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We just returned from our stay at Hedonism 2 in Jamaica and the worst part of it was having to leave. I wanted to thank everyone here and those that left reviews elsewhere for your recommendation. We were NOT disappointed. While many people are in different stages of the lifestyle with different interests, I wanted to provide my feedback to help them decide or provide some insight for those just getting started in the lifestyle. The facility was laid out very well, while they have a nude side and a prude side, either side is perfectly fine to choose and it is a very short walk should you choose to explore. The so called prude side, housing and beach, is the perfect place to spend the morning recovering from the night before or simply hang out in a quiet place for peaceful morning, relaxation and enjoy a more private intimate moment with your spouse or simply open a book to read. Clothing is optional, so do expect to see both nude, partially nude and fully clothed people. The Nude side, is the perfect place for party time, anything goes to the wildest and most open forms in sexual interaction. The best way to describe the beach is 0 to 10. You can choose to be totally isolated at the very end of the beach where it starts on the border to the next resort and can walk down to the other end which ends up being a non stop 24/7 party! You can basically walk along (a short easy walk) and choose to stay wherever you like. While being nude is required for this side, you can still expect to see some people with some sort of covering, sheer/lace, hat even a sarong. Logistics: The Food is delicious, all kinds of food available for just about every taste, the staff is also familiar to help you with any food allergies and sensitivities. Don't hesitate to ask should you have some concerns regarding the ingredients, the staff is very friendly and happy to get any questions answered. On one occasion, (Asian Food Night) the chef came out personally went over which dishes contained gluten and pointed out what was safe. I stopped him half way through because there was more than enough to eat. Plates, Silverware, Napkins were all very clean, staff visited the table often to top off drinks and take away any plates. The Bars were fully stocked, the drinks were properly mixed and no sense of being watered down or weak like we saw at other resorts. If you want an extra strong drink, they were happy to oblige but the standard drink was as you would expect. While they didn't have bottled water, you are given a reusable container with plenty of fill stations. The refill stations throughout the resort are triple filtered with UV to provide safe clean drinking water. The water was clean, odorless and tasted as you would expect from bottled water. The pools were clean and open to everyone, most of which are clothing optional with the exception of the one group of pools at the end of the nude side which was nude only. While there are several small pools through the resort, it was no trouble to find one that you can enjoy alone time with your mate. Same would go for hot tubs, plenty to choose from, private and open both nude and clothing optional. The nude side has a row of pools, semi warm one with a swim up bar, snack bar, wading pool (warm), waterfall that is a fence for a more private cave, large open hot pool, large cold pool and a smaller hot tub which is very warm. All of which are connected and easy to jump from pool to pool. Nude Side: - Do expect 99% to be Nude - Do expect to view open sexual activity, everywhere, on the beach, on the deck, around the pool, in the pool, on the floating dock, in the water, on the sand...... everywhere but inside the restaurants. Maintenance: While some did frown upon one pool or one room being closed as a given time, this is a good thing to be honest. The resort is basically a 24/7 establishment, there has to be a time where they perform maintenance and not every single room can be open 100% of the time. The resort is working hard to keep the property updated and clean, the closing of some rooms and pools should be expected. Nobody wants to go to a 'run down' resort. They are very conscious to maximize up time. For example, when we arrived the "Kamasutra Palace" was closed, we were a little upset at the moment but we saw that it was being repainted, new lighting fixtures being installed, floors being refinished and the whole building inside and outside being pressure washed. The next day, we went to find the other play room, just to find it closed but a sign hanging stating that the Kamasutra Palace was reopened and taking the place of the second play room. The same maintenance was going on there at the time. So there was always a play room open and while closing of any room sucks, it is nice to know they are keeping the buildings maintained and clean. We saw two pools closed during our stay which was no big deal as there were still many to choose from. I was surprised that they drained one pool, scrubbed, painted, made repairs and was refilled and back in operation within 48 hours. I've seen pools closed for weeks at hotels to make these types of repairs. I saw their crew out there in the dark working until it was reopened. Rooms: While the rooms were nice they were a little 'dated', wondering if they would be renovated anytime soon..... We then noticed 4 rooms with work crews gutting them for renovation, so do expect to see a new look on the other rooms the future Our room had one small issue, a drip of condensation from the A/C Unit, before we can even make a report, the maid noticed it and automatically contacted the A/C Repair Folks, they were in there during the daily cleaning and had it fixed in about 20 minutes. Beaches: The beaches were cleaned daily of leaves and debris but no real trash was ever noticed. The beaches and water were very clean, plenty of towels stocked, plenty of seating and hammocks to relax in. Some of the rooms also had private hot tubs on the deck facing the beach, a few in which we visited, all of which were cleaned and treated daily, good condition and proper working order. Security: The beach is patrolled with several safety/security officers. None of which were a bother, they would greet you with a smile. I didn't see any of them up close to 'personal activity' but kept their distance. They were very professional and just let people do what they wanted for the most part. If there was some activity that kicked off, I noticed an officer excuse himself from that area and simply moved a little further away to provide privacy. The officers would routinely look in another direction and not take the scenes as a movie for them to watch. The staff was the same way, basically walk by and ignore the activity, no judging, no finger pointing, very very professional. We did have one interaction, while we met some new friends, one of them required an 'assisted' walk back to her room due to a little intoxication, as she was staying in the room next to us, we offered to walk her back, not due to a security concern but more of a trip and fall consideration. We were approached by security and was kindly asked what was "going on here" we explained and all was well, they did keep an eye to ensure there wasn't something else taking place but allowed us to go on our own and kept a good distance. Guests: The best part of the trip were the people there. We have never met such a great group of people in our entire life. The people were non judging, open, very easy to talk to, happy to converse with anyone. The demographics of the group was better than expected. If you're worried about a certain age group or nationality, let it be known that it is a very diverse group of people. We've met people of all age groups, even a few in their 70's, all sizes, shapes, colors, classes, singles, couples. There is simply something or someone for everyone, no matter your level of participation in the lifestyle, you will not be disappointed. The people were very respectful. I highly recommend this resort to anyone, even if you're not currently practicing in the lifestyle, it is an experience that you will not forget. If anyone has any questions, I will do my best to answer.

There is no one (right) way to swing; there are many right ways provided the couple is comfortable with their version. Understanding each others motivations, each other's excitement, each other's satisfaction, and ultimately each other's happiness is key to success, and underlies the foundational recommendations about wide open communication.

Honestly man that really helps. Maybe I should talk to her about it in that angle. I'm not for degradation towards myself from her partners. I just love when I can see her being treated like her inner slut. Ive always understood cuckolding was kinda like rp or something where they belittle and humiliate the male. I know she wouldn't like that happening to me, and I wouldn't fit the part because in every facet of our life I'm a very dominant and resilient type. I've always been her backbone in terms of protection and being "her man" My curiosity and intellectual side is where my sexual preference and libido come from. When we were monogamous we were always trying new things, testing out new feelings and circumstances. I tend to just enjoy being a fly on the wall and seeing this woman who is an insanely strong sexual being. She never got to explore that side of her due to her upbringing. Now I get to be with someone who in my mind is fascinating and constantly adding new things to the table keeping me ever interested but being part of a sexual encounter with another woman seems kind of..... why do I feel like the best word for it would be "boring" like I'm not fascinated with any other girl. It's her I'm fascinated with. Well anyways thank you for the reply. Talking about this is beyond helpful. Not having a soul but her I can talk to was making me feel overwhelmed and bummed out.

There's nothing wrong with just letting the wife play. Opportunities for her will come without fail. But your question was is it normal. Yes, it is normal and preferred by many couples out there. It's called cuckolding. We are a mixture of stag vixen and a little cuckolding. I prefer watching her fuck and suck dick. She has told me many times to find a woman to play with but I hesitate. I'm not shy. I have game but I choose not to go there. My turn on is watching her be pleasured and joining in sometimes. Lately she's been telling me how much she thinks it would turn her on to watch me fuck another woman. Really, I'm just not interested....and that's okay and not weird or uncommon. Your fling will come along eventually. In the mean time enjoy watching the inner slut come out of your wife. No hurries in this lifestyle. Take your time and enjoy the sex.

I wrote a nice long trip review that I accidentally deleted so here's the highlights. We are a mid 40s couple that has never been to a Desire property. We have been to Caliente twice for a weekend but do not swap and our experiences have been limited to some voyeurism and minor public sex stuff. First off, the rave reviews about the staff being excellent and outstanding are all true. The staff makes the resort the world class place it is! We didn't communicate with anyone in advance and showed up blind. That's a personal choice but I think making an effort to connect with people that might be there the same time you might improve your stay. If it's your first time, or you don't feel comfortable doing that then it's no big deal. All the other guests are very friendly and it's easy to strike up a conversation with anyone! Cons: More bartenders would have been nice. Not a big deal but those poor guys and girls were overwhelmed. At night on Saturday trying to get a pizza outside the lobby at the bar took about 25-35 minutes. On the plus side it does give you more time to talk to people. Perhaps having staff periodically come in and clean and pick up the play room would have been nice. Remove empty cups and so forth. Pros: Everything Staff is the best I have ever dealt with anywhere in the entire world bar none. The grounds and rooms are very clean. The nightly entertainment is amazing and I would say don't miss it. Performances were behind the lobby. I didn't see if the times were posted but we might have missed it. Other stuff: The people at Desire make the experience. Hands down. I (m) am introverted and have a tough time making conversation. I go from “oh what do you do for a living,” straight to “what's your deepest darkest fear and secret?” There is no subtlety or tact. My wife, on the other hand can converse with anyone and strike up a conversation. I can't get over how nice, and friendly everyone was! You could strike up a conversation with anyone or everyone male or female. It was like the other guests took a real effort to be outgoing and make you feel comfortable. The best part of the vacation for me was the people. Just nice genuine people. And there's naked people. You think people watching clothed people was fun, try taking their clothes off! Since everyone was there with a spouse or partner no one was trying to prove anything. No one was taking a vacation here for their kids or under a rushed schedule to see things. People were there to enjoy their loved one and maybe have some sex. Or a lot of sex. We had boudour photographs taken by Provoke Photography. It was expensive but I highly recommend it. We had never done anything like that before and they do a great job. I would definitely recommend using them for hair and make up. Three young ladies came in performed hair and make up like a formula one pit crew. My wife's hair and make up looked great. Definitely worth the money! Our photographer did an outstanding job of making us feel comfortable and look good! For men the recommendation was a pair of pants and a dark shirt (we were keeping our photo shoot pretty tame). If you have any requests during the photoshoot don't be shy and ask. Everyone was very accommodating. Several hours after the photoshoot we had an appointment and selected our final photographs. It would have been nice to have more time to look at the photos but it seems like they were on a tight schedule that day. Totally recommend Provoke! We also booked an erotic couples massage for two couples (so four masseuses). I contacted Desire in advance and booked it for our last full day there. I thought that if we found a couple we liked we could invite them to join us or we could just have two masseuses each. We ended up each having two masseuses each. It was totally worth every penny, and it was just a great experience. The difference between having one and two people giving you a massage is exponentially greater than you might think. We spent most of our nights dancing in the nightclub and used the playroom twice. In the future I would bring as large of a beach towel as I had with me to the playroom and the vinyl seats didn't have sheets and the provided towels were normal size. Just having your own large towel to put down is nice. We went to the nightclub almost every night. I was worried based on other reviews that there would be a lot of latin music. I LOVE 90s music and I am very happy to say that music was spot on and it was a mix from 80s and 90s music up to modern songs! I think Desire Management heard the criticism and updated their music. I don't know if there was a live DJ or not (when there's naked topless women I get distracted). This was honestly one of my fears, that the music would be subpar but it was outstanding and had everyone on the dance floor! I have zero rhythm but we danced the night away! We dressed for all the theme nights. You can just barely match the theme and do just fine though. We were only there a few days and felt like there was always something on the schedule (foam party, massage, photo shoot, covid test). In the future I would do 7 or 8 days but I would still schedule all the same things. We didn't catch everyone's name unfortunately but had great help from: Cesar for checking us in Rafael our butler took care of anything we needed I flagged down Victor in the middle of the night for four problems at once and he was an absolute superstar! That was the review that is vanilla. We had two other things to mention. The erotic massage. It was hilarious. This was out first time at somewhere so....thorough? I didn't want my wife to feel uncomfortable and take things to far. We talked about it and decided to make it a non sexual massage. They give you a form before the massage and there's a diagram of the human body and you mark where you don't want to be touched. Or where you do want to be touched? Ah fuck, I didn't listen to the instructions. I put a large "X" over my crotch. Does that mean they will touch it? Or will they understand the "X" means don't? Just to clarify I go to the lady at the desk and tell her, just a regular massage is fine. "You have an erotic massage, yes?" She is super friendly and looking at me like I'm an idiot. I'm not sure if she was confused but I was relieved that everything was taken care of. "Yes, but just a regular massage is fine, a normal one." My wife was next to me. Whew, glad that is clarified so we are on the same page. The nice lady at the front desk smiles and says "ok." We are taken to a nice locker room where we lock up our items, shower, and then are escorted to a hot tub with champagne and flower petals in the tub. Then we get taken in for our massage. Two women for each of us. We get the massage and two masseuses are doing a great job. Then they do your legs and thighs and then they do the...THEY DIDN'T GET THE MEMO! At this point I made a legitimate effort and my conscious is clear. They definitely handled my equipment with great skill. They give the massage and then towards the end they stand my up and guide me over to my wife at her massage table. We are covered in wonderful massage oils and are both pretty worked up at this point. Imagine having sex with your wife but you have a cheer leading section ready to step in and give a hand. It was that amazing. The women massesues knew their business! They were skilled! Once I was over with my wife we had intercourse, and it was like having four sets of hands helping you. One was pushing on the small of my back (lol, maybe she thought I needed better rhythm?). Another was running her hands across our bodies and applying a very nice massage oil. I grabbed ahold and sucked on one of my wife's nipples. A few minutes later one of the ladies grabbed my wife's breast and made sure it was in the right position to be sucked but putting right in front of my mouth! Team work makes the dream work. I made a conscious effort to not finish during the massage, and also not when I was on the other massage table with my wife. I wasn't sure what the protocol was and I really like to get my wife off first! We immediately went back to our room hot and heavy! One night we went up to the Hot tub. As we were walking upstairs a couple was walking downstairs and complained there was no one even up there. We figured, roof top hot tub to ourselves? That doesn't seem bad. We go up there and there we no other guests. Also no bartender. Anywhere. Oh well, so we get in the hot tub and about 2 minutes later a group of about 10 people show up. Naked and having fun. They see there is no bartender. So the women start ordering drinks, and this magnificent bastard goes behind the bar naked as a jay bird and starts mixing drinks with the alcohol behind the bar. The man was the hero we needed. He asked "please no complicated drinks." He kept this up for 15 minutes! We figure since it's all inclusive it's certainly not stealing and if you don't want your guests pouring the drinks your job to keep the bar tender there. After a long time and a lot of laughs the bartender shows back up from somewhere and gets to making drinks. He didn't say anything, probably because he could get in trouble, and we didn't say anything because it was hilarious. Here's to you naked guy with a wide brimmed straw hat! Best drinks ever! If you have any questions feel free to ask! Sdc: Slycat8

Okay so I feel like this is probably pretty common amongst new swingers but I need to discuss it with someone cause I feel kinda bad. So me and my wife started swinging and have only had 2 experiences so far, both at the swing club near us. Both times me and my wife went she (a social butterfly) found someone within a couple hours and completed one of her fantasies both times. The first time I wasn't present with her I was just outside the room in the main play room. I did this to let her try it without any pressure or influence from me. The second time we dvp/dped her and had a lot of fun. Like 30 people stood around watching her wanting to get involved So my problem starts a few days ago when we got into a mild argument and she said "well it's kinda fucked. You have got to see me fuck another man. I've done it twice, but you have yet to do anything with another woman." So personally I'm an extremely shy and introverted person. She always thought I was the catch cause when we met in highschool all the girls were falling over me and I only had eyes for her. Well she walks into the club and literally everyone is looking at her. I don't have "game" shit Idk how to even flirt. It's not because I feel bad or like I'm cheating, I could honestly give a fuck less about that sorta stuff. I just don't have the confidence to go to a woman I find attractive and shoot my shot. I grew up extremely abused and so rejection to me is something that crushes me. When you learn to never ask for anything being denied when you finally do just ends your confidence. So really my question, is this normal for one partner to be the clear catch and able to go find partners where the other partner can't find anyone due to confidence? I dont want to make her mad because I don't ever do it but I also don't want to force myself to go fuck someone I don't even find attractive or something just to make her happy. I am totally content in our swinging choice and everything else. This is really just one of those things I hadn't anticipated. I hate it cause I know I'm attractive. I just have 0 confidence to test it out.

Sounds like a good arrangement, unselfish and fulfilling all around, and mature.

Yup. Totally normal

After me having a boyfriend for two years, I got over my jealousy and wanted hubby to play as well. I set him up with my female friends and acquaintances, who were more than willing to have sex with my husband. They were less willing to let me watch and participate. After having two babies pass through there, no dick intimidates me. A little girth is nice, but I've haven't had a dick where I've failed to orgasm. Too long can bottom out and hurt in my vagina, but long with no girth is best for anal. No dead end to hit.

I totally agree with your agreement! Yes - same here! And the quantity is the best! Everyone gets their fill of what they enjoy the most as well as in totality. No matter how good the most amazing male is sexually, he can only provide one penis and only produce so much cum. Which is never enough. She had thought he was getting extra sex without her knowledge so they had to work on that. It was easily fixed. That is the down side to so many of us traveling with work when our busiest seasons hit. THAT is a great idea for couples with kids. We do likewise with the newer younger couples we've more recently added that have kids. A couple will sit out and keep the kids for a weekend or we will all pitch in to help the parents with nannies if we have a week long excursion. We do not always know everything that will happen but we all know the basic routine or lay out. For example we might have a women's themed party so it's centered around we ladies, or a guys theme, a couples swap based on who draws whom, we do the good ole gang bang - lol for birthday and anniversaries and other special occasions I love the couples' ones. It's fun pleasuring a couple as a group and completely wiping them out. Some times we have a sex toy focused day. Maybe it's strap on weekend? I love those. I didn't but have grown fond of them. A basic routine or pattern is lots of foreplay of course, loads of oral, we have some that are so good at oral they can make anyone orgasm multiple times so if they are overworked we will focus on tending to them. After oral and a lot of cum/flavor play/swap - there are endless ways this can play out, we tend to have a great deal of piv and or oral mixed. I love mixing male/female flavors as do others. We all enjoy cleaning up after orgasms orally. Once this has gone on for a while and the 69s are almost exhausted, we move on to more combos, eventually including anal but almost always last on the list. If someone thinks they will not make it this far and wanted anal often they will skip to this with a willing partner or two. Spit roasting becomes a fav at this juncture as do strap ons. We just had a great weekend of guys only and girls only. Some helped out, lent a hand here and there, as well as a mouth, but no other body parts with the opposite gender. So it was easy to know how most of it would unfold.

It is a common fetish, but we only play around on the edges of that in a joking way. I certainly intended it in the same way.

For me, it's a good time for giving oral on either a limp dick or sloppy pussy. I like that; it excites me.

We won't tell.

Our 'unicorn' has a casual long-distance boyfriend who spends the weekend with her about once a month. I've lent Mrs. E out a few times now to reciprocate, and we spent NYE with them as couples. We see her less often now that she's moved to a house in a different neighborhood, but they still go to the gym together and it's been a very good arrangement.

"or whoever they wished to be with next" It's been a minute since we've engaged with other couples, but that was usually what happened naturally in a group of six. Someone finishes, goes to engage with a member of the opposite sex who has been hanging back since the last round. Often times that looked like sitting on laps, massaging, groping, necking over small talk and watching the others. Maybe it led to an erection, maybe it didn't.

We are the same. Closed group. No diseases. Super clean, healthy, careful couples. We have only had one wife of a couple come to us and say that she was not sure about her husband's safety. We all get tested regularly so we upped the date on the next tests. We were all clean. Sure at any time someone could mess us all up but we trust everyone until they give us cause not too. The lady and her husband needed to work out some of those very issues, hence why we are adamant about same room sex. Any time anyone has ever had sex with anyone in our groups alone (over the years within in non-closed groups), it caught up with them and changed the dynamics of their swinging as a married couple. Not a single couple is still together that did this. Thank goodness, like Numex, our group has so much fun barebacking it, filling, cream pieing, refilling, oral fests galore, swapping, mixing it all up no one has expressed any interest in outside sex. If they can't get what they need within our group, I doubt they ever will. I think everyone gets this and have no desire to ruin it. Even though we all do have sex with everyone, I have never seen couples so much in love. When I look at what we have and all the crazy things we do, from an outside perspective I'd probably think, the people have sex with anyone, anything, anytime, anywhere. But we are very much in love with our spouses, very well organized, have well planned gatherings, we all know what the main course is each time, and how it unfolds. We have found our groove once again now that the big scare is over with covid. I am pretty good at reading others and picking up on their vibes, I cannot see anyone in our group messing it up. We have had some move away, which is always sad and we eventually add to our numbers as we build that strong bond of trust and openness with new couples. It always takes a bit of time, but oh so worth it. We have life long lasting friendships. We are still in touch with those who have moved.

For me, it depends on how the spinach is prepared.

I absolutely agree that MM sex is an acquired taste, and no amount of persuasion one way or the other is going to change one's mind on the subject. Sometimes I have been open to it, most of the time not. I don't bring it up with a new swing partner/couple unless they bring it up to me. I'm certainly not going to tell you that you're intolerant or racist (!) if you don't dig it. I remember a time at a local swing club and there were a whole lot of single guys macking on my hot girlfriend. I would ask them, "Can I touch it?" referring to their cocks. That ran quite a few of them off...

Maybe you just haven't tasted spinach cooked by the right cook!

We are both bisexual so this is very much our thing. We play with a few other bi couples and singles so and in many cases prefer them. My personal favorite involves a very close friend that we have played with for a few years. My best orgasms with him occur when I am on top, reverse and my husband is attending to my pussy while his cock is in me. His penis is porn star material so we both enjoy it. My husband will guide him inside me and occasionally take him out and give him oral. I love watching and love the way his mouth feels on me while i’m taking one that’s a bit bigger than usual for me. After I’m done we both take care of my husband - they are amazing encounters.

We are a bi couple who plays with other couples & single straight males. I present myself as Bi & when we discuss it with the other folks I state that it is not a necessity and we only do what everyone is comfortable with.

Sure is interesting seeing the self-proclaimed straight guys spending so much time on the bi board spouting harsh opinions. Why invest your time in a topic you have no interest in? I don't like kale. But, I don't go to the vegetable board, subsection "kale" and type paragraph after paragraph about it. just an observation...