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I don't know if anyone remembers me, but I am Numex, used to post here from time-to-time. Long story short, my autologin got screwed up, I tried to recover my password here but it was associated with an old email address I don't use any longer, so I created a new account. I have visited the site regularly but haven't posted. If anyone recalls our background, my wife (in her thirties, never married, but fairly active sexually) and I (in my fifties, married once before, few partners, but my ex and I monogamously fucked a lot) started with her connecting with ex-boyfriends, hotwifing for a while, now we play within a closed group of married couples. It's good to be back as a member and not a lurker.

Anyone can be blind sided, at any time, for any reason, logical or not , for causes that maybe they do not fully comprehend at the time. This sounds like one of those. I am not even sure that corrective measures are much needed. Being sure of each other , that neither will cause hurt intentionally and that there is care taken not to do so unintentionally, has always been enough to get us through any awkward "aw shit" occurrences. I have learned a few things about myself at such times.

So this was six weeks ago. How is it going now?

Lovely color scheme and Booty presentation!!

Our #1 rule in the lifestyle is 'any mistake that is innocently made is immediately forgiven'. We've both messed up on accident, in the heat of the moment going further than our rules really allow. We've never done anything that would put the other at risk (eg unprotected sex) and we've never done anything that was not, sincerely, a minor slip up. So, in your case it seems totally understandable how that mistake could happen and it doesn't seem like a big deal... I think he should be able to get past it

Happy booty Monday!

This thread compelled me to get back on the Swingersboard as a member after having lost my logon and just visiting to read. Several observations: When we married, my wife expected that we would be monogamous. I had been so with my ex-wife for 25 years, and although Daniela loved the variety of fucking different men, she thought that was in the past with marriage. For me, however, it wasn't a big deal if she had a boyfriend or two so long as 1) it supplemented rather than replaced our sex life, 2) there was honesty all around, including with any of her lovers, and 3) I made it clear that I didn't have a need for other pussy. What made it work is that I did everything for her pleasure, letting her hotwife for a while, did some MFMs with them, and waited for her to almost beg me to fuck another woman. Eventually we ended up playing within a closed group of married couples. This thread also makes me appreciate the lack of drama from Daniela; things aren't always perfect (it's hardly ever about sex or a play partner), but we hash it out quickly and move on.

No one who has ever seen my pussy has asked me, "How does that work?"

Exactly. The whole reason we're in this is to expand the sexual pleasure. I'm incapable to sucking my husband while he is in me. So we need another cock. I'm incapable of sensually licking a woman while my husband enters me from behind when it is just the two of us. This whole adventure is to expand the pleasure in our sexual life. Together we're wonderful. Bringing in someone (people) is solely to do that. When anything other than straight sexual pleasure starts....we're done. We are extremely selective in terms of repeats, to avoid this. We've seen friends who have repetitive encounters with the same couples end up in situations where feelings start up. That is just a recipe for disaster. No different than someone having a "work husband/work wife". Just the start of decline in the marriage.

Thank you all for your insight. I appreciate it. We will have to have a good long talk about this and get it figured out.

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I could eat my dinner off that butt.

We’ve had what we thought were fun experiences with other couples, then radio silence. I do find that when a male cannot perform or underperforms, he is reluctant to try again with the same woman. It doesn’t bother us, but it bothers them. More than once, we’ve been baffled. It’s not you, it’s them.

The start of an anal session.. We love the butt

My contribution

Hi Everyone, My wife and I are fairly new to the swinging lifestyle. We had talked about if for a couple of years before actually trying it a little over a year ago. We thoroughly enjoy it now. We've had fun fulfilling each other's fantasies (one of which was seeing my wife with another woman - every guy's fantasy!). Recently she brought up a new fantasy of hers that I wasn't all that comfortable with. Simply put, she wants to see me have sex with the man. I've never been interested in men and I've explained that to her. She tells me she'd never been interested in women either, but did it to fulfill my fantasy. Now I'm kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place. We have a few good looking couples that we hook up with from time to time and out of fairness to my wife I've tried to imagine what it would be like going from his wife to him and I just can't see it happening. What should I do? Have any of you other guys out there gotten that request from your wife? Or even tried it? I really enjoy swinging and don't want this to be what ends it. Do I need to just take the plunge and try it? On one hand I have to consider fairness to my wife. On the other hand this is uncharted territory. In the few conversations we've had about it my answer has been "no way." But now I'm asking myself, "would it really be such a bad thing?" Any advice from experienced swingers would be very welcome.

Ha! Joaninia, I know the feeling. I finally put a guys cock in my mouth the second time we hooked up with a couple. First time was handjobs only. Sucking a cock isn't as bad as I though it would be, although the first time was awkward. The following time the flow was much easier because I wasn't hung up on it. I even let him cum in my mouth. I've come a long way in a month! LOL

My husband has always enjoyed "playing" with his cum or another guys cum after cumming in or on me. He loves "cleaning up" and I have told him it would be a turn on for me to actually watch him give another guy a blow job. My husband has, on a few occasions held another guys cock while I was moving up and down on it, he likes when his cock is directly in contact with another when I have them both in one hand, but he remains reluctant to actually put another guys cock into his mouth. Go Figure!

Dear lov2play, I think we are on the same page. For me the experience was no big deal. I have always believed sexuality is very fluid and opportunistic driven. I enjoyed the whole experience and it was a huge turn on knowing my wife was loving it. I grew up rather conservatively and ten years I never thought I would be into the lifestyle. I feel the whole experience is part of life's journey. No labels, no remorse.

LOL. "Scat play." I had a long discussion with my wife earlier today and she came to the conclusion that she didn't feel forced at all, but that my comments about how women do it all the time and what a big fantasy it is for men is the reason she decided to give it a try. That was manipulative on my part, although I didn't see it at the time. However, she said she enjoyed expanding her sexual boundaries and encouraged me to do the same and that sex with another woman was simply sexual fun. We had a date night tonight with another couple that I feel very comfortable with sexually. Before we started anything sexual we had a discussion with the couple about my wife's fantasy. They didn't even flinch as my wife described what she wanted to see. Both of them were open to the idea, which made me a little more at ease. We had a lot of fun, but as far as he and I got was mutual hand jobs. It wasn't all that bad and after we came we just laughed. We are going over to their place tomorrow. I'm a little more OK with taking it a little further. Stay tuned...

Don't look at it as a life changing event. You'll either find it interesting or not. Haven't you ever been so horny that you had sex with a gal you normally wouldn't have? If so, you know how, after you ejaculate, you wonder why you did it and just don't do it again. Hey, it's about the same thing with playing with another guy. But, who knows, you may want to do it again. I would suggest though that you talk your wife into making it part of a threesome. You said that you enjoyed watching her with other women, well, do you also enjoy watching her with other men? If so, there's nothing hotter than a close-up view.

I can address that question/problem with our story. Unlike you, my wife is bi and has no issue being with either sex and knows it's a turn on for me, whether it's another male or female. We met a couple that are both bi and had them to dinner and a hot tub evening. The normal things happened. One fantasy of the new couple was to have their lady on the receiving end of a strap-on from my wife. No problem... I hadn't had the privilege of seeing that event before, but knew she (my wife) owned a strap-on. The next day, discussing how much fun it was, my wife said, "I'd like to see you with him". uh... uh oh... Realizing that my main objection was my own perceptions about two guys together, but in this scenario, everyone was bi, EXCEPT ME. I told her I suppose it "could" happen, but I'm not sure how I'd even start. She suggested while we're all in a pile and she's giving him a BJ, I could fondle the other guy, see how I felt and play it by ear. Fast forward two weeks and we're in the scene, hands everywhere, bodies intertwined, and my wife reached over and grabbed my hand and gently guided me to where she was, giving him a BJ. I reached out to feel his penis and realized it was almost indistinguishable from my own in size and shape, and in the dark, I could almost convince myself I was simply masturbating. Her gentle urging continued, pulling my head down beside hers and then suddenly I feel his dick on my lips. I thought "oh what the hell, I'm the odd wheel in this group". and proceeded to play a bit, although not to completion, but certainly more than I would have ever guessed I would EVER do. After that, things happened that caused a temporary rift in the relations between us and the other couple, although I believe it to be a temporary problem, we haven't seen that couple again, although we will again probably. I've already decided "in for a dime, in for a dollar". So, if/when we get together with them again, I have no doubt where it's going, and I'm both, a bit excited, and also thinking about the values (read that as JUDGEMENTS) I've had over the years. With that said, after the deed, I may think, "ok, that's not for me", or I may think, "hmm, I wonder why I was so set in my own judgements that I've never even entertained the possibilities". I too have always been that "no way in hell" mode. Now it's more like "right time, right place, right people." Go for it, enjoy and forget the demons in the back of your mind. Good luck.!

What was thrill for you? Doing something behind your husbands back or that you knew you were going to get caught? Or both? 😕