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What the hell is wrong with single men in this lifestyle? My wife and I recently decided to seek out a single guy for some occasional threesome fun, and besides the usual morons who replied and bragged about being a “dominant bull” (GOODBYE!!!), we had a few promising replies who initially abided by what we stated we required. I (husband) do the initial screening, chat with the guy for awhile, where I set the ground rules, including that he’s already gotten all the pictures (G-rated) he’s going to get, and to show respect for my wife. I then have my wife communicate with him directly (her desire). Invariably, the guys then lose their minds, request naked photos, try to get sexually graphic, etc. They literally fuck up a free lunch, because they can’t control themselves. What the eff is wrong with these guys?? Abide by our rules, be respectful, and you can possibly have regular NSA sex with a gorgeous woman, but they still manage to fuck it up. <rant off>

Are all single men absolutely clueless idiots? Yes...yes they are. That's why single guys have such a bad reputation...because they deserve it. Oh, there are some good ones out there (I hope), but while not as rare as unicorns they are few and far between. Good luck and just keep looking...

We found a good match on AFF. Friendly, funny, not pushy, cute, understanding, messaged us for months before a meet...but then turned out to be a lousy fuck. 🙃

To answer your question not all single men are absolutely clueless idiots, but about 99.5 percent of them seem to be! In the ten plus years we have been in this lifestyle we have had exactly one threesome with another man and that is not, because we don’t give them a chance. You always hear how single women are the unicorns, but yet we have been able to find a fair amount of them in that same time frame. For us the real unicorn seems to be attractive, in shape, respectful men that actually get it. I honestly never would have thought that it would be so hard to find a guy like that to have incredible non commitment sex with my sexy lady, but it is. Maybe if some of these clowns actually did a little research on what women and couples really like and want instead of getting all their ideals from porn there would be a better chance for them.

As a couple people have said, the number isn't a big deal. Two 40 year old women, one married for 15 years and one not. The married woman was a virgin prior to marriage, has sex with her husband 3 times a week = 2,300+ times. The unmarried woman has a few new partners a year, averages sex once a week due to random dry spells every so often. Her total is 780 encounters, but 30 partners. Is the woman with the more partners a slut merely because she had different relationships over the same period? I don't really care how many guys a woman has been with. A big number would lead me to inquire because I bet there are some awesome stories to be heard. It wouldn't be a turn-off by any means.

So, someone in chat - who shall remain nameless - asked me if I liked giving oral and if I was good at it. Well, yes, I replied I like giving oral pleasure, but I honestly don't know if I am any good at it, LOL. Hubby says I am, but that's like asking if I am fat...how else is he supposed to answer? That convo got me thinking, what makes a great blow job? I've heard it's enthusiam, but suspect technique has got to have something to do with it! Give me your best tips for making a blow job mindblowingly unforgettable. Was there a technique she used? Ladies, what's your signature move? Guys, do you like it nice and sloppy, suck hard or soft or mix it up? Do you like a little touch down below? Like your balls worshipped? Personally, I like to nibble around the head and when very excited...while getting fucked for instance, I tend to bite harder at the base. I supposed this move is more for me than him, but hey, what else is a girl to do with a cock in her mouth while having an orgasm? I am really wanting to step it up a notch in this department and set myself apart from the pack. Very much looking forward to any assistance you sexy people can offer!

Seems the topic here is something along the lines of 'what canned answers can I prepare to respond to a reluctant spouse?' Everyone has hesitations surrounding the unknown. It is best to have a deep discussion about them. One person's hesitation for not wanting to swing doesn't necessarily follow someone else's. Thus, having prepared responses isn't going to get you anywhere once you state them. Example, back when I was doing moot court I was assigned a side of a case I didn't believe in. My 'opponent' had strong beliefs in their side and had prepared certain points to make (and some 'zingers' to get the panel of judges on his side). Once we were in front of the panel, I let him run his prepared points. I stood silent when he ran out. It was over. Rather than being ready to discuss the case at hand he prepared specific points and blew his load within a couple minutes. He had nothing else to say other than to repeat the points he already made. I pointed this out "your honor, counsel continues to restate the same point over and over, just wasting the court's time". I then proceeded to blow holes in everything he noted and asked a dozen questions about the facts of the case, trying to understand, trying to see the issue from multiple angles, beyond his handful of prepared points. He had nothing but canned responses. He was unable to discuss the matter at hand. One needs to discuss the idea of swinging, not "argue" a point, not counter her concerns. You say "But when having this conversation I feel it's best to be prepared and do your homework as to how they might respond." This is a horrible way of having such a discussion with your spouse about anything, especially swinging. You shouldn't have prepared responses to counter her concerns. You need to listen and understand her concerns. What if she says she doesn't want to see you with another woman because she walked in on her mom with someone who wasn't her father? What "prepared" response would you have there? What if she says she doesn't want to be in a situation where there is another man in the room because of some traumatic incident when she was in college? Your preparation isn't going to do any good. I'm just an outsider here, responding to your post. Just my two cents. There was a recent thread about a couple who swapped. The husband didn't handle it well and they're splitting up. Swinging isn't for everyone. And no amount of "homework" will change that.

We used the lube launcher at home and it was way more comfortable and messy but so what. On a funny note I wrote someone privately and now I’ll share. Preparing for our first use of the launcher my wonderful sweet terrific hilarious husband launched the lube in my butt. Not wanting to waste I let him make use of something we hardly ever do.

I have got to get MrsCE22 on here for this one. Last year she made it her mission to learn how to give the best blow jobs after I made mentioned that a partner gave a great bj. I already thought my wife gave great blow jobs, but I have to admit she has blown my mind (pun intended) with what she has learned to do. I cannot tell you all the techniques she uses but here are a few. When she starts before I have any erection at all it is incredible. She gets very active with her tongue and it sends chills up my spine. Licks from bottom to top, flicking her tongue left to right Gentle nibbles, and sometimes not so gentle, all along my shaft, - it is not IN her mouth, she is positioned more like she is playing the harmonica rather than sucking on a lollipop, if that makes sense. She deep throats - something about the pressure from the back of her throat really feels good. She REALLY deep throats - she will lie on her back with her head hanging off the bed, like she is looking at the wall, and is really able to go deep AND I am in perfect position to play with her breast and pussy. She applies a good bit of pressure with her tongue, flicking it back and forth all around the base of my penis, like the soft spot between my leg and abdomen. It almost tickles, but it drives me wild. She REALLY sucks it, I don't mean just puts it in her mouth, I mean REAL suction, particularly towards the head. She will create a great deal of suction and then pull back so that I pop out of her mouth making "pop" noise when the suction breaks. The pressure on the nerves around the head is intense and fantastic. Enthusiasm!! Her BJ's are great and she REALLY likes giving them, but there are times when she is so gung ho to have it in her mouth it is unreal. When she wants to suck it is great, when she is craving to suck it, it is out of this world. Those are just a few of her techniques that I can describe. Like I said I hope she comes on here and gives her point of view, because she gives the most incredible bj's ever.

This one is easy. 1. Wet wet wet. 2. I love the tip to about 1/3 of the way down sucked (tongue use encouraged). 3. Balls balls balls.. (Ass play works too ) This makes me shake uncontrollably during orgasm.