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That being the case all I have to say is pathetic.

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, and even though we haven’t known each other long we’re deeply in love and want to get married some day. However, we are also pretty kinky and have been considering threesomes quite a lot lately. I just want to ask about people’s opinions on having an MFM threesome with him and his best friend- I was a virgin before my bf so it would definitely be a big step for us, but I think we’re both into it? He’s bisexual but definitely leaning towards females, and he wouldn’t want to engage sexually directly with his friend, just for them both to do it with me. I’ve never been particularly attracted to the friend (I’ve only met him twice) but I think the threesome idea is fun (I’d like to do it as well as my boyf wanting to do it) and I think he’d be a chill person to do it with (I feel like a random man has potential to be a little creepy). Should I go for it? Or is it all a mistake?

What did she say?

Every other month seems rather active!

Since you don’t know it may have been performance issue

I did a Tineye search and the pictures were posted on numerous sites years ago. It looks like this board has been inundated with hoaxers with outlandish claims and pictures.

I'd like to offer this. A great deal of what goes on in the lifestyle is fun; no doubt about it. That's not the difficult part. Your idea sounds great in theory - are you truly ready for it? Have you discussed what you would and would not do with this third person? Are you aligned on what you are both looking for? This is the tough stuff and this board is filled to rim with tales of exploits gone wrong. Take the time to plan this; sweat the details. Then when it happens, you can enjoy it because you have done your homework, know what to expect, and are prepared to deal with it - the good and the bad.

I would suspect that your husband is feeling very vulnerable and perhaps hurt at this point. He may not have been ready to see you enjoy another man. Make sure that he knows that he is your husband and you are his wife, and that this has not changed that. Take the time to heal, and help him to work through this, ensuring that he knows that you are not going anywhere and that your love and respect for him has not diminished but only grown. We wish you a positive outcome!

Reclamation sex is one of the hottest parts of the lifestyle, (so I'm told, we're still rookies) and it seems like you two need that. I'm not sure how since he flinches when you initiate. But don't give up.

Always remember: search is your friend. While some people have had success with swinging with people they knew, it seems that most of the time this is a bad idea. The two of you MAY be ready and willing, but the best friend may not have ever thought about swinging before and this leads to a bunch of confusion on their part...hey, you only have sex with someone you at least like, right? All too often this ends up with drama and hurt feelings. Also, when something goes wrong, he knows EVERYONE in your circle of friends and family. Would you like what you do in the bedroom to get out to EVERYONE you know? Probably not. It's far safer to make friends out of other swingers than to make swingers out of friends. Also, there are THOUSANDS of swinger guys looking to join a couple (like finding a cheeseburger in McDonalds). With so many guys already looking for couples, why take the chance and damage a friendship? It's just something we don't recommend.

How old are you?

Sure hope the young lady above gave permission to have herself plastered on the internet!

As a therapist, I do not think analyzing family dynamics based on a single post to be ethical, so I will refrain from making any judgements. That seems the best bet. If you would like to engage in a discussion on good parenting practices, I am more than willing to do so, but I think that should be a thread in a different area. I have said my piece here on this topic and I will pray for the family to have a good resolution.

I also like the “spit roast.” Man (or woman) is f’ing woman from behind while the woman is going down on a man (or a woman). Early in a our career, an attractive blond woman in scattered lingerie was bouncing up and down on me. I leaned up for a better view. Blond, boobs, dangling bra and a woman getting spit roasted behind her. I came immediately.