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First let me say how sorry I am for what’s happening with you. I’m sure once again I will not be the voice of the masses. Simply speaking swinging is when everyone involved is completely transparent from the beginning. add even one ounce of deception and it becomes cheating. SHE IS A CHEATER!!! She not only cheated, she lied about it on more than one occasion. She’s been carrying on behind your back even after you tried to swing to give her variety. Some people will tell to forgive and move on, personally I would shut the whole thing down and confront him, and have a chat with his spouse. She said she did it behind your back because she felt weird, ask her how she thinks it would feel to find out you were fucking around behind her back? Honest people make good swinging partners, cheaters always cause drama and kill marriages.

Swinging is something you do WITH your partner, cheating is something you do without your partners knowledge and behind their back. She IS cheating on you and that is not swinging. That 'it feels weird' thinking about doing it with you is just further proof. She needs to stop seeing this guy immediately and you both need to stop swinging until your relationship can be strong enough and you have trust enough to know she isn't doing this without you again.

My wife likes getting topless in our convertible when we go for backroads fun drives with very little other traffic. Worry about that a bit. However given how short she is and that she would only be seen by an oncoming taller vehicle at a closing speed in excess of 110(55mph limit), I'm guessing it's more a case on their part of "did I just see what I think I saw?"

We just returned from our stay at Hedonism 2 in Jamaica and the worst part of it was having to leave. I wanted to thank everyone here and those that left reviews elsewhere for your recommendation. We were NOT disappointed. While many people are in different stages of the lifestyle with different interests, I wanted to provide my feedback to help them decide or provide some insight for those just getting started in the lifestyle. The facility was laid out very well, while they have a nude side and a prude side, either side is perfectly fine to choose and it is a very short walk should you choose to explore. The so called prude side, housing and beach, is the perfect place to spend the morning recovering from the night before or simply hang out in a quiet place for peaceful morning, relaxation and enjoy a more private intimate moment with your spouse or simply open a book to read. Clothing is optional, so do expect to see both nude, partially nude and fully clothed people. The Nude side, is the perfect place for party time, anything goes to the wildest and most open forms in sexual interaction. The best way to describe the beach is 0 to 10. You can choose to be totally isolated at the very end of the beach where it starts on the border to the next resort and can walk down to the other end which ends up being a non stop 24/7 party! You can basically walk along (a short easy walk) and choose to stay wherever you like. While being nude is required for this side, you can still expect to see some people with some sort of covering, sheer/lace, hat even a sarong. Logistics: The Food is delicious, all kinds of food available for just about every taste, the staff is also familiar to help you with any food allergies and sensitivities. Don't hesitate to ask should you have some concerns regarding the ingredients, the staff is very friendly and happy to get any questions answered. On one occasion, (Asian Food Night) the chef came out personally went over which dishes contained gluten and pointed out what was safe. I stopped him half way through because there was more than enough to eat. Plates, Silverware, Napkins were all very clean, staff visited the table often to top off drinks and take away any plates. The Bars were fully stocked, the drinks were properly mixed and no sense of being watered down or weak like we saw at other resorts. If you want an extra strong drink, they were happy to oblige but the standard drink was as you would expect. While they didn't have bottled water, you are given a reusable container with plenty of fill stations. The refill stations throughout the resort are triple filtered with UV to provide safe clean drinking water. The water was clean, odorless and tasted as you would expect from bottled water. The pools were clean and open to everyone, most of which are clothing optional with the exception of the one group of pools at the end of the nude side which was nude only. While there are several small pools through the resort, it was no trouble to find one that you can enjoy alone time with your mate. Same would go for hot tubs, plenty to choose from, private and open both nude and clothing optional. The nude side has a row of pools, semi warm one with a swim up bar, snack bar, wading pool (warm), waterfall that is a fence for a more private cave, large open hot pool, large cold pool and a smaller hot tub which is very warm. All of which are connected and easy to jump from pool to pool. Nude Side: - Do expect 99% to be Nude - Do expect to view open sexual activity, everywhere, on the beach, on the deck, around the pool, in the pool, on the floating dock, in the water, on the sand...... everywhere but inside the restaurants. Maintenance: While some did frown upon one pool or one room being closed as a given time, this is a good thing to be honest. The resort is basically a 24/7 establishment, there has to be a time where they perform maintenance and not every single room can be open 100% of the time. The resort is working hard to keep the property updated and clean, the closing of some rooms and pools should be expected. Nobody wants to go to a 'run down' resort. They are very conscious to maximize up time. For example, when we arrived the "Kamasutra Palace" was closed, we were a little upset at the moment but we saw that it was being repainted, new lighting fixtures being installed, floors being refinished and the whole building inside and outside being pressure washed. The next day, we went to find the other play room, just to find it closed but a sign hanging stating that the Kamasutra Palace was reopened and taking the place of the second play room. The same maintenance was going on there at the time. So there was always a play room open and while closing of any room sucks, it is nice to know they are keeping the buildings maintained and clean. We saw two pools closed during our stay which was no big deal as there were still many to choose from. I was surprised that they drained one pool, scrubbed, painted, made repairs and was refilled and back in operation within 48 hours. I've seen pools closed for weeks at hotels to make these types of repairs. I saw their crew out there in the dark working until it was reopened. Rooms: While the rooms were nice they were a little 'dated', wondering if they would be renovated anytime soon..... We then noticed 4 rooms with work crews gutting them for renovation, so do expect to see a new look on the other rooms the future Our room had one small issue, a drip of condensation from the A/C Unit, before we can even make a report, the maid noticed it and automatically contacted the A/C Repair Folks, they were in there during the daily cleaning and had it fixed in about 20 minutes. Beaches: The beaches were cleaned daily of leaves and debris but no real trash was ever noticed. The beaches and water were very clean, plenty of towels stocked, plenty of seating and hammocks to relax in. Some of the rooms also had private hot tubs on the deck facing the beach, a few in which we visited, all of which were cleaned and treated daily, good condition and proper working order. Security: The beach is patrolled with several safety/security officers. None of which were a bother, they would greet you with a smile. I didn't see any of them up close to 'personal activity' but kept their distance. They were very professional and just let people do what they wanted for the most part. If there was some activity that kicked off, I noticed an officer excuse himself from that area and simply moved a little further away to provide privacy. The officers would routinely look in another direction and not take the scenes as a movie for them to watch. The staff was the same way, basically walk by and ignore the activity, no judging, no finger pointing, very very professional. We did have one interaction, while we met some new friends, one of them required an 'assisted' walk back to her room due to a little intoxication, as she was staying in the room next to us, we offered to walk her back, not due to a security concern but more of a trip and fall consideration. We were approached by security and was kindly asked what was "going on here" we explained and all was well, they did keep an eye to ensure there wasn't something else taking place but allowed us to go on our own and kept a good distance. Guests: The best part of the trip were the people there. We have never met such a great group of people in our entire life. The people were non judging, open, very easy to talk to, happy to converse with anyone. The demographics of the group was better than expected. If you're worried about a certain age group or nationality, let it be known that it is a very diverse group of people. We've met people of all age groups, even a few in their 70's, all sizes, shapes, colors, classes, singles, couples. There is simply something or someone for everyone, no matter your level of participation in the lifestyle, you will not be disappointed. The people were very respectful. I highly recommend this resort to anyone, even if you're not currently practicing in the lifestyle, it is an experience that you will not forget. If anyone has any questions, I will do my best to answer.

I think that I told this story here before. As a lawyer, I was in a judge’s chambers where lawyers discussed cases with the prosecutor and judge. The clients were outside in the courtroom. Another lawyer represented a woman who was charged with indecent exposure. She was giving her husband a blow job in their car which was in a parking lot of a nude beach. Her lawyer said: “ Judge, this couple has been married for twenty years! This woman doesn’t deserve a citation. She deserves a commendation!” Everyone laughed very hard.

In this resort, there is a place for all walks of life. If you want to be alone, on the beach reading a book in peace, no problem, if you want, you can enter a nude pool with 100 other people..... anything in between is also available. We met people who were not even in the lifestyle but there to just enjoy each other. It doesn't matter what level you're in to, it just doesn't matter. A beautiful time even if you want to just be alone.

We both have hall passes and we both use them regularly. When we started, a whole year ago we frankly didn't know enough about what would be a good rule or not so we basically just dove in head first and then started to make up rules as we figured out what we liked and what we didn't like. (I cant say I recommend this method for starting out.) Mrs D had a hall pass very early on during a week I was a away on business.... the result was my being very insecure about the whole thing. So we made up a rule about no hall passes. I wrote a post or two about my feelings on hall passes; sometimes I go back and read those posts and get a smile on my face about my current feelings vs what I was feeling six months ago. I think, looking back, that I was in the same boat as the OP... although I wasn't really very honest with what I was feeling, which basically amounted to my being jealous. I'm not dismissing what I felt, the whole situation made me very uncomfortable. Jealousy is very real and it isn't necessarily juvenile. Facing it requires that one finds out what the cause is which isn't very easy as our egos tend to misidentify what it is we are really feeling jealous about. It was difficult to put my finger on what it was that I didn't like, but in the end what I was jealous of was the amount of attention she was getting vs I. It wasn't so much that she had more opportunity it was more that those who expressed a desire for her seemed to be more interested in her than were the women who expressed an interest in me. Maybe a better way of putting it is that her opportunities seemed more sincere in their interest than mine were. It got to the point where I wasn't all that interested in swinging at all and my anti-hall pass radar was lit up like a Christmas tree. What changed my outlook was three really good swing experiences where the women were completely into me... overnight it seemed my whole attitude changed. It wasn't that I had an opportunity to use a hall pass with any of these three women, it was that suddenly I was feeling like I was playing a part in the lifestyle. It also became very clear to me that I had been misreading the other men's interest in Mrs D! It was as if I couldn't understand the nature of the chemistry between my wife and the other men until I had experienced similar chemistry. As Mrs D and I talked about it we decided it was time to try giving her a hall pass again to use with a single guy we had met at a party. The result was incredible! It didn't bother me at all and it turned out that her being chased was kind of a turn on for me! Another time she was able to play with a man whose wife I absolutely have no interest in. (she is very good looking, but just no sparks between us ) Problem of 4-way chemistry solved! Over the last couple of months I have had the opportunity to use a hall pass with a close FWB. The whole experience has been very positive. I don't want to sound like I am saying to everybody to go use a hall pass. I can certainly understand and identify with those who choose not to use them. Neither my wife or I like to talk much about what happened during the hall pass. It isn't that we are jealous its that seeing someone separately is very personal. We both have found that its a kind of alone time that is nice to keep for ourselves. Compare that to when we swing as a couple and we like to go over the whole evening in detail saying what we each liked and disliked and what we learned from our partners. There is a very different feeling to swinging together versus separately. Also we both have veto rights over who we each can see. That is, we both like to know the other party. Having a Hall Pass isn't the equivalent of it being a free for all. Obviously there are some safety concerns as well that I have to be comfortable with.

I'd say. go for it, have fun. Go at night, no lights on inside the car as to provide some level of privacy. Look for rural roads for your first time. Maybe don't put seat down, but make love in the back seat. Again might provide a little better privacy while allowing for the feeling of exhibition. Not sure about sex offender, but seat belt laws, and indecent exposure. S

This is one of the things the wife wants to try. She has become a big exhibitionists since we started into the lifestyle. We have a SUV which turns into a bed platform as well. Our only worry is getting caught. I mean shit like this could land a person on the sex offenders registry...couldn't it?