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My boyfriend and I went to Trapeze Atlanta last weekend. I’m mid 40s and he’s 50ish, but I look mid 30s, a typical soccer mom type who’s bi-curious and into some light BDSM (think bondage and sexy choking.) We prepared for the evening by enjoying some plant medicine and margaritas and arrived at the club via Lyft with a nice buzz around 1015Pm. There was a line outside and folks were dressed mostly in club wear. After becoming members, we spent 20 minutes or so assessing the main area inside before deciding we wanted to go to the back. We changed into a towel and lingerie and headed back finding a spot on a couch across from some pool tables. I was wearing a white nightie from VS and my boyfriend began playing with me as the area filled up with other club goers. The seating areas around us filled with other couples fucking and, my boyfriend noticed a guy hanging around watching us and invited him to come over. I sucked his dick for 4-5 minutes then another couple of guys came over to play before we moved into a private room with even more fun. I was very relaxed and remember how hot I felt being on the receiving end of so much male attention (8 total) while my BF was there keeping me safe. Some of the guys wanted to go further, but they respected our limits of oral only with some light touching allowed. We plan to go back again soon and next time I would love to experience fun with another female. We did get separated a few times during our first visit and will not make that mistake again next time as both resulted in uncomfortable experiences.

Thanks for sharing your experience. I assume the plant medicine was something that starts with M.

Didn’t know where to post this thought I had when I read about the fear of wife leaving for another woman she met alone. This may not pertain to all here. SEX is for Fun. We were not looking for love or romantic relationships. Think most here agree with that. We talked and talked and talked before taking that first step of just looking. We Love US. Forgive my ramble. Rocky plays guitar and sings but he’s no Dave Matthews. We will go to a concert but I will listen to Rocky for the rest of life. Rocky is extremely funny and witty yet we go to listen to many comedians who are hysterical. We both are pretty good cooks and then we go to restaurants. We still hire plumbers, electricians, gardeners and other tradesmen though we are capable to fix things. The pandemic gave us time to again talk and that led to a curiosity. I don’t consider myself Bisexual, others will say I fit a definition. That curiosity brought me to act out not change my preference. Possibly it was the rebel in me that had me go against what society says is wrong, what religion says is wrong. I can’t say if it was the openness of same sex relationships on TV and movies that made me curious. We made a decision together knowing I was taking a new step and Rocky would likely have sex with another woman. I brought up him having sex with a man that he had no interest in doing. I didn’t push him, we just talked about it. I wanted to fulfill a fantasy not find a lover. I wanted to have fun and I had fun. We had fun together with a couple and I had a number of firsts. That first time led to a first time with a friend and her husband. This was about sexual fun not anything more. I also had sex alone with my girlfriend with the husbands knowing. We did the same things alone as we did with the husbands watching. Back to the post about leaving your spouse after having sex without him being there, IT’S NOT HAPPENING.

There is no convincing her! There is talking to her openly about your fantasy and her processing it and deciding for herself if it is something that also interests her. Good open communication on both of your parts is what it takes to explore these kind of fantasy’s together. If you don’t have that then it will just be a fantasy. Good luck.

Great to hear you had a good first night, learned a few things along the way, and are looking forward to the next time! Thanks for sharing your experience!

You have received lots of good feedback so far. A couple of observations. 1. You identified a serious issue in your relationship--emotional distance--that led to a serious threat to your marriage. You understand that his affair was a symptom of a deeper problem. That takes insight. 2. You care enough about your marriage to have chosen counseling together. That takes a great deal of maturity and even more courage. 3. You have come here asking about non-monogamy, presumably as a way to "balance" his infidelity. That approach to the lifestyle and swinging is doomed to failure and will almost certainly doom your marriage, Your 'faked hanging' is a common expression of emotional pain so severe that death seems like a reasonable alternative. This is why a "jealous rage" culminates in suicide as often as it does homicide. You were terrified of abandonment, and even more terrified that you were being abandoned precisely because you had starved him of affection and (intellectual) stimulation, and even more terrified that you had permanently harmed him by your emotional distance. There is hope, We know a couple--we met them on an LS cruise--that was in a similar situation. She was starved of affection and emotional connection, he carried enormous guilt, their marriage was literally dissolving before their eyes. He got it. He changed his life to focus on her and on them. They are now among the happiest people we are proud to call friends. They ended up truly happy--and found their way to the LS. But that was a by-product of re-imagining their relationship.

But maybe they were in international waters.

Me and the wife are looking for a guy to snapchat while we have sex. I like her teasing a guy and will have plenty to see. No face for now just the D. This is how we are slowly getting into this.

I have read , people have an upside down pineapple picture posted on their cabin door. An inverted pineapple locket . wear a Swinger website Tshirt.

Sounds like fun!

I'm not going to say "this isn't for you", but "this isn't for you right now". There's so much hurt in this post, and so many unanswered questions - like why your husband is asking for this and what you think it will solve. If you were swinging happily and any of these things happened, the advice from the responsible people here would be "it's time to take a break and focus on yourselves as a couple". Focus on yourselves as a couple. Build on that. This is 100% not a curative for mistrust, anxiety, or depression.

We met a woman on the beach, not a nude beach, who had a Pineapple Beach Bag. Pineapples all over the bag, I said she was a swinger, Rocky said it was just a beach bag. I told her that I loved her bag, she said thank you, some people think it’s a bag for threesomes. She was alone but we let it go.

Slightly expensive upgrade that may not payoff: swingers wear black wedding rings.

I've never seen Daniela with a guy who has a really big cock or a really small one, all the men she's played/plays with who I have seen are average. She has told me about some others from before we met that were extremely large or small. She says that she has never failed to get off on a dick of any size, she sees it as a challenge. Daniela has told me that the guys who disappointed her were the ones who were quick to cum, then done, not giving her a chance to orgasm a third or even second time. Even a good dick sucking couldn't revive their interests. So for my wife, it isn't the size, it the duration.

Yes, but the reclaiming sex must have been awesome.

I keep seeing men posting that they want to see their wives “gangbanged”, I have a question for the women. Would you rather have multi partners or one man to satisfy you all night? I don’t know if I could be with more than two or three men in a row. I am thinking one man, if he could go for an hour or more would be more exciting. The real question is how many men can go that long?

Had another I am Dom guy that likes cuck situations message last night saying I think we might be a match check out my profile and get back at me! Clearly didn’t bother reading our profile that is clear that dom guys and cuck situations are of no interest. Too bad for him because based on his pictures he might of had a chance to catch her eye. This was followed up by a cock pic guy that sent another cock pic, because I guess the ones on his profile were not enough. Another thing we make fun of on our profiles. Guys wonder why they are not accepted in the lifestyle! It really is on them and they do it to themselves with their own stupidity. We are more then willing to give some of them a chance if they could just figure it out.

Notice to "Sluts": For every man who disdains you, there are five guys who want to eat your pussy.

That's been my experience also with some single guys in the lifestyle, and most commonly with those that feel they have big cocks. They think every couple looking for a single guy is a cuckold couple and they get into this whole "I can fuck her better than you can" and humiliation mode. But this is also why the really good ones stand-out. I loved watching my wife get fucked by another guy, irregardless of cock size. She was my favorite porn star and I loved to watch her in action. There was no cuckold situation about it, it was just fun to watch.