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In the beginning we had a bunch of rules, but now we do not. In the beginning I had a few minor slip ups, in the heat of the moment, and he had a major slip up. In each case we talked about the transgression, apologies were made, and then I point blank asked him if he wanted to stop or continue. Cause that is what it comes down to. I can't go back in time and take it back, I can only apologize and promise not to break the rule again. Reset the clear boundaries. I am not a child and I will not be scolded nor will I scold because he is not a child. In every instance he wanted to continue in the lifestyle so we recalibrate the rules and kept moving forward. Hope that helps, I know it sounds a little harsh but it's the truth. Good luck.

For sure lifestyle couples should discuss in advance how they will comport themselves when they are in sexual situations with others. And it’s important to identify activities that one or both are uncomfortable with and agree to avoid them. Essential to maintaining the level of trust that enables both to have a satisfying experience in the lifestyle. That said, I also find myself thinking that if in the middle of a great sex session you aren’t on the ragged edge of rationality and control, you might not be doing sex correctly…😉😊 From my perspective, given the situation you describe, this doesn’t seem like such a huge slip. But you report your husband is extremely upset. It makes me wonder if there’s some larger issue here. Just a thought.

Do single guys really think that writing on their profile that they are a dominant bull is going to get them lots of responses? It almost seems like maybe they watch to much porn thinking every woman out there that likes sex is looking for guys to dominate them and all the wives in couples must have some limp dick loser for a husband that has no idea how to please them. For us at least as soon as a guy writes anything about being a dom he is quickly taken off the list as a possible extra. It is a huge turn off for her. She knows how to please a man and does need to be told or pushed to do anything. There is nothing special or sexy about a man that can dominate a woman. It is actually pretty lame. She prefers givers over takers. We have on all of our profiles no interest at all in dom men, but yet they always message anyways thinking they will be the exception. When we tell them not interested at all in dom men they usually say something like I don’t have to play that way. Well that’s nice, but she is not into men that want to play that way. She can and does do better.

Sure some people are into it, but for the ridiculous amount of dudes that advertise themselves this way I am thinking most of them are going to be shit out of luck. The ladies are the ones with the power in the swinging world. If more guys got that and catered to them then more guys would get some.

Yes, why not. The mixed juices taste very good and get me hard very fast. We love cumplay and the intense feeling of natural sex.

Me! I'm super into watching guys suck dick, especially if one of the guys is my husband.

We were in a threesum, I was sucking the other guys dick and my husband moved his face towards mine for a kiss, but I mistook it, and offered him the dick, pushing it towards his mouth and he took it. So we then made out with the dick between us and sucked him off together.

There are plenty of single guys in the lifestyle who just rule themselves out by saying stupid things in their profiles. We frequently say here that the supply of single males in the lifestyle far outstrips demand. The reality; the number of good single men in the lifestyle isn't anywhere near as disparate to the demand for such men. My wife and I can easily run through profiles of single men and go "Nope...<next>...Nope...<next>...Nope...<next>...Nope....<next>..." and on and on. There's maybe 2 or 3 in 20 that are worth reaching out to (if that). When we get messages, similar numbers immediately get excluded because they didn't read our profile or are demonstrating how much of an idiot they are. So many of their unsolicited messages boil down to "Hey, you seem cool. Wanna fuck?" Gets old. Gets really old. We have found a few gems over the years; guys that got to the point of having sex with my wife and with whom my wife had a really good time. When we do find them, we keep them around if possible. Two of them became long term lovers for my wife, spanning years. Very, very worth it rather than having to deal with so much BS from wannabes.

There is a 'market' for that. One of the local clubs even has a night called "The Bullpen" for it. We're also not interested in the "alpha male Dom bull" that writes up a profile like that's an entire personality. Bunch of red flags for us even if we would like to have a dom/sub component to a particular bit of fun on occasion. But I get that some people are into it.

Good advise above, glad you have a strong relationship. Trust is something that is built over time yet quickly destroyed. Apologize and do everything you can to hear his concern. No excuses, just honest responsibility. Frankly, in the big picture of a relationship, we less than perfect humans make mistakes. We do things that we wish we could take back, both in swinging and in our vanilla lives. The fact that naked sex is involved doesn't make it any worse. So, love each other, respect each other, acknowledge ones transgressions and move forward together. He can help, by allowing you to apologize, accepting it in the spirit it is intended and not punishing you for it. it does take two and as you stated you have a strong relationship, don't let this become bigger or more important that it really is. The evening did sounds super fun and sexy.

We also had a bunch of rules that eventually got paired down to only a few rules. One of those is still 'if one of us says no, then we both say no'. It sounds like he is now saying no so you both should be saying no...until he says otherwise (and that may never happen). It may have been (what you think was) a small mistake, but he isn't taking it as such. You have also violated his trust. Spend more time working on restoring that trust and enjoying your time together and put swinging on the back burner until he's ready.

I gave my vagina laser hair removal for her birthday a few years back. I kept a neat little landing strip for fun. But the rest of my kitty is super smooth.

Attraction is super important to me but I can be attracted to a person's mind or personality. I can even be super into the situation or scenario. For instance there have been times where I slept with an average looking guy just because of how insanly much he was into me and he was so nice. I've also slept with a few men in my life because it was their birthday and I think people should be able to have sex on their birthday. Since they were really nice to me or super charming and didn't have anyone, I gave them the world's best birthday present. My vagina on their dick and my boobs in their face!

You first post and I will repeat what has been posted before. This is your fantasy and your fantasy doesn’t count if it’s not hers. How would you feel if she joined and posted on a swinger forum that she wants to watch her husband blow four people?

I love watching a man cum, it creates such a visceral response. The full body orgasm. I fucking love it, knowing it is mine, I caused it, and I own it. Their soul is mine.

That is one of the sexiest things I've ever read.

I personally enjoy cum play, it is messy and naughty and that's my kink. I also enjoy the feeling of a man laying on top of me and then he tenses up and just buries it deep and cums. I like the moment directly after because he generally can't move due to sensitivity, but I still feel him throbbing inside me. The down side is once he starts to move it is way to slippery between my creaminess and his explosion so I can't feel it as much, so for me the fun of sex is done until I can get it out. The other down side is if he came deep it often doesn't come out till the next day and is a surprise. I'll be walking down the hall and then SURPRISE you got panties full of cum! My preferred place for a man to cum is in my mouth. Its less messy. And I enjoy watching the look on his face as I suck his soul from his body. It's pretty erotic.

Sounds like he is being quite respectful to you, as he should be! Sounds like progress. Keep up us informed We're rooting for you.

We had a FaceTime with them that went well, so well that he invited me to his golf club. We had a very nice day even if he trounced me. He is fun, non-threatening, a friend possibly. He remembered Debbie like most men would remember someone over twenty years later. Debbie is an old girlfriend and he emphasized he was pleasantly surprised to see her face on a swinger site. Who would have thought he kept saying. The day wasn’t full of sex talk, it was more about us and what brought us to where we live. He realized we are new to any sex play, they are not new. I was waiting for a swing date invite, his invite was way less sexual. Dinner at the club, driving to this pretty town we heard about, nothing threatening or worrisome. I’m much more comfortable after meeting him on a social basis.

We haven't had a subscription to a swinger's site in quite a while. We did have a lifetime membership to SLS, but decided to cancel it because of all the time wasters and phony profiles. Anyway... How do you tell someone you're not interested? There are two ways. One is polite. The other is less so. When Ann and I would be contacted by a couple in whom were were not interested, we would simply reply, "Thank you for your interest in us. After reviewing your profile, we don't feel we are a good fit. We wish you the best of luck. We're sure you'll find the right couple soon." Or, words to that effect. You don't owe them an explanation, and seasoned swingers have no expectation of one. However, if they persist with more questions or pleas for you to reconsider, block them, and go on with your life. The less polite way is to simply ignore the contact, something we did on occasions when we felt the contact was crude, overtly sexual, and so on. That kind of behavior resulted in an automatic block. Singles were ignored and blocked since our profile was listed as couples-only. The bottom line: To us, on-line swinger matchmaking was a numbers game. If anything didn't match, we passed. We were only interested in meeting the right couples, never the most couples. Quality, not quantity. That policy has served us well over the years. Good luck to you.

Lol... I find the question to be somewhat humorous. What do couples look for in a single man? Um, the answer, of course, is a varied as the couples involved. The notion that there is some universal description of what "all couples" are looking for in a single man is rather unrealistic. At best, we could offer some guideposts that mostly surround your behavior, dress, personal hygiene, etc. Not coincidentally, this is the same advice we'd offer any man looking to meet up with a single (vanilla or otherwise) or open couple: Expect rejection, lots and lots of it (if this thought bothers you, quit while you're ahead) Be a gentleman at all times in your words, deeds, manners, and demeanor Be punctual Be genuine Show interest in her/the couple and don't talk about yourself too much Be sparkling clean, closely shaved, with minty fresh breath, and use cologne sparingly Dress smartly for the occasion, slightly above what might be expected Nobody likes a boozer or drug user (if you do partake in libations, do so in extreme moderation) Have no expectation of sex (it probably won't happen, especially on the first meet up) Always remember the biggest sexual organ is the brain; make her laugh and help her relax, and you're halfway there Give chemistry time to develop and don't be in a hurry The couple always has veto power and they don't owe you an explanation Get tested for the full spectrum of STDs/STIs and be prepared to produce the results when requested Should you be lucky enough to be invited to have sex, always assume a condom is required and bring your own You may have some performance issues (yes, even the Bull God) so bring along a couple of doses of sildenafil (Viagra) Pick up after yourself Don't overstay your welcome A follow-up phone call 48-72 hours later is fine, but don't act like a desperate hound or creep (texting is not acceptable) Never kiss and tell (there is no Expiration Date on your obligation to remain discreet.) Best of luck to you.

I love creampies and the feeling of ejaculating inside her, whiteout any barrier between me and her. A very erecting part for me is when I get near my own orgasm and my cock starts getting even harder and more sensitive. This is when I trust as deep I can and ejaculate very deep in her pussy. The lust of my wife while a man shoots his semen inside her gets her to orgasm. She loves it bareback and getting her pussy filled with sperm. We don't use condoms to get this special and satisfying feeing of her getting filled with cum.

Lips & Tongues, you're started an interesting thread I disagree with your position, but I respect it. I don't consider you 'wrong' because I have a different perspective. For us, a cheater is a 100% deal breaker. It's just our approach to life in general. I don't like dealing with dishonest, morally bankrupt people, and neither does my wife. Knowing that a potential play partner is cheating is a 100000% turn off.

College is overrated. Just convince that child to be an Influencer and live on the beaches of Thailand.

We are attracted to people we enjoy being with on a social level. Our first was with people we met on vacation with no intention to sleep with them. To us they were attractive in that they were fun loving and our initial thoughts were as friends.

My wife is ready anytime time now and she admitted she get herself wet and hornier pretty much everytime sucking my cock and through of receiving another cock either in her pussy or her ass I could tell by feel how wet and slippery with my fingers.I normally brought up to bring in a out of town buddy of mine to join us if we have a chance and she has no objection at all as long as I can be assure it'll remain private and that was the main one make me consider carefully.

Prefer having my pussy totally hairless. I like the way it looks and most men have said they like the look and ease of giving me oral

I didn’t know what to expect when I visited a nude beach. I can’t respond to the fact that there is sex at Cherry Lane, I can say that on the beach I have gone to there were no outwardly sexual activity. People on the beach tend to be older than me and my friends. I do think people do gawk but for the most part nude is not sexual. My first time there I did look. Yes plenty of overweight people. I think even thin people can look awkward nude. I would say most people on the beach aren’t there to show off their bodies or even care what others look like. Once you are comfortable being publicly nude the experience is about feeling good. Who is this writer to judge the people she is gawking at? I think she has deep seeded problems. If she went to do an unbiased report then she failed. Maybe she is denial with her own body and sexuality. Who needs people like this “reporting” on other people’s enjoyment.

Joke All women are bi, it’s your job to figure if it is BiSexual or BiPolar.

And could be a liability financially if sued by the spouce . Rare but does happen