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It isn't at all uncommon for new couples in the lifestyle to have minor and sometimes even major disagreements over just what the rules for the night were, and what happened. An old rule of thumb; if you're setting rules, don't change them during the evening. Here though it sounds like there were expectations that weren't met, and perhaps better communication would help things. It doesn't sound like your wife did anything that broke the rules. It sounds like you were taken aback by what she did, and that exceeded what you expected the evening was going to be. From my chair; this is bump in the road, not a dramatic incident. I don't mean to invalidate your feelings in the slightest. If this feels like more to you, tell us. We can try to work it out with you. It's wonderful your wife had such a great evening! My wife loves MFM threesomes for what appears to be the same reasons your wife enjoyed having you and Gary at the same time so much.

That's part of the challenge. 🙂 Our guys can still go two - three times when needed, it just takes longer for them to recover. And I enjoy sucking up a spent, sloppy dick. We women having a Lesbian side keeps a session going during the guys' down time as well.

Some sessions just continue as long as any male is hard, and when you have an uneven mix of genders, it may mean someone is spending time working in sequence. That's the case with both MFM and FFM. I agree though that as many people said above, couple swapping can go on for a long time if the couples are comfortable socializing between sessions, but it's not all play.

Anyone else super turned on about have your significant other involved in a gangbang? Recently we have been doing alot of MFM threesomes and recently got as close as I ever got to a gangbang on my wife. My wife and I dedicate one day every other week to her being completely submissive to me. This past Thursday, I decided to have a poker game with 3 other male friends. 2 of them knew my wife and I swing, the other was in for a treat. I told my wife to dress up in lingerie, and serve us drinks and massage us during the game. After a few rounds, and drinks I asked my wife to go under the table and give oral to my friends. My friends and I were having a blast. My friend that didn't know we were into the lifestyle was so shocked and so happy to be getting blown by my wife. She serviced us all to completion. We played 2 games. Towards the end of the 2nd game, I asked my wife to lead each person who lost into the bedroom one at a time and let them fuck one by one, or all at once depending on how the game went. It was a nice parting gift to for those who lost on poker night My vanilla friend was first done, he had a quickie with her, then asked to take a shower. I was the 2nd one out, so I was lucky enough to see all but one guy fuck my wife. I waited for the other 2 to finish their hands, and then all 3 of us had our way with my wife. After we finished and the wife was very pleased we cleaned up and most of them left. My one good friend stayed over and we discussed a gangbang type scenario with my wife. We want to get 5-7 other men together and all take turns going at it with my wife. She is cool with it and I think it would be so hot seeing her get fucked and DP'd buy alot of guys. Has anyone experienced a Gangbang/orgy with their partners? Anyone else into this?

Thanks for all the replies. I did not give her a hard time about it I explained that I was surprised at seeing that side of her. However, we are still good and she remembers the evening and how hot it was. She did thank me for joining in and going along with it.

First off: Where the heck do you live and are there any other houses for sale? A neighborhood of swingers? Count us IN. Second: I didn't hear you say that you had a 'one person per night' rule. In fact, I didn't hear that she was breaking ANY rule. The two of you were at a swingers party...she went off with someone, returned and found you gone, and had the opportunity to go off with someone else, and did. I don't see what you were upset about. Add in that you did find her and joined in to give her probably one of the sexually hottest nights of her life and you kind of spoiled part by being upset with her. You need to come to an understanding so this issue won't ever repeat itself, but (IOHO) you should probably let her know that you were being a bit jealous and you're sorry for raining on her parade. Women are ALWAYS going to be more in demand in the L/S. Women also love being desired. They also want to live out some of their fantasies without judgement. Keep in mind that YOU were with a woman that you thought "was a beauty and (you) felt so lucky to have her". So it's not like you didn't have a good time as well. You also got to be part of a threesome with her that I'm sure she enjoyed even more by having you participate. Try to just be happy for your partner and enjoy these special moments that you two are having together. If you can't do that, then you probably shouldn't be doing this.

No one who has ever seen my pussy has asked me, "How does that work?"

Last year, I connected with the submissive I play with occasionally at the tail end of some travel. I brought (with Mrs. E's permission, of course), a set of restraints we use, the blindfold, and the suction vibrator, threw them into a slot in the back of my carry-on. When I was boarding my flight, I was waiting in line at security and remembered they were in there. I'd checked it before and wasn't about to have a conversation about this in line now, so backed up and diverted over to the checked luggage counter. Of course, when I got to the hotel and opened the bag, there was a big "THIS BAG WAS SEARCHED BY THE TSA" card. I wager I'd been flagged for walking away from security and somebody must have had a good laugh opening that pocket. Better than ending up holding up the line explaining how the Womanizer Duo works to a TSA agent, but still, LOL.

So the fact that I have asked for it means nothing? I liked it when a man first suggested it and found it hot. I have done it with my husband and with two other men as well. We both like it. I like it in most of the MMF we have done.

This is an open forum where everyone is entitled to their own opinion! You do not have to agree with others, but a little common respect goes a long way to making it a more useful place to be for everyone. We are all adults after all.

And then there are the Incels, who blame women for their clueless idiocy, which has led to a sexless life.

Any guy that says he can only meet on weekday afternoons is going to have a hard time finding anyone and is more then likely a cheater! Most of us have jobs and real lives. If a dude can not meet on weekends he is an immediate no.

1. You’ve gotten all the photos you’re going to get, DO NOT ask for more, and especially DO NOT ask for nude photos. 2. DO NOT get sexually graphic when communicating with her, she finds it a total turnoff. 3. DO NOT try to meet her alone, that will instantly end our interactions. 4. If we make plans to meet and you don’t show, don’t bother contacting us again. We think they’re all very reasonable and very easy to abide by, but almost as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow, guys lose their minds and seemingly go down the checklist.

@TnA83 I found below threads Swinging rules for single males - Swinging Solo - Swingers Board What do swingers look for in a single man ? - Curious About Swinging? - Swingers Board My Advice To Single Men - Swinging Solo - Swingers Board I had been very curious about the lifestyle and found the above threads very helpful. (The third thread started great but unfortunately was ruined by the responses back and forth).

The latter. We are still experimenting and DVP sounds very painful. SVP is starting to need lube help can’t imagine two at the same time or that the men would want that. Not excited about anal sex with just anyone, still getting accustomed to having sex with others. Baby steps for me.

They kept me busy then kept busy together and I watched. Looking back it was about me which is strange because I’m always worried how Debbie is enjoying. I am sure they enjoyed too by the sounds I heard and the playing the ladies did when I was refracting. Is that the word for getting hard again? What amazed me is how Debbie has become so relaxed in having sex with a woman. She went from never doing it to enthusiastically enjoying it.

The first time we invited a woman to join us Michael said he was the luckiest man in the world. It wasn’t the first time we had a woman join us, we had been swinging before, it was the first time he was the only man in the bed. He thought he was king for a day having been the center of attention something I have been many times. He claimed a thing he never forgot was watching me and the other woman.

I have read notes my wife keeps on our shared computer with her knowledge. Some notes are very brief, others can be very graphic bordering on pornography. At first I didn’t know who, what or where she was meeting, we both were open that we did meet others, keeping secretive the details. Then we had an honest talk and expanded to playing together as well as alone. I don’t keep a diary that I could share , I did give her my password to emails. I also made a picture file that she has the password to. Reading and sharing is extremely sexy even if I question the why she meets some of the men she does. She has questioned my choices, that’s when I answer for both of us. Sex.

Michael could never experience things the same way because he is doing different things. He can’t know the feeling I get with a man the same way I will never know the feeling of putting a penis in a woman. Michael is very good at noticing my reactions when he watches. He knows when I get excited or disappointed. I don’t remember sounds I make giving a bj or that I at times reach between my legs when a man comes. It’s two views of the same act.