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Our poly family life has been mundane for a while. Fulfilling and satisfying for certain, but nothing wild going on. Well, two weeks ago I took a step in an interesting direction. I was at a conference and caught up with a guy, Joe, who I had met in the past and found interesting and attractive. We ended up having dinner together, taking a lot of pleasure in one another’s company. At one point I had my hand on the table and he placed his hand on top. I turned my hand over so we could clasp. He is married, having spoken of his wife previously and knew that I was married as well, but not about my whole poly situation. There came a point where I seized the situation and told him very directly that I would sleep with him, but his wife would have to be there. Later, I corrected myself and said that although I preferred it, she didn’t have to be there but would need to know and approve to me directly. Joe didn’t reply except to ask if my husband needed to approve. I said no, that you’re the one wearing the wedding ring, not me, I only need to tell my husband. We had already been talking about sexual topics, so Joe asked if my husband allowed me to play around. I said that I don't do that, and reminded him that his wife had fucked three to four times more guys before they married than I had my entire life, so who's the slut here? (Who doesn't know exactly how many sex partners their spouse has had and talked about it?) In discussing women in general, and his wife in particular, I also told him that I had a Lesbian side. He didn't respond. As we went back to our rooms, I joined him on the elevator and had him get off on my floor and walk me to my room. I opened the door but stood there blocking any entrance. He was standing back and I pulled aside my jacket, unbuttoned my blouse several buttons and exposed my left breast. He cupped it in his hand and we kissed deeply for several minutes before I disengaged and told him that when he gets home to lovingly fuck his wife and have crazy sex while thinking of me. I said good night, and he left. When away from home, I often masturbate at night before sleeping, but this was particularly intense, fingers inside for one orgasm and then the handheld shower pulsing on my clit for the second. The day after I got back, Joe called me and politely went between how delightful a time he had at dinner and hoping he hadn’t done anything untoward. I said that I felt the same. I stressed that regardless of the way things go between us that I wanted to meet his wife, and not to worry - I wasn’t going to say anything about what we had done or might do without his prior approval. I pretty much ordered him to bring her next time we could arrange our paths to cross. He could also call or text me on my cell at home, no problem worrying about my husband. Also the day after I got home, after the kids were tucked in, I got hubby, Red, Clair, and Lora together and told what I had done. Their reaction was what I had expected, but more so. First, they were surprised that despite being so attracted that I didn’t fuck him, but also they did believe me that I hadn’t. Second, unlike our usual splitting up for the night as our moods dictate, we all went into one bedroom. It was intense with me in the middle of it all. The next morning the reality set in for us that what I had done was, as David called it “schoolgirl making out,” and there would likely be nothing more coming from it. I kept this post short, but feel free with any questions or comments.

We could have and I would have if he weren't married. Girlfriend or even fiancée I would have in a heartbeat, but not a wife unless I have her permission. Meanwhile, it feeds our sex life at home.

I just booked a 4 day weekend for my wife and her bf in New Orleans next month and I am every bit as excited about her trip as she is.

My wife has done this once. She went away for a 3 day 2 nighter with a long term boyfriend of hers. I'd met the guy of course, and we'd all played in a threesome before. I didn't have any worries or concerns. She had a great time. Me? Not so much...but nothing to do with her being away. I had a medical emergency the second night and had to go to the emergency room. She wanted to hop in the car right that moment and drive home. I told her that was absurd; I was going to be out of the hospital by the time she got back, and there was literally nothing for her to do. Plus, she'd be driving through the night barely able to stay awake. Dangerous. Why give up a great night and following morning only to get back here with nothing to do, plus the risk of making the drive during the night? It didn't make sense. She stayed, I kept her updated, and she...uh...kept me 'updated' too All good. I'm sure we'd do it again if the situation arose. Just, without the emergency room bit this time

With the our collective kids having been in our vehicles, that would be the least of our concerns.

That's a wonderful attitude, not just with sex, but life in general. Explore. If it doesn't work out, move on without regret.

💯% correct. When we decided to cross the line into the unknown we made a commitment to enjoy, have fun and explore. The biggest rule we had is to try before saying no and once we said no there would be no questions as to why. Another commitment was to continue to try new things and not to quickly say no. Linda has been more experimental, me not as much because of my lack of desire of being with men. The closest I’ve been is me an another guy being with Linda and in very close contact.

My wife having a third orgasm is a daily occurrence, and no, I don't mind the mess either!

Why do some men try to force their wife to be bisexual? I had a couple instances where men have tried to get me to "turn out" their wife. One of the most recent told me she was Bi, and arranged for us to meet. Turned out not only was she not Bi she had no clue who I was, nor why I was there. When I questioned him he said he thought I'd seduce her. I left, and blocked his number. Another couple met with me and the woman was very affectionate when her husband was there but didn't want to be touched when he wasn't there, as she wasn't Bi at all. She was playing a roll for him. I was embarrassed and left. So why do some men try to force something that's not real? Wouldn't you be concerned it could damage your relationship?