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So I do understand how you feel but being sexually open or a swinger doesn’t make you devoid of emotion or open to disrespect. The purpose of the lifestyle is for yourself and your partner to explore sexually with a mutual bond of trust and respect. If you have found that his behavior or attraction to his ex has crossed the line then he should respect and distance himself from it but from your statement he instead fighting to keep her in his life and that is not okay. I would recommend taking a step back from the lifestyle till he can make meaningful change or move on. You shouldn’t be forced to feel like second place in your relationship, he should be fighting for you not against you.

As for his ex-gf...sometimes two people realize that while they can be friends, they just don't work as a couple and can step back to being only friends. Sometimes there is something that requires them to try and remain friends after the breakup (like a child in common), and sometimes it can be that one of them is trying to hold on to the other. Unless there is something keeping them connected, that he becomes defensive when you mention his ex is a definite . You need to figure out what is going on with his reaction before you move forward with anything. Are you wrong to have feelings of jealousy or anxiety around this woman? It sounds like maybe you should be. You both need to have a sit down heart to heart talk about this. If he can't do that for you, then you have bigger problems on the horizon. Good luck and let us know how things are going.

I appreciate your feedback, I am really struggling with where to go or what to do from here. We are engaged, i have moved my entire life to be with this man, and now i feel completed disrespected and that my feelings just dont matter. He absolutely will not concede that i have a reason and a right to feel the way i do. All i did was tell him that it made me uncomfortable. :(u

Great advice.

Maybe the two of you could do relationship counseling before you get married and work on some of this ahead of time. It feels like you are going into marriage unable to be vulnerable to each other.

First, when it comes to successful swinging, a couple must have an abundance of love, trust, and communication. It is the combination of the three that helps minimize or even eliminate the jealousy that can arise. From the information posted, we can't tell whose idea it is for you to start swinging, but until you have an excess of all three, neither of you are ready.

I think it means that your fiance is not cut out for the lifestyle. It is an odd and quirky hobby. To get two people in a relationship to find this hobby of interest is unusual. It goes against a lot of deeply held beliefs in our society.

I agree completely. I don't think it is any less natural for a man to be bi-curious than it is for a woman....it is just a prejudice society has placed on it.

Me and hubby are both bi, but he won't let me post it all over the internet for some reason. LOL. The hottest thing for me is to see to guys going at it, in every way. I have lots of fantasies about being done by alot of guys, and them going at it all around me as well. Still waiting for a safe situation for this to happen in tho. When I first learned hubby was bi and had had bi sex, I was morbidly facinated, and it took me awhile for it to REALLY start turning me on, but the more I thought about it, the hotter it became. During sex sometimes he will suck on my tongue as if he's going down on a guy, and we both come like crazy. It is hot.

Put me down for hot! I was introduced to bi sex by an older male cousin when in early teens. He was showing me his porn stash and we both got hard. One thing led to another and we started to suck each other. When I came in his mouth, wow. We continued for a couple of years plus I was pleasured a couple of times at a movie theater by several grown men. Then I discovered women and didn't look back. That is until my wife lost interest in sex a few years ago after a health problem. I had never forgotten my interest but never pursued any mm activity until I discovered porn on the internet. Suddenly my interest in bi sex was evident as I read and got off on porn sites and bisexual stories. This continued until I met several other married guys with similar interest. I rediscovered how much I enjoyed both sucking and being sucked by another guy. I am not interested in anything but oral. I guess my biggest fantasy now is getting into a mmf with a couple where I can enjoy oral sex with both the male and female and where the female is turned on by watching the guys do oral on each other.