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So what you’re saying is because a woman never asked you for it, that means NO women ever ask for it?

I am ranting. I have tried a different site, Feeld. Chatted with a “single male”. He wanted to be sure I understood the “lifestyle.” Yes. After a fair bit of chatting we decided to meet halfway, a little over a 30 minute drive for me. Brief introductions were exchanged and we started talking lifestyle experiences. I asked if he found it challenging as a single male. Then he said he needed to “clarify” so there wouldn’t be any “expectations.” Yes he is married but his wife is blind and they didn’t talk much about his outside activities but she is aware. I needed to clarify if this meant she would be upset by what he was doing. Yes. That’s cheating in my book and I left. My mistake was not confirming his status. I don't have a problem if the other partner is fine with it and have enjoyed meeting the other half in the past. His actions are not ENM at all. He sent some message how everything isn’t black and white. I doubt the wife is so blind she can’t see what an asshole he is. The excuse itself is offensive. I flagged his profile as fake because it is. Some people are okay with cheaters but I am not, won’t knowingly hurt someone else.

Male half here. We are out of the swapping game now and have transitiones to hotwife. Peaches' profiles start with ***READ MY ENTIRE PROFILE***. Should be simple enough, right? Her profiles say exactly what she is looking for in a FWB. If you don't meet the requirements, why waste your time sending a one word intro? "Sup?" or "8.5 and thick" are not going to get a response and definitely not going to get in her panties. Sending an unsolicited nude is an instant ignore. Single men, please read their profiles.

And then there are the Incels, who blame women for their clueless idiocy, which has led to a sexless life.

I had the opportunity to meet a new cuckold couple over the Memorial Day weekend. The encounter was different because I did something that I have not done in a long time. We met on another social networking site and I only saw a picture of their genitals. No face pics and we didn't even talk on the phone. Normally I don't meet anyone that I have not had a conversation with on the telephone. Despite the many times that I have been stood up when I did this in the past, I decided I was going to take a chance. I was pleasantly surprised. After reaching out to them and telling them that I was going to be traveling to SW VA, the wife sent me a reply telling me they had planned to be in that area for the holiday too. I was excited as it has been a while since I played with any cuckold couples. I told her to keep me posted and let me know when they get close to the hotel. She text me and said that they were 30 min away. I showered, got dressed, and got to the hotel at the same as them. To set the mood we smoked a joint and had a little to drink. Everyone was horny and ready to go by then. I started taking off my clothes and then ordered both of them to get undressed. I had both of them kneel in front of me and start sucking my cock together. She told him not to forget my balls. He started on my ball and she continued to work the shaft. I got so turned on I had her stand up and then kissed her in the mouth. He continued sucking my cock until it was erect. Then I told her to get on her hands and knees and scoot towards the edge of the bed. I ordered her cuckold to prep her so that I could let her feel my cock. As soon as he moved away, I slid my cock into her. We played twice that night. They decided to stay in town and get a room the second night. I went by to smoke and have a drink with them. Ended up playing again the second night. Like I was saying, this was totally out of character for me because I usually don't even leave the house until I have seen pics of both people and talked to them on the phone. However, I took a chance that weekend and it really paid off.

I find this post deeply offensive. Nobody ever wants to talk about the married men that are assholes. The married guys that lack the social skills to communicate with another human being. The lame married guys that feel entitled to do or say what they want because they are married. The married guys that are always looking for someone to fuck without their wife even knowing. The married guys that post pictures of their wives and other women in their family without their consent. The married guys who do not respect other men but expect you to treat them and their wives as some sorta queen. The confused married guys who claim to be cuckold's but secretly want to be dominant and control the whole scenario. The confused married guys that act tough but be all in your DMs asking if they can suck your cock or if you will fuck them. The married guys that are lame as fuck and ride on the coattails of their wife just to give them some status. The married guys that want you to spoil their wife because they cannot. The married guys that pimp their wives out for money because they are not successful themselves. See what Im saying.....I been at this for 20+ years and each one of those descriptions is an example of married guys that I have encountered in the lifestyle. The fact that you would lump all men into the same category when you have not met all men speaks volumes for the type of human that you are. If you are really interested in improving the lifestyle then there are other ways that you can provide feedback to single guys that you feel are problematic. Lets not forget, single men are relevant in the swinging lifestyle because some married men are unable to keep up with their wives sex drive. Plus, when event planners have cash flow problems its normally the single men that make up the difference.

1. You’ve gotten all the photos you’re going to get, DO NOT ask for more, and especially DO NOT ask for nude photos. 2. DO NOT get sexually graphic when communicating with her, she finds it a total turnoff. 3. DO NOT try to meet her alone, that will instantly end our interactions. 4. If we make plans to meet and you don’t show, don’t bother contacting us again. We think they’re all very reasonable and very easy to abide by, but almost as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow, guys lose their minds and seemingly go down the checklist.

In those circumstances, I don't think it's my personality, I'm better at fucking hard and satisfying a guy cum quickly.

??? Tis true tis true. I had never asked for this, it sort of happened via finger, then toy, then we did plan it with a strap on, then of course with other people we begin to plan it out. My lady friends tend to be the best at being the 2nd person and planning doesn't normally have to take place, it can simply happen. Men tend to get frustrated, get soft, etc. It takes the well oiled machine of men who know what the heck they are doing along with the right fit, we have to have it worked out ahead of time. Yes it is logistics - lol. Call UPS or Fed Ex to assist with that. Now, as I have stated before, I do love it when done well! For me the orgasms are so off the chart, our sex buddies who are in the stock market wish I were a publicly traded company. Once in a while we have had a guy be able to sneak up while one of us is on top and do a good job backdoor. The multi dual orgasms are incredible for either of us. As I mentioned, it is easier for one of the other ladies to be that the 2nd person in the dp and at this point I don't care who it is. It blows my mind and body! The more we have been able to do it with other men involved, the more comfortable my husband has gotten and the more he has enjoyed it. As MidWestHoneys mentioned, the male contact thing is not a problem whatsoever and then some. Back to the whole asking for it. I do request it now, but a lot more often via strap on, dildo, sex machine, or of course fingers. Two penises are doable but tough to arrange. Sometimes its just better to go with simple though as MidWestHoneys hinted at, it is an incredible visual for others, men in particular.

Honey has been with many single men who just want to fuck. Most men want a woman to enjoy the fuck and get her off. The idiots I have watched her with were when they with other idiots trying to prove something. Honey will do almost anything if the man is not an idiot. She will try any position if you respect her. The idiots would have a better sex time if they show respect.

we haven't seen this thread since almost 3 years ago. We tried dvp a couple weekends ago. I am the longer of the two, he is the thicker. We tried with her reverse doggy on me and he tried getting between her legs. It was awkward and almost worked but he couldn't get in and after a few min he went soft. I was rock hard with anticipation. We will definitely try again with him and from what we have read, swap places.

Please consider this and accept it without judgement. This pursuit; "swinging", "the lifestyle", etc, what ever you wish to call it is predicating on communication. Communication within the couples involved and communication between the couples involved. Open, honest, frequent communication creates trust which increases the chances of having a good experience. You have stated that "anytime we try and talk through this problem, it turns into an argument". Getting past this will be key to moving forward for the two of you, clearly. If you can't communicate as a couple, your chances are poor of communicating effectively with another couple as you will not be moving forward with one voice and aligned in all respects.

We found a good match on AFF. Friendly, funny, not pushy, cute, understanding, messaged us for months before a meet...but then turned out to be a lousy fuck. 🙃

We had some questions we would like to ask, and we appreciated those who could share their history. What do you feel the first time you see another man enter you or your partner enter another woman and vice versa? How did you start swinging? Did you play with friends or strangers? Did you use condoms or not? Did you let the other guy cum inside (assuming you were taking the pill or similar and that you trust the other couple)? Did you notice any physical difference? My answer is the following. English is not my first language, so sorry for any mistakes. Even now, we feel we are "almost" new in this new world, and that was 100% true until a few years ago (2019). We had talked about the LS for many years until we finally made a web profile in a local S community. After some time talking online, we finally met with some couples in restaurants. We had a really nice match with the fourth couple we met. They are really handsome and funny and were also new in the S community; they were about 10 years older than us (we were at the end of our 20s). They shared the same fantasies and worries as us that consist basically in having a good match, trusting new people, and safe sex. After that, we started talking more often. Unfortunately, we all have somewhat chaotic schedules, so it was a couple of months later when we met again for a more intimate meeting. First, we meet in a hotel, one month later at our place, just for soft swaps. The four of us had greats moments but also were really nervous, so we took things slow. After that, we progressively shared more fantasies, intimate pictures online and gained more confidence. We were becoming friends really quickly, but something that made us trust in them completely was that they had just had a child a few months before meeting us, and she was breastfeeding. Of course, she didn't want anything to happen to her son and for them as well as us (and surely for anyone on this page); the most important thing was the safety of their bodies and that of their children… Even so, maybe the next thing sounds a bit innocent or irresponsible, and years ago is something we never thought we'd do… We decided to play at 100% with them, and to do it without condoms. Obviously, it was because the feeling is more intimate that way and simply because we trust them completely. Also, both girls were on the pill; both couples checked themselves before playing, and we were sure we were just playing with each other. The next time we met was at their place. It would be the second man for me, and practically the second woman for my husband, so we were really nervous, but super excited (In their case, they have a much longer history than us, not in the LS but with previous partners). We arrived at their place trembling a little despite all the trust we had built with them, knowing that this time we would do it, made everything quite intense. They have prepared a nice environment with candles and low light. Everyone started with their own couple. When it comes to being naked and touching each other, our previous encounters already made us all feel completely comfortable so everything went smoothly. Eventually, the girls started playing a little bit with each other in a classical 69, while our own husbands penetrated us. I'm really shy, so I didn't dare to go all the way to licking her. For me it was more about seeing at close how they were having sex and some small liking here and there (especially right in the union, but closer to the guy). I was nervous but I loved every second of it (And really impressive also). She was much more comfortable with me and my husband and I could feel how she was really into licking me and even taking my husband out of me to suck him or licking me. In our first meetings, we (the girls) "almost" didn't do anything bi, and it was a whole new experience for me and something I always had wanted to do. Eventually, someone asked if we were ready, and we said yes. Then both girls lay on our backs and waited for each of our husbands to enter us (mine in her and her husband in me). My husband and I had many plants about that moment. The most important was to look at each other bodies at the moment of the first insertion, but there were so many new sensations that it was difficult to keep track of everything that was going on. I had my legs spread, and our friend was waiting with his big tool really close to my entrance when my husband started to enter our lady friend. She was on her back next to me. Before my husband entered, he looked at her in the eyes, like asking her if it was ok to enter, to which she nodded and looked at the perfect penis pointing right at her wet entrance. Then my husband looked at me in the eyes with the face of a kid in a candy store, and then he moved close to her. My husband was really excited when he entered her slowly, and a delicious moan of pleasure escaped from her when he fully entered. I felt great for him (for all of us) for having that crazy experience. My husband mentioned how the internal fold and the texture inside her feel a little bit different than mine, also delicious but in a different way, but not something too notable. In addition, the lubrication was slightly different than me but just a little bit (he had been inside me just seconds before so the fluids of both girls were a little bit mixed). Because of my position, I just could see the borderline of their connection while my husband entered her. I would have liked to look closer, but when I was trying to pay more attention to them, another penis got in contact with my vagina. I felt a big electric shock in all my body that made me totally forget about what my husband was doing. I looked at my new lover. He started rubbing his penis at my entrance, making my whole-body tremble... then he began to enter me slowly. My body was extremely ready despite my mind being a little nervous. I did not offer him the slightest resistance… It was incredible how my body could make me feel the same sensation that only my husband had made me feel, but in that case, it was a new man inside me. The physical sensation was practically the same (He is a little longer than my husband when he is totally hard, but unfortunately, he was not completely hard, maybe 95%, but it was understandable due to the nerves of the moments) still he filled me all, crashing against the deepest part of me. it was delightful... What was totally new and different was the whole experience. I was having sex with someone new right in from of my husband! And far from jealous, what we felt was exciting about the experience. Also, the intimacy of the act I was doing with our friend (and my husband with our girlfriend) was super profound and a fantastic experience, difficult to describe. My husband told me how he managed to see a little as the other guy entered, but the girl connected to him was taking a huge part of his attention. What he liked the most was my surprised face during the whole process. Our only rule was that the boys should finish outside. Their rule was that we couldn't kiss them on the lips. Ones of the thing I liked the most during the sex act was how my new lover, at a moment of great passion, suddenly brought his mouth close to mine (their kissing rule was more of a suggestion than a rule since she had also kissed my husband but only slightly, but my new lover's kiss was very deep and sinful, it was only for a couple of seconds but I loved it). We played for a while. It was fantastic how from time to time my husband kissed the girl's breasts or touched my breasts and kissed me (while staying connected to the girl). My husband loved the moans that the girl and I were doing and the face of pleasure that we had while new men were inside of us. After some time, my new lover was already completely hard. Even then, the physical feeling was practically the same delicious sensation I felt with my husband (not counting all the mental sensations that it was totally new). It was really interesting, but maybe it was due to the fact that the difference between the boys was not too notable (for the girls who have been with more boys, do you feel some difference if your new partners have a noticeable size difference? I know size doesn't matter, and its more about technique and how you interact with you partner, but what about when there is a really big difference, like a super big or super small guy… do you feel like the guy is breaking you apart or that the guy stays a little bit loose inside of you?) Unfortunately, after a little bit too short time later and like adolescents with their first girlfriends, both boys came outside of the girls due to nerves. First, my husband and that got my new lover too excited and make him cum almost immediately after. Now we fantasize a lot about that moment and we wish the men would have finished inside of the girls and then do it again just after the guys have cum inside (have any of you done that?), but at the time, we were too insecure with the pill (even if by that time we had years taking the pill and my husband always cum inside of me, but this was a new guy, so my husband and I were a little bit nervous about it). Also, we would have felt very embarrassed to tell them that we wanted to do that at that time. After the guys finished, we took a bath, and then we started playing again (each with each own partner) until eventually, their one-year-old baby started to cry in the other room, and we ended up the night. The experience was wonderful, and it left us wanting much more. We feel that to make it a completely perfect experience, we needed to have had even more confidence and be more open with them, especially more communication at the moment of play. We would have liked not to feel those little nerves when we played. However, we didn't have any other opportunity to see them because the world stopped in 2020. We talked for some time, but eventually, things cold down when we moved. After that, my husband and I have had many fantasies that we hope to do in the future. We know that parties or large groups are not our things and it's more about finding really close friends to play with... we'll see what the future holds😊

Just before the holidays I got a message from a couple on SDC. The wife explained that her husband travels for work and sometimes she travels with him. We chatted up until the night they were supposed to fly into BWI. I received a text from her the next day telling me that they had landed safely and she was looking forward to meeting me that night. I got excited. At this point, I was hoping that they wouldn't have a change of heart because I really wanted to get laid. I arrived at the hotel about 8:30 pm that night and sent the address to her. She confirmed receipt of the text but I didn't hear from her again for a while. I thought for sure that they were going to stand me up. Finally around 10:30 pm she texts me that they are leaving and she be arriving at the hotel shortly. I got excited again...lol. Fifteen minutes later I get another text letting me know that they have arrived at the hotel. I go down to meet them and walk with them back to the room. At first there was a bit of awkward silence, I was worked up and ready to go but I could tell that she was not. I offered her an edible. She accepted. I bought two bottles of wine and between the three of us we finished those. I stepped outside to go smoke and she decided to join me. While outside she gave me the rundown, told me what there rules where, and then said "mf your loyalty is to me and not him". I simply nodded and said "ok". I take it that she was feeling a lot more relaxed when we got back to the room because she immediately started getting undressed. He was in one bed sleeping. We got into the other bed and started making out. Played for a while and then took a break. She threw the covers back on the bed we were in and then slid into bed with her husband. I watched as she sucked him off and he fucked her. After they were done, she rolled over and got back into bed with me. I got an instant erection and we played again. Now this is when I got nervous. I think it was close to 1 am when we got finished playing, I had to go to work in the morning, and I could tell that she was no where close to being done. We stepped outside to smoke again and as soon as we got back to the room she got undressed again. The second round started just like the first round but when she got out of my bed and into bed with her husband I rolled over and went to sleep. I heard them sucking and fucking but I had nothing left to give this woman. When I woke up they were gone. I would love to play with her again but several things that she has said since make me think that I will never see them again. Oh well, at least I have the memory from that one time that this hot wife made me tap out.

No, didn't strike me as cuckold. Just a happy swinging couple who sometimes play separately.

Did my previous post strike anyone as cuckold? Just curious. I just think of it as alone play, which is not uncommon among our group (and Daniela likes FFMing with this couple). Either way is fine with me, we started with her hotwifing.

we had our first MFM and the time from when kissing started to my wife throwing in the towel was about an hour. Unfortunately, very little foreplay, before he put on the condom and started fucking. When we hit an hour, my wife said, she couldn't take it any more. She tried to finish him with a BJ and he said he had another hour before he would cum. We called it a night, she felt horrible and thought she was not sexy enough to make him cum. This experience has really put an obstacle in having a second experience.

Looks like you are excited to have your cocks rubbing together and nothing to do with her. Just have a sword fight if you want to touch his cock. I never met a woman who asked to have this done to her. It is always a guy fantasy.