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As for his ex-gf...sometimes two people realize that while they can be friends, they just don't work as a couple and can step back to being only friends. Sometimes there is something that requires them to try and remain friends after the breakup (like a child in common), and sometimes it can be that one of them is trying to hold on to the other. Unless there is something keeping them connected, that he becomes defensive when you mention his ex is a definite . You need to figure out what is going on with his reaction before you move forward with anything. Are you wrong to have feelings of jealousy or anxiety around this woman? It sounds like maybe you should be. You both need to have a sit down heart to heart talk about this. If he can't do that for you, then you have bigger problems on the horizon. Good luck and let us know how things are going.

First, when it comes to successful swinging, a couple must have an abundance of love, trust, and communication. It is the combination of the three that helps minimize or even eliminate the jealousy that can arise. From the information posted, we can't tell whose idea it is for you to start swinging, but until you have an excess of all three, neither of you are ready.

I think it means that your fiance is not cut out for the lifestyle. It is an odd and quirky hobby. To get two people in a relationship to find this hobby of interest is unusual. It goes against a lot of deeply held beliefs in our society.

My girl and I are both bi. Now I am really into women, and would take woman any day over a guy, but I do like guys--well, cocks actually. My first actual sexual encounter was with my best friend when I was 12 & 13 and we were just discovering sex. We'd steal nude girlie mags and whack off together, which progressed to each of us taking turns playing the girl as we lubed up and pumped between each other's legs and ass. No actual penetration. Then we heard about blow jobs so we tried it out on each other. This lasted for about a year until we read an article on homosexuality. We were appalled. Neither one of us wanted to be queer, so that stopped. Fast forward a dozen years and I was married, in grad school in NYC and my wife and I became close friends with a gay guy-very nice looking, classy, with money and great sense of humor. My wife was a natural fag hag, and they became close friends. About a year into the friendship, she took off one weekend and left us to fend for ourselves. We had a bottle of scotch and wound up blowing each other. That started a relationship that lasted for almost a year until he got a real boyfriend, who got jealous and turned me in to my wife. I don't know why, but she didn't leave me. In any case, that was my first adult bi experience, and I was liking it, but again it stopped. About 6 years ago, mired in a sexless marriage, and getting internet savvy, I started hooking up with other a few net tramps (tramp being a good word and bi guys. I was amazed at how many bi guys there were. Finally, out of the marriage. I was introduced to my current girl. She had been into the lifestyle with her husband. She was bi. As the relationship progressed, I confessed that I was bi, too. She was curious how that would go and suggested a 3 way with another bi guy. I loved the idea and set it up. Since then, we've invited numerous bi guys to join us. She digs having two men take care of her and apparently gets turned on by the guys playing and blowing each other. So after this very lengthy introduction, I'm wondering how many couples like us are out there? How women feel about men doing each other and how many guys have done bi or are curious, and just general reactions to what I've written. There seems to be no problem with the girls getting it on, and I'm wondering if there really is no problem with the boys getting it on also?

My experience started around 13 or so very similar senario.My Bi-ness never re-appeared untill during a very good night of lovemaking I broached the subject with my wife.Looking for telltale signs all I saw was a BIG curiousity,not disgust.Being bi for gals is o.k. why not guys? Now we play with select single bi males,bi or staight couples.Wife really enjoys bi threesums wher everyone shares.

I'd say hot; have always wanted to explore while a woman watched and eventually joined in. To me, giving oral looks like so much fun...being in control!! I loved the youth story also. I think back and wish i had a buddy during my early to mid teen years that I could have jacked off with and explored with as well.

I agree with OhioCouple's philosophy. I also think a MFM (with 2 bi guys) would be a major turn-on. It's one of my fantasies. Mr. Vespertine, on the other hand, would NEVER indulge me in it.