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It depends. If it's just me and a guy, I'm thinking about getting him in my pussy. If I've been already otherwise satisfied or if someone else is working on me down below, then I'm thinking about making him orgasm and how to play with his ejaculation in my mouth before I swallow it. (Guys like that.)

I see from other posts of yours that you're a single male. I've written some advice for single males before, but I don't know that I can readily find it. Here's a few tips; There is far more supply of single males in the lifestyle than there is demand. That said, there are far fewer single males in the lifestyle who are good single males in the lifestyle, and I'd venture to guess that the supply of good single males more or less equals demand. So, how do you make yourself a good single male in the lifestyle? Generate a paid profile on swinglifestyle.com. If you go free, you won't be able to communicate. If you go free on any swinger site, no one will take you seriously. If you're paid, you show serious intent. Your profile puts your best foot forward. If you can't assemble a sentence or two about yourself in your profile, most couples won't pay any attention to you. Be clear about what you want, what you're offering, what kind of guy you are. This is your chance to advertise yourself. Don't **** it up by talking about how big your dick is and how you're the best swordsman out there. Be respectful of both the wife AND the husband. This should go without saying, but a lot of guys screw this up. You are being given a gift. Treat the experience as such. If you can't show respect to both the people in the couple, you're not going to get anywhere. Don't send dick picks. Few, if any, women want to see this. For some couples, this is a deal breaker as it shows you're the type of guy they don't want to play with. Don't be a flake. If you say you're going to meet a couple at a place at a particular time, be there on time. If you miss out, you're unlikely to be contacted again. Always, always, always wear condoms. Don't even ask not to. Understand your role. You shouldn't be in this for a relationship, and the couple in question isn't looking at you as a potential relationship. Know your boundaries; you are a toy. Sounds demeaning, but it isn't. You are a sexual fantasy being explored by the couple. Assuming you're straight, understand you're in the middle of this for her pleasure, not yours. If you focus on you, you won't ever see them again. Focus on her. Find out what she likes, what turns her off, what turns her on. There's lots more advice to give. You can search this forum for more. The above is a good place to start. Best of luck!

None taken at all. I'm not offended or hurt by anyone taking issue with anything I post. I quite enjoy the back-and-forth. I've not compared my prolificness with others, but my sense of it is that my postings are sporadic. I will post often, then be absent for a while; it depends both on how busy I am and my mood. I also checked the categories of postings provided on this site and there still includes "Some Swingers Do - Poly, BDSM, & Nudism". I believe there used to be a category for just Poly, but I may be mistaken. We have done some limited swinging in the past with friends, and currently Lora, Clair, and I share a non-romantic, just sex boyfriend for when David and Red can't keep up with our needs. Besides, there are plenty of posters here that have never engaged in swinging at all who post, and lead meaningful discussions. Again, in my mind, my postings oscillate between the straight ahead, explicit sexual and the somewhat dry relationship advice depending on the thread and my state-of-mind. My explicit answers are sometimes a response to a thread where all of the posts are strictly from the males point-of-view. That is my understanding as well. As I said above, we had and still have some no-strings-attached sexual relations with others, but we are primarily poly and increasingly have sex only within the members of our family. To me poly is a step beyond swinging. For example, it was a challenge and a thrill to know then later to see hubby have sex with other women. It was another level entirely to see my husband and Red develop an emotional attachments to Clair and Lora, and not just see them as play partners. Then have them move in with us and have children with hubby and Red. Everyone has a story and I enjoy reading nearly all of them.

We use liquid coconut oil. Not because she gets dry, but because she gets too wet.

That is our view in our poly family, especially now that we all live in one large house and share children among us. In some ways it is a lot more work than a two person marriage, in other ways much easier, and not just in an economies-of-scale way. The disagreements among us are few and not very intense, the main reason being that the those having a disagreement have others to turn to for solace. The others never take sides, but provide comfort and it's quickly over. Two things that have cemented the overall relationship is the Lesbian attraction we women have for each other and having children with the same men together at about the same time. The children are all of our children and the children consider each of us adults their parents. What our arrangement does require are lawyers, accountants, insurance people, etc. to make sure that the children will be well provided for through college regardless of what happens. At first, a top concern was one or more breakups, but that doesn't seem like it is anywhere near happening; amazing considering that there are five strong-willed people involved. We have found a five-way match and have really bonded. The main concern now is the usual death or disability of one of us adults.

I've never had sex with a guy using a condom (but I've also never really been a swinger, just poly). I did lots of oral, both giving and receiving from an early age with the guys who I dated. Also some bum sex if I really liked him, he licked and fingered my pussy well, and he was pleading to go in. Pretty much as soon as I was old enough to drive, I went to Planned Parenthood with a girlfriend. My parents weren't suspicious because I was a good student and other than the sex, which they didn't know about, I was well behaved. My friend wasn't planning on it, but she got a script for The Pill as well. After that, I found that straight ahead p-in-v sex is my favorite. That is until I found my Lesbian side and wanted both.

Yeah. It was pretty good, I got oral for a long time but the main event was over too quickly. My boyfriend orgasmed a little too quickly. I came and was working on my second O.

Weren’t we all virgins?

It is all fun. My wife has been meeting men alone for years and hasn’t left me for anyone. It doesn’t bother me if she goes to a movie, a play, a dinner or to bed with a friend. I never asked her where she was going for most of the time she was meeting men who were mostly married men looking for their own fun. My big disappointment was not knowing she had threesomes because I would have enjoyed seeing her that first time with a woman. I still don’t consider her bisexual, the sex she had with another woman was for the fun of sex. Since we have been talking about our extramarital sex and sharing I have watched her with other women. Still it’s just fun.

Reading this thread about so many guys expressing their sexual desire really got me hard. I must say like other guys have commented that the moaning, groaning, and body tensing up while I'm pleasuring another man is the hottest thing to me. I began swinging with a couple where the husband was bisexual when my sexuality was a moving target. With him, my sexuality/romantic attraction swiftly moved to the same-sex side. With guys, I can have a great time with them before or after having great sex on an incredible level. The eroticism of taking time to enjoy each other's body, exploring what turns each other on, touching on the pleasure sensors and making that erotic connection with him. Very pragmatic. I just love those instinctive pleasures that only two males can have and open up paths of indescribable joy and mutual bonds of love with a guy that I never experienced before. My relationships with girls are caring and sweet, but their emotional stage is somewhat different to me, as a guy, and vice versa. For me, it ends up being a practically perfect 1:1 trade-off on the emotional level. I absolutely love a hot 69 with another guy laying on our sides, our heads between each other's spread thighs. Our mouths wrapped around each other's hard cock with mutual blowjob pleasure volley, then hearing and feeling each other moaning and our cocks throbbing hot cum into each other's mouth.

Amen brother. I like it when I can take all of it down to my nose in his pubic hair

Feeling and hearing a man groan/tense up and bust a nut either inside my ass or down my throat is amazing. LOVE bringing a man to orgasm through a handjob too. Something so erotic about seeing a big, masculine man be so vulnerable laying there, shooting his load because of me.

I love the idea of group play. If there is a man in the play then I also want to give him pleasure. Feeling that rock hard cock and knowing I am giving him so much pleasure that soon he is going to shoot his load.

Bingo with that last. Male or female its the satisfaction and power I feel when bringing someone to ecstasy with my cock inside them or their genitals in my mouth. Friday my partner responded deeply to me sucking her labia & clitoris hard, the extended over two inches into my mouth & I came near a place where gender did not exist. Just a human being shaking in pleasure as the core of their sexuality extended within me.

For me it's making him orgasm. When a guy says, "I'm going to cum" I start bobbing my head up and down faster until he explodes. I love the sounds and face he makes when I go all the way down. My best to date is being able to deep throat a 9". It made my eyes water but I did it. My wife gags on my 6.5". Hopefully some day we find a guy that we can trust enough to let him cum inside my ass.

I really wanted to get sucked by the male during my last mfm but his wife would not take my cock out of her mouth or pussy so the chance passed me by. This post has made me so hard. I m at the gym giving it time until I can get off this damn bicycle!

My wife has always been a tease when it came to sex. In our early 40s, we had a chance to try a threesome while camping. It was a blast watching him and her together. Then she wanted him to lick her while I was doing her from behind. He quickly climbed under her. To feel his breath and face on my sack was sort of a turn-on and I got more excited as did she. After I finished getting off in her, I watched him eat her out. Then my wife wanted to watch him suck me. I eventually let him and it actually felt good. Then she wanted to watch me pleasure him. She said if she could do it and love it, why couldn't I? Well I did. It was different and really didn't bother me that much beings she was enjoying it. But I have to tell you, I wasn't that excited about him shooting down my throat. I really don't care for the taste but I did it for her. Since then, we have done more of it and there is just something about another guy whom knows how to and where to put the right pressure. Makes my orgasms three times as powerful.

I am a married man but I do realize that I am bi. I love to suck a hard cock and feel him explode in my mouth. I also so would love for my wife to join me or at least watch and kiss me afterwards. I welcome any feedback.

Absolutely agree with Sirramm's original post. Joining a couple and having the wife get turned on watching her husband as he orally pleasures me his a huge turn-on for me. My experience has been the most sexually satisfying MFM's have been with bi/bi curios couples. Absolutely love when all three are pleasuring and being pleasured at the same time.

OM Gosh THAT is what I am talking about. FINALLY someone who gets it! My husband and I are with you 100%, we hate the whole Cockhold thing. It is not about anything related to that. Great job Sirramm.

I got hard just reading that. I must say the moaning, groaning and body tensing up while I'm pleasuring another man is the hottest thing in the world to me. I usually have my left hand slowly moving up his lower abdomen towards his belly button (along the "happy trail") gently pressing harder and harder as he tenses up while my right hand is playing with the balls and jacking as I bob up and down on his cock w/my mouth. The HOT (literally) cum hitting the back of my throat is an unreal feeling. So I definitely agree, the cum is an awesome part of bisexual make play. It always turns me on when the curious ones will say "oh my god, I can't believe I'm getting blown by a dude...this feels so good". Makes me work even harder

We're both bi so it's not a big deal. I mentioned to Mr Frojoe in passing and he confirmed he was too. It's never been an issue and we joke about our masculine and feminine energies all the time especially when it comes to decorating the house.

I sure felt better when I admitted my bicuriosity. And it made our discussions of 'others' include other guys. But I still have so many reservations about telling her how really bi I am. What's with that? Heck she doesn't have a problem with me saying how much I'd love to sleep with Candice Olsen, Diane Sawyer, or other celebrity women so why do I think she'd feel badly about my fantasizing about sleeping with Sheldon on Big Bang? Now, don't laugh, I think he's cute!

My wife not only knows but encourages my bi-sexuality. While she has had other women 'touch' and go down on her she isn't ready herself to take the bi-sexual plunge herself but with any luck it'll happen sooner than later but for now she really enjoys watching me suck another man off.

Finally told my wife about two months ago about my past experiences. Was a load off my shoulders. It was the last thing I haven't been open about. This communication stuff is scary but, it's awesome at the same time.

Yes, Jo knows. She really likes to watch me when I am playing with another man.