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Personally, especially since we try our best to help others here, we would be willing to at least talk with them and see where they are at and what they are thinking (just like if they were posting questions here). We would be all over a Facetime meeting since that is the quickest way to verify that they are not fakes and are both interested in swinging. Heck, we are willing to have dinner and conversation with just about anyone interested because you never know who you might click with (looks, for us, is not everything...it's personalities that matter most). More than likely, they are looking for info and someone who has experience so they can be better informed. Just because you talk with them, doesn't mean that you are going to play with them. Start the conversation and know that you can always stop it at just about any time. At the very least, you should point them in the direction of this board so they can make a more informed decision as to if this is for them or not.

If you don't want to ruin it for them, then let it be about them and not you. "What would you like to try?" "Have you discussed this between you?" "Let us know how and when you wish to proceed." " Remember you can always say stop, if something gets uncomfortable. We will understand." Always show respect for their relationship. We remember what a great and vulnerable time just starting is. People need to proceed at their own pace and only they know what that pace is. That has to be honored. You are NOT primarily guides or teachers, just friendly, safe and encouraging.

After moving to a new state we didn’t keep our profile on a meeting site because of a few reasons including Covid and feeling strange with advertising to meet. We have met a few nice people who we enjoy being with still keeping our profile alive. Never wanting to being overly sexual in our description we get just a few inquiries. We are honest with height, weight, age and have a current photo. I like to think we are attractive as others say HWP. We post no singles and still get them. We know the posting involves sex yet we don’t post overtly sexual acts wanted. Our picture that is open is very G rated. We have an R protected. No X rated. We were contacted by a new member who state they are thinking of swinging, something that makes us wonder the authenticity of the poster. They have not asked us for pictures, we have seen there G picture. They are close to our age and through messages they have children about children’s age, maybe younger. They claim they haven’t met anyone, never played, and are asking plenty of questions. They suggested a call or FaceTime meeting. They sent us their number after we showed hesitancy in sharing hours. Do we want to be a couple’s first? We are certified by two members, they have no history. Maybe we are overthinking that we aren’t good enough to be a first, will that ruin it for them. They aren’t in a hurry from how we read the messages but they must be in contact with others. We know how to do baby steps, call, meeting and then decide. I bet others would jump at the opportunity. I’m thinking about our first time when the others knew exactly what to do.

Very good information here from all of you. We had our phone call followed by FaceTime. The pictures they included are them not fakes. They made a remark they were happy to see we look the same as our posting. Fakes go both ways. They said they are talking to others too. Don’t know how I felt, cheated on or happy others find them attractive. We decided to not bring up sex or lifestyle unless they did. We talked for over a half hour with no sex talk when she asked why we hadn’t brought the main topic. We knew that sex would be brought so I was prepared with there is more to swinging not just sex. I felt like it was a canned response which it was. I saw she had notes and prepared questions for us that she most likely used with others. He didn’t ask questions but he did add to the conversation. Both of them were open and friendly, it would be horrible if it were just two or three of us talking. We told them our history of swinging and our current situation as new to the area. When asked what they were looking for the immediate answer wasn’t sex, it was finding sweet people. What was their big fear? She answered her fear wasn’t know how she was going to react, his fear was worrying about her. We assured them we would stop any time they said Stop. He asked who goes first. Never thought about that. As a first timer they should be comfy first. No we didn’t , we will when we are sure. We don’t want them to think we don’t know what we are doing if they read this post. As you can tell we are a tiny bit insecure. We decided to meet them at McDonalds, they felt better meeting at Olive Garden. Gotcha, we are meeting at a nice restaurant we never went to. We agree with the advice that it’s about them not us. We hope it leads to more in time. No rush.

Have you shared this site with them? Do. As you know it's full of great information and lots of nice folks willing to share and help. I remember our first meet-up and conversation. The freedom we felt sitting over coffee in a public space talking to another couple about sex was intoxicating. How often do we have the chance to do that? Without judgement, without fear and without commitment. We did try to play with them that evening. It was not good. Got to their place and the reality kicked in. I remember two specific points of complete turn off: She was in the middle of her period and he didn't bother to wear a clean un-torn pair of underwear. Obviously as couples we had different expectations, Live and learn. We would totally meet with them.

About two years ago we were that couple reaching out on a paid site not knowing if we were doing the right thing. Strangers on a sex site could be very risky. Rocky and I talked and talked, then researched, joined this group and another looking for the right way to act and what to look for when meeting strangers. It was a very big step to have the conversation and the first meeting. I would think our reactions were similar to many others. We were not rushed and we kept giving approval signs. I wish I could recommended our first friends to everyone looking to enter our lifestyle

Read both of the answers above. Great advice by real people who know about the lifestyle. We were all Lifestyle first timers at some point and I can say a bad first time will stick with you and might sour you. FaceTime, drinks, dinner, real honest conversation. Make sure both parties are onboard and not one spouse making the other do something they will regret. Swinging is not a cure for a bad relationship, a bad relationship will only blow up if forced. Look for the signs of coercion they are sometimes hidden. As the others stated, make it about them, what they want and read the why they want it. We have learned that you will be rewarded with a great meeting and a no pressure first time. I see you are already reading our members and know who to trust. You seem like a new thoughtful presence on our little board.

Every time I read that My Wife wants a Big I have to 🤦🏻‍♂️ . And if a woman posts it I wonder if it’s a woman. I think I am learning the posters here.

Do people really chose partners based on penis size?

Our parties where 90% group play. Mostly couples with a few single women and carefully selected single men. Anywhere from 6 to 20 attendees. Held Sunday mornings 10 am to 2/3 pm. We also had other groups/parties/themed events but these were more open by invite. We had these for 8-10 years. Many regulars where poly swingers. We played together, made fantasies come true, socialized together. Many of us are still together twenty plus years later. Group play, all on the bed….or two beds (king size). After coffee and chatting all up the stairs to play. We would enjoy two to three rounds. Semi closed group, all vetted. All raw play but an understanding that all male ejectulate was taken orally or body shots by female partners (leaving them fresh/not messy, self conscious) leaving the ability to continue playing as many times as they wished. many of our female attendees (married, girlfriends, SO or single ladies) would choose from time to time to have the male playmate finish inside her…..the ladies preference. Especially if it was the last round. Every one played, no one left out. Just real people having fun.

I told my wife on our fourth date. She had a lot of questions like did I prefer men or not. And she asked what I liked about it, I listed all that came to mind. She said that's the same things she like. So she said that she didn't know if it's a turn on or not. She was only the second woman I told this to. We're married a year later. Two years into our marriage I told her I was having strong desires to suck a dick. She got a strap on and we bought p***. She got the idea what kind of dick I like. After first time she was disgusted with me. She could not think of me at the man after seeing me on my knees in front of another man. We were soon divorced. Two months after divorce she called me up she want a threesome with me and her new boyfriend. I've done that with three different boyfriend of hers She said when she sees a guy with the perfect penis she thinks of me.

yes, I have already written that i liked it thanks for your replies

Hello, everyone, this event happened last month. We were playing with this guy we met(she has played with him twice earlier). After 30mins or so, we had both fucked my wife and we were lying on bed, playing with my wife's boobs and pussy. I then got on top of my wife to kiss her, and rub my cock on her pussy. This guy started touching her pussy, and I could sense his hands around my crotch. After a few minutes he would hold my cock, and help it slide inside my wife's pussy, while he kept massaging her pussy, and also rubbing my balls. This definitely kept me conscious of his hands. Then he goes further and starts licking her pussy, my balls, and my cock. Honest confession, I started liking it and didn't stop it. I kept fucking my wife and in few minutes I came inside her. When my cock had gone flaccid, I took it out and this guy started sucking my cock, while he licked my wife's pussy. I was up again in no time and came in his mouth. We didn't make eye contact that night, and I stayed out of room while he kept making out with my wife. The next day I discussed this with my wife and she tells me she noticed and doesn't mind. She herself is straight, but has allowed other women to lick her and kiss her. Has anyone had a similar experience? Please share!

I can guarantee he enjoyed it too. Sucking guy who's never been sucked by a guy in front of his wife especially is very exciting.

As Chicup stated, a lot of guys who list themselves as "straight" are fronting, mostly because of the stigma even in the LS of Bi or Bi-curious guys. I find that even if you see a male listed as straight in the top, you have to read through the entire profile and 9 times out of 10 if they are being deceptive, there will be hints that things might not be as they appear. One example, the most common one I see, might be the couple emphasizes again elsewhere that the male is straight, but then adds he is "open-minded" or maybe "not closed-minded". Another interpretation I think might be "He is straight, but not homophobic" (I mean why even add that as anyone willing to be doing sex acts in a room with other naked men is going to be comfortable being around other dicks even if they have no interest in interacting with said genitals?). I list my status as straight and that is the only way I will conduct myself with other men, yet at the same time I have no problem being with a couple where the male is listed as Bi as long as he understands my status is not subject to exceptions. This has not always worked out in the past, as we had to break it off with one couple because the guy, I guess figuring that the our willingness to play with a bi-male somehow really meant I was not completely straight, kept trying to push his luck and as a result got neither me, of course, or the full swap he wanted from Mrs. Fours.

Slow CDC/Government response, just like covid. Doubling every 8 days now.

Unfortunately, it is exactly what has happened. The sad part is in some parts, the vaccine isn't available to women. The nature of the monkeypox virus is that it can also spread to children as all it takes is someone infected leaving the virus on a pet, fabric or surface—which then at some point is contacted by child or woman.