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As a semi-retired attorney, I fear getting stopped by a cop. Rent a hotel room. Generally safer.

Keep your eyes on the road!

The wife and I have been in the lifestyle for a year and four months now. We live on the Mississippi Gulf Coast and have a very nice swingers club a few towns over that we try and visit every Saturday night. We are also members of an online site. We are still new to the life and are trying different fantasies. One of the scenarios that we want to to try is me driving the wife around while she has our male friend in the back of the car fucking him. We was wondering if anyone had attempted this and how did it turn out? Also is there any lessons learned or tips for us? We have a small suv type car and the back seat lets down and kinda makes a big flat bed. I was thinking the interstate would be the best route to take because I don’t have to worry about stopping in traffic because after all even though we love being watched we don’t want to be arrested lol. Thanks in advance.

As we look through local profiles at SLS, it's very notable that a good 95% of all female profiles are labeled bi-curious but closer to only 1% of men are. It's rare that I see a woman that has classified herself as straight. Hubby says that it's only natural that woman would more likely be sexually attracted to woman because, well... they're woman so are just naturally beautiful and sexy. He has a less generous opinion of the male form. I kind of suspect that it may have something to do with the idea that we as woman tend to think it's what is expected so label ourselves that way to "fit in". That's only a suspicion mind you but there really is quite a huge disparity among the sexes on SLS and even among the general population of woman. What do you think? When we attend our first party in a couple of weeks, will I likely be assumed to be bi-curious? That wouldn't bother me at all, I'd just like to know vibe I'm giving off just by being a female at a swingers party. And additionally, I feel like I'd be comfortable with receiving basic pleasure but not reciprocating. Probably not welcome huh?

Call a divorce attorney, like today. I would want nothing to do with someone who allegedly loved me, but was also so thoughtless, mean, and careless.

Late the party on this, but the Mrs. has finally settled on the label of bedroom lesbian. She totally turns into the aggressor with other women in our group play. Good times.

Looks like MrMrsswinger nailed this one. I'd have a divorce attorney already retained.

We spoke again today after both having a little time to cool down and think. I made it clear that I expect her to use condoms from now on. She said I'm placing restrictions on her and that it isn't my choice to make. I pointed out this is a very responsible concession to make but she disagreed and still refused. The argument when on but eventually I said I'd had enough. No more swinging. Her response was that I can make my own choices but she has absolutely no intention of stopping and will continue to have sex with other men. She'd prefer I stay involved but is also happy playing without me completely. She did make one counter argument which is a valid point. Before we married she was very honest, open, and clear that she loved sleeping around and going dogging, clubs, parties, etc. She also admitted she'd cheated on exes. Us swinging together was her agreed outlet which I never had an issue with until now. "I know who I married" was her point. While I'm furious with her I can't utterly dispute this. We're now in another period of not talking. Ironically I think she gone to a meet today even during this. I guess I have some soul searching to do. Either pack my bags, or ignore her extra activities and hope she doesn't get pregnant. I hate both options and that fact either way I'll resent her force this choice on me.

No, not at all. No. Most couples (but not necessarily all) will ask what your interests and limits are before doing anything else. Those that don't ask will usually honor your requests if you tell them that you are not interested or to stop. The very few that may not listen at all should be reported to the club owner and escorted out of the club (very rare, but still a possibility). Don't let someone 'get away' with something you two are not interested in just because they force themselves in (that's what they are hoping you will do...nothing).

This is solely my — male half — opinion and I’ll probably be told by the longtime members here that I’m dead wrong… but here goes! ;-D I don’t think you’d necessarily be UNpopular at clubs. Even though most of the “veteran” couples are looking for some level of swap, some of them have a soft spot in their hearts for newbies — because they remember when they were new — and will play “down” to your comfort level one time anyway. There will also likely be other newbies there whenever you go and perhaps they’re looking to dip just a single toe into the water by sharing a bed with another couple. All that said, I’ll give you this piece of advice that I’m pretty sure the other members here will back me up on. Namely, when you make your first visit to a club, go with *NO* expectations other than to have a great time with each other. If that means you don’t do any more than get a playroom and have sex, take it as a positive. (That’s all we did on our first several club visits.) There’s something really exciting about having sex with the sounds of the music thumping and people milling around just outside the playroom door no doubt wondering just who’s in that room and what they’re doing in there. So don’t put any artificial pressure on yourselves to full swap, soft swap, or even share a bed with anybody else. And if you really want to put on a show while others watch, just leave the playroom door open. Trust me, you’ll draw a crowd!

My female partners all enjoy this. There is nothing hotter than feeling another wet pussy against mine. Makes for an incredibly intense orgasm.