Hubby has a rule for himself that made my journey into nonmonogamy comfortable and pleasurable - let your wife/partner decide whether she wants to talk about an experience, which aspects, and to what level of detail. Some couples have rules like, "You can fuck who you want, but I don't want to know about it," or "You can fuck who you want, but I want to hear every sexual detail," or "You can fuck who you want, but nothing emotional." Hubby always asks how I am doing, and lets me decide whether and what I want to talk about. Sometimes I just gave a one sentence reply, other times I wanted to babble on about the sexual or emotional aspects of what I had just done. Either way, he would listen, be empathetic, but never pressure me. This rule hubby has for himself was perfectly considerate towards me, so much that I didn't notice it except in retrospect.