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Neither of us drink...not that we have a problem with others who do, I don't like the taste or feeling out of control and Ms. Gold would rather not have the calories (or take them in a different form). Occasionally we may both take a drink, but we would rather be clear headed so we can remember exactly what went on and think back to the exciting events we have participated in later on.

I've been researching a club called SkirtClub for the last two years. I discovered it just before the pandemic then the world shut down, bummer for everyone, but especially for the sexually adventurous like us. As a bisexual woman it is so difficult to meet like minded women. Lesbians think we are confused and straight women think we are gross. It is difficult to meet women that are truly bisexual. I've met women that are just fulfilling a husband's fantasy or a boyfriends fantasy. Going to the sex clubs invites male energy which is often very aggressive, I cannot tell you how many times I've entered a club and had men just swat my butt, or grab me without so much as a hello, it makes me feel like I'm in a meat market and I'm just under inspection, to the men I'm not a fan. Getting one on one play time with another woman is difficult. Thus enters skirtclub. I finally attended an event recently, and it was divine. It is a women's only club for the bisexual and bicurious. They host events world wide, there are small events called mini skirts which are cocktail mixers where we can meet othe bisexual and bicurious women. Then there are their play parties. These events are women only, there is some educational speaker at the beginning and then a burlesque style performance to create the mood. Some sexy games like spin the bottle and tequilla body shots. The events are held in very posh locations, penthouses and mansions. There are women of all walks of life present, different looks and body styles, wearing sexy clothes and in some cases lingerie, i even saw a gorgeous creature high stepping in nothing but heels, I was so jealous of her confidence. Once the games start women start venturing to the bedrooms and it is so incredible. I walked in one bedroom and saw probably 12 women in a writhing mass on a bed. It is incredibly erotic and intense. I did pare up with a beautiful woman and had an incredible night on one of those female adorned beds. If you are a woman like me please check out skirt club it is truly magical. The website is Skirtclub.co.uk

I have been in the lifestyle for many years and with all of these nights out comes a lot of drinking. We go to a swing club at least 3 nights every week, so that adds up to a lot of drinking. I decided recently that I would like to try to stop drinking, Join the One Year No Beer Challenge (but I drink whiskey). It has only been one week so far and the nights at the club were not great. We did not go back to the playroom so that I have not tried to do yet! I can already see and feel the benefits of no alcohol and would like to stick with it. Has anyone tried swinging sober?

We quit drinking 8 years ago. We enjoyed it, but felt like it was time. Health was a big factor. We are very healthy, but would then consume a beverage, sometime a lot, that was opposite of that. So, I'm not against drinking it just doesn't jive with our lifestyle. When you're sober, the world looks different, you see it differently. It takes time to adjust. Alcohol reduces inhibitions and increases acceptance of others. Once it's effects are gone, you'll see most social interactions in a different light whether that's swinging or having a 'vanilla' backyard BBQ. Over time you'll adjust, you'll learn to be more open and vulnerable without the crutch of alcohol. You may get healthier as well which can increase your self esteem etc. After 8 years I can truly say I'm happy to be alcohol free. Do I miss it? Sometimes, but the benefits always outweigh what it means to go back. You said you first visits weren't so great. Exactly our experience. Time helps. You are in some ways taking off the 'alcohol' mask and now your naked and more real in all situations. Can't hide so much and that is uncomfortable. Work to get comfortable as non-drinkers. Take time to reflect on how your interactions are, in and out of the swinging world. See what you like and do more of that. Hope that helps and makes a little sense.

Actually... yes dominant Bulls. Just not assholes.

Thank you! I am told quite frequently that I give absolutely amazing Head!

After a years long drought we are going to be doing this on Friday. Have a guy we've been talking to for months. We both got tested. So we're ready to go bareback. Going to set it up as an anonymous scene even though we've vetted him. She'll be blindfolded and restrained like she likes. He'll come in and have his way with her and I'll film/join/clean up.

Warning: it can be addictive especially with a female participating.

If swinging is really right for you, size won't make any difference. We have had probably 100 partners over the years. Out all of those, at least one was bigger, one was smaller, one had nicer breasts, one had nicer ass, one had nicer hair, one was more romantic, one was better built, one was ... Get the picture? If swinging is right for you, none of that will matter in the long run. You will still love your primary partner more than anybody else. If that doesn't happen, then you will have found out that swinging is not really right for you. Then, you'd better patchup your primary relationship or get out.

Size is so not everything. And sex is not making love. So there are two things. She may enjoy him a lot and she may even develop "new toy syndrome" where she wants more of him and it may make you feel "less than" but it's important to understand that that doesn't mean she enjoys him more, wants him more or even loves him. He's just different. You are still the one she loves.

Celebrate your [wife's] good fortune. If he really pleases her in bed, fantastic! Try to keep him around for as long as your wife wants, for as many repeat opportunities with your wife as she wants. Lots of smiles? If you're honestly worried about negative effects of another man having a bigger penis than you, I'll readily agree with what everyone has said above. You're not ready to swing. My wife and I have been swinging for a bit over a year now. Of the several men she has had sex with in that time, only one was as thick/long as I am (average length, above average girth). The others have not been noticeably longer, and definitely not as thick. I am disappointed for my wife. I would love it if she found a man with a very large penis, one just barely small enough to get in her without pain, and a man with great talents attached to it. "Thanks John! As you can tell, my wife really enjoyed that! Can you come back Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, ..."

Questions like this are normal for somebody just beginning to think about swinging. I think some of these posts were too harsh and condescending. People come here to learn things and alleviate their petty fears or insecurities. Most of us had them at some point. tamyou, Likeminds gave good advice. I would suggest you keep reading the threads before you go to your wife. You will find out in time if you can get over your concerns. This should be about sexual pleasure as a couple, for you AND your wife. So if a bigger dick does that then you should be glad for her. Do you want to do this and have her not have a great time? Good luck and don't be afraid to ask questions, any question. BTW-welcome to the SB.

What if he doesn't have a bigger Johnson and your wife still likes him more? Chances are, your wife didn't marry a "dick" and she likes having a marriage with fringe benefits better. Cause that's like like having your cake and getting to eat it too! I wouldn't worry about it. If I was you I'd be thinking more along the lines of feeling happy that your wife is having such a great time with this guy's cock, not being worried that she might like his cock more than yours.

Hi and Welcome! Your concern is not uncommon to men who are contemplating swinging. If you and your wife decide to swing you will undoubtedly come upon men who are larger - and even smaller - than you. Your wife may find that a larger penis does give her a pleasure that she does not experience with you, or she may find it uncomfortable. You won't know until she has the experience, but the important thing to remember is variety is one of the main reasons swingers seek out sex with others. Variety is fun and you both should want each other to enjoy exploring new sexual pleasures with people. A secure couple should not fear losing their spouse to a playmate that provides them with something different or even better, sexually speaking. Swinging is about recreational sex, at least I think it should be. If you continue to feel that including others in your bedroom would threaten your marriage, you're not meant for swinging. I don't know how you and your wife would be affected by her having sex with a playmate who has a bigger penis. Talking about this kind of "what if" before you begin to swing would be something you and your wife need to do. Most important though, FIRST you need to find out if your wife has any interest in swinging. Have you brought the topic of swinging up?

There is absolutely no way of knowing how ANY man being with your wife will affect you! The only way to know that is through personal experience. Regarding a larger penis: Truly, you should be happy for her! Remember, you have both given each other the gift or eros. Sex with another is not an emotional tie but a physical pleasure you get to share and share again! If she happens to find a man who is better endowed than yourself, she has multiple orgasms and truly enjoys the activity, you have actually made her that much more happy in this life. That should be your greatest concern. You will feel what you feel no matter what happens. Right now, you need to communicate with each other, discuss the potential fears you both have and, before you take one step forward, be open and honest with both of your desires and thoughts. If you are so frightened of her being with a man with a larger penis, you may actually have deeper issues to consider. Talk it out. Be open and honest! Communicate!!!!!

Susan here-- Well, how would a woman with a tighter pussy affect you? Odds are it's just a nice treat, if size does make a difference to her, but is no replacement for a lover that you are in love with. You're worried about the wrong stuff. Besides, what does she have to say about this ? If you cannot communicate about this, Swinging may not be for you.

*looks over her shoulder to check if Quin is lurking...* To me, you're describing bi-curious. I consider myself fully bi. Not because I like women just as much as men, but because I enjoy Ssex with women as much as sex with men. I won't go and pursue a woman like I will a man, but sex with either is super.

We are both bi-curious. We think of it was we are just sexual,and do not draw a line between the sexes in intimate situations.

I think if someone advertises as straight and then comes out as bi when you meet, yes, that is being dishonest. If they advertise as straight with the intent to play straight, then I don't see a problem. I am straight, but wouldn't have a problem playing with a bi-male couple with the caveat that I wouldn't be involved with the male. We have done that, no problem. We are also nudists and BDSMers as well as swingers. There are a lot of crossovers, but mostly not. So we don't advertise we swing to dungeon denizens, but don't hide it either. We don't advertise that we swing or bdsm to nudists, but don't hide it either. Basically, we will play to the comfort level of whomever we are with. We're really not all that scary.

I don't have any great advice for you unfortunately. Why 2 women is generally considered sexy and not 2 men together I don't understand. In my opinion if hubby was willing to be with another man I know I would absolutely enjoy watching him and be incredibly turned on. He knows how I feel about this, but he firmly reminds me that he won't swing that way; and I won't push the envelope on the issue. Oh well to each his own, but I do believe there's a very big double standard in the bi arena.

Personally I think the telling or not telling depends on the answer to the question 'Am I bi'. If it was a heat of the moment type of thing, then there is little point in telling and it may well upset his wife. My wife is mildly bi, (only with really good friends), but finds male homosexuality really disgusting. If I had such an episode, I don't think telling her would be a good thing. On the other hand if you find you really ARE bi, then telling is important and 'worth the risk'. Not telling is denying who you are, which is never a good thing.