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Unfortunately, your friend suffers from a very common problem in the L/S. It's hard (no pun intended) for lots of people to get over that what they are doing is okay, especially if they have spent a lifetime being taught that it isn't okay. Luckily there is a pill for it...

Amy just told me that we will be celebrating the 5 year aniversary of swinging with Ken and Lesley in weeks time. Her and Lesly are planning a surprise. Something new. I asked her for a clue but she said wait till tge 22nd to find out. Looks like I may have an exciting story to tell.

Our poly family life has been mundane for a while. Fulfilling and satisfying for certain, but nothing wild going on. Well, two weeks ago I took a step in an interesting direction. I was at a conference and caught up with a guy, Joe, who I had met in the past and found interesting and attractive. We ended up having dinner together, taking a lot of pleasure in one another’s company. At one point I had my hand on the table and he placed his hand on top. I turned my hand over so we could clasp. He is married, having spoken of his wife previously and knew that I was married as well, but not about my whole poly situation. There came a point where I seized the situation and told him very directly that I would sleep with him, but his wife would have to be there. Later, I corrected myself and said that although I preferred it, she didn’t have to be there but would need to know and approve to me directly. Joe didn’t reply except to ask if my husband needed to approve. I said no, that you’re the one wearing the wedding ring, not me, I only need to tell my husband. We had already been talking about sexual topics, so Joe asked if my husband allowed me to play around. I said that I don't do that, and reminded him that his wife had fucked three to four times more guys before they married than I had my entire life, so who's the slut here? (Who doesn't know exactly how many sex partners their spouse has had and talked about it?) In discussing women in general, and his wife in particular, I also told him that I had a Lesbian side. He didn't respond. As we went back to our rooms, I joined him on the elevator and had him get off on my floor and walk me to my room. I opened the door but stood there blocking any entrance. He was standing back and I pulled aside my jacket, unbuttoned my blouse several buttons and exposed my left breast. He cupped it in his hand and we kissed deeply for several minutes before I disengaged and told him that when he gets home to lovingly fuck his wife and have crazy sex while thinking of me. I said good night, and he left. When away from home, I often masturbate at night before sleeping, but this was particularly intense, fingers inside for one orgasm and then the handheld shower pulsing on my clit for the second. The day after I got back, Joe called me and politely went between how delightful a time he had at dinner and hoping he hadn’t done anything untoward. I said that I felt the same. I stressed that regardless of the way things go between us that I wanted to meet his wife, and not to worry - I wasn’t going to say anything about what we had done or might do without his prior approval. I pretty much ordered him to bring her next time we could arrange our paths to cross. He could also call or text me on my cell at home, no problem worrying about my husband. Also the day after I got home, after the kids were tucked in, I got hubby, Red, Clair, and Lora together and told what I had done. Their reaction was what I had expected, but more so. First, they were surprised that despite being so attracted that I didn’t fuck him, but also they did believe me that I hadn’t. Second, unlike our usual splitting up for the night as our moods dictate, we all went into one bedroom. It was intense with me in the middle of it all. The next morning the reality set in for us that what I had done was, as David called it “schoolgirl making out,” and there would likely be nothing more coming from it. I kept this post short, but feel free with any questions or comments.

We both are bi, and enjoy watching each other in a bi-bi situation. Do you share this?

Since Joining I noticed that we haven't posted about our first experience in the lifestyle and thought it would be an interesting read. The Wife and I have always had a desire to look into the lifestyle but we had a couple of issues to address along the way. Once the issues that were affecting our attempts at liberating our sexual side we needed a way to test the waters safely which we could better manage incase we needed an immediate abort option. Weirdly enough I asked my best friend/best man and oddly enough the god father of our daughter to help me and he agreed. The days leading up to the event my wife was kinda freaking out and getting into her own head about the experience, how would be viewed, if my friend would find her unattractive, etc. The day came and we couldn't decide how to break the ice, I suggested she come out in my robe and we can go from there. Well she eventually came out and she was a nervous wreck. I tried to kiss her and slowly undress her and then I asked my friend to touch her and he rubbed her for about a minute before she freaked out and put the robe back on and left. I left and we discussed it and she expressed her feelings again of being ugly and being thought of as a whore and we talked it out and we got dressed and hung out with my friend till he left the next morning. a few days later she apologized for freaking out and we talked about what happened, her expectations and mine ( I honestly didn't have any except she enjoy herself) and what she wanted to do. I texted my friend who lives a few towns over if he would be okay coming over and trying it again. He said okay and we went from there. We discussed it over the next few days we were gonna do and how to approach everything and we settled that me and her would start to have sex and she would blind herself and my friend would come in and join in. So the day came and we went out for sushi, hung out and we finally got to the point of the night to try it. We took a shower, I told her how beautiful and sexy she was and we got out and started to have sex. She blind folded herself and texted my friend to come in, he came in to our room and then got naked, he went in front of my wife when I asked him and she started giving him a blow job, soon enough she took the blindfold off and was looking around as she sucked him off and I fucked her. I asked her if she wanted him to fuck her and she said yes. So we switched positions, My wife took my dick out of her mouth to tell me she loves me and she is excited for him to fuck her and.. he goes soft. Come to find out he has performance anxiety issues about the experience and kinda shuts down. The night is finished by me and her fucking and he eats her out and she sucks him off while I fuck her and then the night ends. The following morning she tells me how excited she was to try everything and she really enjoyed the experience and wants to try it again. unfortunately our friend has left for his house and we plan to see if he will try again with us. He agrees and a few weeks later we try again and this time its a bit more open, we openly talk about how we will fuck her later and the things we will do and she is extremely turned on and excited. The time comes and this time he is able to fuck her for about 2 minutes before he goes soft again... this time he is concerned we will judge him on his performance because while he was fucking her doggy style she almost made him cum quickly and it was hard for him to get hard from that point again (fucking her doggystyle I personally call the closer because of her soft skin and soft ass, along with the way her pussy moves your dick so she rubs the right spot. its hard to not come quickly doggy style with her. ) Since then we have discussed how we both enjoyed the experience and how we would like to move forward and thus here we are. Hopefully you enjoyed that roller coaster experience cause that was a complicated experience to write in the first place.

Have you changed your thoughts? Would you like to have a bar, gun club, dance club, swinger’s club, motel, gas station or a myriad of other businesses next door, next to a grade school, church or have that church next to your house? I don’t know where you would find a brothel outside of Nevada, as all businesses must get variances to build. Do prostitutes have to have pimps and if one did why would you invite the pimp to your house? Is it fine to invite swingers to your house for sex? Would you want swinger clubs next to your mother or grandmother? If we invited a friend over for sex does it make a difference if we paid that friend? You sound like the moral police. Strippers and dancers don’t actually perform sex? Have you ever gone to a strip club? Porn actress are hired to have sex just like a prostitute, she can choose who and what she will do. I guess you have never read a biography written by a porn star, Linda Lovelace, I think she was one of the first mainstream porn stars said she was forced to perform sex acts. You seem to imply that prostitution is forced by a pimp, I disagree. If you ever attended a large university you will know at least one coed who worked the bars on her own.

Do you expect that boundaries will be broken? "Intimate acts" previously "reserved" for your "partners" will be shared? 🤭

I lap that up. Literally.

As it should be. That's why we are part of a closed group of married couples, we are all fans of creating that mess. Modern birth control makes it possible.

My wife reserves condom free for me and a selected few. SHE says swinging means going all the way. She's not a fan of condoms so she chooses her swinger partner carefully. She has just two who she lets finish inside her. Also both of their wives let me go bareback.

I don't squirt, but I can soak my pants with my natural lubrication juices when I'm excited. It can be a problem sometimes.

Who was it that said, “You don’t pay a prostitute for sex, you pay her to leave.”?

I read this post years ago and just skipped over it because it didn’t mean anything to me or my life. Now I came across the post again and reading some of the answers trouble me. It reminds me of an old adage, or is it a bible verse, He who is without sin, let them throw the first stone. Let’s substitute other situations for the word sex. If it were legal would you: Speed while driving Smoke pot, I know it is now legal in some places. Talk on your phone while driving. Have a few drinks before driving Jaywalking Not picking up your dog’s poop Littering Using a false name on the internet How about singing Happy Birthday in public, it’s a copyrighted song. Playing cards with your friends Public drunkenness Certain sexual behavior and the big one everyone is upset with PROSTITUTION. You might think of many of these acts as Victimless Crimes or consensual crimes, crimes that don’t harm. Bigamy, ticket scalping, gambling, and prostitution. Some have noted that many of us are prostitutes without thinking we are. Do people in the lifestyle bring a gift to a meeting or party knowing sex is involved. Others noted that we have been rewarded for sex with a dinner, a movie Or possibly a small trinket. Do you think getting a reward for having sex is wrong? Why not ask why a person would accept a gift, cash, for having sex. Is accepting a gift any different from getting satisfaction from sex with a stranger. We all have needs, some are physical, some emotional, and others have needs to pay rent or bills. Who are we to judge others needs?

We could have and I would have if he weren't married. Girlfriend or even fiancée I would have in a heartbeat, but not a wife unless I have her permission. Meanwhile, it feeds our sex life at home.

That's a wonderful attitude, not just with sex, but life in general. Explore. If it doesn't work out, move on without regret.

Missus E is a frequent squirter and yes we both love it! If others don’t like it they can go play elsewhere. Their loss.

My lady has squirted just a couple of times. My thought is that she did so only when she really let go and felt totally safe. It was amazing.

I gave my first blowjob yesterday. A long time acquaintance of mine suggested it, and we did a 69 while my wife watched. We usually play a bit of music in our room but it was silent and all you could hear was the slurping lol. It was embarrassing how fast and hard I came when I started sucking his dick. I was worried about how I would feel after I came, but it was honestly fine (and he swallowed which was awesome). I sucked his cock for about four minutes until he finished. Smell is a big thing for me, and luckily this guy always smells good. I have smelt guys that left something to be desired in that area but never close up. I do however like the smell of a female (even if she has BO going on) but I don't think I could deal with that giving head to a guy. Anyways, I am unsure if it is something I want to do more of...

It's lovely to see so many nice couples who are willing to enjoy the full sensual and sexual potential between couples. Our favorite is everyone on one bed exploring many avenues toward pleasure. It is so liberating to know that there will be no freaking out if a cock finds a male mouth or feminine lips find a wet pussy. We have a massage table and find a six hand massage one of the best ways to break the ice and to get to touch the victim in a comprehensive way before jumping into penetration. It's great foreplay. For the one who is getting the six hand treatment the pleasure is divine! It offers a fine way to become familiar with the physical body and touch of the same sex. For those playing for the first time with the same sex it is a safe and gently lubricated stroke of discovery. We are in northern Vermont and welcome travelers to the northeast.

Well, our reply is exactly the same as Brian and Jo's... We just love the opportunity for everyone to touch, feel, lick, suck or penetrate without worrying about what others will think. It's such a turn-on to watch your partner being pleasured regardless of the sex of the pleasurer.

We are a bi-bi couple and we love to play with other bi couples. It is a huge turn-on for both of us to watch each other in bi play. And of course it is great not to have to be concerned about what we are doing and who we are doing it with.

Dusty and I are both bisexual. more to enjoy.

I am listed on here as a couple. We parted ways a while ago but I continued playing as a single while we were together (with consent) and after. A lot of single guys mass mail for the hell of it. Throw out 50 invites saying the same thing and see how many bites you get. Sometimes after reviewing the profile a little more closely, you decide it isn't a good fit. I don't make a habit of it, but I'm embarrassed to say I have done it. I do show up and I do play. There are some things that might make it easier and make men more receptive. First off, both of you need to talk to him. If I just talk to the wife, I'm not sure how the husband feels. If I just talk to the husband, I don't know where she is. I also like to discuss some specifics about what is expected. I don't want to cross any lines I shouldn't. Kissing, anal, alot of things are easier if they are stated up front. One couple I play with on a semi-regular basis sends me sexy stories outlining what they want. It's not a script but it gives you some idea as to what is acceptable. It also is easier than reading off a list saying you can do this but not that. My function in a MFM is to help a couple fulfill fantasies that they can't alone. I help them and get pleasure in return. If the comfort level is there, more fun will be had by all and I believe the couple should really take the lead in setting the tone for the experience. I also strongly believe, unless it's part of the fantasy to do otherwise, that the couple should initiate the actual play. I will sit and talk for hours waiting for someone to make a move the first time. I don't feel it's my place. She can send out all the signals that she wants, but if one of them don't start, I will excuse myself at the end of the evening and go home. By the way, I'm available for parties. lol.

Exactly. Of the literaly hundereds, maybe even over a thousand, men that have that have contacted us over add sites I can only think of maybe 5 that turned out to be anything at all. We've decided that add sites are a waste of our time and now Sharona only pulls from people we already know or meets through others we know in our vanilla world. Everyone, and I mean Everyone, we know knows Sharona is a HotWife. (I don't think they know the term 'HotWife', but they all know she plays with others with my consent, knowledge, and delight. facelick I know this doesn't work for most (Having your 'swinger' side intertwined with your 'vanilla' side, but it works for us, and very well I might add. The only downfall is not all of these guys can handle MFMs but we manage to fit one in (MFM) at least once every couple months.

OP, Go figure. Most of the single men in our area are in it for the "could have had her" factor. They talk to you, you are interested, agree to meet, and POOF! They disappear faster than money in my bank account. And thats pretty damn fast! Someone told me that most single males (who are usually MARRIED males trying to feel naughty) get a charge from knowing they COULD have had you if they wanted to. 3rd grade crap. Now, there ARE good single men out there, I know 3 in particular. They are on the up and up. But the vast majority are either morons, cheating husbands or just plain assholes. The best thing to do is to meet them at clubs or meet and greets in our opinion. I have been told that once he agrees to meet you immediately ask for his phone number so you can confirm that he is real right there....if he balks you say "Thank you, come again! NEXT" and move on. Best of luck, Shelly

My guess is that the reasons they disappear are as diverse as there are people. Others tell me that single men are notorious for not showing up. That may be because a lot of "single men" are really married. Have you considered finding a couple who would be willing to "trade threesomes?" Not only do they seem to be more reliable and discrete, they offer a lot more possibilities: two different MFMs, two different FMFs, etc. Mr. Alura