about it. Since our most exciting sex seems to take place during the day, we're looking into some blackout curtains, and I've got a notion about some mood lights around and under the bed (LEDs most likely). Any thoughts about some DIY projects that will spice up the bedroom?

Honestly, this sounds like a deeper issue than simple sexual attraction. In a long-term relationship, passion naturally ebbs and flows. That's normal. But, to disappear completely in such a short period of time, and this happens in ALL your relationships? This is worth investigating with a professional. The biggest sex organ is the brain.

Bi-sexual males are considered higher-risk by the medical community. For that reason, we have limited our play to heterosexual couples only. According to the CDC, roughly 70% of all new HIV cases are among bi-sexual and homosexual males, referred to as "men who have sex with other men". In 2019, of the the 34,800 estimated new HIV infections reported, 24,500 of them appeared in bi-sexual and homosexual males. This is to say nothing of all the other STDs/STIs that can result from unprotected sex. Those considering engaging in unprotected sex with other bi-sexual or homosexual men may want to consider this before they press launch. Good luck and stay healthy. You only live once, so don't fritter it away on a moment of unbridled passion.

We've been empty nesters for quite a while. As a result, we have some empty bedrooms. So, we did two things: First, we turned our master into a Zen oasis for no purpose other than complete relaxation and rest. No television, bright lights, so on; added light blocking shutters and drapes on the windows; added special sound insulation so no unwanted noise disturbs our sleep; added a special sound system for superb binaural beats, nature sounds, and other white noise. The centerpiece is a king bed that independently articulates, elevates upper and lower body, and has independent massage features. Also, it provides independent cooling or heating, depending on what each of us needs. Basically, it's guaranteed to drop you into a temporary sleep coma. Lol Next, we converted one of the other bedrooms into our sex room. Walking through our home, the bedroom appears ordinary and unremarkable. That's because we cleverly disguised its actual purpose and hid all of the naughty items. We like our sex to be varied, so we're set up for everything from slow, romantic episodes to more... adventurous play. The room has a large walk-in closet with a solid locking door (not a flimsy hollow core door you usually see in homes.) We reserve the walk-in closet for the kinkier sides of ourselves. It's also where we store the Sybian, sex furniture, and bulkier sex items. The bed and mattress is purposely mounted a little lower, so the height is just right for sex. The sheets are silk. We have a nicely sized television and sound system. The bedroom is connected to nicely sized bathroom with a two-person walk in shower and soaking tub. If someone asks us about the locked closet door (it happens from time-to-time), I tell them I keep some of my firearms inside. Nobody is the wiser. Our housekeeper doesn't even know what's behind that door. We have other bedrooms for guests to stay in, so it's not a problem to host company. I must say, having a bedroom dedicated to sleep, and another bedroom dedicated to sex and erotic play, is a luxury we both enjoy even more than we thought we would. I know it's not in the cards for everybody, but it you have the space and funds to make it work, you could do a lot worse for yourselves.

An hour is the new marathon session for us. At about the half hour or 45 minute point, my wife politely asks, "Dou you want to try again later/tomorrow morning?"

You're asking the wrong people. The only two people who know the answers are your wife and the other wife. I would begin with having a conversation with your wife and hear what she has to say about it?

Being an Alpha doesn't mean it doesn't feel good. You sound like my husband. Anal play is part of the natural course of things, its down there where everything is happening so of course it's going to get included whether planned or not. Back in the day when we used to get hot and heavy things happened and anal happened. We touch, we grab, fingers slip here and there in the heat of the moment and so forth. Now it is a very planned part of our sex. Over the years and the many many many orgasms I have had from anal along with vaginal, my husband began to realize anal is amazing (to receive) and could as amazing for him. The more he let me play the more open he became and soon the man was having orgasms as large as me and multi (something he had never experienced). We didn’t open our marriage up till much later and then only to people who understood we were only doing it for things we could not provide for each other alone, hence the reason for groups. One male doesn’t provide enough by himself, he needs friends. As I have mentioned in prior posts: I cannot get enough cum from one man, I enjoy it that much; I cannot get multiple holes filled with real live bareback cum filled cream puff stuffed penises with only one man; and I have no way to cum fill or cream fill my man’s holes without other men. So I needed to find a way to get men. For my husband, the comfort level was not there for males only to join us so I found couples. With couples I had to give as much as we got of course. I wasn’t expecting to do all that I do with the wives, but to not be a taker I made myself available for them. You do what you need to do to keep the group smooth. My husband who has no interest in men or really other women does have such a strong interest in my desires and connecting with me in any manner possible eventually gave in. For years we had done him anally and he knows how amazing that is so he would come to the group sex parties and watch. It took a while for him to try a few things here and there like cum kissing with me after I’d sucked one of the men off, then more, then cum swapped. Then I was asked to eat some of the wives’ cream pies, he helped. As we played watching others he was always rock hard, leaking all over and never flinched if someone touched him a little bit. The first time one of the husband’s did me doggy, he sat staring into my eyes as the man came inside me. It was the oddest sensation for us both. That was my first face sit on him. Then another man took me over him, and another, cum and penises are all over his face. So much has happened I get some of the timelines confused now but we were in a similar position with me sitting on his face cum leaking, a send or third penis in me over him, and one of the husband’s stepped in between his legs. I guided him into my husband. There is so much to tell but it is a very long tale. To the point I want to make with you, as per my husband & myself, nothing you can simulate or do is the same as taking a real bareback cream filled cock in your mouth or other holes. Nothing feels the same as it, looks the same, or provides as great of an aftermath picture. The orgasms from it are so intense it is hard to crave it daily and hourly. Since all of this, he has F ed me, all of the other ladies, vaginally, orally, and anally. He has sucked every guy off hundreds of times, been F ed by them as many times anally, and been cum in as many. So from our little meager interest things have expanded as do all things sexual for us. When with others, we still primarily focus on the main things we cannot do as a lone couple. For example, my husband can get all the anal he ever needs doing me so he does not do the other ladies anally often and he has never done a guy. He has no reason to and doesn’t want too. As far as being an Alpha, some men feel they are Alphas and only do others but if you are not into doing it with men why would you? My husband is not into guy’s butts. I however AM! My man is now perfectly content with letting the guys have at him. He’s a receiver and from what I can tell a pretty good one. My husband receives it from toys, machines, me, strap ons, the other ladies, and men and he feels no less than he ever did. He is very manly. Receiving is extremely pleasurable and he knows how much it does for me to be there watching up close, playing, touching, encouraging. There is something so amazing to be right there as his wife seeing and feeling him getting rummaged unloading penis after another and telling him all the while, you can do it, you can take it, you love doing this for me, you are so amazing at taking c***, I love you, I love that you do this for me, I love watching you get F ed in your … It does take a lot of patience and time to get to this point in relationships. Take it slow and play at home, RP a lot, use toys, machines, simulate it all in a variety of scenarios. Even that will be awkward at times. A few weeks ago I was pleading for my husband to take a giant black c*** while I was dping one of our sex machines. I was screaming how much I knew he wanted big black cocks and their cum inside him. He was like, “No I don’t.” Awkward… And yes he has done that and enjoyed them. He wasn’t as turned on as me yet, he’d just gotten out of the shower. I can tell you from my experience and from watching all the couples we have been with, the one who flourish and are the most exciting are the ones who play together, in the same room, stay together or as close as possible, try to watch, talk, and encourage each other as much as possible, kiss a lot, hold hands a lot, hug, and love on another often. It is so cool to watch a wife getting ravaged by several people while the husband is by her side getting done likewise and they are hold hands, glancing over at each other. So many times I see couples stretched out touching as they are doing what they are doing. Since your wife is interested in females I highly recommend joining her. I love it when anyone and my husband are dual doing me and I would much rather have my husband right there sucking and tonguing with me as I tend to the wives. I love sharing with him. That is why we got into this in the first place, not to have sex with others, but to share having sex with others, to share the experiences. We have an unbelievable connection and relate more on a deeper level now. I now get why my husband loves eating p***y so much but it is still so much better together. He agrees.

Sometimes women just don’t feel like having sex! I wouldn’t read anything into it unless they tell you there is more to it.

As I have aged it takes me longer to cum! No issues gettIng hard and staying hard just takes forever for me to cum regardless of how attracted I am to someone. I am however receptive to when my partner is worn out and done and have no issue stopping without cumming myself. I do not have to have an orgasm to enjoy myself. As long as my partner had a great time I do. People should not take it as a sign that they are not satisfying the other person. It is just the way it is for some of us. There is a point where enough is enough and it is up to guys that do not cum easily to understand that and back off when that time has come. With the missus I want to be able to have sex with her again sometime in the near future. Leaving her raw and sore is not conductive for that happening.

20 minutes of just fucking. We have been married for 30 years and we know how each other likes it. I know she is really not someone that likes it going on for that long

Ummm kids are not allowed in Mommies room, it's a rule!!! They know it and they follow it, on pain of death from the very uncomfortable conversations we will have!

Yeah I'm not sure where guys get it in their head that pounding for hour+ sessions is desirable. Afraid of being labeled a premature ejaculator I guess. Marathon sex sessions are fun. But no need to be pounding the whole time. Going for multiple times and switching up between different activities and even a break for refreshments should be part of those. Popping quickly can be a compliment rather than something to avoid with numbing creams and what have you.

We both have about one hour of interest in sex. Marathon sessions were impressive when we were younger. Neither one of us want to pound or be pounded ad infinitum.

It's not the size of the vessel nor the motion of the ocean, but whether the captain can stay in port long enough for the passengers to get off! That said, most girls don't want to be fucked until they're sore and raw and their jaws hurt and Charlie horses in their palms. That the guy used numbing cream before a date is unseemly in that the guy expected you to want to go on forever. The board is full of stories where the new guy wouldn't cum and the night went on far too long. Question: How long did it go on until you two cried Uncle?

Oh yeah, made that decision in 1994, with a waterbed, then upgraded to a decent mattress about ten years ago that was made to fit the existing frame.

Not DIY, not inexpensive, but our best bedroom update was to switch from a queen to king sized bed.

Yes, most of the people there mean business and want to play. If a couple says no, you have many other candidates to choose from.

Some men cannot come very easily. Usually older men, but even younger men with medical problems. If you are new to swinging, you will notice sometimes your partner does not have an orgasm. Sometimes the man cannot achieve or maintain an erection. It usually happens due to nervousness or a medical problem. It’s not usually from lack of attraction. I once had trouble with my youngest, most attractive partner. She kept paying attention to and jumping in with my wife and her own husband. I got psyched out because she wasn’t paying attention to me and I was a little mad and disappointed. Experienced swingers know these things happen. As a generous partner said to me in a flagging moment: “Hey, we’re not porn stars. “

This is why swing clubs are my favorite place to meet other swingers. Neutral territory, if you have interest in another couple you try to connect. If not, you can walk away. No excuses needed.

When I re read her account it sounds like the issue was more inexperience on both of their parts more than The guy being abusive. She says that he kept asking if she was OK and she was willing to proceed.

My husband fits in this catagory all the way. He is exactlt like you, he is straight but likes sucking the occasional dick. I'd look for a Bisexual couple with an Orally Bi Male, set your boundaries up front, just oral play, no kissing, no buggering. I can tell you for me it is the hottest thing ever, the first time we got to do it, I was laying on the bed while the other guys wife was eating my pussy and gently fingering me, I was super close to orgasming and I look over and see my husband sucking this dude's dick like a lollypop and I just came on the spot. That shit is fire, so fucking hot.

My wife and I have a lot of fantasies about this subject, and we've tried many things so far. Recently I was on a business trip and on the day I was supposed to arrive, my wife called and told me that she had a surprise for me when I arrived. I got very excited and decided to take a potency-boosting drug 15 minutes before entering the house. When I arrived and walked into the house, I was very surprised as my wife was having sex with two men, and I immediately joined them. The evening went great:)

I apologize if I emphasized Boyfriend. Debbie and the man on the swing site dated in college for what I understand was a semester. I think many of us had relationships that were sexual when in school. Her major memories were a few ski weekends and a trip to Maine. At the end of the school year in May they both went home and the contacts were few. In the age of social media and constant cell phone call, I lost sight that those only became every day things in the last 20 years. He has sent another message acknowledging our reluctance to write back stating it would be nice just to meet at a truly safe place, Starbucks. If we did go further, I keep telling Debbie that she looks just like she did in school. I joke he already saw you naked, she joked back, sure he ran away.

I think it would be fun to meet up with them not so much with the goal of playing together but sharing lifestyle experiences. Even if it doesn’t lead to play I’d bet the two of you go home and have a wild time together.

Uh, I’m not worried about her having feelings for him, I don’t have feelings of love towards ex-girlfriends. I sometimes think about what happened to them, no romantic feelings. I am pretty sure our marriage is strong. It’s not that she was looking for him, he was just on a swinging site. I’m thinking he has more experience, we have the least experience of anyone on that site. The more I read the more I want to meet them. First Debbie has to answer his message.

The cat's out of the bag, so to speak, now. There are potential complications in your wife having sex with an old boyfriend. Will it uncork and reinvigorate past emotions? How would you respond to that? Are you averse to emotions developing between play partners for either of you? How would you feel if your wife's ex started expressing those emotions towards her? Would it be different than hearing emotions being expressed by a non-ex boyfriend play partner? Is it worth it for her to play with him? Was the sex incredible with him and they broke up for other reasons? Was the breakup amicable, or was it nasty? If it was nasty, could that complicate things? I'm scratching the surface at potential variables here that need to be considered...variables that aren't in play if you get together with swingers who are new to you. One variable that is already in the past; they know you and you know them (through your wife, of course). What you choose to do with that situation is up to you and your wife. But, as ROCKlandCpl said, make sure you're both in agreement. For our parts; my wife and I both have long ago exes with whom we are still in touch and close. We both have 'passes', if you will, to play with them if the opportunity arises. We discussed it at length before deciding on that. In her case, it's unlikely to happen; her ex is married, and since swingers constitute only a small % of the population, it's unlikely they are swingers. In my case, my ex is single, is aware that we have an open marriage and that my wife has given specific permission to play with her; she even heard it from my wife directly. That was years ago. She declined then, and I don't think it's likely she'll change her mind. We remain close. We decided to go this route since both of us had amicable breakups with these two people, and because we remain close to them. It wouldn't be much of a shift to have sex with them again, and we're comfortable with the idea of deeper emotions developing if they did. Your mileage may vary. Consider wisely. Don't act rashly.

We are learning. When you look at a profile it lets the people know you looked. He has reached out to us with a message that was surprised we lived near and would like to get together. I liked that it was a nonsexual message, more an old friend finding someone on a social site.

We had sex with strangers that we met online not anyone either of us knew before we met them. I don’t know if I would agree to meet someone Rocky had dated before I met him. Let’s be honest we all dated before we met The One. We all had sex before we married. This post made me think, is there anyone I had sex with I would want to again. I did date someone or two or more that sex was horrible. I had one nighters I wish went longer. I can’t remember any boyfriend that I broke up because of sex. Being an idiot or abusive or just growing apart were reasons, not bad sex. You sound like you and your wife are open for a talk. Unless her breakup was traumatic she most likely won’t remember the reason she stopped dating him. Ask her if the sex was memorable. Then ask what does she think about meeting again. Now ask yourself, are you jealous? How do you think the other wife feels about this. She may not want to meet for the same doubts you have. Sex aside, how will you act when they reminisce. I once went to Rocky’s reunion and felt like an outsider. They something in common and I didn’t know what they were talking about. These people are strangers to you and I’m thinking strangers to your wife. Some commonality is a good thing if you make it a good thing. They are swingers, new or seasoned you don’t know yet. Have the honest talk and decide together. Only if you both can agree should you go forward.

Three things would happen if some guy tried to shove his hand up my ladies dress and grab her pussy without her consent! She would push him away, I would kick him in the face and he would hit the floor. Sexual assault is never acceptable including in a swinging environment.

This is actually why I now avoid swing clubs. I cannot stand being randomly grabbed and pawed at. The last time I went to a swing club in the first 15 minutes I had probably 9 guys just grab me and yank me around so they could "inspect" me. It made me feel gross so I left.

I wouldn't hang out with them any longer. This guy's actions may get you and your husband branded by association, and repel good couples. This guy should be reported to management at the clubs and he should get kicked out and banned.

Mrs. fit enjoyed MM Play, being in the middle, sliding cocks in asses, etc. She enjoys CD's who enjoy getting fucked and filled and cleaning up. One of our favorite scenarios is ANON sex, where I'm licking Mrs. Hot wet pussy ass up, and a stranger comes and starts to fuck me. Eventually, we switch it up, where he's fucking her from behind, I'm under licking her and his balls and offering a place to empty into or clean up.

Speaking for women everywhere! That shit is fucking yummy. Please give us more of it.

I’m recently married and my wife enjoys sex and exploring and so do I. We are both fit and athletic built so we tend to attract very easily people. We have never explored swinging even though she wants to be with a women. She’s very shy about it but fears it could effect our marriage. She also loves to play with my ass and has bought a dildo and a strap. I’m not into that at all actually but I let her do it and she loves it. Being a Alfa make it felt weird but it was ok as I’m open to exploration. She has voiced fantasies of have a bi couple to play with us including the guy wanting to play with me and vice versa with her. I’m not bi but curious as like with her. It’s strange to feel that I would be interested in that but wanted to know if other couples have tried it even men and what was the outcome. We are both opened about our sexuality but have never pushed past our bedroom to seek it out or what to expect

Didn’t think I would be posting this early after meeting our first contact from a swing site. I thought we did everything prior to the meeting that would lead to a new friendship and more. I even wore new underwear. Phone calls, Zooms, wives talking, everything set for a great night. Met at a restaurant we both knew making for a neutral place. We had no problem finding them, we had just Zoomed and knew what they look liked. We spent hours talking, what could go wrong? Debbie gave me the preplanned signal of Let’s go home. What I didn’t plan was an excuse to leave without having sex. I knew the expectation was there, no guarantee made. After a nice dinner we said we would hope to meet again for more. I could tell they wanted more, they invited us back to their home. Quick thinking I reminded them we are new to this and want to digest things, a true statement. I didn’t know what Debbie was thinking or signal giving. We said good night and left without any negative vibes. I was not sure what happened that turned Debbie off, they were nice. She wasn’t specific, she said she just didn’t want to go further. I didn’t push for more reasons. Too bad SNL was a repeat.

Love that you are doing all the smart things from phone, Zoom to having the women make the plans. The caution flag goes up when only the male is responding. If you are reading this before you meet I bet you are having a crazy feeling right now. Meeting new people has become my big pleasure and excitement. A little hint for you is to make up a phrase you or your wife can say that means Let’s Go Home. Go with your gut, better to skip further activity and not regret something later on. Not to be a downer you will learn not every meet goes perfectly. Good Luck 🍀

Never had the experience of seeing her fully indulge with a woman. She is reluctant and not sure if she is attracted to the idea. With that said, kissing and touching is a thing. The first time I saw her aggressively close to another woman was while they were both going down on me together. Between the tongues and kissing, my thought was that I had to go get a beer as an excuse because I didn't want to cum yet. Pretty much still have the same thought now.

It’s Football season and the Rose Bowl didn’t stop me from finishing before Debbie’s partner. I want to say he’s my hero and knows the statistics of every Hall of Famer.

My husband often refers to himself as being orally bi, he has no interest in fucking a man or being fucked by a man, but in the heat of the moment he is okay with sucking dick with me or letting a man suck his dick with me. For me its hot, Its an instant puddle in my panties. I could seriously watch him suck dick all day. And I like when I get a bisexual guy. I am bi and my husband enjoying sex is fun for me too.

It happens plenty at mainstream swinger parties...just usually behind closed doors. Unless there's a night dedicated to it like the monthly "Pan-demonium" at a local one here where it's out in the open. And a couple other sex positive clubs where pretty much anything consensual goes.

While not part of "mainstream" swinging (definitely an oxymoron @njbm) it is probably more common than most people think and we once met a couple whose wife literally came just at the sight of her husband sucking cock.

We know plenty of couples who are into it. The women love it. m/m play in the context of mfmf and mfm play is more common than you might think. And, it would not happen if the ladies weren't enthusiastically in favor - because as we all know - they are in charge.

Main stream swinging is an oxymoron. Swinging is not main stream. Within swinging there are diverse interests. Bisexuality by both genders, BDSM, hot wifing, vixen/stag, dom/sub. Many of these sub interests are currently of no interest to me, but if I am open minded enough to participate in the lifestyle, I owe it to participants in these subgroups to be tolerant and supportive of their interests and not denigrate them.

Every time I read a post about big dicks I know it is written by a man. Men have no control of the size of their dicks, just like they don’t have control of any physical attributes they have. Genes have control of the size of their nose, feet, hands and their height, they can’t do anything to change what nature has given them. Genetics control so much of our physicality, what it has much less control of is personality. What women hasn’t looked in the mirror wishing they looked different, breasts, nose, eyes, hips and even genitalia. I’m sure most men wish they were larger down there, is it the sign of masculinity? I Do Not Prefer Big Dicks Early in my sexual life, having seen a few penises and like most girls my age started to know what a penis should look like both soft and hard I didn’t need a text book explains sex. Most of my girlfriends were becoming sexually active and girl talk was very general in terms of experiences. There was one guy who had a reputation as being very large. He wasn’t very tall and nothing about him gave a clue to his size. I heard he had a third leg, his dick was the size of an arm. I don’t remember the why or how I ended up having sex with him, he was a nice guy, not overly good looking. I wasn’t over sexed looking to have sex with every guy, I just succumbed to the day. As nice as he was he did know what he had and he knew we all knew. He was not the one who forced anyone to have sex, he did think girls wanted him. I guess I had to see for myself. And see for myself I did. He was everything I was told. Once we started he was not forceful, he took his time and kept asking if I’m okay. I really felt it was me who made it hard and painful and we kept going. Details aren’t necessary, I ended up seeing a doctor two days later who thought I was raped which I swore I wasn’t. He wanted to report a rape to the police until I swore over and over it was my choice. He thought I was covering up for someone. How do you explain to your mother and then a doctor the pain you have from having sex?