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Fortunately for me, when I get that feeling I grab my always willing wife. If my wife isn't around, I can call on one of our play partner couples so I can fuck the wife while her husband babysits my daughter for a while. (It's been the other way around sometimes and I did the babysitting.)

Hi all, we love reading and thought Swingers/Orgies/Promiscuity as a subplot in books would be great. LS Hilton's Maestra was great - its a geniune thriller with a protagonist who loves sex parties. Can anyone recommend other books or authors? Anything is great, but we particularly love thrillers.

I’m an author who has begun writing about Swinging. I’m trying to do something different than most erotic writers (that I have seen) do. I’m trying to do a storyline and deeper character development that addresses what lead people into a specific swinging experience, or swinging in general, and also address the doubts and emotional issues that go along with it. But when there’s a sex scene it will be very explicit. So, normal looking and thinking people doing it , objective and descriptive language to describe it (versus metaphorical or cliche language like flower and love-Rod) and a storyline that leads to some evolution of character development. i think it’s innovative and different but who knows ? If anyone wants to check it out, the first three “episodes” of my first story, “Acceptable Risk” is available at The Amazon Kindle Vella store - here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BK5P6BW2/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=SGNM4ZLH1FGK&keywords=acceptable+risk&qid=1666533946&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIxLjU3IiwicXNhIjoiMS40NSIsInFzcCI6IjIuMzMifQ%3D%3D&s=falkor&sprefix=%2Caps%2C137&sr=1-1 (Please remove if not ok to post links)

You can't force her to want to. Tell her just once or twice that it's your fantasy, then drop it. Ask her what her fantasies are and help her pursue them. That's what my husband did, let me fuck another guy for two years while he remained monogamous. Then the I reached a point where I gave him everything he wanted and more. Not because I felt obligated, but because it turned me on.

What do you say to the Bi Guy? We'd love to suck your cock...

We generally have a vanilla (no sex) meeting with another couple first. We ask them what they like. Bisexuality, restraints, condom usage are discussed. We try to discuss humorous past experiences so that we are not cross examining people. We find that 99% of swinging misunderstandings can be avoided if you are aware of other partners’ preferences before playing. And if you have vastly different desires, you may not be a good match.

To me, it seems to depend on the guy. In our poly family of three women and two men, when it's an MFM, Red prefers to have his pussy fresh, go first, and move on. David likes to watch the show, build the anticipation, and love a "used" woman. After orgasm he'll cuddle, or perform oral, or watch whatever she/I do next. They're very different.

Say about me what you want, but I find this strangely romantic.

Yes of course but when she says these things she’s says it’s just sex, no feelings just some fun with someone she doesn’t know and obviously going bareback with them! I know it’s a touchy one with some as risks are concerned.

Yes and no. We have met new friends with our participation expanding each time we meet. Lin has never been a big anus fan and would at times give me the pleasure of trying with mixed results. With our new found fun it looks like everything is open for experimentation including taking it in the butt and since we read these comments and many more things we never discussed. Lin read this post and asked me my thoughts and I said if she wanted I was willing to play with a penis that close to mine. The other night at our new friends place Linda said she wants to do a double. She pointed to one friend and said she wanted him. Now I shrugged my shoulders and said let’s go. From my vantage he looks about my size down there possibly thicker I think. My thought then was I thought I would watch her with two of the men, think I wasn’t fully in with being with another dick near. Linda insisted. I was told to let Linda take me in while she was on top, Cowgirl, and he would do the work. It’s not as easy as it sounds, I tried to stay still while the other wife got us prepared and Linda’s butt lubed. After a few attempts I felt him in her. I didn’t think I was going to feel that. I know this crazy but I popped almost as soon as he was in. I tried staying hard while he was sliding in and out, nature said no. I got out of her and he continued for a few minutes. About an hour later Linda shouted out who wants to double fuck her. Wow. Again I shrugged and said go for it. What ended up was a triple penetration, me in her mouth. I think I have to work on control for the next time.

Are you open to FF play if that's what she wants. I think most guys don't care about that at all.

More importantly, she will love you more. Swingers are in it for new and possibly better experiences. Whenever my wife is playing with another guy I am hoping that she has as great an experience as possible. Because in the end, I get credit for allowing her to have whatever it is another guy does for her.

She's not playing you, she's enjoying the journey you started together and wanting to continue exploring. It took two years of hubby letting me have a boyfriend before I wanted him to play as well. Not just allowed him, but wanted him to be with other women. It helped that I chose the girls. Perhaps that's a compromise that you two can make. Or maybe you can not watch at first until you're comfortable. Also, think about how lucky you are. There are many guys here who are desperate to get their wives started in the lifestyle, just to have an MFM.

This was the first act I watched when Linda sucked another man. The first time she did it she stopped and had sex with him then the next time she kept up until he came in her mouth. It got hotter when she had one man in her and one in her mouth but the hottest was a woman licking her as she had the husband in her mouth.

I definitely prefer my wife performs her oral's skill on other guy's cocks for sure as long as she enjoyed it. Luckily,She has no objection to that saying since it's already there why not enjoy it beside she loves sucking cock.It's a routine to suck my cock to start then the fucking came along.

I believe the Lioness and I see the subject very differently. I believe the point she was trying to make is that we are not to judge (quoting her, "Who are we to judge others' needs? He who is without sin..."), and that we are all a little guilty of prostitution-like behavior to one degree or another. I find the analogies she attempts to make to be not very compelling. Jaywalking, re-selling tickets, or singing "Happy birthday" is in no way analogous with prostitution. They don't exist in the same universe.

For me, the line is not very difficult to draw. I do not consider stripping/dancing, or even performing porn, to be the same as prostitution. Strippers/dancers are, obviously, not actually performing sex. Porn actresses/actors are hired on a contract basis and determine what sex acts they will, or will not, perform and with whom. They are not performing under duress or threat of violence, or under the (obvious) influence of drugs, and often have the benefit of being surrounded by an entire crew of people, some of whom have the responsibility for looking out for their welfare . Also, they are subject to health screenings and often drug tests. However, I will acknowledge, some people will lump all these things together, and see them as being about the same.

Kinsey's 1948 study, and its conclusions, have been thoroughly reviewed over the decades. Both the methods, and conclusions, have been determined to be highly questionable, if not outright bogus, by many in the medical community. One large scale study conducted by researchers at Washington State University, and published in 2015 in the journal Psychological Science, concluded exactly the opposite: Human sexuality does not exist on a spectrum but rather is best described as a complex multiple choice. The study examined responses from 33,000 participants and the lead author concluded the following: "The results demonstrate that sexual orientation is not a matter of degree, but rather distinct and meaningful categories." Does some fluidity among sexual orientation exist? Yes, but the incidence is quite small. According to the study, less than 5% of heterosexual women, and only 2% of heterosexual men, said they have some level of sexual attraction to members of their same sex. Also, they found that men who reported having only "some level of sexual attraction to other men" were far more likely to identify as bisexual rather than heterosexual. The study's authors concluded by saying these findings show the dividing line between straight, and non-straight sexual orientation, is more well defined for men than it is women, but it is definitely still present for both. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797615598617

I have been told I was a repressed bisexual that has always wanted to act out but feared what others thought. Bisexuality and homosexuality has alway had a stigma attached that most to repress their true wants and feelings until very recently when almost every tv show, many commercials and many movies have characters that cross the gender line. Recently I found my sexual preference outside of my marriage has been geared to same sex fun. I looked forward to having alone time with a new female friend and when joining her and her husband for fun my attention was focused on her more than him.

I don't try to edge, but when it sort of happens with oral/manual stimulation, I leak. The eventual orgasm is pretty much the same. What is incredibly intense for me are second and subsequent orgasms. I can achieve a second erection and orgasm within a short time without too much effort (especially in a play situation where there is different pussy), but third and even fourth erections/orgasms take a lot of effort. Oral always can get me up, but if I am going for a fourth orgasm, I need anal to get me off. Both my dick and balls ache for a while afterwards, but it's worth it. Women have it easier with multiple orgasms.

Edging is a popular new thing, and creates stronger orgasms when they are eventually allowed to happen, since there is a build up of ejaculate which creates pressure (sometimes described as "despirate pleasure"). Be careful if you have heart or blood pressure issues, especially when combining with heat from a hot tub. But overall, it's a surprisingly strong orgasm. Assuming one can stop in time... or even want to stop. lol On the other spectrum, for a woman to play with a man and not allow them to cum is called 'Tease and Denial' and is used much in the kink community as a control technique. A man who is horny is willing and excited to play. Once a man cums, they are often finished, at least for awhile. Enjoy!

If we were all wired to be gay, then mankind would have died off a long time ago