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We have acquired a lovely bed & breakfast in the 1000 Islands (Brockville, ON, Canada) with 3 beautiful suites each with private bathroom + a massage room and other amazing spaces. We have a huge pool and a big hot tub. We would like to find people who would be interested in having a nice dinner party for 3 couples. We would provide a wonderful dinner and dinner-time games to help couples get to know each other. We also have a number of sexy board games that can be played after dinner... As occasional swingers aged 53 and 59, we have found that the only way to meet other singers in groups is clubs...which is not "our scene". We had more fun meeting up couples for dinners and talks, so we thought we would offer this wonderful opportunity to the community. We would organise one-nighters and weekends around similar age and interest groups. Also open to suggestions. Drop us a line!

Sure hope the young lady above gave permission to have herself plastered on the internet!

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, and even though we haven’t known each other long we’re deeply in love and want to get married some day. However, we are also pretty kinky and have been considering threesomes quite a lot lately. I just want to ask about people’s opinions on having an MFM threesome with him and his best friend- I was a virgin before my bf so it would definitely be a big step for us, but I think we’re both into it? He’s bisexual but definitely leaning towards females, and he wouldn’t want to engage sexually directly with his friend, just for them both to do it with me. I’ve never been particularly attracted to the friend (I’ve only met him twice) but I think the threesome idea is fun (I’d like to do it as well as my boyf wanting to do it) and I think he’d be a chill person to do it with (I feel like a random man has potential to be a little creepy). Should I go for it? Or is it all a mistake?

Always remember: search is your friend. While some people have had success with swinging with people they knew, it seems that most of the time this is a bad idea. The two of you MAY be ready and willing, but the best friend may not have ever thought about swinging before and this leads to a bunch of confusion on their part...hey, you only have sex with someone you at least like, right? All too often this ends up with drama and hurt feelings. Also, when something goes wrong, he knows EVERYONE in your circle of friends and family. Would you like what you do in the bedroom to get out to EVERYONE you know? Probably not. It's far safer to make friends out of other swingers than to make swingers out of friends. Also, there are THOUSANDS of swinger guys looking to join a couple (like finding a cheeseburger in McDonalds). With so many guys already looking for couples, why take the chance and damage a friendship? It's just something we don't recommend.

How old are you?

We partied with my wife's neice and her boyfriiend, it was pretty hot because we were in our early 40s and they were bearly legal so to speak. Young stuff make me feel young again.

Hello There, I did hesitate before I write to you but I'm the male half of couple and one day I was in the same situation as your husband and I did react somehow just like him!!! Let me explain to you how I felt maybe you will understand how to deal with situation. We met this lovely couple and things was going very well both having fun and enjoying our time but as some did explain to you seening your Mrs having fun with someone else for the 1st time it has it's effect on some men for the first time but when I saw my wife getting the same pleasure I'm giving her ( even better) I felt threatened felt unsecured felt like OMG she can do this!!! As much as I was enjoying the company of the other guy wife which she was doing her best to keep me occupied, I didn't see all her efforts I've only seen my Mrs opening her legs for another man and I did forget all the times we did wait for this to happen and I just simply stopped and left just like your husband did! Wouldn't deny it took me time to understand but you need to make him feel your heart fully with him and will always be, you will need him to feel he is the main man in your life and no one can take over his place, make him understand that your climax happen even when you play with your self and you wouldn't need another man to make you happy cause he is the only one can do but there lots of things can make any human been climax and do not forget to give him what he love the most ( lots of wild sex the way he likes it ) during this recovery time and he should be fine after little while and I can tell you he will be the one who organise it after this time all the best🤞

Not the way to start. Wend your way through girlfriends, get some experience. If you go to a swing club, you will explode with a handshake.

I do not think that this is the pool that you want to jump into right now. Learning how to be in an adult one on one is probably wiser at this stage of your life.

Sorry you both are going through this You've gotten a lot of great advice above that I totally agree with so I won't try to rehash what others have said. The first thing that entered my mind when reading your post was "time heals all wounds." I don't mean to throw that old cliche out there to minimize what you both are going through right now. Rather, as trying to be a voice of optimism since it's easy to get really down in these situations and think things are hopeless. I don't think things are hopeless, it just feels that way right now since everything is still so raw. Once time dulls that raw edge a bit, things will start to look a little better and you can figure out how to move forward together. In fact, I think that is already happening since he was ready to talk some now where before he wasn't, so that's good. Wishing the best of luck to the both of you as you work through this. Swinging or no swinging, please stick around the site as long as you like, Hopefully we have something to offer you but I think you have a lot to offer us too. Swinging is not always one endless party, there can be a dark side too, so stories like yours are important.

I have written about this at length in other threads: Far too many couples decide to jump into the lifestyle without having soberly considered both the potential upsides and downsides. Swinging is not a good fit for most marriages and far more marriages have been ruined by having sex outside of the relationship than have been helped. This should be the starting point of any serious discussion about swinging. A couple should know they are rolling the dice and considering an activity that is, by definition, high risk--both to their relationship and to their physical and emotional health. And far too many people in the lifestyle act as proselytizers trying to convert people to the lifestyle. This is extremely misguided if not borderline unconscionable. It is unfortunate the OPs are having such a difficult time. We encourage them to seek out professional help immediately. This is not the kind of thing that a couple can ordinarily resolve on their own. And the longer it goes on unresolved, the more damage is being done. Wishing them the best of luck.

Our marriage is fine we even thought about having kids this year something both me and him really wanted we are both 36 and met when we were 23 married at 25 so going on 11 years soon. I know his time all the way from high-school college was hard on him and he was a bit shy, but always kind which is why I ended up with him and why I find him attractive I have been with so many assholes. I also know he struggled with bullying and exclusion for many years and had a rough childhood but instead of being angry at the world he was just kind which is why I love him. He is not angry with me but I seemed to have triggered a past trauma in him that he seems reluctant to share he seems embarrased by it so I know there is more to this. And if that's the case I will do whatever it takes to help him get through it, it's painful for me to see him like this. I never meant for this to happen and I am not some evil person who wanted to break him.

How exactly did you talk him into it? He’s a grown-up, isn’t he? He could have said “no” at any point prior to your physical encounter with this other couple … or even prior to meeting them. I agree with the other posters that you two need a lot of open, honest communication and maybe professional help. But you didn’t talk him into this … he LET HIMSELF be talked into it! Don’t take on all the guilt.

Of course swinging is off the table I don't care if I never do it again to be honest it was not worth this.

Was not a fantasy of mine at the time but did have a 3 some with twin brothers. It happens when my husband was in the Army and stationed in north Carolina, he was deployed and I would go to Walmart alot. I went so much that workers there all knew me lol. Well one of the employees was a good looking black guy Jeremy and he would always talk but it never felt flirtatious just normal talk. I was at Walmart one day and was talking to a few employees telling them about how my car need a part and how much the shop was going to charge me. Jeremy said him and his brother worked on cars and if I got the part they work fix it for me. I asked how much and he said to just get them beer. I said ok and I'll make dinner too. So they came over on their day off and when they showed up I was shocked to see they where identical twins. After they fixed my car, they ate and we sat and drank. We drank Liston to music and talked. Next thing I know I'm on my knees sucking both of them and then they started fucking me. We finished fucking and we sat around for a while then we went for round 2 then they left

I messaged you all but please any new people - simply message me instead of posting here. Now let's get back on topic. Our newest neighbor, a tiny little thing, cute as can be, perky, fit, with a very attractive husband, came up to me asking for help. Among other things my neighbor asked me if she should ask her husband if he was bisexual. I asked her, are you? She said – it certainly turns her on. We talked for quite a while and many more times after that building quite the relationship. I enjoy talking sex with her from her fresh young perspective. Months later jerking her husband off while dildoing him she had him so turned on that she asked, “Oh my goodness, you love sucking down your cum when I feed it & getting your ass fucked so much wouldn’t you love a bunch of guys fucking your mouth and ass all day filling you full of their cum?” He said YES! That’s how she found out for certain. She told me she fucked and jerked him 4 more times talking about bisex, sharing cocks, cum, and getting his ass fucked and cum filled. So we may have a new younger couple joining us one day…

My gf and I have always wanted to play with another man, finally it happened! We met a guy on SLS and I finally got to give him head while my girlfriend watched. What an incredible sexual feeling and what a great fuck that followed. Guys you don't know what your missing if you haven't emptied a cock in your mouth!

Sounds great to me. I always let the mood set the rules. I go with the flow and have enjoyed MM action like yourself. Always better with a hot wet woman to watch and then take part. Keep it up. Enjoy.