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2 pointsMake her feel comfortable by always letting her take the lead, start by talking about what she wants to talk about. It may be long ago, but ask her who of her past boyfriends, lovers she liked. Who would she had been with if you hadn't come along? When she responds in any way, reward her - offer to take her to dinner to talk about it more. Ask her which famous guy (actor, athlete) she finds attractive and why. When she feels comfortable mentioning someone (maybe even a woman) celebrate by taking her shopping to buy new clothes to dress for him. See if she is open to pretending when you're making love. It may take weeks or months, but once she starts to open up about her fantasies, ask her who of your current friends and acquaintances she finds attractive. Never, ever criticize her choices! ("John? Not John, that jerk," will kill it.) Test if she is willing to bring those fantasy lovers into your bedroom. When she does, celebrate and reward her by suggesting that you go on a nice getaway vacation, a memorable weekend, to play with her fantasies. Make it clear at every step that this is about her, not you. Answer questions if she asks, but don't dwell on that girl who gave you such great blow jobsin high school. Be enthusiastic about her enjoyment: past, current fantasy, and future reality. It may take time, so enjoy the journey each step of the way. From my perspective as a woman, women enjoy sex and even sexual variety as much as men, but are afraid of repercussions from every direction. For every step she takes, reassure her and protect her.
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2 pointsIt's very hard to give you specific answers since we don't know you, your wife, or your relationship. That said... You say your relationship is quite strong, and that's a fundamental requirement for swinging. It's often said that swinging is a magnifying glass. What if finds, it magnifies. If there are problems in your marriage, it will magnify them. If there is a strong love, it will magnify that. Another crucial element in a successful swinging couple is very strong communication, and a willingness to bare your soul to your partner. Some couples go their entire lives together never truly being absolutely close. It can be challenging. If your wife does bare things to you, it's very important to be a completely receptive and positive listener. Even light sarcasm can teach not to trust absolutely. What I would recommend is having a deep dialogue with your wife, where she feels in her physical relationship with you, and your relationship in general. What do you want more of? What do you want less of? What could be better, and what is really good? You may feel like your sex life is stalled, but for her it could feel like it's naturally progressing towards being quieter. You note you've been together 40 years; that means she's been through menopause. That can have a negative impact on a woman's sex drive. I know it has for my wife. She is still quite interested, but the level of intensity is different now. It could be that way for your wife as well. What are her needs? Are they being met? How can you make it better? Understand; swinging should never be something that is used to 'solve' something. If there is a concern with your sex life, swinging can help but it shouldn't be viewed as being a cure for that concern. It may be that you can venture into more daring areas of your sex lives. Doing it in a public place, taking photos of her nude, maybe even posting them (newbie nudes is a place for that, and people view and respond). You can have her get a full massage with a male massage therapist without any intention of doing anything with him other then enjoy the massage, but in her mind she could be imaging him as another lover. Have her dress really nicely and sit at the bar of a nice hotel, while you sit a discreet distance away at a table, and see what attention she gets. There's lots of ways to explore this without doing anything with someone else. These things by themselves might be a big injection of fun into your sex lives. Don't, however, use the above suggestions to test the waters to see how she might react to actually having sex with someone else without first talking about that idea. To her, that could feel like a setup. That's not being honest with her. Also, you need to judge for yourself; would you be comfortable with her having sex with another man? Would you be comfortable having sex with another woman? Stereotypically, it sounds easy for a guy, right? But, you've not been with another woman in 40 years. That's going to feel quite weird. Do you think you could do that? What about her? Could she imagine having sex with another man after 40 years of just you? What about how she would feel with you having sex with another woman? It's kind of the old saying; be careful what you wish for. You just might get it :) Feel free to ask us any questions you might have. Invite your wife to the conversation :) We're a helpful bunch here, and will be quite happy to answer your questions.
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1 pointHello I’m after other peoples thoughts on a topic I have, me and my wife are happily married for 7 years both in our 30s and have great sex together. Now while we have sex we have a bit of fantasy type dirty talk and it’s great now it gets saucy and she says she would fuck someone else and she would even go bareback with them, now some my think I’m crazy but that thought drives my dick wild! Now the other bit of this is when we don’t get in that sexy moment it never gets mentioned, and I honestly think she wouldn’t do it. A little part of me thinks what if she did and how hot it would be seen her do it, now from others experience do you think that it’s just the heat of the moment talk or is it something she does secretly have on her mind?
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1 pointThis happened to us a few months ago and was something we had not discussed and still hasn't fully sank in with us both. We are married for 13 years with 2 kids and had a wedding to attend out of town for my wife's cousin. Great time to get a night away for just us, have some drinks and some fun and more importantly a night in a hotel room for some usually great sex. My wife looked incredible and had a sexy dress and heels and I was excited from the moment she got ready. The reception was a lot of fun with drinks and dancing and we were ready to head to the room when it was over. However, everyone was walking across the street to a bar for an after party so we got talked into going along. The after party got pretty wild as her cousin is younger and all of the friends were getting very drunk. My wife and I got separated with different groups and were taking some shots and having a great time but definitely way past our limit. When I got back to her I saw that she was intently talking to a random guy from the bar. I joined the conversation and it was fun and he was cool but then I told my wife we should get back to the hotel. That's when the guy mentioned he was leaving too and would walk out with us. As we are walking across the street he asks if we mind if he uses the bathroom in our room as the line at the bar was long. We get up to the room and he goes into the bathroom and my wife kisses me and tells me she is horny and we need to have some fun. After the guy gets out of the bathroom I go in and take my turn. The guy is still there and my wife then goes into the bathroom, we are just casually chatting and after a few minutes she opens the door and has her dress off and is standing in just her bra and panties. She didn't realize the guy was still there but when she saw him she just looked at us both and said she needed to be fucked and took off her bra and dropped her panties and got on the bed. The guy then said he thought we looked cool and was glad he stuck around and started kissing my wife's tits. This is no something we ever had discussed and not something I even thought she was into. The situation was so hot that I figured what the hell and went with it. When the guy saw that I was ok with it he quickly stripped and straddled my wife laying on the bed and started titty fucking her. His dick was a little longer then mine but way thicker. Before I could even get my clothes off my wife had pushed him down on the bed and climbed on top and was riding him. She was really having fun and he was sucking her tits and slapping her ass. I felt kind of odd as they were so into it that I was just sort of watching. Then I got next to her and she leaned over and started kissing me. As we were kissing I could feel him picking up his rhythm and then he started cumming inside her as she was passionately kissing me. I was so lost in the whole situation I hardly noticed that my wife had reached down and was jerking me off so fast that I ended up cumming all over the bed. She climbed off of him and laid down on the bed and fell asleep right away. He got dressed and said it was awesome to meet us and left. I was just kind of in shock and had no idea how to take what had just happened. The next day I started to mention something to my wife about it and she said let's just keep it in the past and not dwell on it. It was a fun experience but she doesn't want to dive into it too much. I have a lot of mixed feelings and not sure if this is the start of something or just a wild one time adventure.
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1 pointMy wife and I have been together nearly 40 years. Our sex life has kind of stalled and I believe that considering some type of lifestyle activity would add some excitement. Our relationship is quite strong and believe we could handle the experience, I just am not sure how to broach the subject. Any suggestions?
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1 pointUse the old Animal House trick. Hi Honey, how are you. "Hey, listen did you manage to get to the store and get the groceries for this weekend? Oh and we really should get the lawn mowed on Saturday, maybe clean up the garage as well, have sex with strangers and oh, do you need any help with he dishes tonight? Love you.
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1 pointI believe the best thing to do if your love life has stalled is to fix it within yourselves! Bringing other people in is not going to fix it. If anything it could cause more problems.
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1 pointHonestly the only way to know is for you two to talk about it when you are not in the moment playing! Nobody else can speak for her. If you can’t just openly talk about these things with each other the lifestyle is not for you.
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1 pointSo I was taking some new pictures of Ms Enhancer the other day and when she was looking at them her first comment is how she hates her cellulite! I reassured her that it doesn’t seem to have any effect on lots of other people finding her attractive and that I still think she has an amazing body regardless of her dislike of it. Sometimes it is just part of having a thick ass and thick thighs. Two things I just happen to love in a woman. So ladies do not worry about your cellulite being a turn off to others. Some of us think you are smoking hot just the way you are and wouldn’t change a thing about you.
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1 pointWe had a chuckle when a sex partner left his condom in her and his cum ended dribbling down her ass. We knew nothing would happen to her as she takes birth control and the condom was an extra precaution. We all laughed as one of the ladies licked up the remains.
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1 pointThis was the first act I watched when Linda sucked another man. The first time she did it she stopped and had sex with him then the next time she kept up until he came in her mouth. It got hotter when she had one man in her and one in her mouth but the hottest was a woman licking her as she had the husband in her mouth.
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1 pointI recalled these old posts and I think it sums it up nicely.
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1 pointObviously, the man should have notified the woman when he could not locate the condom. When you engage in intimate acts, you owe your partner heightened consideration and collaboration. Some people are just selfish. Bad partners. I have seen similar inconsiderate male behavior, such as unsheathed penis poking around a woman’s vag when the male knows the woman wants to use a condom.
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1 pointThe issue was not pregnancy but I totally agree that it would be a decision made by my friend. What a mess that would be! The issue for me was the total lack of respect. He put her health in danger and did not say a word. WTF is that?
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1 pointBut if I, as a man, impregnate a female swinging partner, it’s her decision whether to continue a pregnancy. She has no obligation to ask me, but I could be responsible for child support. It’s a risk for male swingers.
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1 pointMy wife has done four or five guys in a play session, but not all at once, just one or sometimes two at a time. No jealousy for us either. It was a wonderful threshold to pass when we realized that neither of us could ever cheat on the other because casual sex is the norm and we have no rules. I love seeing how Daniela gets into different roles with different people and different situations. She's dom with men, sub with women.
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1 pointYes, first my wife was little skeptical about it so she didn't used to participate in DVP. Usually the other couple used to do it. But recently my wife tried her first double penetration. 1 in vagina and 1 in butt. Initially she wanted to quit as soon as we started, but I was below her and convinced to try it once, because she was really curious to try it before. We did and after few strokes, she started enjoying it. Now during our every swaps, she prefers DP.
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This is a follow-on to “Her First DP.” My now retired teacher wife was getting bored and a little frisky staying at home all day and needed a good distraction. She asked if I could arrange another hotel rendezvous with her BBC friend Bryan who is also a teacher and just finished the school year and was also looking for much needed relaxation. I booked a hotel in a town about 30 miles away and invited Bryan to visit after his last class on Friday. He asked if he could bring his buddy Mike again and I said, “Yes.” We got to the hotel about an hour before Bryan and Mike were scheduled to arrive. My wife changed into a one size fits all cut out dress that hid nothing. Her nipples poked out and the hem was just below her pussy. She donned red stilettos with silver metal heels and her “Queen of Spades” ankle bracelet. An extra coat of bright red lip stick ensured her lips were full and ready. She sat sipping wine until they arrived. Unlike the first encounter, she was calm and excited. She knew what was going to happen to her and she was ready. Given this was her second time with these men, she was calm and relaxed. When we heard the knock on the door, she moved from the sofa to the foot of the bed. She tucked her right leg up under her so when the men walked in, the first thing they would see would see would be her freshly waxed pussy and erect nipples. After a few pleasantries, Bryan and Mike undressed and started kissing and fondling her. Both men were obviously very horny. Bryan pushed her onto her stomach while Mike pulled her dress off. They left her red shoes on. Within minutes Bryan was slamming his cock into her pussy while Mike fucked her mouth. Mike’s cock isn’t very long, about 6 inches, but it is extremely fat with a large head. She had to spread her mouth wide to accommodate his cock. As soon as Bryan came, Mike pulled out of her mouth and took his place in her pussy. She really enjoyed Mike’s fat cock as it rubbed her g-spot and made her squirt as he fucked her. As Mike fucked her, Bryan stuck his cock, which still had his cum and her pussy juice on it into her mouth. She sucked it clean then started sucking and swallowed his balls. After Mike came, they took a short break. My wife then pushed Bryan on his back and climbed up onto his cock and started to ride him cow girl style. I could tell when Bryan’s cock bumped her cervix because she groaned and started bucking back and forth. Mike crawled behind her and started to push his cock into her ass. He used cum and her pussy ejaculate as lube and shoved his fat cock in. My wife said, “Easy Mike." Mike slowed down, pulled out his cock and spit on it, then rammed it back in. She then started to ride both cocks. She came at least four times as she was double penetrated. When both men came in her, she reached back and pulled Mike in close so he couldn’t pull out. Eventually, both men lost their erections and fell out of her. She then put her mouth on Bryan’s cock and started cleaning him off with her mouth. All of a sudden, Bryan rolled her onto her side and started fucking her pussy her again. Mike immediately grabbed her head and push his cock in her mouth. She is not a fan of “ass-to-mouth” but she was not really in a position to resist. Unfortunately, this was the last fuck of the evening as both men were spent having each cum four times. They then kissed her goodnight, dressed and left. After they left, my wife said, “Your turn baby, but not my ass. It’s pretty sore from Mike. He has one wide cock!” She asked me to show her the videos I took then climbed on my cock. Needless to say, it slipped in very easy. -
1 pointI understand what you're saying. When the couples we play with are doing an MFM or anything where two guys are close, we feel comfortable with the saying that "It's not gay if there's a woman involved." It always seemed strange to me that I feel my straightest, most manly and alpha when my wife and I are fucking after having been with someone else; the reclaiming makes me feel very powerful.
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1 pointWe've done both DP and DVP several times and are big fans of both. Either configuration can be very intense for all parties once you get a groove and have become a regular part of our play. Our female half may be slightly addicted to DVP.
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We are a senior couple. We have been swinging since the 80s. I think what made it easier for us is that Tits is bi and we started out as threesomes but ended up into full swing. I am 68 and she is 67. We still swing but have slowed down, and I believe it is because of body image perception on Tits part. She is still a beautiful woman and now with DDD tits but she calls them her fat bags. When we were younger she was a lingerie model and stunning beauty. The fact that she loved to fuck and was also bi was always a plus. Needless to say we had a lot of swinging over the years and she had a few players on the side. If you read any of our stories you know what I mean. So a month ago we went to Vegas. She had flashed her tits a few times, but mainly we gambled. We were playing on a Keno machine and met another older couple playing also. I had noticed that every time Tits bent forward they both would turn and look. I mentioned this to Tits. She started to bend down to pick up her purse, or she would put her drink on floor and would bend over to get another drink. They were Harry and Nancy we found out, and they moved to machine right next to ours. Tits started to chat with Nancy and flirt with Harry. After about a half an hour, Nancy leaned over and told Tits that she wished she had big tits like her. Tits told her they are not all fun because they are so heavy. Nancy said I bet, but I would love to feel them. A few minutes later the girls left for ladies room, where Tits told me Nancy fondled and sucked her tits and she did Nancy’s . When they came back we all went to our room and had some drinks. Tits disappeared into our bathroom and came out and said are we all ready? She was she was butt naked (see pic), but remember we are late 60's. We played until 3:00 in the morning. We are meeting them for Thanksgiving at the El Cortez.
