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Still fresh from a house party I’ll try to write what happened. We are still very new to this whole scene and Linda and I promised we would always talk after and say what we did. It’s funny how we can remember the minute things and can’t remember a name. Love Linda said she was with Jeff, I thought it was George. I read on a number of posts that kissing can be an issue with others, it doesn’t seem to be an issue with the group we have met. We all kissed on our first meetings and last night it wasn’t a problem with any of the partyers. We knew and played with the host and two others at the party and not with the three others. Linda and I agree we are still the outsiders, the newbies where the others all know one another. My feeling it was a plus because everyone wanted to meet us. It didn’t take long for things to heat up with one of the wives I just met started kissing me and guiding my hands. I looked over and Linda was busy too. Plenty of fun for both of us, Linda said something strange for me to hear, had nothing to do with size, she said, her words, he had a gorgeous cock. I laughed and asked what? I asked if he was large. No. It was just a very pretty cock. I had to laugh. I asked if the sex was good with him and she said it was, she said she came a few times. I figured the comment about a gorgeous cock had something to do with that, she said it was just an observation. It was during secondary sex when she was doing a 69 with him she noticed how it looked perfect. I said you were just high, she laughed a said yeah. Best part she isn’t sure of his name. Hysterical. Have any other woman made comments about how a cock looks outside of size?

Favourite positions girls? Doggy and anal doggy for me.

This last time I only had one drink we were at a hotel takeover met a couple smoking hot wife we danced and I was getting hard then we went to the room and all I could think about was me not being able to get it up me and the wife got in the shower to calm the nerves we got out she gave me head then finally I got hard after like 30 minutes I started to fuck the other wife and he fuck mine the whole time I was fucking her I wasn’t thinking about how good it was or how fun I was having I just kept thinking man I hope I keep it hard after like 15 minutes I went but that was it no more the moment the other couple left I fuck my wifes brains out

Whenever I need help in that area, understanding oral sex by my wife or another woman always gets me hard. As I get older, it especially helps me to go a second or sometimes third round. I know what you mean. Even after good sex with others, both my wife and I want one final round together when we get home. The "reclaiming sex" thing is real. Nothing more loving than a wife letting you fuck another woman; nothing more exciting than a wife who has attracted other men and enjoyed sex with them.

Call me boring all you like lol but good old missionary is my no.1 Next is cowgirl and doggy.

Girls, how do you position yourself for doggy? In my pussy, I start hands and knees and work my way down onto my elbows, then chest. For anal, I stay on my hands. Lately though, I've been doing more standing, resting myself on a table for both.

Hi Popcorn! I'm originally from New York so I know "hamlet" is an actual designation and not a character from a Shakespearean play Anyway... Congrats on your first play date with a stranger! I'm sorry it wasn't quite perfect though Some people are ok playing with "swingles", and you might get some opinions to that effect here. We are not. If the guy is willing to be dishonest to his wife, what else is he being dishonest with? Maybe he has an STD and isn't saying? Who knows? He's also willing to risk destabilizing his child's home life and world. To us, that's despicable. My wife and I have never knowingly had a threesome with a single male who was married. We do look for telltale signs, and we ask straight up if they are and why they're single. We have turned away a couple of guys who we figured out were married and cheating. If you feel horrible about participating in a guy cheating, then don't. On your feelings about having seen Mr. Popcorn having oral; that's hard to unpack. The emotions around it may take some time to figure out. It might be a thing where you're ok with the thought of him doing it, but don't want to see it. Or, it could be that you're not ok with it at all. That can be a rule for the two of you; no guy-guy play, or guy-guy is ok but not if you're in the same room. That's ok. Really, it is! Just so long as you're both on the same page and go in to future encounters with the same understanding.

You’ve psyched yourself out. Many of us have had this happen when we first started out. It does get easier as you get more relaxed and have more encounters. Use your hands, mouth, and fingers and drive her wild with the foreplay. It’ll come. Figuratively and hopefully literally😛

Sounds like great advice to me. Even if you don't go to a counselor, you need to do something to resolve both of your issues, especially his. My experience, however, was totally different. Daniela and I started down the road to nonmonogamy with us talking about our exes. Me - an ex wife and several girlfriends before that; her - a multitude of ex boyfriends. We both found this kind of talk (who did you have the most sex with? who was the best? what kinky things did you do? who was the last person you fucked besides me?) very much a turn-on. It ended up with me suggesting to her that she look up and hook up with an ex. For me it seemed a good choice, mostly because men they were exes for a reason, but also because I knew that she would be safe and would enjoy having sex with them. We made sure told him that she was married, that everyone knew what was going on. The first time was just dinner between them to see if the spark was still there, then the three of us got together to confirm agreement. Daniela then started seeing one ex, then another. Later we did MFM threesomes. It was a good start to where we are now, playing within a closed group of married couples. Remember, exes are exes for a reason and can serve as dependable sex partners. Please let us know how it goes for you.

Ask your doctor if Viagra or another ED medication would help you.

P.S., thank you for your service to the hurricane victims!

I remember a joke I heard years ago about a couple who would put a quarter in a jar every time they had sex the first five years of marriage and remove a dollar every time after the five years. Ten years later they still had a jar of coins. We tried something different, I put ten dollars in every time we had sex and she could take twenty out when she gave me a full blow job. Happily I keep replenishing the bank.

I have been paid for sex. Honey has been paid to have sex. We were paid not by the person we had sex with, we were paid by a gentleman who likes to watch sex. Neither Honey or I have been forced to do this and the last time we talked about the sex we are having we are both enjoying the sex. To the truth we have had sex with those same people at home with no money exchanged.

You listed all the evils of prostitution but you miss the basic premise of the original poster, would you sell your sex. No exploitation, no trafficking, no drug addiction, no underage sex, no servitude, just sex by a willing adult for cash. You are thinking in antiquated ways, many of the ills of your generation have now become mainstream and accepted. How many of your listed social ills can be connected to liquor and the prohibition, gambling which is now not only illegal but promoted by the sports that have in the past fought to prohibit, and cannabis sales that have now been legalized in many states, all had been connected to organized crime and other so called social ills. Have you forgotten that sex outside of marriage was illegal, sodomy was illegal, interracial marriage was illegal, homosexuality was illegal. What we have found is that those who force their own opinions on others do so because are lacking in other parts of their lives. It is a person’s insecurities that make bullies. It is comparable to the man who has to have a big car to make up for what they lack in other departments. Have a good day Andrew. ROAR!!!!

Thank you Petra Don’t know if I am welcomed back by all the others. Posts like this scare me away. I can handle self absorbed people but ask why I should get worked up by someone who thinks they are the brightest star. Why do I need to argue and have anxiety, I have nothing I need to prove, I just look and things from another side and share. Opinions are just that, there are just too many who have been taking their opinions way too far. A nice person just sent a DM thinking that I stopped posting due to harassment, it wasn’t the primary reason. I have had some personal issues that a bigger influence on my absence.

Many exciting possibilities! You've been swinging with Lesley and Ken for five years and haven't watched your wife fuck Ken yet? Still using condoms? Do both - cum in Lesley's mouth while watching your wife ride Ken.

Do you expect that boundaries will be broken? "Intimate acts" previously "reserved" for your "partners" will be shared? 🤭

I understand; a taboo can be broken, but I want to be there. Variety is the best thing about non-monogamy. Not only doing things that we do with our spouses but in different ways, but also doing things one spouse doesn't like/want to do and even performing acts that never before crossed our minds.

Thanks for the explanation. I'll let another guy put his dick in my bum, and neither my husband nor I consider it anything special or sacred. As for enjoying any particular activity, we're happy for each other if someone can do something better than we can between ourselves. That's sort of the point of being nonmonogamous.

As a young girl raised Catholic, I was taught that no sin was unforgivable. That is one small part that I retain in my beliefs. It should be taken as an opportunity for redemption and "Without forgiveness, there is no redemption." If it happened to me, I would demand a full confession of the details, all two weeks worth, and turn it into an opportunity to reintroduce ourselves.

That sort of the way it was for us. Daniela hadn't been a swinger per se, but wasn't married before and had multiple, overlapping boyfriends and a few girlfriends. No threesomes of any type, however. I was previously monogamously married, but although my wife never said anything about swinging, I knew Daniela liked the variety. So... .... at my suggestion my wife started playing alone with two guys (separately) who she had fucked in the past. It made it easy all around: for me because she had fucked them before anyway and they were exes for a reason, for her because she knew them well, had enjoyed fucking them before and knew I wasn't looking for other pussy, and for him because although Daniela was now married, we met for dinner beforehand and everyone knew what the situation was. So my advice for what it is worth, start small and work your way up. a Foursome or maybe even a threesome, FFM even if your wife is bi. And Daniela started playing alone with him before we eventually moved to some MFMs; it just made it easier. Some people think alone play is riskier, we think it is easier. Maybe as an intermediate step you just join another couple, or even another woman alone, just to get on your feet. Man, whenever Daniela has had a good time, whether alone or if I'm am there, the first think we both want to do is have sex together. It is some of the most intense ever.

The Queens favorite if she has to pick one is doggy. She says it feels most primal, submissive and partners can be the deepest inside her. Also loves the man to pull out and shoot his cum all over her back.

True. The terms "cheating" or "adultery" are clear that they are sins, and if acknowledged as such can be forgiven. The terms we here use, "swinging," "nonmonogamy," "hotwife," etc. suggest that all of the parties see it as acceptable behavior, not as a sin, and therefore, without repentance, cannot be forgiven.

The sex my GF has with other guys is different than the sex we have also. The sex we have is more love making and passionate and with them it's dirtier and rougher. But I am perfectly happy with that arrangement. If that doesn't work for you then you should talk to her about it. And if she comes home late from work tell her to do you the courtesy of letting you at least know so that you know she's safe and you don't have to worry about her. Just keep communicating about all of this.

A lot of great responses above. From what I see, boiling it down to where you go from here I think depends on the degree of feelings. For example, you used "struggles", "really hurting", "grieving". There is a large progression between struggling with something and grieving over something. They say time heals all wounds, and I think for the most part that is true as long as one keeps in mind that 1) healed doesn't mean no scar, and 2) just because there is a scar from past injury doesn't mean something can't go back to functioning perfectly fine in the present. The healing process over a struggle and a grieve though are going to take different amounts of time. I think it is really too soon for her herself to even know for sure where she is at somewhere between struggle and grieve. Just keep talking it through though, that will help both of you figure out where things are which is the first step to knowing how to fix them. If the true feelings are closer to a struggle, it will likely revolve itself in fairly short order. If the true feelings are grief, then it will take longer, and in the worst case, may take professional help. I'm never a cheerleader/recruiter for swinging, so my intention here is not to convince either of you what the future should hold for you. I will however say it is the rare swinging couple that hasn't hit a serious speed bump somewhere in their swinging past. I don't mean divorce and that whole discussion, I mean a time when things didn't go how they were supposed to and it caused issues. Nearly any swinger can tell you a personal story about that, if not several. But, no matter how bad it seemed in the heat of the moment, with time, things almost always worked themselves out with no lasting harm done. I suspect that is because if the base relationship is strong, it will weather storms, and there isn't anything unique about a swinging-caused storm. If the base relationship isn't strong, then bad things can happen, and again, that's not unique to a swinging stressor. Good luck. I think with some patience, understanding, kindness, and good communication everything will be fine and you may very well come out on the other side stronger than before.

So I'm an extreme doggy lover, bury my face in the bed and ass in the air and you can pound me into the bed. I also love being on top and riding him hard. It is super yummy.

Another way for me to cum quickly is putting my legs inside the guy's when in missionary. He doesn't get as deep, but it works my clit and the head of his dick hits the entrance of my vag just right.

Although I like missionary best, I can orgasm fastest when I am entered from behind and he's gently playing with my nipples. But that's with one guy; if I'm in a threesome of either type there's other even better arrangements.

Doggy and anal

Doggy

My GF's is doggy.

Doggy

I like to have a pillow under my head with my ass up high and my legs wide. This gives the boys plenty of room to work. Getting down low also makes it easier for their big balls to slap my pussy while they are pounding away.

The only problem is that you, the woman, come too quickly? I've been with my share of women who would love to have your problems . . .

Cowgirl with me grinding my pelvis back and forth across my partner's cock. The only disadvantage is that sometimes I come too quickly. Missionary is my next favorite.

Cowgirl tied?

Cowgirl with him sitting on the couch, reclined. Something about that position is just great for both of us. Second would be him standing and me on my back on the bed, pulled all the way to the edge with my feet on his shoulders. Granted this one ALWAYS results in the bed getting moved across the room (but then so does just about any sex on my bed).

Im a cowgirl gal. Missionary and doggy tie for 2nd place. Spoons is my least fav

I enjoy just about any position, but spend most of my time on my back, naked, with my legs spread and up in the air. Seems most natural/comfortable for both parties in an MF situation.

For me being on top cowgirl has become my favorite position. My husband and I will through most of these positions when alone. We will cuddle and spoon, which leads to 69. I will almost always orgasm this way. Depending on what he wants he can cum this way or we change to other positions. I think both of us like when I’m on top. When we are at a party there is plenty of doggy going on.

I love a good ride!

I would not like to be considered a cuckold. I know my wife is with other men, we don't really talk about it, maybe a little here and there. She tells me she's going somewhere and that is about as far as I get into it. I look at her emails sometimes, but other than that want no involvement, I mean I would not like to be there for sure. I guess she is a hotwife?

Cheating---Husband doesn't know. Hotwife---Husband knows and is turned on by it and both parties share the experience either through talking or watching. Cuckolding---there is an element of humiliation toward the husband that also turns him on. It can take many forms. Without the humiliation factor it isn't cuckolding. Otherwise we'd have to classify swingers playing separately as cucks. I wouldn't (and suspect others) like being called that.