This thread compelled me to get back on the Swingersboard as a member after having lost my logon and just visiting to read.
Several observations: When we married, my wife expected that we would be monogamous. I had been so with my ex-wife for 25 years, and although Daniela loved the variety of fucking different men, she thought that was in the past with marriage. For me, however, it wasn't a big deal if she had a boyfriend or two so long as 1) it supplemented rather than replaced our sex life, 2) there was honesty all around, including with any of her lovers, and 3) I made it clear that I didn't have a need for other pussy. What made it work is that I did everything for her pleasure, letting her hotwife for a while, did some MFMs with them, and waited for her to almost beg me to fuck another woman. Eventually we ended up playing within a closed group of married couples.
This thread also makes me appreciate the lack of drama from Daniela; things aren't always perfect (it's hardly ever about sex or a play partner), but we hash it out quickly and move on.