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One bit of advice if you do decide to do it. If you are posting on a lifestyle site looking for someone, you may want to say you are interested in a MFM. I think that when most people see MMF they are looking for bi play from the men. Others may have more experience.

In my fantasy, I'm not particular.

Our first MFM will always be special in our couple memory. Not only because it's been a very erotic evening, intense, full of pleasure, but also because... well... a first is a first! We will probably tell that story soon in a post, but first we would like to read from your first MFM. How did it happen? What brought you 3 together? Was it planned? What happened? Make us dream... tell us everything about that special night... 😘😘

I have had sex with 12 different people. My wife on the other hand though the last time we tried to figure out how many guys she has had vaginal or anal sex with is well over 200. We aren’t aware of a exact number because in college and the first couple years after and before we were married she was known for getting drunk and fucking whatever guy was at the bar that night and obviously she can’t remember them all. We worked together before we were married, and I would always hear stories about her fucking some guy in the bathroom of the bar from other females she was out with. So if I had to guess I would say it’s prolly over 300.

Like many others have said in the heat of the moment and when everything is coming down are two different worlds. Have sex, enjoy yourselves and after both of you have calmed down then bring it up and discuss if this is something you enjoy as a game or are you actually curious about looking into it. Using toys and talking naughty or very different then actually seeing someone you love with someone else.

The talk when it’s in the moment is just with a stranger, no one we know or anything particular, the part that also got me was her mentioning going bare with them also now if that was true and what she was thinking I’m unsure onit, don’t get me wrong as I stated it is hot imagining that dirty fucking with someone! And if she opened and said that she wanted to do that.. again like you said should I not criticise her wanting to go bareback and perhaps let that go ahead if it ever came to fruition?

It sounds like it is all in your head! You are just going to have to figure out a way to get past this mental block. The problem is probably that you are over thinking it and worried about every time. As for Ed drugs I would not take them when they are not needed. In this case it sounds like a mental thing not a physical thing. If it is was a physical thing I would start making some serious changes to the way I live. Ed is usually a sign of heart disease, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes and obesity. All things I have no interest in so I chose to avoid the things that cause them.

Oh man, I didn’t expect to find people so understanding 😭 im still struggling with the decision. my brain says yes but my heart says hell no.

"Thanks for remembering. I had forgotten."

Male or female?

They just need to be trained. Somebody has to do it. Might as well be you. My recommendation is to have 2 VERY strong bouncers present and as a couple train them. Have them sign a waiver of sorts releasing you from harm should you need to toss them out on their ear. I am not a legal person but I am sure there are some here that can help with that, something to protect everyone. We deal mostly with couples and have a very slow process of introducing them into our lifestyle and even more delicate is introducing them into our fold. There are those occasions when you know a couple is a perfect fit but more than not, it's a long slow road vetting them. I'll add more later...

In defence of what PeeTWheatstraw said on this subject about married men I do not think he is wrong at all! We have experienced much of what he said ourselves in the years we have been at this. Two examples would be two messages I woke up to today. The first one was on one of the sites we have an account on. The message was from a guy who was listed as single on his profile. When I opened his profile there were absolutely no pictures and it just said looking for fun with women and couples. Then there was one line about how his partner was now also interested in having fun. First thing that comes to my mind is this goof was trying on his own and having zero luck so suddenly he is attached. I replied to his message that there was nothing at all about his profile that interested us. His response is to send a picture of her and another one of her with just his dick. Fail. Second one was on this site. Clearly directed just at her. Not us. Self proclaimed BWC and hotwife seeing if she was interested in exchanging pictures and stories. First of all the size and Color of a penis means fuck all to her and she has no interest in seeing pictures of it. Also if it did matter she has no further then home to see one anytime she wants. Just, because I don’t advertise it as a BWC does not mean it isn’t. I know better then to try and use my penis to get attention, because it does not work that way for any woman worth being with. Second of all if someone wants to see pictures we have multiple folders in the gallery on this site for anyone who choices to look at. So it is not just single men that do not seem to get it! It is men in general.

I have been wanting to respond to this topic for a while, but knew it would be somewhat long and take some time. When I first became non-monogamous, I had no idea where it was going, but never thought it would lead to an MFM. I had broken up with my ex-fiancé Red and moved out of our place to live alone. But we still liked/loved and saw each other, went out and got together for sex, which was really good. I wasn't looking, but then met David, handsome and technically oriented like me, the man who would become my husband. We started going out and afterwards I did what seemed to me to be the natural thing to do and went to see Red to discuss what was happening, how I felt, and where things were headed. Red was hoping for us to reconcile, but he was very accepting of my decisions. After talking, we would have sex make love. I was honest with David about my recent breakup with Red, that I had strong feeling for him but realized that we were too different (he a creative artsy type, me an engineer; he unconcerned about money, me more ambitious with desires for a stable family life) to make a long-term go of it. David was more than a good listener and tolerant of what most guys would find off-putting conversation - he was genuinely empathetic, concerned, understanding. As I saw David more we both felt love and an incredible physical attraction, and after several dates started having sex. After the first time fucking David, I did what had become my routine and went back to see Red, told him everything including how good it was. Then we fucked. I really enjoyed it, but yeah, I felt like a cheat, a slut, a pervert (two guys! How could I be having sex with two guy? ). Not long afterwards at the beginning of one of our dates, David said (not "asked", but "said") to me, "You're still sleeping with Red." (I recall exactly that he didn't say "fucking" or "screwing," but used the gentle term "sleeping".) I thought, this is it, it's over. Instead, David said that it was ok with him, he knew that I still had feeling for Red, and it didn't affect anything between us. I was stunned, my mind had been quickly going through the pleadings and promises that I would make to David, but now it was reeling in another direction. So began me going between two men, one with whom I was getting ever closer and one I couldn't let go of. They both knew about the other and I now felt unbelievably loved, powerful, appreciated, confident. What could make them love me so much to agree to this? And it all seemed so natural, so right. After about another month, David called and said he was on his way home from the office and asked if he could stop by my place on his way home. I hesitated, and David again immediately picked up on what was going on and said, "Is Red there, I'd like to meet him." Once again, the usually quick minded Petra didn't know what to say and feigned confidence and enthusiasm, "Sure." I told Red that David was stopping by and he reacted mildly with "That'll be nice." It was like five minutes of terror for me, once again not knowing what might happened. When they met, it was a sign of what was to follow - despite all of their differences, they got along and talked about things they did have in common, which thankfully did not include me. So now, not only was I seeing two men, fucking two men, they were both openly in my life including the three of us being together. It was as if it were meant to be. The three of us almost never went on dates together, it was always either David and I or Red and I, but we seemed to be getting together more and more for practical reasons like shopping or helping to fix something. Now to the point of this thread: one Saturday morning the three of us were at my place after I had been out of town on business the whole week. I was unpacking, doing laundry and was looking pretty grungy, I thought. David asked Red didn't I look good, and asked if I was wearing a bra. I hardly ever at home because I hardly have tits. Unusual for him, David's talk got dirty, he asked me to take off my shirt, I did and he asked Red something like isn't that the most beautiful thing you have ever seen? Red said yes, and David asked me to get closer to Red. I didn't know exactly what the plan was or even if there was a plan, but we were, to use a cliché, all on the same page. David stood back as Red and I took my clothes off, I sucked his dick as he played with my tit, then his clothes came off and we went at it. Hard. After we both came, I started having having fears and doubts again about David. I mean, not only was what to David I thought only an abstract thing, he now saw me do it, not just sex, love making, deep kissing. I looked at David he invited me over and kissed me. Affectionately. He pushed me down onto the bed, on my back, and began what had become our foreplay routine of him licking my clit before we go at it. I can only take so much of that before I want him inside me, and it happened. All that messy sloshing and squishing, and a second ejaculation in my vagina right after I had one from another man. And what a lot of orgasms. I had no fear or doubt now, it is clear that David loves me as I am, which includes my love and sex with Red. I never thought I could exceed my earlier feelings of being "loved, powerful, appreciated, confident," but now I did. It would have been great to have continued the day with the three of us, but Red had an important appointment to go to so it left David and me. The rest of the day and most of Sunday was David and me. We didn't talk about the threesome, again, it all just seemed so normal and right. David left in the afternoon on Sunday, I threw the additional laundry that we had generated into the machine and went to Red's place to talk, and screw. After that first time MFM, we never planned any, they just sometimes happened (although once we moved in together we would occasionally do it as a ritual, especially vaginal/anal DP, which I love). Mostly my love life with Red and David were conducted separately, although there were plenty of sloppy seconds. It was not long after we got to this point of what seemed total openness and honesty that David asked me to marry him with the thought that he didn't want to live without me and he had never been so sure of anything in his life. My first MFM was the highlight of my sexual life (and one of the top of anything in my life) until I was confident enough to let hubby start playing and I had my first FFM and opened up to my Lesbian side...

We were on a Bliss cruise and Chris had hurt her back on our first play date. I was walking around the open play room (there’s also one limiting admission to couples only). It’s definitely exciting to walk around and getting to watch and listen to all the people having sex. A man approached me snd asked if I’d like to join him and his wife. Of course I said yes ( the wife had given me a hall pass while she was out of commission). As the play room was closing in a few minutes we went to their cabin. We all got naked immediately and I went don on her until she suggested it was my turn . Meanwhile her husband started to finger fuck her while she pleasured my cock. Soon She was ready to fuck and laid back inviting me in. While I fucked her , the husband knelt above her head and fed his cock to her. I’d never been that close to another man’s hard cock but it was hot watching his cock disappear into her mouth while I fucked her. We traded positions several times and she rode us both too. She came several times and had me finish on her breasts while she shielded her face in case I came with enough force to shoot that far. I thanked them for inviting me and for letting me play with them. Everyone had a fantastic day. They ran into my wife later and told her how lucky I was to have a wife who’d let me play alone.

Our was totally unplanned. Hubby and I were experimenting with anal play at the time and we were using toys to simulate dp. We talked about how great it would be to have two real penises but it was nothing more than pillow talk for our own titillation. Then one day on holidays we were at a resort in the pool very early in the morning and there was another guy there. He was clearly checking me out and hubby and I played up to that. Then as bold an bold could be he came up to us and said it would be more fun with a third and asked if he could kiss me. We told him to f**k off. But after hubby and I had a chance to talk and he was totally into the idea I swam up to him and planted a big kiss. 20 minutes later we were in his room and didn't leave until very late that night, It was a one time only thing and we didn't have another swinging experience for 12 years which was only a month ago. We're older, more mature, more established and more comfortable in ourselves and our relationship now so that experience a month ago has opened up this whole lifestyle for us now. Don't be shy now, we'd love to hear your story.... or anyone else's for that matter.

It sure seems that it's getting more acceptable to everyone. I think the wives have always been more open-minded than the husbands about M/M stuff but maybe that's changing too. Cool! I can remember a year or so ago, Julie, mentioning that she thought it was sexy to see two men but her husband was against it. Has he changed his mind yet, Julie?

Not into it myself. But who am I to judge someone's sexual desire?

Make mine a triple ditto, Don’t tell me what I think. Let me tell you what I think…. Oh, wait I need to check with Mrs. Beaverz to see what I think. Crap, she’s not home, I’m screwed.

I thought it might be interesting to look at this poll from a slightly different direction. As it stands: 53% of female voters love M/M activity while 31% are disgusted by it. 36% of male voters love M/M activity while 25% are disgusted by it. The rest fall somewhere in the middle. Looks like the women are quite a bit more polar in their opinions about it while more men seem to fall in the tolerant camp. Interesting...