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We reignited our search for new swing partners and I’m wondering how others handle who they meet and why you meet. We both agree that there is magic in meeting a new partner, a feeling you have only once. We used to build relationships, make friends and have ongoing sexual play with those we met. Over the years we met those that we have remained friends with over years of play in spite of moving to different areas. With the new search in a new area we had a talk about building new circles of friends or expand to finding multiple play partners. Being honest my wife said she enjoys newness and the added excitement of new partners. I didn’t expect her to say that. The talk led to do we just meet anyone or set up standards, of course we have standards. I am excited to meet new partners too, the newness and variety many of us want but trying to keep safety a priority. Are we becoming sluts in our midlife or is it normal to want variety? Are others feeling as we do that variety is the spice we want.

Don't know if I would call it positivity, but it is rather funny. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k4ZXEJytWVA&t=47s

I agree totally, but there was none of that in The Mists of Avalon. It was the idea that gripped me so hard and stuck in my young mind for days, much like the time a girl in my elementary school class asked the nun what a "mistress" is. She said it was the girlfriend of a married man. My thought was that's sounds nice, I'd like to be that. Mists is the King Arthur story told from a woman's perspective, which fascinated me. Gwenhwyfar is childless and the reason she and Arthur invite Lancelot into their bed, and into Gwenhwyfar, is to make a child in the king's bed while Arthur was in town so that he (a male, hopefully) would be the legitimate heir. Gwenhwyfar is in love with Lancelot and welcomes the opportunity on both levels. Fortunately for me, however, that's where life stopped imitating art. Clair accidently got pregnant by hubby (she wasn't screwing Red at the time). She was distraught thinking it would upset hubby and/or, but I was ecstatic. We took the day off from work went out and celebrated with lunch, new clothes, a baby thing or two. I didn't care what hubby would think, we were having this baby. Turns out he was shocked and as happy as me. We also decided that I would try to get pregnant ASAP, and as in the book tried to conceive with both hubby and Red. Unlike the book, I quickly was pregnant.

Meh. In General, I find graphic depictions of who's doing what to whom, putting what body part(s) into another's orifice and cries of surprise and invoking deities to be completely off-putting and distracting from what I would have hoped to have been an otherwise good story. It doesn't have to be about swingers or orgies or whatever -- even the highly-detailed descriptions (see above) in a standard one-man/one-woman romance are annoying. That said, it's the rare -- Very Rare -- smut novel that has good plot and character development that I enjoy more: I'd rather find a surprisingly good, thoughtful story in what I expected to be pure stroke/wank material, than to find needlessly graphic depictions of sex (of any kind) in a more 'mainstream' work. In the early days of the Darpanet, I discovered Metlay's "Bandit" series, and a few years ago, it was Nick Scipio's "Summer Camp" series. Both are/were surprisingly good reads.

Anyone who tries to convince me that I’m latently bisexual is engaging in serious rationalization and projection. I (husband) am not bi in any way, shape, or form.

https://sharesome.com/ThisEroticLife/post/7fd59ca0-2b83-41b4-a9eb-fa76a489ee61/

We’ve seen that commercial. Very funny. Cool that the woman was up for the swap.

Why is it that to qualify as a slut means to have continuing new partners, rather than a husband and two guys on the side? I have a variety of sex with my men (and women); more I think, than swingers who just venture out a couple of times a month. I feel left out. 😉

Q: Who's turn is it? A: Tyler's. Apparently.

Yes, the two of you have an amazing open relationship, not many newbies can handle that from what I have seen. The two newest couples in our group nearly panicked at first when a mate walked out of the room. They are getting more acclimated.

What do you say to the Bi Guy? We'd love to suck your cock...

We generally have a vanilla (no sex) meeting with another couple first. We ask them what they like. Bisexuality, restraints, condom usage are discussed. We try to discuss humorous past experiences so that we are not cross examining people. We find that 99% of swinging misunderstandings can be avoided if you are aware of other partners’ preferences before playing. And if you have vastly different desires, you may not be a good match.

To me, it seems to depend on the guy. In our poly family of three women and two men, when it's an MFM, Red prefers to have his pussy fresh, go first, and move on. David likes to watch the show, build the anticipation, and love a "used" woman. After orgasm he'll cuddle, or perform oral, or watch whatever she/I do next. They're very different.

Usually if a person is playing more than one step ahead of their spouse, they often already have someone in mind and possibly have a plan b. Be very careful when the situation starts with manipulation.

Oh, you've been played to get laid. When the sexual direction changes and it's not part of what you both want, then you need to stop.

Our original thought was to have a female join us, I was curious and I didn’t want Rocky to feel threatened. After having more than a few men in me Rocky doesn’t feel threatened at all. I am pretty sure if you asked him what he prefers he would hesitate and say a FFM even if he is enjoying watching other men with me.