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Hooboy. Ok Lotusart, allow me give you a similar situation but with a different outcome. Years before I met my wife, I dated and even got engaged with a woman (I'll call her "Cathy"). It didn't work out. But, we remained close. The breakup was amicable, we didn't tear each other down, and we stayed close. I moved away some months after we broke up (for unrelated reasons), but we stayed in touch. Years on, I met my wife. I told her right up front about Cathy, and that while there was nothing non-platonic between Cathy and I, and there hadn't been for years, Cathy and I remained very close. My (not yet at that point..) wife took this in stride. She was ok with it. I think part of it was her general approach to such things, but a lot of it was that I was up front about it and never once gave her any reason to doubt my honesty about everything in our lives. My wife and I got married, and Cathy was at the wedding. Our kids refer to Cathy as Aunt Cathy. We're still exceptionally close. It's quite hard to describe really. If my wife and ever been concerned about Cathy's presence in our lives, we would have talked it out. If it kept on being a problem, then Cathy would either be less of a factor in our lives or completely gone. I place my wife above all. I always have since we started dating, and always will. I would NOT be blowing up at my wife about this if it happened. She would have a right to feel as she did, and if I'm half the person I claim to be I would respect that. Yes, it would hurt to have to turn my back on Cathy, but I would do it. To me, your fiance does not strike me as being up front and fully honest about this. If I were in your shoes, it would scare the heck out of me. Who, exactly, are you marrying? If he's not willing to calmly and rationally discuss this, I strongly agree with GoldCoCouple. This has alllll kinds of red flags popping up. It's less about this old girlfriend and more about his willingness to commit to you fully with absolute honesty. I don't see that right now.

P.S., thank you for your service to the hurricane victims!

Me and my wife have been swinging for about a year now . We both really enjoy it the problem is when we get to the room I get really anxiety filled and start think about if I’m going to be ablyto get my dick hard and perform .. Every time I do end up getting hard it just takes 30/45 minutes and makes it an awkward situation I don’t know what I’m doing to make it this way . I’ll be having an amazing time the hole night them once we get to the room I freeze up . After we finish playing and we both go our ways my dick stays rock hard i fuck the wife over and over with a rock hard erection but when the couple that we are playing with is there it’s not that way my dick will get hard but all I’m doing is hoping the hole time that it stays up and I can’t even focus on the moment can anyone give me tips or help me with this situation

Very true for me as well. I can cum easily and get it off with or before the the guy, but I need a constant pace from him, except if I'm on top, it doesn't matter what he's doing. I can hit it just right the way I want and go off when I want. Until I decide to clean up, I want to hold it in me as long as possible. That's why I prefer we finish either missionary or doggy, head down, ass up.

We started with clubs, but later found we preferred the smaller venue of one or two other couples. But everyone has their own ideas and preferences. Have fun!

Thank you so much for all the advice, been MIA due to the massive surge of surgeries post storm so if I am not working I am usually sleeping. Right now the wife and I decided to put the club visit on hold till January so that we can focus on exploring more one on one with other couples and maybe single males; on top of that we also want to make it more like a mini vacation with getting a hotel, massages, and a more relaxed feel then dropping off the baby at my in laws and heading out on trip to the club.

I remember a joke I heard years ago about a couple who would put a quarter in a jar every time they had sex the first five years of marriage and remove a dollar every time after the five years. Ten years later they still had a jar of coins. We tried something different, I put ten dollars in every time we had sex and she could take twenty out when she gave me a full blow job. Happily I keep replenishing the bank.

We were not adventurous till we began swinging, Then my wife riding on top became a very satisfying way for her tocontrol speed, depth, angle and how long she held the creampie deep inside their pussy. Now Amy wouldn't have it any other wa, with or her swinging partner

I have been paid for sex. Honey has been paid to have sex. We were paid not by the person we had sex with, we were paid by a gentleman who likes to watch sex. Neither Honey or I have been forced to do this and the last time we talked about the sex we are having we are both enjoying the sex. To the truth we have had sex with those same people at home with no money exchanged.

That would make a good thread. I'll start! It was Sam. I still managed to cum, but only because I figured out how to rub my clit against him. It would have been ok to continue, but he was an asshole overall and I just stopped seeing him.

You listed all the evils of prostitution but you miss the basic premise of the original poster, would you sell your sex. No exploitation, no trafficking, no drug addiction, no underage sex, no servitude, just sex by a willing adult for cash. You are thinking in antiquated ways, many of the ills of your generation have now become mainstream and accepted. How many of your listed social ills can be connected to liquor and the prohibition, gambling which is now not only illegal but promoted by the sports that have in the past fought to prohibit, and cannabis sales that have now been legalized in many states, all had been connected to organized crime and other so called social ills. Have you forgotten that sex outside of marriage was illegal, sodomy was illegal, interracial marriage was illegal, homosexuality was illegal. What we have found is that those who force their own opinions on others do so because are lacking in other parts of their lives. It is a person’s insecurities that make bullies. It is comparable to the man who has to have a big car to make up for what they lack in other departments. Have a good day Andrew. ROAR!!!!

Cheating---Husband doesn't know. Hotwife---Husband knows and is turned on by it and both parties share the experience either through talking or watching. Cuckolding---there is an element of humiliation toward the husband that also turns him on. It can take many forms. Without the humiliation factor it isn't cuckolding. Otherwise we'd have to classify swingers playing separately as cucks. I wouldn't (and suspect others) like being called that.

The best sex I've ever had has been when I've wanted it the most.