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Whoa, I agree with many of the above responses. You two are on a slippery slope that is getting steeper by the day.

You may not be poly, but it sounds like your wife is! She texts with him daily and they have feelings for each other. Sounds like a little more then just a swinging buddy. This would never get to the point it is for us and if it did it would end immediately. Either you can be fine with your wife having a poly relationship or you can tell her it is done. Don’t think there is any other solution with this one. If you both don’t want it then it should not be happening.

I would say this is probably accurate from my perspective, but I don't say that with regards to women, as much as to my own sense of what I like in oral sex. In swinging situations, it can take a few sessions with another lady before it can get good, if it wasn't good to start with. The lady with whom I'm playing now happens do it in a way that I really, really like. She also really enjoys doing it, and her eagerness shows. Win-win. And now you give me pause in thinking about a past (thankfully once only) swing partner. She did a fair impression of a jack hammer on me. Mr. Happy did an about face and retreated to safety. Maybe she did it to not have to do it. Hmm. I love giving it because the woman I am with almost always thoroughly enjoys receiving it! I really get off on doing everything I can to please my play partner, and I know it's difficult for a woman to orgasm on vaginal sex alone.

Same here to us,the wife seems to enjoyed the 8'' dildo and my cock either DP or DVP especially after I cum.

In theory, there is no difference between theory and practice. In practice, there is.

It sure helps to have a longer guy on top, is our find. But it can work. Sometimes. It is not always.

My wife and I attempted it with one of her favorite swing partners. I'm average length, but quite a bit thicker than average. The other guy was a bit longer, and slightly thinner. We couldn't get it to work. We tried for quite a while too. We concluded that length was key, and we didn't have it for a DVP.

It's not a fetish of mine but I do enjoy going and play at them. We lived in the Phenix,AZ area and would go to glory hole booths and adult theaters

Male half here. I have no desire whatsoever to suck another man’s cock. What I*do* have is an intellectual curiosity to know what it feels like to a woman to give a man a blowjob. Of course, I also have an intellectual curiosity to know what it feels like to be shot in a non-fatal place, but I’m not about to find that out EITHER! 😉

Exactly. The whole reason we're in this is to expand the sexual pleasure. I'm incapable to sucking my husband while he is in me. So we need another cock. I'm incapable of sensually licking a woman while my husband enters me from behind when it is just the two of us. This whole adventure is to expand the pleasure in our sexual life. Together we're wonderful. Bringing in someone (people) is solely to do that. When anything other than straight sexual pleasure starts....we're done. We are extremely selective in terms of repeats, to avoid this. We've seen friends who have repetitive encounters with the same couples end up in situations where feelings start up. That is just a recipe for disaster. No different than someone having a "work husband/work wife". Just the start of decline in the marriage.

Thank you all for your insight. I appreciate it. We will have to have a good long talk about this and get it figured out.

I do as well. It's amazing how much can be felt through the combined walls of a woman's vagina and rectum.

Yes, I have been involved in a couple of dp situations. Always a good time when it works out. The times it didn't work out was usually because one guy was uncomfortable being that close to another guy. The men definitely have to be comfortable with their sexuality.

Mrs Grey is a fan of dvp. Our very first experience was an mfm that ended in a dvp. So when the opportunity arises she’s taking it. Haven’t done dp. Yet

Maybe it just looks better "on paper".

Umm those of us who are of "average"size...... would probably find it frustrating if not impossible. ?? Just saying.....

Yes, I have enjoyed being involved in quite a few. I no overly fond of DV, butt I really enjoy doing dp. Either hole is good for me, I actually like the feeling of the other guy through the wall, then feeling him swell before he shoots. my first wife would get on me reverse cowgirl anal, then lay back on my chest, then the other guy would mount her and be fucking her pussy.

I do enjoy a good glory hole, I like not knowing who the dick belongs to. I did a glory hole at a bachelor party in my early 20s. They set it up out by the pool, it was a box I was paid to get in it for the night and take care of the cock that showed up. It was insanely hot. I was in there for about 3 hours before some one begged me to come out. I was a hot mess, so I dove in the pool to get the sticky off..

Okay, that I don't gt at all: "I'll take one in my mouth and one in my pussy -- or one in my ass and one in my pussy but there's no way I'm taking 2 in my pussy. I'm no slut, you know." ???

Holy BJ Batman!! Did I say that I thought that my wife was a tiger inside? I was hoping for a little play at the c/o lifestyle friendly resort we attended a few weeks ago but I got all of my questions and doubts about my wife answered in spades. It's funny how these things have a way of working themselves out. Anyway I don't want to say too much but it's reallly hard to contain my excitement and love for my wife. The first night, we just played with each other in view of others involved in group play. That night, she woke me up from a sound sleep to play some more (which is actully the first time ever). The next evening, we played in our room for a while until I joked with her about trying some "fresh meat" or something like that. Much to my surprise, she said "well go get me some then". Yippee, I thought. She was serious. So off we went to mingle. It wasn't long before some body shots were being poured around the group. I asked one of the guys sitting near my wife if he wanted to try some on her. Of course he did. One thing led to another and the four of us (his girlfriend also) went to the play room to play. Others joined us at some point until the room was packed. My wife's new guy took a break after lots of mutual oral play and before you could say BJ, two different guys started playing with her. In a one hour span, she had no less than 3 different cocks in her mouth and seemed to love it. These were all guys we had met before, not strangers. They were very polite and attentive - not pushy - and their wives were playing elsewhere but nearby. I asked her about the blowjobs later and she said she "felt she had no choice", but that was not the feeling I had watching her in action. She really seemed to get into it and enjoy it. She is a people pleaser personality and although I always felt that deep down it would make her feel good making her new partner feel good even if its not her favorite activity. Unfortunately, I was having some problems performing, which was unusual for me but not unexpected given everything I've read about group play. It was so erotic watching my wife service these guys in every way possible that I tried not to be too upset by my own shortcomings and the woman I was with was very nice about it. The woman I was with starting giving my wife deep kisses and also went down on her orally for about 10 minutes. Another thing I did not expect (but thought it was possible). She later admitted to me to having many orgasms that evening; but we all knew that because she was the loudest in the room by far. The last evening, we met another couple. The four of us hit it off famously and went straight to our room, avoiding some of the problems (?) that come from group play. It was my suggestion as I was a bit nervous given the prior night. We all played on the same bed and it seemed we all enjoyed each other's company. My wife even gave him some oral play when he was having some temporary down time without being prompted. Anyhow, there is much more i could say but the bottom line is that i've never loved my wife more as we embark now down a slightly different path in life. we've had a few long chats since the trip and sorted out some things that we never really discussed before but I have to say that its all gone pretty smoothly and better than i've ever imagined. We're planning another trip in the next few months and will be visiting a local club soon.

I never much cared for bj's. For me it was always ok and felt good but never a big deal - probably something to do with my first girlfriend gagging and being extremely disgusted after I blew a load in her mouth - maybe affected my later attitudes. Anyhow, since then I came to realize that most women quite enjoy it and partake happily. I found my wife to be a bit odd in that regard and told her so. Over the years I have grown to crave abit more bj. It's like anything else; you crave it more when you can't have it. Could I live without it? Sure, but I'd rather not be made to feel like I have to. I think my lovely wife is really a tiger inside given the right circumstances coupled with a lot of love and positive encouragement. We're heading out to another c/o resort in the next few weeks and we're expecting/Hoping to have a few pleasant experiences to talk about upon our return.

You know oddly I didn't think of this. We did play with one couple where the wife didn't do oral. They didn't give us this rule until we were naked in our hotel room, and I was willing to roll with it. She just laid there dead fish style and it was the most boring sex I've had, ever. It was the one time I really had to concentrate to keep little Mr. Chicup up. I don't know how I forgot about that night until now in this thread, but it was the most forgettable sex ever. Maybe it wasn't a coincidence.

To the OP: yeah, sorry, if a woman really just didn't want to do oral, we would probably consider that a big negative in deciding whether to play. I know that no one should do anything they don't want to do, and that applies to your wife. You can certainly have good swinging experiences no matter what your tastes, but you deserve an honest answer, so you should know that a lot of people will be a bit put off by this. It is best to be upfront about it with potential playmates. There are definitely guys to whom it will not matter. If she were otherwise very expressive of her desire for her swinging partner, and showed him how much she wanted him by being very excited or by being active in bed, that might make up for it. But if she didn't want to do oral and also didn't show Mr. Fuse that she desired him, the lack of evident desire would be worse for him. He doesn't need a blow job. But in order to enjoy swinging, he has to know beyond a doubt that his playmate wants him. I'm sorry if this is a bit harsh. Just being honest. I'm tired and can't quite come up with a good way to soften what I said above. However, if she is turned on by the thought of taking several men, maybe you could start with some variation on that theme, if you think she would like to actually do it in addition to fantasizing about it. I know that would leave you out somewhat, but it could start her on the road to widening her sexual tastes. Before doing that, you should make sure it is something she actually wants, rather than a fantasy she wouldn't like to see come true. Thank you for bringing this up and starting your thread. I hope you will let us know what develops.

We are fairly new to this lifestyle, but I have discovered that the one thing that turns me on more than anything is seeing my husband with another guy. Luckily for me, he enjoys it too! In the few experiences we have had, things haven't progressed beyond him giving and receiving blow jobs, but he is very interested in exploring this new bi side of himself and I am very eager to assist him

Ya know it's funny, seeing my hubby with another woman really does nothing for me. I mean I enjoy it because I know he is enjoying it but I don't really get off on watching him. Now he loves to see me with other men, but unlike most guys could care less about seeing me with other women unless he is in the middle of it. As for the idea of seeing two guys together, that is one of my biggest fantasies.... one that I know will most likely NOT be fulfilled with my hubby