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Good morning everyone, so my wife and I have been chatting a lot about adventuring in the lifestyle a little bit. We’re mainly curious about a mfm but we want to start slow and not rush in. We have been talking to a guy since last march. We met him a few times just to chat. This past Friday he stopped by and the 3 of us had a few drinks. I got a little handsy with my wife and pulled up her shirt showing our guest her tits. He really enjoyed, actually we all did lol. By now my wife is getting a bit flirty, and the conversation turned more sexual. We where getting ready to leave early the next morning for vacation so as my wife comes around my me, I pull up her shirt again and start rubbing and sucking on her tits, our guest asked if I needed a hand, so I signaled him in and he had one tit in his mouth and I had the other. It was pretty hot, she definitely enjoyed it. It all lasted just a short time. I wasn’t ready to go much further then that so I said we should probably get some sleep cuz we had an early day, of course my wife is getting pretty hot by all of this lol but we walked our guest out. We had some really good sex after that to say the least. I felt no jealousy except when she flirted lol. Kinda weird, but him sucking her tit, no jealousy lol. Long story short, this was our first real experience, and we enjoyed it. My wife knows and understands I want to take things a bit slower, so we both think that’s best we do that.

There was a time I wondered if size mattered to my wife. Most women I know say it doesn’t, that there was much more to sex beside a big one. I figured she met men bigger and smaller and who she met was never discussed as I never told her about my road women. Several years ago after we started to talk more about people we meet I went with her to one of the men she was meeting who was I thought too big. I was amazed that she accommodated him without pain.

I would say don’t swing at all until you are both comfortably on the same page. In this case probably never. You should realize by her own admission she is a cheater not a swinger. If your uncomfortable letting her be by herself she’s already admitted she will do it anyway. Time for you to do some soul searching as to what you want! swingers are in it for their spouses cheaters are in it for themselves

I am thinking that you can buy a Nessie too. My friend never went into specifics on how she met this handsome young man other they met online. I’m not inferring she isn’t attractive just saying we are older and he did mention girlfriends.

Exactly, plus not knowing how we would feel afterwards or the next day if we jumped right in. I know for some people that has worked out for them. But we feel the slower approach is best for us.

Congrats on your first experience!!! Woooohoooo!!!

The leprechaun with the pot of gold is first on our list... 😉

Our 'unicorn' has a casual long-distance boyfriend who spends the weekend with her about once a month. I've lent Mrs. E out a few times now to reciprocate, and we spent NYE with them as couples. We see her less often now that she's moved to a house in a different neighborhood, but they still go to the gym together and it's been a very good arrangement.

Yes relative to the norm, bigger and smaller. My preference to size falls into what I have always experienced, I never said someone was too anything. I’m not aware of what my friend was looking for when she met this endowed play friend or why she wanted to contact or respond him. I didn’t desire, I joined in on her fun for the fun of seeing something I never saw. Lately I have been experiencing many new things so why not this. Possibly I have a secret bucket list deep inside that I’m looking to check off. As to the great experience I would check off the experience as fun with my friend not a thing I wanted to do as much as something we did.

Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, Unicorns, Loch Ness Monster All live in our minds as mythical beings and then things changed. The first to go was Unicorn, something I was told didn’t exist which was reinforced in a sexual reference when we could find a woman to play with us. Then I became a Unicorn. I joined a new friend and her husband for a day of sexual play that did away with the Unicorn myth. Just so nobody makes a comment my husband was fully aware of my play. That same friend made me believe the Loch Ness Monster exists, she has a male friend she calls Nessy that she and another friend found on some sex hook up site. The picture he posted, she showed me, showed his Monster in all its glory. My first reaction was that the picture like all the other Loch Ness pictures were fake. She assured me that Nessy existed and invited me to see and enjoy it with her. I had only heard or read about men like Nessy, some of those stories on here, and never had any desire to be with anyone or thing like that. My first reaction that it was a painful thing not a pleasure. Now I’m a believer, Nessy exists and I have seen the monster get excited and stiffen his neck and shoot his venom. Starting to change my thoughts on Santa Clause and Easter Bunny

We have been with way more female unicorns then single men! Honestly we never even searched that hard. Just made profiles that were appealing to them I guess. Never reached out to any of them first. They all contacted us. Probably helped that Missus E is actually bi ( not bi because I want her to be) and we have pictures to prove that she is very into women.

Years ago, a female friend of mine - very attractive, an actual model - hired a professional 9" penis in Las Vegas. There wasn't even an age difference or anything along those lines. He'd simply identified his customer - women who wanted to try a gigantic appendage on a girl's weekend to Vegas with zero drama - and figured out how to market his product. I've also heard more than a few accounts of wives who are authorized users on their husband's American Express with a modest budget to treat a young boyfriend and keep it quiet.

There is no speed but your own that matters.

Mrs. E insists that it's simply too sensitive if a man - or a toy - gets 'under the hood' and applies direct stimulation. It's intense enough that she treats it like a hot stove. So she's always going for the 'in all the way' type of orgasm. I am of the mind that if she relaxed into it and persevered that she could absolutely learn to get off from oral, and possibly have the most intense orgasm of her life, but I've also resigned myself to the idea she's never going to just lay back and let me work on that.

I totally agree with your agreement! Yes - same here! And the quantity is the best! Everyone gets their fill of what they enjoy the most as well as in totality. No matter how good the most amazing male is sexually, he can only provide one penis and only produce so much cum. Which is never enough. She had thought he was getting extra sex without her knowledge so they had to work on that. It was easily fixed. That is the down side to so many of us traveling with work when our busiest seasons hit. THAT is a great idea for couples with kids. We do likewise with the newer younger couples we've more recently added that have kids. A couple will sit out and keep the kids for a weekend or we will all pitch in to help the parents with nannies if we have a week long excursion. We do not always know everything that will happen but we all know the basic routine or lay out. For example we might have a women's themed party so it's centered around we ladies, or a guys theme, a couples swap based on who draws whom, we do the good ole gang bang - lol for birthday and anniversaries and other special occasions I love the couples' ones. It's fun pleasuring a couple as a group and completely wiping them out. Some times we have a sex toy focused day. Maybe it's strap on weekend? I love those. I didn't but have grown fond of them. A basic routine or pattern is lots of foreplay of course, loads of oral, we have some that are so good at oral they can make anyone orgasm multiple times so if they are overworked we will focus on tending to them. After oral and a lot of cum/flavor play/swap - there are endless ways this can play out, we tend to have a great deal of piv and or oral mixed. I love mixing male/female flavors as do others. We all enjoy cleaning up after orgasms orally. Once this has gone on for a while and the 69s are almost exhausted, we move on to more combos, eventually including anal but almost always last on the list. If someone thinks they will not make it this far and wanted anal often they will skip to this with a willing partner or two. Spit roasting becomes a fav at this juncture as do strap ons. We just had a great weekend of guys only and girls only. Some helped out, lent a hand here and there, as well as a mouth, but no other body parts with the opposite gender. So it was easy to know how most of it would unfold.

The clit and its stimulation is an elusive thing. Some women can only orgasm with p-in-v when on top because it allows her to work her clit as well. Or in another position if they are really in tune and the guy hits it by going in all the way.

Ann and I have been having sex together for more than 40 years. Given our ages, that may seem unlikely to some. But, I assure you, it is true. In more than four decades of having sex with the same woman, here's what I have to say about it: Great sex, is great sex. But, how we define great sex today is different than how we defined it forty years ago. Why? Our sexual skills, likes, dislikes, responses, and physiology, have all certainly changed with age. As a young woman, Ann was almost hypersexual, and she could cum, multiple times, by just about any kind of sexual activity--manual, oral, intercourse (vaginal and/or anal), and sometimes she would get so worked up she would cum simply by giving me head. And, she didn't need any foreplay. She was game to have sex just about any time of day or night, at the drop of hat or the bat of an eye (with the exception of when she was having her period.) We didn't experiment with a vibrator or other sex toys until years into our marriage. In fact, early on, she actually disliked even the weakest vibrator because she said it was overly stimulating and an unpleasant distraction. Today? She is still multi-orgasmic, but it takes more focus and the right conditions. Can she still cum from intercourse alone? Definitely, but not as frequently as in years past. And a vibrator is her frequent companion, having graduated to the ever popular Hitachi plug-in wand as her "go to". But, we have many, many other sex toys, including a Sybian and a Hismith, and our sexual experimentation has lead us in many different directions and scenes. The bottom line? The sex is still fantastic. And I don't really care how she cums, just that she does.... and does... and does again. Intercourse? Oral? Manual? Sex toys? A combination of everything? It's all fantastic.

Kinsey's 1948 study, and its conclusions, have been thoroughly reviewed over the decades. Both the methods, and conclusions, have been determined to be highly questionable, if not outright bogus, by many in the medical community. One large scale study conducted by researchers at Washington State University, and published in 2015 in the journal Psychological Science, concluded exactly the opposite: Human sexuality does not exist on a spectrum but rather is best described as a complex multiple choice. The study examined responses from 33,000 participants and the lead author concluded the following: "The results demonstrate that sexual orientation is not a matter of degree, but rather distinct and meaningful categories." Does some fluidity among sexual orientation exist? Yes, but the incidence is quite small. According to the study, less than 5% of heterosexual women, and only 2% of heterosexual men, said they have some level of sexual attraction to members of their same sex. Also, they found that men who reported having only "some level of sexual attraction to other men" were far more likely to identify as bisexual rather than heterosexual. The study's authors concluded by saying these findings show the dividing line between straight, and non-straight sexual orientation, is more well defined for men than it is women, but it is definitely still present for both. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797615598617

Playing separately is fine, but ONLY AFTER the two of you have reached an understanding based on mutual trust. It does not sound like you two are there yet, and quite possibly do not know each other well enough yet. This all can take time. It is time well spent. Until that time play together or not at all.

We would like to start by finding a unicorn ourselves...from there we will pursue searching for the tooth fairy, bigfoot and other hard to locate creatures.

For me, it's a good time for giving oral on either a limp dick or sloppy pussy. I like that; it excites me.

We won't tell.

Lent? People borrow your wife? Heck if I ever used that expression she would most likely kick my ass out of the bed or worse.

Unfortunately, I am the same.

Excellent! Taking things slow and step by step is the best way. Discovering your limitations as well as expanding your limits, not rushing the experience to only have morning after concerns or regrets. Everyone is different, individually, as a couple and as well as the chosen third or more. Having a patient and trusting other is key. Some find this person(s) by accident, others by talking to people who recommend someone that meets what they have in mind. We have both had experiences of being that go to for those wanting to test the waters for someone else, couple or single. All though the Queen has backed way off actually playing we both are active in attending the club, and I have been a safe go to for many couples and singles over the last few years in being selected as a safe and trusted live play toy. It appears you both are enjoy expanding your limits together, one step at a time.

I am in my 70's. I would have gone over, looked at the animal and asked her if it could swim. Any conversation requires someone to start it. Any exploring about other possibilities requires a conversation. Worst possible outcome is a boring half hour talking about her pet Pekinese at home

We are the same. For me it's about trust. Everything a man wants to do with me requires me letting him be in my body. If I'm letting a person be inside me, I'd like to know him. Or I'd need to know a bottle of tequila very intimately. That works too lol. I didn't always have this rule but I do now.

Interesting. We are part of a totally closed group of married couples for the reason that we all not only prefer bareback, but also having the guy ejaculate into the woman, almost always into her vagina. The difference is, I suppose, that us men (and the woman) don't mind or even enjoy (I'm in that category) going into that mess for subsequent rounds.

Even as a guy I can't get excited about having sex with a woman who I don't know; my wife is even more so like that. We need to click on a social level, process it, then if there is a desire, meet again to screw.

Chic's right, you should be aware and cool with what you're going to get into. But that doesn't mean you and your SO have to participate in all the activity.

We met our doctor at a party years ago. He examines my wife quite frequently.