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Yeah. It was pretty good, I got oral for a long time but the main event was over too quickly. My boyfriend orgasmed a little too quickly. I came and was working on my second O.

Well of course they do! That's why there's a place to enter in your cock size on every dating site out there 😄 Just kidding I should hope not. That said, I'm sure people have broken up with people after seeing 'the goods'.

We agree...it wasn't just ten minutes, but a long time building up on his part. The ten minutes was just the tipping point. We are so sorry to hear this but as Baconheads said, he doesn't know what a gem you are and he's losing. There will come a day when he will wake up and realize what he lost, but it will be awhile. In the meantime, we wish you the best and want to remind you it can only get better from here.

Thanks for posting your story. None of the emojis seemed appropriate. My first intercourse experience wasn't painful because athletic activities broke my hymen young (I remember the quick pain and blood). Fiingers, my own and others, further opened the way physically and neurologically, so I knew what an orgasm was early on and how to get there.

I'm sorry you two are splitting up over this. He doesn't know what a gem you are and he's losing.

As BG said, it wasn't the ten minutes. You were in trouble long before that event. The fact that you still seem unaware of this fact speaks volumes. You don't want this pattern to repeat itself. Unfortunately, it likely will if you don't take the opportunity to work on yourself. As the saying goes, "If nothing changes, nothing changes." Good luck.

I’m thinking doing the same thing at the same time. Even mundane things like watching TV or a movie. What does a woman think during sex? I sometimes stop and ask her what are you thinking. I get a kick when she says just shut up and fuck me. I know I’m annoying her and ask again what’s she’s thinking. Real life real story, she has me in her mouth and I ask what are you thinking. I know it’s a mood breaker. What do women think about when giving head?

Maybe she should publish her memoirs. I wish I had journaled or kept notes on my thoughts of my firsts. My memory isn’t always clear after the fact. Rocky’s remembers things differently from the way I do. Does your wife write about feelings or physical parts? Men only guess what we are thinking not what our true feelings are. My memory of our first was internally I was fearful yet I tried to show how liberated I was. I surely hid my anxieties or tried to. If Rocky wasn’t there I think it would be different that first time. Different not better I don’t think.

She journals her life on a computer we share where she lets me read about her meetings. Since we are open about our life we know passwords we use, no hiding anything. I don’t journal the way she does, I just have emails she can read and has full access to this post. I once asked her why she journaled I was positive it wasn’t for me to read, it was for safety. She meets random men on a cheaters site so she would journal the who and the where she was meeting. Even her password to that site she uses is open to me. Her journal became more and more detailed bordering on pornography with some comedy with men who didn’t live up to their resume. We now play together at times and I look forward to reading her journal after those meetings.

That is extremely generous, unselfish, and loving. You should ask her in a noncritical way to share her experiences with you. I definitely got a thrill when hubby told me about the results of the encounters that I set up with my friends and him. (Then I would debrief her for another thrill...) In the end it paid off well for hubby, and for the women who had a Lesbian side - I did whatever s/he wanted.

It is all fun. My wife has been meeting men alone for years and hasn’t left me for anyone. It doesn’t bother me if she goes to a movie, a play, a dinner or to bed with a friend. I never asked her where she was going for most of the time she was meeting men who were mostly married men looking for their own fun. My big disappointment was not knowing she had threesomes because I would have enjoyed seeing her that first time with a woman. I still don’t consider her bisexual, the sex she had with another woman was for the fun of sex. Since we have been talking about our extramarital sex and sharing I have watched her with other women. Still it’s just fun.

That is the perfect attitude and the perfect prelude to entering the lifestyle. Talking to make sure you are doing it for fun not revenge or because one is pressuring. After years of just sexual play we are now enjoying a more social aspect of the lifestyle. We had steered clear of any close relationships maybe out of fear of not wanting to be involved with other’s problems.

You two are talking and in counseling, so that's a start. Would some form of the lifestyle be good for you? No one knows at this point, including you folks. My suggestion would be just to talk about it. Each of you saying not what you want, but how you could be happy for the other to enjoy some sexual freedoms. If each of you can't easily say that you would like to see the other with some else, having a wonderful time screwing, then forget it for now. If on the other hand, you guys end up turned on, in bed talking more about it.... continue to talk. Talk about what you both would like to do, MFM, FFM, full swap. Then continue to let it sink in for at least a couple of months. Good luck and keep us updated.

It's a risk both ways. As a couple I have encountered many guys who claim to be bi hoping they can avoid the subject in the bedroom. So I agree, guys playing first is a good method. On the flip side, I have more than once gone to meet a bi couple, that there really was no female. I know a number of gay guys who have used that same tactic for years. They claim to have to meet 1 on 1 first and then the next meet she will be involved. Or at the last minute "she had to run out" but he can still play. Playing as a single. I'll meet either sexes or a couple. I just want to know up front and not be deceived. When it's a couple. I have no problem with one on one play first with him, but only if she is there too.

We may possibly have found a bi guy to play with and is more than happy for me to watch hubby and him play first and then I will join in on subsequent play dates. If this happens, it will be the first time we have tried this method of wheedling out the true bi guys from the fake bi guys who use it to get to the woman (and we too have experienced that particular con).

I have the same reaction here. Enjoyed meeting with the guy first to prove I'm bi if need to ... in one case the wife watched the guys play the first time and joined in during subsequent sessions.

In the past, I've heard from couples that guys often pose as bi to get with the wife and when the bi play is mentioned, they back out. One couple made me and the husband go at it first to make sure I was bi. I was very happy to prove it:facelick:

I know exactly how you felt in that situation. The exact thing happened to me when I was fucking a guys wife yes ago. Although, I don't think this guy was bi, it was just uncomfortable for him to touch me. This was during the time when SSW and I had really just got into the LS. Now, here is where things change!!! For about a little over a year now I have had bi tendencies and I'm very bi curios now. To the point where I'm going to me a bi guy next week for our first bi MMF threesome. I to think that it's just becoming more acceptable and people are just getting tired of labels. I've realized that if it feels good, then why not?

Hey everybody just wanted to say thanks for all thoughts and comments it's been strange since my last post me and my husband have spoken quite a lot lately in the end though that was not enough, he has been living with his brother but him telling me he has found his own place pretty much dashed any hope I had for saving the marriage. I had a tiny hope that we could work this out but he seems to have spent that time mainly emotionally distancing himself from me, it was strange almost like he seemed at peace with his decision to end the marriage and no there is no other woman involved for those that suspected my husband had been cheating. I just can't believe ten minutes would have changed both of our lives so dramatically I honestly feel lost while he seems at peace with his descicion. So yeah that's the update my final one I guess since we have agreed to sell the house at this point all our friends are still completely at a loss to what is going on.